Hey. i'm emily and i love to give advice. just dont ask me the questions "o i'm so fat!, or, o i'm so ugly!, or how do i get him to ask me out!?". the answers to those questions are, be happy with yourself on the inside and flirt. okay? moving on then. i'd like to use my time as an advicenator to help people who really need the advice. not to the next girl who thinks she's fat or ugly. because you all are beautiful. thanks in advance for all your marvelous questions and i hope i helped out!
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Question- do you have two sisters? You live in the same area I do and I think I know you. (link)
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no, i have one. she's 16 and like... shorter than me.
whose this?
names please.
Emily
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okay...theres this boy that i wanna ask to our end of school dance, but i already asked him whose hes goin with and he said no one and i didnt ask him to the dance. i have no idea how to do it. any suggestions? or any ways to get him to ask me? (link)
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you could just say it straight out, which usually works. if you dont make a big deal about it and tell all your friends, have them ask him for you where he'll feel more comfortible probably talking to you and not them. or you could ask him online or on the phone if having to talk to him face to face is uncomfortible for you. but just do it casually and he'll most likely say yes. but you better do it quick before someone else gets to him!
hih
Emily
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my boyfriend has REALLY bad breath. hes such a clean guy but he like breathes with his mouth open and its digusting. even when he chews gum i still smell it. and when were cuddling i just about die. and when he wants to kiss me it smells like dog poo and makes me smell..i cant tell him that will be totally mean...what can i do? (link)
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well, instead of saying, GO BRUSH YOUR DISGUSTING TEETH FOR ONCE!, just maybe offer him some breath mints. like before you feel as if he would kiss you or anything just pop a tick tack in your mouth and while they're out say, Wanna tick tack? hopefully he'll take it and for that one kiss he'll finally have fresh breath?
hih
Emily
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Ok...I am content with my body except this little pouch of fat or something on my inner thighs..its the only thing that bothers me really..im pretty active, i walk and exercise about every day or every other day and play ports and was in track, and i try to eat fairly healthy. soo anything i can do to get rid of this? i'll rate high...! (link)
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squats. sqauts, squats, squats, squats, squats...
they're the best thing for that inner thigh bulge.
hih
Emily
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im 23 and have had pretty bad teeth for a while . pretty large gap aand they stick out, apart from that I am really happy with my looks, but it is getting worse and worse as the days go by , not smling etc , should I confront my fear at 23??? what other options do I have? (link)
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well if your not worried about braces then they would be your best bet. but i have heard of this invisible retainer that they make in the shape of your teeth and they adjust it every once in a while. its clear so you just slide it on your teeth and it looks like nothing is there. But i think they might be a little pricey.
h.i.h
Emily
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I want to experiment with highliting my hair. Are there are specific home kits i can use that are really easy and not too hard to follow? Also if there is a certain kind that the color fades away over time? (i've heard of kits that do tat) that'd b good too..if anyone knows some good products that'd be great, thanks. (link)
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Well one thing is if you are going to dye it darker than your natural hair color it is most likely to stay in longer than if you lighten it up. Really the best way is to go to a hair stylist and get it done professionally because the ones at like Rite Aide or wwhatever is pretty crappy. But i'm sure if you buy one from there they all pretty much work the same. so just get the prettier or more professional box!
hih
Emily
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im refering to that girl that was saying that has the same situation that u r in. and im saying that, the guy she is talking about i think is me (link)
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o0o. well, um, tell me if this advice doesnt follow cuz i still sorta dont get it... but which one do you have more fun with? which one is easier to talk to or maybe more funny? just plainly saying, which one do you really like better. you cant control who you like, but just follow your heart. i know that sounds totally cheezy but it totally will be better in the long run. ;-)
hih
Emily
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WOW....i think that last one about someone liking "her" a few months ago is about me. it sounds EXACTLY like about what happened with me and her. see cause i told her a liked her..but few months have gone past and i told her and her freind that i like someone else. she didnt really sem offened when i told her or anything cause she didnt say anything. the weird thing is that it seemes like she is flirting with me since we went snow tubing with "her" and her freind. It's just that...i like her still..but i just dont know if she likes me and i dont want to chance it if she says no....
P.S. sry it's long lol (link)
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wait.... WHAT??? i didnt get that at all. write again in english please.
Emily
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Hey. I like this guy, but I don't know how to tell him and what to do. I'm worried he won't like me back and he's in all my classes, so if he said no it would kinda be embarrsing! Also, his parents know my parents, so I'd fell like a total loser!! The thing is I really like him and think about him a lot, so I don't know what to do.
Thanks.. PLEASE HELP (link)
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Hey.
well... here's an example situation that happened to me...
I went to powerplay and all my friends told the guy i liked i liked him. So now he knows, but we totally still act like regular friends. We say hi in the halls and talk to each other at his locker and stuff, so nothing really has changed.Most likely it will be the same... if you act like nothing has changed, he'll act the same way. But if you are looking to ask him out, it might be complicated that your families know each other. If you dont tell him you like him... then he'll never know and you'll NEVER have a chance... trust me on that one. so it will be a good thing he knows if you tell him and if you guys really like each other then it shouldnt matter if your parents know each other. maybe thats good because then your parents and his parents wont be all paranoid because they dont know the kid you are going out with. but its all totally up to you! hope i helped. have anymore questions feel free to ask and i'll anwer best i can!
Emily
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Hey,
okay well my two best friends in the whole world started hanging out a lot. And now it feels like they dont want to be friends with me anymore. What should i do? Please help.
Your Friend,
KE (link)
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Well the best way to solve this problem is to confront them. Then they have to give you an answer why, even if its true or not. sometimes we are totally at the grade where all people do is friggin gossip. but i'd say the best advice right now i can give you is confront them and tell them how you feel. maybe they dont realize that they might be ignoring you or something. if you tell them you feel this way it most likely will change and they'll be more careful about how they act and for the better, they'll totally pay all the attention in the world to you! awsome! yeah. hope i helped. if you have any other questions i'll be happy to help give answers!
much love
Emily
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ok there's this guy that I like and he and I are old friends. And now, looking back I think he liked me a few months ago, but doesn;t anymore. (i didn't like him then) Now I think he likes this other girl, who likes him back. If they started to go out i would be so upset, because I like him a WHOLE lot. What can I do to get him back??? help! please,i'll rate! (link)
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wow, i'm sorry but this sounds EXACTLY like my problem i'm dealing with right now!!! wow, thats exactly it... if this is someone i know.... tell me... wow, couldnt have said it more alike.
Emily
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Here’s the information you need to know before I tell you the problem.
-The people who are involved are me, my brother, and our friends M and G.
-Our parents are on a benefit basketball vacation because we all play.
-I give my brothers team there plays
-M is on the opposing team and my brother and G are on the same team.
-M asked me to the formal before all this happened.
Day 1) okay well it was the Friday my dog got put down, my brother had a basketball game, and I went into a crying fit so M and G tried to help. then I went over to Gs and I went home afterwards and M came over to be with me because it was storming.
Day 2)I made the winning shot at my basketball game, M gave me a hug before I could get to G, and I broke away from him to get to G. we went out to lunch, I walked home with G, just the 2 of us. M got mad. I got home and before I got there, my friend called and told me that M said yes to this girl for the formal. so I flipped on him and ran outside and then he came after me and said he wouldn’t have said yes if he knew i liked him, cuz he thought I wanted to go with G. and then I told him he hated me and he said no, i love you. so I dont know.
1 and a half weeks later)another bball game, for the boys. M got a technical, and so I said, its ok M. and he was like, I love you, and he yelled it to me and the ref thought he was talking to him, so he said ok that’s it get out of here. and then M was like, why I was talking to my gf. and he was like right, I am sure she’s your gf. so he came over and gave me a really long kiss, and G got upset. So the ref resigned the technical. But that doesnt matter.
I don’t know what to do, at all!!!
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ok, first, this whole story sounds a little exaggerated. i mean, its very detailed and some sounds made up... i'm not saying it was, it just sounds that way.... and second, what is your question? you just told your story, but it seems like there is only a general question.... which i still cant figure out. write to me with a specific question and i will do the best i can to answer and help
thnx
Em
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Okay I really love to swim and cheelead but next year I will be a freshman and I will need to chose.. I love both.. but which one would be better for me?? I am 14 and I have a pretty busy life.. my sister is also a cheerleader and she quit swimming.. plz help me out.. but now i got to go to 7th hour in school.. thank you..
Kaydee (link)
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Thats a hard decision... well even though cheerleading might get you more popular, i guess, swimming is a whole lot better for you physically... you use your arm and leg muscles and you use your lungs physically which is a great for your health. but the decision is up to you!
h.i.h
*Emily*
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wut does lylas mean and how do u make those hearts? (link)
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lylas means love ya like a sis, and you make the hearts by pressing the shift key and pussing the button with the little equality sign.... push the one facing to the left...
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i asked her today on the phone and she said NO. she said that im a loser! thanks alot, cause to u now i feel like the dumpest kid ever! (link)
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well you always had the chance of her saying yes, you never know until you try. chill out, its just a fricken girl, theres lots more out there.... duh, dont get hang up on this one thing, wow, your sorta wacko..... calm down and move on.... whatever,
Emily
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Ok...im a 13 year old GUY. yea theres a guy for a change on this. Well theres this girl, and i have known her since 1st grade. And im just coming around to finally think i like her. I would want to ask her out and everything, but if she would say no than i would have to see her on the bus, at school, even my neighborhood! The second problem is that she is popular, and i guess you could say im not. So she is always going out with a guy like every 2 weeks so i dont think there could be a chance with her and me. But i kinda think theres a connection between us. What the hell should i do?! (link)
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well for all you know she so totally could like you too. you'll never know if you dont ask her... trust me... girls love to be asked out and know that someone likes them even if the person isnt that popular... it just makes us happy... so go for it and fill me in on what happens...
mwah
Emily
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Well i'm a 16 year old girl, whose pretty,fun,and popular and I have alot of friends.But there is a problem that most people don't really see as a problem;i'm italian.Not everyone at my school, but a group of people constantly make jokes to me about my heritage.It all started on the first week on school when we had to write a paper about ourselfs (favorites,ethnic background,religion,ect.) so people could get to know us.well i put in there I was italian,and right after the class these girls came up to me and asked if my dad was in the mafia!what the hell is that about?no body has any respect now adays,and i guess it has to do with shows like the gottis and the sopranos(even tho i love them!) who give people the impression ALL italian-americans are like that,and that all italian-americans have dads like tony soprano.what should I do to get rid of this stigma and situation?thanks alot and I'll rate u a 5 if u don't act all bitchy about it!=)
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i think italian people are extremely pretty! so who cares what other people think, its about what you think, and if you think your pretty, fun, and smart, thats all that matters. and your right! wtf with people asking you if your dad is in the mafia!
h.i.h
Emily
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i used to live in florida but then my dad got transfered to pennsylvania.i had tons of friends at my old school but i dont fit in at my new school.i sit with the popular people and i thought they were my friends but then i found out they have been going to the movies and stuff.they just dont call me to hang out they call everyone but me!what the hell?they treat me like a friend at school so why not include me?for valentines day they all wore these really cute pink shirts that are matching. and im the only one at their table who didnt hav the matching shirt.then they were talking about stuff that happened at the mall. i just sat there like how can you be so mean when im sitting right here.
what should i do?????????
should i talk to them about?
should i sit with a different group at lunch??
please help i rate high just for answering! (link)
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well sometimes you just got to include yourself instead of waiting for them to include you. Show them how cool you can be and maybe they'll be like, hey, i like her, lets invite her somewhere! a total plus is tell them your from Flordia and they'll be so interested in knowing what its like to live there... trust me ;-) but if that doesnt work maybe look for girls that are more acepting and total awsomeness. Most of my closest friends aren't the most popular, they are just themselves and thats all i ask for. hope i helped!
Emily
p.s.- i think its totally cool your from Florida...awsome!
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ok, so theres this guy at my school who has a girlfriend of ten months...long time...i know...but he ALWAYS flirts with me...ALWAYS....everyone can tell we like eachother and hes not the player/cheater type but i dont really think he wants to be with his gf anymore. shes really ugly (not to be mean) and im way prettier than her..i dont mean to sound like a bitch but its true....but our class is going on this trip to a camp next monday (v-day)...shes not going...and the trip is 2hrs away and were taking a charter bus...and he was like "oh wanna sit with me on the bus" and its the kind of trip where everyone is bringin their pillow n blanket on the bus...so i dont know whats gonna happen...and we have this assignment to do friday and he was like OH DO U WANNA BE MY PARTNER?? and he always comes over to my desk and like plays w/my hand or something..hes just flirty....does it sound like he likes me? do you think anything will happen on the bus?? (link)
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well, if he's that flirty, sometihing might happen on the bus. but you might wanna ask him if he's interested in his girlfriend anymore because it sounds like he's sorta cheating on her. and think about it, if you finally get him to be yours, and he goes and flirts with another girl, then how would you feel. Think about it...but having fun on the bus when she isnt there isnt the worst thing ever... ;-)
hope i helped!
Emily88
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does anyone know any really good shampoo and/or conditioner that works well and is good for oily hair?
Thanks! (link)
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Dove Shampoo and Conditioner and Herbal essence is my fav. it smells really good. i like the papaya one that's like orange. they both work really well and i use them. awsome, k, hope i helped!
Emily88
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