My name is Kerry. I am 15 years old. I attend East Carteret High School, in Beaufort, North Carolina. I am gonna be a sophmore this year; thrilled. I am a huge Kelly Clarkson freak. I am kinda short, only 5'2. Brown hair, brown eyes, nothing special. I am not exactly, "Miss Popular" however, I do have a lot of friends, some popular, some not. I like my friends, I wouldn't change them for anything. I go to Church every chance that I get. I love the rain, love nature. I love to play soccer. I can't really think of anything else to say about me.
I wanted to start this column because everyone always comes to me for advice. I actually think I give good advice, one of the only things I am actually good at!
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Please don't skip this cause it's long. It's good and here I go okay I have this boyfriend that left for the summer well technically were not really going out but we didn't break up we just decided it wouldn't work out long distance. We were just going to get back together once he came back well the thing is since he left we've been going through some rough times I really do love him and were crazy about eachother we've been going out for eight months. So here's the problem this other guy came into play which happens to be a really good friend of mine and we were talking and he wants to go out again. And please don't be like then you really don't love the other guy if your even thinking about dating another guy cause c'mon girls we all do it. But see I really wanna be with the guy that I've been with for eight months but see I don't know if there is ever gonna be anything between us because of all the fighting we've been doing. So I'm thinking getting with the second guy might not be such a bad idea. So please help me which one should I pick? I'm so damn confussed. here's some background info. The guy I've been with I cheated on with the second guy.I've dated both guys. Plus the first guy has cheated on me too. Im 14 the first guy is 15 and the second guy is 16. The two guys know about eachother and hate eachother. (link)
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Well, I would say go with who would be better for you. Who would treat you better? Now, I'm not talking about who would buy you more things, or blah blah blah. I mean, which one would hold you when you cry, and comfort you when you're sad? I would say that if you love both guys, and one is gone, it might would be better to date the second one. I only say tihs because if the guy you are currently "dating" right now leaves, you would be tempted by the other guy, right? And wouldn't it be better to just date him, since he is there, so you wouldn't have the guilt of cheating on the other guy?
lol, sorry, hope that wasn't too confuisng. Hope I helped some.
Love always,
Kerry
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What should i do if i just found out that my friend (14) is being abused by her father at home? should i dob him in? i know that she still loves him and all, but...why? (link)
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Wow, that's sad how a father can abuse their own child. In my opinion, you should tell your parents because they would know more of what to do. If you don't feel comfotable talking to your parents about it, I would say go to the authorities yourself. The abuse won't stop unless some action is takin. Usually when children get abused, they still love their parents if they are the one doing the abusing. They usually do because after all, they are their parents. It's unconditional love, loving them no matter what. Even though she loves him, he is hurting her physically, and mentally, more than likely. Some action should be taken or she could end up really hurt in the end. Hope I helped some.
Love always,
Kerry
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What do you do when everyone around you thinks that you have a mental disoder? A lot of my friends and family think that I have Bipolar Disorder. I am too scared to go see if it's true or not. What should I do? (link)
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I would say that your best bet is to go get checked. It's better for yourself if you do. Maybe you should do a search on the internet for symptoms of it to see if you think you have it. Here's a good site... http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar.cfm
Hope I helped
Love always,
Kerry
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okay.. I was raised in an extremely Catholic family, and lately I've not only been questioning my religion, but doubting it... Should I tell my parents? I know that if I do, I'll probably be in huge trouble, but should I really just sit here and let them shove a religion down my throat if I don't even know if I believe in it?? (link)
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I think that you should tell your parents. It is your life. They may force you to take actions for what they believe, (go to a Catholic Church) but they can't force you to believe it. I say take your own path in life, if you don't believe in it, then don't. If you want to believe in it, and are scared that it's slipping away, talk to the Priest about it. I am sure he can renew your faith. But, if you just don't want to take that religion, then I would say not to. It is your choice in the end, your parents can't force your mind to think something, only influence what you think. Hope it all works out for you.
Love always,
Kerry
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so my boyfriends birthdays is in august (i know its a long way away...) but i know we'll still be together and i have no idea what to get him!!! he likes University of Georgia...and he's really southern (so like fishin' and huntin' and 4wheelers and stuff)...any ideas?...
xoxo thanks (15/f) (link)
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Well, maybe order him a University of Geogia hoodie or shirt or something. Or, take him out on a little fishing trip on his birthday or go hunting with him!! I am sure he would like to spend time with you, doing things he loved (fishin, huntin, 4wheeling..) rather than a present present.
Hope I helped some!
Love always,
Kerry
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all right, i'm going to this wedding today and i'm bringing my best guy friend and now i'm feeling nervous. see i have this huge family and i'm worried they will bug him or make him feel uncomfortable. i can't cancel because he seems to really want to go an i'm just worried my family will scare him away or something. what would you guys do in this situation? i already warned him but he just laughed and said he was sure it would be fine... but still i'm nervous. help? (link)
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Well, first off, have fun at the wedding and congrats to who's ever it is. I would say that if he is your best friend, then he wouldn't really care about how your family acts.I would say just act like your normal self. God doesn't give you anything that you can't handle; so don't fret. If your family starts to act up, just turn the joke around on them. lol. Hope it all works out for you.
Hope I helped some, at least.
Love always,
Kerry
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I want a professionals opinion. I am trying an experiment, im not going to sleep tonight then rock up to my baseball match 2morrow morning. Am i gonna die or what? lol. How many innings am i gonna last on the mound? lol. (link)
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Well, if you want a professional opinion, go to a psychologist or a doctor or something. I am just an online advice giver. But, in my opinion, you should sleep. I doubt that you would die playing, you might just get really eexhausted and not be able to play well, or play at all. And, I don't really know anything about baseball, so I can't really tell you how many innings you're gonna last. Actually, I doubt anyone could. It's your body that will tell you. Hope I helped.
Love always,
Kerry
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Hi im 14 and a female, see there are these really mean group of girls at my school and they ised to be all my really good friends until 8th grade they started acting ;ike they were rea;;y cool and stopped talking to me. i asked them what was wrong and the act like everything is just fine. Then they went behind my back a nd told everybody some rumor about that wasnt true. My mom says there just jealous of me. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do? (link)
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Sweetie, there is nothing wrong with you. It is all them. They are what's wrong. They aren't your real friends if they go behind your back like that. I say, just move on. Get some new friends, better friends. Make some friends that will love you for you, and not be ashamed of it. If you stay friends with these people, you are only leading up to heartbreak, and you don't want that to happen, do you?
Hope I helped some.
Love always,
Kerry
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Is there something wrong with me if right now, i have a girlfriend, but also find the need to be with a guy also? if you get my drift...i keep my relationship a secret to my gf ofcourse, is this ok Kerry? (link)
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Well, I would have to say, in my opinion it isn't. If you really care about this girl, then you wouldn't be cheating on her; if you really care about this guy, you wouldn't be cheating on him. I mean, I wouldn't say that there is something wrong with YOU, maybe the actions you take though. I think that you should take some time away from both of them (not break up though) and just think, think about your relationship with both of them. I think that you should chose wich is more important, him, or her. Who would be better for YOU? Who would be there to hold you when you cry, to comfort you when you're hurt? Who do you care about more? It's not my place to say who you should date, or what you should do. Just help guide you through with your choice. Also, if you really, really want to keep both relationships alive, tell your gf about your bf. Honesty is the key in a relationship. If you don't tell her, you will just be hurting her, and lying to her. Would you want that? Do what you think is best for you, not either of them.
Love Always,
Kerry
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I dont know if it got through, so sorry if you have 2.
One of my friends is acting different. But, I guess the same at the same time. It's just really confusing. I love talking to her, but sometimes I wish I wasn't because she can get...well, in a bad mood and take it all out on me if I didn't do anything.
And also...How can you tell someone what's wrong in your life, when you dont even know yourself? I mean, you know that something is wrong, but you cant find it. And life is just so stressing and depressing for you. How can you explain it to someone so they can try to help when you cant even explain it to yourself?
And one more thing (sorry to get on your nerves). How can you tell someone you love them, when they dont think you do? How do you make them see that you care...when they say you dont? And...how can you tell them it breaks your heart to see them hurt, when they say your lying? (link)
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I already got it. It's alright though sweetie. Just look at the relpy to the first one.
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One of my friends is acting different. But, I guess the same at the same time. It's just really confusing. I love talking to her, but sometimes I wish I wasn't because she can get...well, in a bad mood and take it all out on me if I didn't do anything.
And also...How can you tell someone what's wrong in your life, when you dont even know yourself? I mean, you know that something is wrong, but you cant find it. And life is just so stressing and depressing for you. How can you explain it to someone so they can try to help when you cant even explain it to yourself?
And one more thing (sorry to get on your nerves). How can you tell someone you love them, when they dont think you do? How do you make them see that you care...when they say you dont? And...how can you tell them it breaks your heart to see them hurt, when they say your lying? (link)
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Okay, to talk to you about the first part of what you said. Some people, most people, change; it's a part of life. They may be acting different without knowing it themself. Maybe you should talk to your friend about it, but not in a mean way. A way that won't get her in one of her "bad moods." Some people just get in bad moods. That's also a part of life. Maybe she has something going wrong in her life too, maybe she can't explain what it is either, or maybe she just doesn't want to, yet.
Now, about your second part of "Advice asking," Maybe you can't really explain to your friend what is wrong, but maybe how she can help. Maybe telling her that just being there is helping you, or that just talking to her is helping. I think that life gets stressful and depressing for just about everyone, at some point. Don't fret; God doesn't ever give you anything that you can't handle. Just remember that. If you really want to let her know what is wrong. Just tell her that it's just the stress that the days can bring, and that you, yourself, are changing also, and it's a little too much to handle at the moment. I am sure all people can relate/understand that.
And for your last thing, which, by the way, you aren't getting on my nerves, I AM here to give advice, remember?!?! And, I say, that just tell them that you love them, regardless of whether they believe it or not. You will know the truth in your heart, and they probably will too. And to show that you care, I would say just be there for them, when they need you. Actions speak louder than words. Don't just say you care, show it. And as for the breaking heart thing, I would say just tell them. Maybe they don't know how you feel. Maybe you should be more open to them, and in return, they will be more open to you. Maybe you will find out why they don't believe you. Maybe they have a trust issue?
Sweetie, just try to be a great friend, and be there for your friends, and they will be thankful, and be a great friend back. Like they say, you can't chose your family, but you can chose your friends. You chose those certain friends for a reason. Apparently, you want to keep the friendship alive, coming to an online "advice giver" and all.
Hope I helped some. Feel free to ask anymore questions if needed.
Love always,
Kerry
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What do you do when your just sick of life and want to end it, but dont want to hurt your frinds? (link)
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Well, I would say put yourself before your friends. Though it might sound selfish, you should think about yourself just as much as you think about your friends, if not more. However, I don't think ending your life will get rid of your problems, only start them. Suicide isn't the right choice. Over half of the people who try to commit suicide, regret it when they are about to die. Some, thankfuly, don't die. However, others aren't so lucky. Life is precious. It's not a thing that you should take for granted. Life will get better, whether you see it or not. Like someone once told me, "'This too shall pass,' things will get better, and even though there will be problems, somehow we always get through them." Listen to your heart, God will gide you. In the end, do what you think is right for you, and for others.
Love always,
Kerry
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What do you do when your best friend stole your sex tape?
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Well, I have a feeling who wrote this, but, let me answer this "professionaly." I would say that if your best friend stole your sex tape, then maybe you should confront them. Ask them why they took it and ask for it back. It's not my buisness why you would have a sex tape in the first place. If you are asking how to get it back, I would say just ask them. But, I would say just talk to your friend about it and see how well it works out.
Kerry
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