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What is the right age for a male to start getting erection and be able to burst?? I am thirteen years old but I still cant have any erection...But all of my friends (same age) say they can have erection...Some even say they have been having erection since they were 11 or 12?? Maybe this sounds gay but I have actually seen them having erection in the mall or in the school shower...Is this bad? I am so worry about it...Is it possible that I won't be able to have any erection throughout my whole life??
You're perfectly fine. I mean, girls don't go around talking about their first period! Just dont talk about it to your freiinds if it bugs you. And if really think it's something big, talk to a parent or someone else that you trust about. Besides, maybe you just don't have anything to get excited about or maybe your mind just doesn't think you're ready to have one. You'll be fine. I promise.
Well, I am 13 going on 14, and I would like to have a party. My parents are strict..and for the past years my party has been just a sleepover with 2-3 girls. Wth, I know. That is certainly NOT a party. So, my problem is..I have so many friends, and I'm tired of narrowing down to 2-3 for a sleepover. I'm thinking of inviting around 10 people, maximum, because my parents will probably be pissssed. Ahaha. So, does anyone have an idea of what we can do? I don't want to go bowling..or golfing, OR see a movie, really. I wanna have a cool party, a fun one. My birthday's January 9th, but my party's not until later. (2 weeks maybe) So, does anyone have an idea what to do..something OTHER than a sleepover? Thanks.
Break out the music! Dance, serve chips and dip, play twister and if there are guys play truth or dare, or spin the bottle. You could play BS, a card game where you go in a circle starting with twos and working up to aces, you can either put down the real card, or a fake card, if someone thinks that you're lying, they say BS, If they're right you pick up the whole pile of cards, if they're wrong, they do. You could play 'I never' too, where everyone puts up ten fingers, you go around in the circle and each person says something that they have never done, any one who has done what they said puts one finger down. Once someone has all of there fingers down, they're out. You play until one person is standing! You could do each others hair in wacky harstyles and take pictures, or paint each others faces. Good luck with your party! Have fun!!
Hi, as many of you may of seen me post frequently,I am Mark. I have dissociative idenity disorder or multiple personalities. At first I didn't believe it but It became much worse. I just read an article about it and I have 90% of the symptoms. Should I get help? I'm an average 15 year old kid, just like some of you guys are or have been or will be. You remember what it was like to be different from everyone...What should I do, I'm for once stuck in life with not knowing on what to do..please help me.
-Mark
I think that you should get help. Have you been professionally diagnosed? I think that you should tell your parents what is going on with you, they can help you get whatever help you need. DID is a rare dissorder, but is much more common in men than women. Sometimes you can get medicine to help you stay 'balanced.' I wish you luck!
Ok, this may seem like a pretty stupid question, but I have a simple little question about having a well-balanced, healthy diet and exercise...I want to lose weight, but I know that simply eating too little or not eating the foods you need is very bad for you and simply will lower your metabolism...I'm getting 30 minutes of cardio exercise in a day, but does anyone have a well balanced diet plan that would be good to follow? Something that will keep you functioning and won't lower your metabolism, but will still keep you losing weight (nothing low-carb please...that's so bad for you because you need carbs for energy)...and also, about how many calories a day do you need to function? 1600 is the lowest, or at least I've heard? Thanks!
Don't bother counting carbs, it doesn't always work, and to few carbs will make you tired and slow your metabolism. Don't eat anything that you can see the grease running off of! Like McDonalds or those Totinos oven pizza's. (they're really greasy) Have you thought about a vegetarian diet? I know that if you type in 'Vegetarian food pyramid' that you will find a lot of information about it and a food pyramid. Or just follow the regular food pyramid. Sometimes I drink an energy drink called 'Boost' that really boosts your energy and is a good morning starter. Drink only water for about 45 minutes after you exercise. Cardio is really good for you! I think you're on the right track though! Good luck!!
hey i know you all know the feeling.. im bored out of my brains! im at work at the moment im filling in for someone as a receptionist on my school holidays.. im on the computer all day and i get REAL BORED does anyone know any entertaining sites that dont involve sound or sex..?
Well, this site is totally fun! I loved making my advice column! The colors are fun! Also, there is fanfiction.net where you can write about your favorite books/anime/TV show/movie/etc. That's really fun and entertaining, and you can read other peoples works, along with a search tool. It can take up a lot of time. Or, go to yahoo games, they have alot of soundless games that are really fun. You could write in forums that you are interested in or join chatrooms as well. I hope I could help you!
my boyfriend asked me to marry him...i love him so much hes my world.... but i dont want to tell other people because i dont like being center of attention and im just not ready to tell the good news.... but in another way m boyfriend well fianca wants to tell the world abt it.... ive already told him what i thought and he says hes ok with it but he keeps bringing it up.... over and over again that he wants to tell everyone what should i do?
He loves you, thats why he wants you to marry him. Since he loves you that much, he probably doesn't see anything wrong with telling people. When you're in love, a lot of people want to tell the world. Not letting him tell might actually make him feel bad, and make him think you're ashamed of him or something. Which is ridiculous, you are marrying him, but still. Guys are complex. But if you are shy and don't want to be the center of attention, you should just tell him how you feel. Exactly, and your not wanting to be the center of attention. He'll most likely understand. Or, you could just let him tell a few people that you are both close to, that way he can let out his excitment to someone. He probably feels like the luckiest guy in the world and just wants to tell everyone what a catch he has! It will make him feel estatic that you love him enough to marry him! Good Luck!! Have a great wedding, I wish you the happiest years with your beau!!
I overheard one of my friends telling a boy how I had criend over what she oviously thought was nothing and laughing over it. Sometimes she runs away from some of her other friends (who are also my friends) and me with her bitchy friend, then pretends it was nothing and that Im over reacting. Then she is really friendly again.She has done this so many times now I secretly don't like her at all. However, she is really popular and I think if I stopped being her friend all my friends would still be with her as she has this way of making people side with her. I don't know what to do about it..(Sorry about the length).
Zoinatrobe.
The lengh is fine, I've written way longer. Anyways, if they're really your freinds they'll stick by you! But, they may really be her freinds too, or maybe they're scared that if they take sides with you, then they won't be popular. Try looking for new freinds while, at the same time staying her freind. You should tell her exactly how you feel, and if she says that you're overreacting, tell her, "Maybe so, but this is how I feel." It will show her that you're serious, an that's how you feel. Or, maybe you could vent to one of your closer freinds about how you feel. I've always found that keeping a journal helps me sort my feelings out and gives me ideas about what to do. Or, when you feel down just grab a peice of scrap paper and write how you feel on that. The thing is, If you find new freinds,m that you can be yourself around and who treat you right, even if your not labeled 'popular' by others, you'll feel popular just having good people around you and it won't bother you anymore. I really hope that you can find the happiness and freinds that you're looking for, Good Luck!!
I haven't seen my mother for 9 years, I'm 14. She's been on methampthetamines my entire life. I just got word today of where she is, I talked to her about 3 years ago. I need to go see her so that I can get over the fact that she will never be my mom. I just need some advice on what to say to her, and I really want to tell her to stop doing methampthetamines. I know that I won't be able to help her, but I just need some advice on how to deal with the fact that I will never have her as my mom, and that I will never be able to help her. I know it's hard to answer, but please, if anyone can help me. The pressure is too much, I'm seeing her this weekend. Please help me. I have no one else to turn to.
Ok, I can understand how not having your mom around would put a huge gap in your life. For that i'm sorry. I think that it was very responsible of you to except that she will never be your mother. Are you absolutly positive that you don't want her around, or that she'll leave again? Make sure, because this could be your only real chance to talk with her. I'm not trying to stress you out more though. Try to meet some place private so that you two can really talk. Explain to her calmly that she hasn't been a big part of your life, since she's been gone. Tell her exactly how you feel, but try to avoid blaming her, Phrase things to be 'I' Instead of 'You,' as in "I felt very badly these years." Instead of "You left me alone all these years!" It will make her listen more closley to what you have to say. She also might think that you want to patch things up, and she can be your mom again. So don't spend the whole day with her doing fun things, only to tell her at the end that she can't keep jumping in and out of your life. Get right to the point. Try to be alone with her, having your dad or something around is going to have you both harbor your feelings. Sorry. I hope I could help at least a little. Luck!!
Months ago I meet this guy,fell in love,he was the 1 who said he loved me 1st!! Then we broke-up,but we'd still tell each other we loved each other. Every time we were together something would happen ether we'd kiss or have sex!! (this is after months of being apart) But I'v told him am not a sex toy. & Resently I told him I still love him, he said that he does love me but he doesn't know how strongly, in what way or if he loves me like I love him any more!! I asked him what he wanted to happen between us but he said "I don't know just now" Am so confused & I know no1 else can tell me how he fells but can some1 at less give me some advise on what to do??
No offence, but it doesn't sound like this guy wants a real relationship with you. I think he just wants the sex and attention. If he said he doesn't know if he loves you the same anymore, but still wants to sleep with you, leave him. He'll admire your gut. If you really don't want to leave him, tell him exactly how you feel, and stop having sex with him, if you can't have a normal relationship for a couple of weeks without sex, it probably won't work. I'm really not trying to be rude! I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully you get the guy!
My friend ask me a question I dont know what to tell her.She asked if she should got out with this guy that really connects with her or stay with the guy that shes already with.She said her boyfriends a nice guy and is sweet but this other guy she thinks that likes her and she likes him,they got alot in common and can talk to him without being shy but he moves in the middle of the summer.Her boyfriend will always be there for her,So WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER?I'm 13,she's 13 the guys are also 13.
Wow. That sounds like a horrible predicament! Well, If she doesn't like being with her current boyfreind, and can't be herself around him, I would tell her that she should leave him. It would be nice if they could stay freinds though. And, as for the other guy, If he's moving it would be difficult to keep a relationship, but if she really likes him, and can be herslef around him, I say go for it! Long-Distance relationships can be tough, but they're not impossible! It sounds like she wants to leave her current boyfreind, since she likes another guy, but doesn't quite know how to break it off. I would have her sit him down sometime when they're both happy and calm, and have her explain that she would rather just be freinds, since it sounds like she doesn't want to hurt him and still wants to be close. He might take it hard at first, but it will be okay. It sounds like the other guy is perfect for her! And, thank you for asking, it shows that you're a true freind, trying to help her with her problems. Good luck to both of you!
In the aftermath of the tsunami, the eternal theological question is again posed: what sort of God permits the slaughter of blameless humanity on such a scale?
On the abundant available evidence does it not seem that, if there is or was a God, it is now malevolent, mad or dead?
No, religious nutters please - this is a serious question I'm posing.
Dr Kesha
I get what you mean. Here's my theory; God doesn't interfere with us, because God wants us to solve things for ourselves. God is testing us, to see if we can handle it. I get what you mean though, with all the things that are happening lately, it's hard to believe that God cares about us. I believe that everything happens for a reason, you could call it fate, destiny, or coincidence. But I believe that everything was meant to be, not necesarilly planned by God though. God made us free, to make our own choices and deal with our own problems. It's not that God doesn't care, but that God believes that we can handle it ourselves. I don't know what kind of God there is, I don't know If there's one or one thousand, man or woman, both or neither. But I do know that whatever force there is, it cares about us. I hope that you can find your own beliefs and answers. Good Luck!
okay well i wanna have a bday party but my mom said i couldn't have it at my house so where are some good places to have a bday party when im a grl and im turnin 14...thanks!
Have one at the bowling alley (laser bowling is cool) or another freinds house. You could also have one at any restaurant or theme park. Do you have any local dance clubs? Those would also be fun. Hope I was helpful!
Is there any way to remove the skin under your armpits? Like any excersizes. Please no surgeries.
You can remove it with different arm excersizes, ones that make you move your arms up and down are most helpful, and push-ups tighten it so that it won't hang. Movements side to side help to. Use weights and move your arms in little circles.
Finals are coming up and im in 9th grade.. Is it really hard? And how much is it worth like points like. How much does it count on your grade? What happans if you have a D and C for both semesters.. and you get a F on your final. would you get it averaged out between the 3 grades?
Ok, I'm in tenth grade now. Finals are over every thing that you've learned the entire semester, and are worth forty-five percent of your grade. (In most schools) So, If you completly bomb your finals and get an F, I would have to say no, your grades won't average out. The best advice that I can give you is, in math; Reread every chapter, and take notes on everything important, even if you can't use notes on your exams. Writing it down will help you remember. Also, do some examples if you can. In science; Read all of the notes that you've taken over the semester and all of your vocab words. Reread the chapters too if you can. For English; Study all f your grammer and punctuation skills, and try to remember every thing you can about books you've read previously in the year. Always reread if you can. For Gym; it's usually the mile run, and some questions about sports that you've played. Health; Reread all of the vocab, scan over chapters, reread chapters that you have trouble on. Hope that helped! They can be hard, but follow these tips and you'll be fine. Good Luck!! P.S. Study at least one week advance if you can.
i've been hanging out with the druggies and gangstas at my school. my best friend which is none of those got mad at me because shes going to think im going to do drugs or change my style. i was always hanging out with the gangstas though so shes mostly worried about the druggies. she makes fun of some of my friends and i act like i dont like them but i really do. i dont want her worring about me and who i hang out with but its sorta hard. i've always been the one getting in trouble or bending the rules but shes never really seen that side of me because i act like a totally diff. person around her. what should i tell her so she can stop telling me who to hang out with? and make her stop talking about my friends???
thanx
I totally get that crowd. I understand what you mean, you know them and they're nice people, and she doesn't, she just thinks that they're drugies. Firstly, she's probably just worried and trying to be a good freind to you. And she obviously is! It's annoying because you think she's trying to control you, but really she just doesn't want anything bad to happen to you, that's what a true freind does. She really does care about you, not trying to control you. Maybe to help ease her, you could ask your freinds who are on drugs to stop. Because drugs really aren't healthy for them, and if you care about them as your freinds, at least try to get them to stop. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, just giving a suggestion. Don't hide your feelings when she makes fun of them, tell her calmly that they're your freinds too, and you don't like it when she makes fun of them. She'll stop if she's really your freind. She's probably only doing that to get you to stop hanging out with them so that you don't start drugs too, not trying to be mean. Are you really being YOU around any of your freinds? Cause if you can't be just you around them, or if you don't think that they would except you as just you, then they probably aren't your freinds and only like who you're pretending to be. Maybe you should look into new freinds in a different group? Or try to help the freinds you have now, and just be you around them. If they don't like you just the way you are, they aren't your freinds, and aren't worth spending another second around. Sorry, but thats the truth. I hope I helped you at leaset a little!
Well, the KC metro area...
I go to the movies often enough,
Not much of a drinker or Dancer - don't really like smokey rooms so Clubbing and bars aren't usually my thing.
Anyone have any good suggestions as to how to kill time with friends or with a date here in the Kansas City / Overland Park area?
Well, I'm not in the Kansas area, but I understand what you mean. I hate smokey rooms, and bars, and drinking. You guys could spend Friday nights at home playing games, watching TV, or listening to music? Or you could throw a party every once and a while with your rules. That way you could just have good clean fun! On a date you could go out to dinner at a local cafe or coffee shop. You could go to the park and just hang out, or walk down to the local 7Eleven, if they have those in Kansas. Or Slurpee/Slushie shop. Ice-Cream is always good too. You could go to the batting cages if you're into sports. Scrap Booking? I hope you can find something to do! Hope I could be of some help! Good Luck!!
Ok, so this chick is talking to me.. and we have been talking for a while and I told her that I loved her, so yeah, every thing was cool then she started giving off signs that she feels the same way, we start talking about Sex, and family and stuff like that, then when I finally decide we are really close, I tell her how i really feel, she said its sweet but shes just not ready for a relationship.. then yeah, shes been telling me I'm a great guy and I'm sweet and stuff, but should she really be doing this kind of stuff.. or is she just being a tease.. playing with my emotions?
BTW I'm 17 and have never had someone tell me they Love me :( and she knows this...
what should I do about this.. I really need help! :(
I think she might be playing with you. Sorry, but, I've seen girls at my school do the same thing. It feels good to know that someone really likes you, but when she heard you say that you loved her, she probably knew that it was over. I'm sure she didn't mean for you to fall in love with her. She just wanted the attention, and the flirting. By the way, I'm fifteen, and I've never had anyone tell me they love either. You're not alone! Just wait, I'm sure the right girl will come along someday soon, and then you can both be happy. Maybe you should tell this girl what you thought she was doing, and see if it was a missunderstanding. I wish I could help more! I wish you the very best! Just find out what she meant, and look around for that someone special, who might be right under your nose, you just didn't notice! Lots of Luck!!
i want to gain more confidence and have an attitude that gives the impression that i don't give a damn what they say! anyone have any advice that would help me obtain this attitude?
To become confident, all you have to do is act confident. You'll probably be pretending for a while, and it might be a little weird at first, but fear not! When you walk, keep your head high and shoulders back, don't slouch. When you sit at your desk, do the same thing. When people are talking about something, just express your views to them, if you disagree, tell them, and tell them why, don't worry about sounding stupid, people respect a person who is open and confident looking. Adding a sarcastic comment here and there never hurts either, but you don't have to. Also, smile alot, laugh, have fun! Pretend like you're just hanging with your close freinds, that you can be yourself around, and before you know it, you'll be the most onfident, admired person around!
I always look at myself and see how not pretty I am. I hate it. Then I look around at all my friends..why do they get to be automatically pretty? No makeup for some--but still not ugly. I have kind of chubby cheeks but not huge. I have dark blonde, almost brown-ish straight hair a little past my shoulders. I'm sort of tan, but not much. My eyes are hazel, mostly green. If I go out or to school, I wear eyeliner and that's it. I also have a little bit of a belly. I really think I'm not pretty. I've never had a boyfriend, and maybe that's why? Any ideas for makeup that's not too drastic, that will make my face look better? If you have ANYTHING..please tell me.
Wow. It's almost scary how much we look alike. I too am a dark blonde haired girl, with hazel green eyes, and slightly tanned skin. I too wear only eye-liner and the occasional eye make-up. Scary. I too have never had a boyfreind. I too have a tiny bit of a belly. But that doesn't mean I'm not beautiful! I bet you're very pretty and you just don't know it! Ask people, people who will be honest. You probably just have low self esteem! Nothing that can't be fixed! Here's a way to help bring it up, wright in a journal everyday about your good points. Like, if you feel like your hair is particularly cute, wright it down! Wright down when you think that someone cute might have been looking at you. It'll work for sure! I promise! Ask your freinds if they think that you're pretty, or if they have any tips! Good Luck! And I'm sure you're beautiful!!
Okay hi its barb(ara) agian.I go 2 a cathcloic school n i dunt mean 2 sound like i dunt belive in god but i do.I mean still we are beliving in a ghost thats over 4000 years old.But it seems like GOd Is forcing us 2 belive in him n make him seem LIKE HE IS POWERFUL only HE is great.Its like yu nver write the word Bob in capitals just cuz he has a cool name.I mean y should god be all powerful n y should we honer him he seems like an electrain trying 2 burn out the light.I have nothing agaisnt god but what am i beling in?I have no clue about it.Our school forces us 2 be more cathcloic and it seems the more they do that the worse the kids become.Kids in 2nd grade at my cathcloic school is cursing.We r starting fights.It seems the more they take it away the more we do it.Y kant they just leave us alone????-Catholic and Unfaithful
I totally get what you mean, I am also catholic, and I use to go to a catholic school. They do like pushing God at you, but it's them not God. I had issues with religion a couple of years ago. It was like, Why are people making me believe this way? So I turned to Paganism, but that didn't work out either. So I decided to come up with my own beliefs, ones that came from my heart, ones that I believed were truly, from God. I am still catholic though, and I still believe in Jesus and Mary. But I don't take things the way I was always told to. I don't know for sure if God is male or female, I don't know if there if there is one God or one thousand. But I do know that God lives in my heart, and everyones hearts. I talk to God, and tell God what I want out of life and give God my own personal prayers. What I'm saying is, don't blame God for what your teachers are pushing on you. Don't blame God for what your parents are pushing on you. I can't show you God, but I can help you find God for yourself. It's always good to believe in something, no matter what it is. I think that you want to believe in something, and that somewhere inside you need to believe in something. God does still give miracles, or maybe it's fate, not miracles, but every day people all over the world catholic or not, experiece some form of a miracle. For a mother who was supposedly sterile, a baby would be a miracle. People recovering from fatal illness, thats a miracle. But I can't tell you what to believe or how to believe. Don't let the lack of faith in some people at your school bring you down. Maybe you could look at other religions at the library or on the computer. Good luck on your search for truth, and inner peace!