Hey guys and girls.. My name's kenzi. I've go around all the time giving advice to my friends and fixing problems that mostly aren't mine. Believe it or not i do care about YOU. I care about your problems and i care about helping you fix them. Please ask me anything.. even if you're kinda confused.. maybe i can help. Don't be afraid and don't be embarassed to ask me nething! i will do my absolute best to help you. I've been through a lot and have a lot of knowledge. Many people call me an "old soul" which is kind of annoying but true. I am an all around positive person and i will do my absolute best to help you with your problems.. don't hesitate to contact me netime.. hope to help!
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Theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.
But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM. Which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.
The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.
So what I would like to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)
I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)
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oook chill for a sec.. i don't think he likes you i think he's just trying to be a nice guy. He might like you but definatly don't be the one to make the first move.. let him come to you and if he likes you he will.. otherwise just enjoy being friends with him.. it's better then him hating you right? the world won't end with him at 13 trust me.. what's meant to happen will
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ok my mom like dosent trust me 1 bit at all and i really need to ask a questio on here but.. my mom puts like these tracker things on my computer she can read everything i do on here anything i type and stuff like that anywhere i go on the computer.. so .. i want to ask everyone a question on here but if i asked my mom would read it and i would get in sooo much trouble i really need an answer thought but i still dont want to get in trouble (link)
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Ok well did you do something to make your mom not trust you..if you did then it might take a while to build that trust.. if your mom is like my dad and is just nosey and mean.. then talk to her.. tell her that you've never done nething wrong and you don't appreciate the invasion of privacy.. if she wants you to respect her she will have to respect you a little bit
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Ok i was thinking of having casino night be the theme of my sweet 16 party but my dad doesnt like the idea because we cant gamble until we are 21..so it isnt "appropriate." What do you guys think? there wouldnt be gambling or anything at the party..just some really cool party decorations. (if your interested in looking at them check out party411.com) Maybe some card playing and a pool table would be at the party..but no gambling or anything..i just thought it would be a cool idea. What do you think? (link)
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I think that's an awesome idea.. like have everyone dress up like they're going into a casino and have like fake ash trays and like apple cider so it looks like beer? i don't know sounds awesome.. just tell your dad that he needs to chil.. it's your sweet 16 and you should be able to have it the way you want.. plus you are going to be 16.. i think you're able to make your own decisions
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my friend has been 2 months late on her period.. she took a pregnancy test and claims shes not pregnant. she said that if there are 2 lines, it means shes pregnant..well i saw 2 lines, one was darker than the other and when i said i saw 2 lines she threw the pregnancy test back in the box. shes been awfully moody lately and has been telling her parents she has gotten her period for the past 2 months. she hasnt been acting the same..im really worried. what do you think? (link)
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Ok well if it's that obvious that she is pregnant.. that you saw the test.. then definatly talk to her. let her know you are her friend and you're not going to bail on her. i bet she's more scared for herself then you are for her. tell her that if she has the baby and keeps it you will still be friends with her and do everything in your power to help her. help her figure out how to tell her parents and then be with her when she does. i'm sure she's scared of a lot right now.. just reasure her. make sure you're there for her. that's all you can really do
hope it all works out let me know
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ok well theres 2 guys Jake and keith. well yeah im going out with Keith but before i went out with Keith i really im mean really liked Jake and i think Jake is going to ask me out agian and i dont think i will be able to say no but im not going to break up with Keith because i like him alot to and cheeting is not an option for me because i aways tell the truth (to my BF'S) and i dont kno if i still have feelings 4 Jake or not because he asked me out once before and i had said no because i needed him to meet my mom cuz he waz older then me like 3 years well he meet my mom and i dont kno what to do i like Keith so much but i like Jake to i just dont kno how much Help plz.... (link)
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ok well it sounds like you're as confused as i am. first off.. if you don't know if you like the guy then you probably don't like him that much. I really think the best thing is is to stay dating keith. See how it goes. If jake asks you out then tell him you have a boyfriend right now and you don't want to hurt what you have with your boyfriend but you do care about him. Otherwise keep it straight.. date keith.. hey you never know tomorrow he may do something and you'll break up and you'll hate him and then all systems go for jake.. you just have to let time take it's course.. it won't let you down
hope i helped
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some of the girls in my school like gettin called a tease. and others dont i am so confused by this that i want to know if its a goodthing being called a tease and wat it exactly means
x0 thanx 4 da help (link)
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Ok, well being called a tease means you treat guys like you want to sleep with them and then back down at the last minute.. it's kind of an advanced flirt i guess.. it's better then being called a whore but it's not good.. hope i helped answer your questions.
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Hi, well im 15 and i go to a christian school so its small n every1 nos every1 else n i hav a really good guy friend whos a senior and i like him n i think he likes me.. we hang out all the time n he calls me n takes me places we always flirt n hang out n stuff n ppl always ask us if we r dating.. like even adults.. n he always like playfully teases me by sitting on my lap n stuff n the other day we were talking about my jeans that had holes in them n he poured water on me then i poured sum on him then he chased me around the room pouring water on me n caught me n dumped it on me n grabbed me n tickled me n gave me a big hug.. do u think he likes me? wut should i do? (link)
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There is a strong possibility that he could like you. But sometimes guys just want to be friends. And sometimes they just like you but aren't ready for a relationship w/you. My best advice is since you're so close to him.. just sit down and say 'i know we have a great time together.. but i'd like to know whether or not you see me as more than a friend' the more you hold it in the worse it will get and maybe you'll end up pushing him away cuz a. he doesn't think you like him or b. he thinks you like him too much and doesn't want a relationship.. i'd just say talk to him.. what's the worst that could happen? i mean at least you'll get some answers... let me know how it goes!
thanx for trusting me for advice!
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Hey, My name is Megan, and i'm 15. I've always been treated pretty bad in school. I don't think i'm fat or ugly, but everyone calls me ugly. I don't know why they would say things to hurt me, and it makes me feel bad all the time, though I try to hide it. Today at lunch, someone gave me a joke love letter of someone I know asking me to homecomming. (The one who gave me the note hates me) When I opened it, a fry with ketchup on it fell on my white skirt, and ruined it. They all laughed it up, while a friend of mine yelled at them. I don't understand why people do the things they do to me, I try to ignore them, but you know, it hurts. I just wish people at my school would treat me like a human. I'm not mean to people, i'm nice. I don't talk about people I keep to myself...what is wrong with me? (link)
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there is NOTHING wrong with you.. those stupid people are jerks and will probably always be. kids can be mean and you gotta just shrug it off.. think.. someday you could be rich and famous and their lousy d-grade asses will be working in construction or mcdonalds or something.. what they did to you was awful but at least you have a good friend who will stick up for you. i'm always here if you need nething
xoxox-kenzi
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hi. i am very sad and i cannot stop crying because both of my parents refuse to get me braces. i really need them and i hate smiling because my teeth are So crooked, and everyone stares. i would feel so much better if i had them and i would stop crying everyday. i know that writing this isnt gonna help me; hence i feel helpless. "we cant afford it", they say. but when it comes to buying something expensive for themselves my parents suddenly can. i'm not going to get into my family because i really dont wanna talk about my neglegence and abuse. anywho..i just dont know what to do. i hate looking at all my happy friends with their braces. i really dont want to get a reply such as "dont care about what they think," or "theres people out there that have less then you." because frankly, i dont really care. (link)
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i understand what ur going through.. but the truth is is that my parents can't afford to get me braces either and i hate my teeth.. i think the best think you can do is just start believing u r beautiful and don't need ne silly braces to help! ur fine just the way god made you and in a few years if ur still unhappy and want braces then buy them for urslef.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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Okay .. well My Friend is like 13 yr old n weighs 80 lbs. She's always Complaining on How Fat she is like when she's the most skinnest girl in school! She even went on a diet! Now sometimes she skips school Lunches! Im Very Worried that she might get sick or something! How can i help her.. whatever u say 2 her DOESNT WORK! please help me out.. She's my BEST FRIEND in the word!!! Thank u ! (link)
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just make sure you always tell her she looks nice and compliment her and stuff.. when she's around you offer her food and kinda be like 'it's so good u gotta try' maybe that'll get her to eat.. i think this is something that she's gonna have to work out on her own and i know it's hard being her best friend but you kinda just gotta sit back and let her get over it.. if it get's to bad then talk to a counsler.. hope i helped!
xoxox-kenzi
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okay well on the first day of school i want to wear these tight palish jeans with a white polo that has a little hot pink moose on the side and a c+c hot pink tank and maybe white or pink havaianas or should i wear the same outfit but instead of hotpink turquoise (on the shoes, and tank) and what make up should i wear with it and should i srunch and leave down or a messy bun so i dont look like im trying to hard.
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i think the jeans with the white polo and the turquoise tank sound good with the matching shoes.. do ur hair up in a messy bun and spray on a little perfume.. that'll give everyone the impression ur not trying to hard and give the guys that WOW affect lol.. make up i'd say mascara.. a little bit of black eyeliner on the inner part of ur lower lid.. some white and light blue eyeshadow.. shade the eyeshadow.. bluest and darkest at the bottom and whitest and lightest at the top.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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ok well see I used to like this guy named ray..we never really talked by I thought he liked me too but he didn't..soo I just kinda gave up on him..but I still sorta have feelings for him just a LITTLE..but now I like this guy named joe..and we talk alot and we're good friends and we have alot in common..problem is ray asked me out! what do I do? please don't say follow your heart...cuz its going different ways?! (link)
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i think you should say no to ray.. if you never really talk then it's really not worth having the relationship.. it's the best when ur friends with the guy first.. then you can be comfortable around him.. then when u feel like ur at that point throw on the charm and let it be obvious you like him..hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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ok first day of school (freshmen) i am wearing jeans and a white with blue and orange lettering short sleeve shirt! and i have brown hair that i am going to wear up in a messy bun.. what color eye shadow!?! (link)
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i think you should put white around ur lower brow line.. then line ur bottom eyelid with eyeliner.. kinda smudge it a little with a q-tip.. then take a pastel color (pink blue yellow) something lightly colored and use that and blend it from lash line to ur bottom brow line starting dark and ending light.. i think that'll do it but don't forget the mascara!
hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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ohhh my gaw guys im getting sooo annoyed...everytime im on advicenators it always comes up with this thing that says internet explorer has to close..its always been like that..but i was wondering if anyone elses does or if my computers just gay or what?!?!!
*jesikuh977 (link)
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when ur computer does that try and restart it and see if that fixes it.. you could have a bug and might have to reimage ur whole computer (wipe everything out and reload it) hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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get embarressed but around guys latly i just freeze up and act stupid and turn red. And when a guy likes me i have a tendency to be a jerk and it turns him away! I get so fed up, what can i do to stop this?/? (link)
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i think you need to learn to talk to guys.. make friends with a few of them and maybe that will help when one who likes you talks to you.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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I really love to play guitar.Its my favorite thing.But now that i play guitar i wanna start writing lyrics and songs.But the thing is ive got nothing.What should i do? (link)
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I write songs.. and honestly i have to have some sort of inspiration before i can write.. i think you should just wait until that inspiration comes.. when it come's u'll know it and just have a composition notebook handy at all times and whenever you feel like you got a good line write it down.. hope i helped and good luck
xoxox-kenzi
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hi ! okay well im in 6th grade and i really want to wear thongs! because i hang out with older girls and they wear them and i feel left out ! some please give me so lines to say to my grandma ( i live with my grandparents ) !!! THANKS! (link)
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Ok well i started wearing thongs in the 6th grade.. but it wasn't because everyone else was doing it.. i did it cuz i wanted to and i thought they were cool and i still do.. just a word of warning.. they can be as uncomfortable as they look lol.. but yah just tell ur grandma that tons of girls wear them and there's nothing wrong with it.. it's just so u can't see the panty line through pants.. tell her it's nothing sexual cuz i bet that's prolly what she'll think.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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Ok well my boyfriend just randomly broke up with me-so im upset about that. and he just got a girlfriend...who is this girl that i totally hate!! but now i like this other guy. he always seems to be talking to other girls...so naturally im jealous. what should i do? (link)
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First.. forget about ur ex he's an ass and doesn't deserve you neways.. nexy you should talk to the guy and ask him if he has ne feelings for you.. sometimes it's easier to ask through a note or im.. but in person is always the best..hope i helped hun and good luck
xoxox-kenzi
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alright well my boyfriend gets very jelous sometimes. its partly because some of his friends like me. but he lives 40 min away and we dont go to the same school. which makes it worse. i dont know what to do to let him know that i will never cheat on him. i love him too much to do that. i dont know what to do to help him know that he's the only one i love and i will always want to be with him. any ideas? (link)
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Sit down and talk to him face to face. Ask him if he knows u love him. Ask him if he loves you. Tell him that you love him and you don't want to lose what you have because of 40 fricken minutes. tell him that if he really loves you then he'll wanna try.. if he's worth it hun then it can be done. if he doesn't want to do it then tell him that u obviously don't mean very much to him if he doesn't want to try. i dunno what else to tell yah hun except good luck..
hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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*sry if to long but please read*
well im in 7th grade and we have some 8th graders in my PE class. and theres this guy i think is pretty cute but ive never met him but were always kinda glancen at each other every once in a while n stuff and it might be a bit obvious that i think hes cute but idk if he thinks i am. anyways so today he was talking to these 2 girls and i was talking to 1 of my friends and one of them turned around and was all hey do yall think hes cute? so i was like uhh idk and i said softly (well i hope softly) liek not really and my friend was like no and they were like omg i think hes cute n stuff and i was kinda blushing. i would go out with him if he wanted to go out with me but im not sure and i REALLY hope that that didnt make any of a difference. id really kno what im asking, i just need someone to kinda tell me if i did the right thing or not
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I think you should just talk to him.. make friends. It might not be the easiest or the quickest process but if you talk to him and kinda flirty like then maybe he'll get the hint. He might or he might not like you.. it's too early to judge but i think u should just be friends with him first.. you don't know him well enough to go out yet.. hope i helped hun
xoxox-kenzi
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