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i have a bent penis and im a teenger and im shy about "showing" it to a girl...will my bent penis affect us during sex?? wil she laugh at it?? help!!!!!!!!!!!

First of all, i know your a guy and loosing your virginity probably has less meaning than it does to a women but don't just have sex with anyone make sure it is someone you trust and know. Also make sure it is someone you feel strongly about and make sure you know all there is to know about STDs and such. Anyways moving along to your question, everyones body is different and therefor no 2 penis' will ever look the same. If you are young the odds that the girl you are showing it to probably has not seen many so don't worry about it. Depends on how old you are your penis may grown and change but if you are past your growing years (16-18) it probably wont change. Also every inside of a women is different so you may find that your penis may feel different inside different people, but if you are having sex you and your partner have to be comfortable with each other in order to communicate. She needs to tell you what does and does not feel good and you need to do the same. If you do encounter a probablem with a girl you can just try a different position because it will not feel the same during every position. So just to let you know, you are normal, no one is the same and there are many positions that will help you during your sex life if there is a girl who isnt comfortable in a certain position. hope I helped, if you are still unsure about yourself just ask your doctor. Your conversations are private so feel comfortable speaking to your doctor.

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okay well im a real tease around my boyfriend, like ill kiss all around his lips but not on his lips. but he wants to know how to do that back to me and he cant thing of anything to do to me to tease me like that...
guys are is there anything you do to your girls to tease them?
or girls is there anything your guys do to you that make you go absolutly crazy?

kissing my back or neck and getting me soo excited that iw ant to kiss him back but he wont let me and will continue kissing me until i get all goosebumps everywhere.

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okay so this is what my eyebrows look like..

http://i373.photobucket.com/albums/oo178/laurencos22/untitled.jpg

i honestly hate them so much, i've tried to get that "arch" but i feel like i'm just overplucking them but i CANNOT stand when they grow in i just think it looks disgusting but i know of this girl, here is a picture of her..

http://i373.photobucket.com/albums/oo178/laurencos22/maritzaaaa.jpg

and i absolutely love her eyebrows, how full they look and how they have that arch. i think my eyebrows just make me look mean, i don't know what to do with them! i pluck mine, waxing is not an option with me but i just don't know how to get that full eyebrow look with the arch. if anyone could help me i would really appreciate it without websites, i dont' learn from that!
thank you :)

Well if you notice your eyebrows are too short. Hers are long and full. Depends on how long you have been plucking them this way it may be hard to get it nice and full but you can fix it. STOP PLUCKING OR WAXING. you need them to grow in order to get a new shape. Than when they are gross and have no shape go to a salon show them a picture of the eyebows you want and tell them you need your brows re-shaped. There is no way you can reshape them without letting them grow. I know it will look funny but if you wear eyeshadow and make like a smokey light natural (brown/Bronze) look you wont really be able to tell because your eyes will look so good no one will even look at your brows...hope I helped!

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so on saturday, i shaved down there. I noticed like right after there was now this bump/zit like thing. It is not small but its not like giant. It feels like its like filled with liquid like a zit and then turneed kinda hard like a zit too.
so my question is what might this bump things be? And also, what should i do about it? Im a little worried.
oh and im 16, shave all the time, and am not sexual, ive only made out with a guy.
please and major thank you in advance =)

I know you asked a while ago but i wouldnt worry. It can be like a cyst. I get them alot. or it could me an ingrown hair. I have popped mine before and it hurts like hell. If i were you I wouldnt pop it though because you arent sure what it is, wait a week or so and if it doesnt change or go away go to your doctor. they will give you a cream to rub on it and it will go away!

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I want to get my boyfriend something
he would really appreciate for x-mas!
he is very into cars!
and things like that...
any ideas????

Well my bf is the same. He likes to "enhance" his car. Depends on how much you want to spend, you can get him a sound system or deck, winter tires, or a gift card to his favorite mechanic or something. You can make him a gift basket of good car cleaning supplies and then have a doy when you guys both clean his car in the summer. car magazine subscribtion or a car calender. I hope i helped. I have ran out of ideas for my boyfriend so if you can think of good 100-300 dollar gifts let me know. My bf is also into electronics so get back to me. thanks!

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okay, so on friday it was my friend katias birthday "party" hang out, whatever you want to call it. amanda r. and amanda b. were also there. we all went to the movies and had a great time, we did our own thing with different people there. it was all good.
when we got home, this is where it all started going downhill. amanda r. and amanda b. and katia started fighting, i just kept my mouth shut. the amandas and katia were drinking. well, im not a big drinker. they call me a pussy and if i do drink im a lightweight, who cares.
we were sleeping in a tent, why? youll see why. i didnt have any idea why. but it was in 30 degree weather and we were sitting out there for 2 hours in it, today is monday and im sick because of it. i have a terribal cold and a fever.
while we were sitting there for two hours, 3 random sketchy guys, whos age deffinitly ranged from 18-24 just walked near the tent and came in. right when they got in, they took out a ciggarette box and took out cocaine. the girls and i didnt do it, but the guys snorted it. i texted my boyfriend ryan and said "can you come pick me up? three random guys that look like they can be from 18-24 just walked into the tent and their snorting cocaine, help!" i texted that at about 12:27. he dropped everything he was doing and came and got me atabout 12:50. when he came and got me i went back down to the tent because i wanted to stay incase if katias mother came and checked on us, but when ryan got to the tent katia got in his face and said "GET THE FUCK OFF OF MY PROPERTY!" and he said "IF MY GIRLFRIEND TEXTS ME ASKING ME TO GET HER BCOS 3 RANDOM GUYS STEPPED INTO THE TENT, THEN ILL DO WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT" he was about to punch her but i pulled him away. i saw 1 of those 3 guys look at eachother nod their heads and one of them reached into their pocket. i was like ryan, lets go to your house. leaving him unaware of what it looks like what was going to happen.
so basically, i just left. but my ''friends'' knew that ryan was there, they could of assumed that we left. i guess a little after i left katias mom came and checked on them and saw that i wasnt there. her mom saw the 3 guys. ryan and i fell asleep at his house about 1 and i woke up at 3:30 and said hey hun, i should go back. he was throwing an argument saying he doesnt want me to go there he wants me to go home, but i still had my stuff there and it was expensive clothes and parfumes and stuff like that. all my makeup. i wanted it. when we got out of his area i turned on my cell phone, i finally got service by the high school and i had 15 voicemails and 67 new text messages... they tried calling and texting my phone but i dont get service at ryans house, they left about 10 voicemails asking where i was... and to answer my phone, and that the TROOPERS were involved!!
i get back to katias house and i go to the tent assuming their in there. their not, i say oh god. i go up the deck stairs and i see the amandas katia and her parents sitting there. i was like oh helll naww, no way. i took a deep breath and knocked. they all came running to the door like yes your safe! katias mom got up called the troopers saying i came back and called my rents.
katia said to me "tell the cops you just left.. okay? thats what we told them". i was like "im not lying to the cops katia.. thats so bad" well, it is true that i just left. so i said that to save their asses and mine too. i told the troopers about the 3 guys that were there and my parents looked so happy that i just left. i didnt tell them about the cocaine though..
well, the troopers had to go to ryans house to tell his dad the situation. i agreed with that and showed them where he lives since i didnt know the exact address. i didnt go in with the troopers and my parents. but my parents met his dad finally. they got along and they liked eachother. my mom thanked ryan for getting me. but she wished that i went home and not to ryans house.
when my mother got in the car i explained that the three guys sketched me out, they were looking at me weird. my parents said thank you for leaving your not in any trouble at all, they just didnt know where you went. i said thats the point mom, they didnt have to know SHIT. i still havent told them about the cocaine.
its now 6am and im finally home safe in my own bed. i fall asleep and im starting to get calls at like 10:45 asking what happened. i explained the whole thing. my mom knocks on my door at about 1145 and she says "i was talking to ryans dad, and he told me that there was cocaine there.. is that true?" i said "yes mom, im sorry i didnt tell you" she totally understood, she said "i know sometimes throwing your friends under the bus is hard, but in this situation you have to laura."
later that night, i have my friend brittany saying katia told her that i didnt even SEE the guys. well the cops have a printed report of my texts from 11-3am. so they have proof that i said at 12:27ish that three guys came in the tent with cocaine, and to get me! so shes proved wrong there but she is telling everyone i never saw them and im making it all up. i was at brittanys house yesteday and brit called katia and katia was changing the story around SO MUCH! and ryan was there for the whole story so i have my boyfriend to back my ass up. he saw the guys, he was there when katia blew up in his face. katias saying ryan didnt even come down to the tent, when he did. WHAT THE FUCK! i dont know what to do. can you help me PLEASE?

WOW, that it some pretty serious stuff. I'm really glad your ok and that you made the right decision. Your friends obviously don't care about your well being and are not very wise with there decisions. I know its hard to just DROP your "friends" so you can still talk to them and stuff just tell them privately that you know what the truth is and so do they and you just want to DROP the subject. don't be bitter towards them cause you don't want to start trouble but start becoming distant friends and start making new and better friends. Ryan sounds like a good guy. hope all is well!

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16/f
Okay, so this guy and i are officially "talking" now. We talked for like 3 weeks just to get to know eachother and just be friends. Well for a week now we have been "talking" as in i like you more than friends but were not going out yet. Anyways, he calls me every night and we talk between 1 and 2 hours each night. I hardly get to see him in school but he never comes to my locker and he knows where it is. He knows where i stand in school before it actually starts. I see him for a second after my 1st period and i guess he never sees me (or maybe he just acts lie it)i'm just so confused on why he won't come see me. If i guy likes you, wouldn't he find time to come to your locker and wait for you or talk to you in the halls? Am i right or wrong? Thanks!

Some guys are different. Is he a "player" or is he known to be a "good" guy? Next time you guys talk ask him if he likes you more than friends. I know you say he does but has he told you himself? Another thing you can do is go up to him, why wait for him to go to you. See whats up and than you can ask him to walk you to class or something and hopefully it will become a routine. hope i helped good luck and be good...;)

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I absolutely love my father, I really do, and he's a great dad and all but... I don't want to live with him any more. He's a slob, he's always moody and he uses his depression as an excuse. He also has a lot of debt and I'm sick of having his weights on my shoulders all the time, you know?

My brother has offered me that if I want to, I can rent a room of his house. I'm thinking of taking this up and possibly bringing a friend with me so it'd be less rent for me to pay 'cause we'd be splitting it. He's a reliable guy, too.

Does this seem like a bad idea? I'm 15 and a half, I'm paid $800 a month from my job, I plan on staying in school and my brother lives close to the school.

I'm just afraid my dad will get upset and stop talking to me.

You are very young to be moving out on your own, you need to think in the long run. Will your brother be at his house for a long time because if he moves out you will need a place to stay. Becasue you are so young your dad will be offended. If I were you i would approach my father and let him know that his "depression" is making me miserable and that I have seriously thought about moving in with my brother. I would let him know that I love him and do not want to have to move out because I want to live with him but I need to be in a better cleaner happier enviroment if I plan to suceed and be happy myself. hopefully your dad will see how important this is and change for you. As for his debts has he seen someone and tried to do something about it. He can get the interest rates lowered and many things, ask him to go to a bank they will help him. hope all goes well and please don't make impulse decisions and think things through befor making a life changing decision. Good Luck!

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my boyfriend was feeling really down because he has a temporary depression. i prayed to God (i'm Christian) and asked if he could make my bf happy and i implied that i'd do anything just to see him happy, even give up my happiness for his. A week later he dumped me and i've never seen him happier. i'm hurt and i'm just wondering if you think it's the work of God or just a weird coincident.

I do not think it is the "work of God" God does not tell people what to feel, he may of helped your boyfriend become happier by leading him to what he has been trying to do for a while but it was not Gods decison for him to dump you. I am sorry for your break up but do not loose confidence in God because of what happened. You will find somebody who will make you happy. All i have to say is to take God seriously and mean every word you say when you pray.

Again I do not think God made you unhappy or made your boyfriend dump you, Your boyfriend may have wanted to break up with you since he was feeling down but didnt want to hurt you. It is better your boyfriend tell you the truth that he doesnt want to be with you than lie and make you believe that he did want to be with you.

Hope I helped, God Bless !

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hi! my name is trish and i'm a 22-year-old marketing exec from the philippines. in a nutshell, i'm your average working girl, loving daughter, devoted girlfriend... life is pretty much good, but lately, i've just been so stressed and depressed. there's the mounting pressure at work and just some conflicts with my family.

i feel so bad bec my boyfriend is like my shock absorber and he says i've been so grumpy lately and i'm afraid he's just going to leave me because i think i lost the joy and life that i used to exude. when i think about it, i can't find the reason why i feel this way. i don't know what to do. i actually had just celebrated my birthday but somehow the celebratory mood didn't last.

quarter-life crisis? i don't really know. i'm bound to make really life-changing decisions next year such as leaving my current job to pursue MBA. my family is pressuring me to go back to school but i'm not even sure if i want to do that. the complacency i've allowed myself to sink in is taking it's toll on me.

i want my old self back. i want the drive and the life in me back. can you help?

Well I dont know if I can help but it sounds like what you want is to be happy with your boyfriend and pursue your MBA. There has to be something that is making you this way, maybe its your parents presuring maybe its because you havnt got your mba. Maybe if you try spending more alone time with your boyfriend and go somewhere for a weekend you can relax and clear your mind. Personally I think you need rest and you need to acomplish your goals. You may seem miserable because you just arent happy right now and have other dreams. Well I think You should go after your dreams and goals. BTW if you have had any weird dreams your should find out what they mean. Dreams are like subconscience msg and you may find your answer about what is making you so depressed in your dreams. A good site is www.dreammoods.com

Hope I helped.

P.S. Relax and enjoy life and the relationship you have with your boyfriend. Your parents may be presuring you but just listen to YOUR dreams and goals.

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my homecoming is saturday,
how do i get really tan really fast as healthy as possible.

Well you can either use a tanning bed (not so healthy but will give you a nice glow) or you can use those spray on tans which don't alwasy look so natural but those are your 2 options. Personally I would use a tanning bed cause its not like your going to go ALL THE time just for homecoming rite?

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Ok so im have a b-day party this saturday and i need some help. i have some movie ideas but i want some backup's. i want to watch scary movies and when i say scary i mean extremely scary i can never find a movie that is scary. the 8 horror films to die for are not scary at all and i just really want a good scary movie. so just give me whatever you can think of thanks for the help in advance

Well one movie comes to mind, what lies beneath. It isnt like zombie scary its intense suspense scary. Vacancy was also pretty good. It was supposed to be scary but I didnt watch it. The gall house is ok and Cannibal is good. The best scary movies are the old movies they dont make movies like they used to. For those who havnt watched it there is always the The Exorcism of Emily Rose. Anyways here is a link to the "Top Horror Titles" Hope this helps have an awsome Birthday!

http://www.imdb.com/chart/horror

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OK so at the start of the year i broke my arm and after a few months it was healed but not completely and then i went to a theme park and a seat bar fell and broke my arm again not too long ago
but now the cast is off and all of my arm hairs on the one arm are really long, black and hairy and i get a bit teased about it and i want to make them lighter again
any help would be greatly appreciated

If it is too dark the only thing I can think of is dying it lighter. I do not know how safe that is so please inform yourself before doing anything. But then you always have the dilema of one arm being darker than the other or too light. You can alwasy ask your doctor who may have a solution!

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I used to run a lot, almost everyday- sometimes even twice a day when I had time. Now, I'm taking harder classes in school and I have a very busy schedule with band and lacrosse. I still think it's important for me to run consistently because that's how I stay in shape for lacrosse. How can I manage my time better so that I can still run everyday without it cutting into my time for sleep? Any tips would be appreciated.

I think the best way would be to shorten the time you do other things. Still do what you want just not for as long. Or manage your week, instead of shoving everything into a day expand it into a week. You might not do it EVERY day but aslong as you do it you will be able to stay in shape. If you do not have band or lacross on one day devote an hour or two to Exercise! I hope I helped. PS. Working out is very important but it goes no where if your need sleeping and eating properly because you will have no energy so make sure you have enough sleep to feel awake in the morning and you don't miss any meals.

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Recently I've had a lot of trouble trying to decide what i want to do with my life. I've always wanted to sing, but i hate to admit i've lost my love for it. It became so much about the appearance and what people think. How do i get over that, and get back to doing what i love, the music? it's been so long sense I was actually involved in any live performances, how do i get over my new found insecurities?

Your talent makes you beautiful. There will always be people talking about you and that just comes with the career in entertaining. There will always be people who don't like you and if you except all of that you can be yourself and love what you do. There is no magical way to make your insecurities disapear just believe in your self and remember that your voice and talent if what makes you beautiful. If you walk with confidence it will show. Good luckl with your future. Do what you love and don;t care about what ANYBODY thinks. Be Yourself!

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ok, so i know im not the only one, but i cant seem to bring myself to walk out of my house without eyeliner on. thing is, i wish/want to go without makeup since i am young (16) and i know i look good without it except for some pimples but i am working on clearing up my face completely, anyway thats besides the point. my question is how do you look amazing without makeup because i see girls doing it and i want to too! its healthier for skin and keeps you younger longer. also I tried not wearing any eyeliner once before and everyone commented on how tired i looked! so i need tips on looking good without makeup...thanks!!! =)

Hi, Foundations and powders on your face are terrible. they clog your pores unless you get like a 100% natural powder which is hard to find (NO CHEMICALS) anyways, make sure you find a cleanser/exfoliator that you find is good for your skin (does't irratate you, long lasting, leaves your skin feeling FRESH) Find a GOOD moisturizer. Wash your face in the morning and moisturize. If you have pimples they will go away. Drink lots of water, don't wear makeup and moisturize and you will find that skin looks clear and smooth. Now about eyeliner, I don't think its such a big deal. It's nice that you don't want to wear makeup but everybody needs a little make up. The people who you see who look absolutely STUNNING are wearing some make-up. No one is perfect. A little eyeliner and mascara go a long way. You don't need anything else. Sorry I know the point of this question was not to wear any make up but if you wanna look Beautiful with natural beauty wear some eyeliner it will bring out your eyes and its not fake. Your just enhancing your natural Beauty!

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ok, well, i have a urge to have sex ALL the time.
is there any tips you can give me to find something to do that calms it.
and please don't say masterbaute cuz that just doesn't work for me.
thanks in advance

I'm sorry, but if you body is asking for sex, you can't really turn away from it unless you do things that would be a turn off. Maybe the sex you have had in the past just didn't satisfy you and your body wants more pleasure. I know you didn't want me to suggest masturbating but what if you got a vibrator or a toy that will REALLY please you. Sorry if I didn't help, Good Luck

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A good tip on keep your self busy with out being on compture

if your hands on maybe you can try and build something, or do some organizing. If you have pets, wash them, play with them, walk them. Baking is a good idea. It takes up alot of time and than you get to enjoy what u have made. The person who replied before gave ALOT of good ideas. If you don't want to do stuff like organizing or cleaning, put on you favorite songs really loud and than clean and organize. You'll be in your own world and when you find really old things that have been in your room for so long you will have a good time remembering the past. Happends to me ALL the time. Good Luck And Have FUN!

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i had a super tampon in today for around 8 hours and today was my last day of my period so i had very little blood. am i at a high risk of toxic shock syndrome? if i took the tampon out around 7:30, how long would it be until the symptoms started to show (if i had tss)?

Anyone who wears tampons is in risk of TSS. That is why the booklet that comes with your tampons suggests that you switch from tampons to pads sometimes. I do not know ALOT about the syndrome but I do know that if you start feeling sick, like you have a fever go to your doctor. The symptoms may start soon or later depends on how your body reacts. I say that if for about a week you feel fine, your probably okay. But if you do start feeling like you have a fever go to your doctor. Don't worry or stress about it, if you do stress you may worry yourself sick. Just relax. My period is VERY awkward, sometimes in the middle of my week I stop bleeding and just spot the whole day, and I wear a tampon so sometimes I remove the tampon dry. So don't stress, if you are still worried after about a week or so, go to the doctor anyway. Better safe than sorry. What i can reccommend is that you wear a pad when you sleep and/or pantiliners at the end of your period. Also, there is somethings called instead. You should look it up. It is used instead of a pad or tampon. I tried it and I think its good, they just don't sell at the shoppers drug mart I go to anymore. Anyways I hope I helped, and rememebr don't stress about it. Ciaoz

http://www.softcup.com/

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