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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

advice

A guy named Kiel, who works at the same place I do, started giving me notes, asking me if I had a boyfriend and kept telling me how nice I looked. Then we started talking on the phone. He kept asking me if I wanted to date him. At work, a lot of girls flirted with him, but he didn't flirt back. He basically only talked to me. He seemed very interested in me. Today, Kiel called me. We talked for about three minutes. Then, all of a sudden, some very angry girl in the background yelled, "HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!" (The chick DID NOT mean that I was his gilfriend, she meant that someone else was.) There was silence for a couple of seconds and Kiel said madly to the girl, "NO I DON'T!!!" Then the girl sounded even madder and told him, "F**k you!" Then some other background noise went on. After that, Kiel said, "Can I call you back?" I said, "Yeah," in a what-the-hell-is going on tone. Then I told him bye (a little nicer) and hung up. Then, a few minutes ago, my phone rang once, then stopped. Maybe he accidentally hit redial.

Then the SAME girl that was yelling at Kiel called me from a different phone number. Here's our conversation:
Me: Hello?
The Mystery Girl: Who is this?
Me: Sarah.
The Mystery Girl: Don't call Kiel. He has a girlfriend.
Me: He does?
The Mystery Girl: Yeah. Do you know him from work or what?
Me: Yeah.
The Mystery Girl: Don't call him. He's f**king stupid. He has a girlfriend.
Me: Ok. Bye.

What should I do? I want to find out the truth. I really like Kiel, but of course I don't want to be with him if he has a girlfriend. What would you do in this situation?

well maybe he was planning on breaking up with her, and that's why he was giving you hints at his interest in you. maybe she's a friend playing a sick joke? who knows. you should talk to him at work most definitly. find out anything you can when you're there. call him in a few days if you dont talk to him at work. the girl wont be with him all the time. hopefully he'll have a good excuse. if he doesnt, then forget him- you dont want to mess with guys who play with two girls. sorry that girl screwed with your head, maybe she was just playing a really bad joke on you? ask him, he'll tell you. tell me how things go. =] -ask_anything

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i have liked the same kid since the 4th grade..and im in the 7th grade now and he liked me once but at that time..i didnt like him and now he likes my best frend and ppl ask me why i like this kid...and there is just somethin about him that i cant explain..and dont tell me to get over him cuz i cant..but should i ask him out? or somethin?! i neeeed advice!

well dont ask him out if he likes your best friend. wait a while until he's over her or he moves on or something. if your best friend likes him too, make sure she knows you like him. if you've liked him for so long, you obviously find him to be what you're looking for. just be really good friends with him for now. once you two are at a good point in a friendship, things can move forward. dont rush anything, or you're whole relationship will bomb. dont get over him, you seem to have a lot of faith in him. good luck with it all =] -ask_anything

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Hummm, Soo for the soccer team we have to buy gifts for people and it is supposed to be secret...Hints the name Secret Santa..The girl that I picked is really stuck up and I know absolutely nothing about her.. What should I get her.

best ideas i could come up with are gift certificates to somewhere she might go to and ask some of her friends what would be good to get her. =] -ask_anything

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oKaY...iM 13 AnD i rEaLlY lIkE tHiS bOy BuT mY fRiEnD liKeS hIm tOo.... tHe PrObLeM iS i DiDnT tElL hEr. i ThInK hE mIgHt KiNd Of LiKe mE tOo. WhAt sHoUlD i dO iF hE aSkS mE oUt??????????

WHoOAOaA it's kinda hard to read what you wrote but ive been in the same situation before. it was awkward when i found out my friend liked the same kid, but it was actually good to know. if you're not sure he likes you- but you think he does, you really should check. you should tell your friend, and once you know for SURE he likes you then tell her he likes you too. its gonna be rough for her, but the truth can hurt. it hurt me =\ , but i got over it, and things worked out fine. if he asks you out before you tell your friend, tell him you need to just talk to her first but you are interested. .. or something like that. im sure things will be fine. =] -ask_anything

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how do i get a boy to like me i went out with him before but i am a grade younger and when he found that out he dumped me but i still want to go out with him.
what should i do?
im a girl and i am 10

well you're only 10 - i mean, that's a little bit young if you ask me. he probably didnt want to go out with you because even though you seemed older, you really werent and you should still be enjoying life without heartbreaking boys. you could try to be friends with him, and then once your a little older- maybe by then he'll see you in a new light. you need to just get friend basis first though. and dont rush into going out with people, it may seem like fun, but you should really wait it out. but yeah- talk to him and tell him you just want to be friends and then later on (prob. much later) bring it up. but when i mean later, i mean in a few years. hope this wasnt everything you werent looking to read, but in my mind- it's the truth. =] -ask_anything

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hey gurlz,
how can i make time to change my tampon at school? i never have time in between classes, and i dont like to leave the class w/ my purse b/c everbody would know. i usually don't put stuff in mypurse b/c all my friends go through it. i usually ut stuff in my lunch box, and change during lunch. can any of u give me advice on how to manage it?
i will rate high

this would only work if you have pants with pockets but- the mini tampons work wonders ;) i had 2 in my pocket once and no one ever noticed! just stick one in your pocket, when you're in class, just ask to use the bathroom- no purse needed! =] -ask_anything

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I have a business plan to do and I'm opening a nail salon. Should I name it "Paint" or "Tips and Toes"? thanx for your input

tips and toes all the way =] -ask_anything

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My friend has has some things happen to her this year, and she cut herself afew days ago! She is the nicest person I have ever met in my entire life and I'm not even exaderating. What should I do?

well first you should obviously tell her how concerned you are about her, and you want to help her fix things. i know it's hard to see a friend you're very close to fall apart =\ .. i had a friend who needed me, and trust me you want to get things done now before they get even worse. getting her help with her problems will be the best suggestion i can give you - talk to her, have her talk to her parents or your parents talk to her parents .etc. and tell her you'll be there no matter what - as long as try to keep to your promise . hope your friend gets better soon! =] -ask_anything

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Hi Johanna!
well i hear you give pretty good advice so id hope youd give my question a try =]

okay so ive been kind of wiht this guy but im not anymore and its a very long story but we never went out so it doesnt matter! haha anyways theres this kid in my science class and thats the only class we have together adn like im really bad at science but oh well and hes liek quarter back on the football team and everything and hes really smart hot and nice but like i hardly ever see him talking with girls cuz i guess hes just kind of shy around them, but i really wanna find a way to becoem his friend but i know it sounds so simple but i have no chance to talk to him ever he just sits in teh corner of the class and then leaves and i dk i just cant especially after that otehr guy i went out wiht ive sort of forgot how to make guy friends.. ohh that sounds lame but its knid of true, johanna can you try your best to help me! =D
hehe thanks alot...melinda..

hah thanks for the compliment! :) so- melinda, you've just gotten over a past guy and now you want to get to know this other guy? well i know how you feel to try to get to know someone and have a hard time doing it. you just need to bring up casual talk- not insanely long conversations but just hey, ask questions about the class or a test or something, get his screen name from him or someone else that knows it. talk to him then too. it depends how shy you are, and how willing this guy is to get to know you. im sure if you dig deep you'll remember how to make guy friends ;) . i know it's harder to make friends with a guy you like. (( assuming you do )) . anyways, try those few things, and if you need more just ask me. =] - ask_anything

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My best friend is acting different. This is all about it. See I was held back then I did summer school and got cought up I went to 7th shes in 6th. She thinks I am changing but I dont see it. If any one is changing Its her SHe is acting so different. She really annoying but she is the only friend I have in the hood and my best friend. But even If I am changing why does she have to be so mean ya no. It one of those friends where like each day your like I not going back to her house but then the next day what do you do, You go back to her house. And its not like shes mean All the time its jsut some time she is the sweetest girl you can know if shes not mad or maybe its just PMS but still its annoying I just dont know how to handel it

well you're friend might be sad or scared you are going to move on without her now that you are in a different grade. everyone goes through mood swings, you just need to deal with hers. i have plently of friends with moody times, and it does make a friendship hard, but you have to live with it. i dont think your friend means to be mean to you, but she might be jealous! you never know. it's hard to tell you exactly what to do, because im not really sure what your friend is like. best thing- talk to her. sounds cheesey i know, but it works. she's your best friend, things will work out. =] -ask_anything

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well see here's my dilemma. i have a friend who will just remain anonymous as noodle. linguini actually. well shes so much cooler than me and i feel incompetant and insignificant when around her. i am the walking dictionary girl so i look up to her in so many ways (i could define them ALL i swear) why is she so much cooler than me?

well obviously there is only one thing left to do. it's to slap her around with a number 8 ball and tell her that life isnt a mango so quit being fruity. you dont deserve to be walked over by this noodle figure! dictionary girl- DEFiNE THAT WHOLE WHEAT PASTA THAT SHE iS. she's only cooler because she has air conditioning AND a fan. duh. :) good luck, and dont get too harsh, cause remember.. she IS your friend after all ! =] -ask_anything
ps: glad im not her hahah

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ok so theres this girl at skool who i really like, and we're like really good friends, but i dont know how to get her? any help?
-dazed and confused

when you say how to get to her, do you mean have a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship? because that's how im going to answer your question. id say you should definitly tell her, because nothing will happen if she doesnt know. if you're too shy to tell her, talk to her friends and they'll tell her for you. trust me, all girls like to know what guys feel about them. but be warned- your really good friends now, but if she doesnt want to go out with you, there will be an awkward space in your friendship from it. so be careful for what you say and do. good luck with the girl, and just plain out talk to her about how you feel- girl's like that. =] -ask_anything

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I have scarring on my retinas which the doctors think may be caused by toxoplasmosis. I am unable to learn to drive because the scarring is on the centre of my retinas and cannot be improved enough even when wearing spectacles. I also have glaucoma. is there any corrective surgery available to improve my vision? I am 35 years old

well your situation sounds pretty complex, and im not sure if anyone can give you a specific answer. but i recommend you go to your eye doctor/regular doctor to ask them. they'd give you the best answer and if necessary research one for you! i hope your eyes can be corrected! =] -ask_anything

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I am a 22 year old female, I have had two sexual partners. I don't find sex very fulfilling, and am low on the LUST. I have just broken up with my boyfriend and find that I am repulsed/ashamed/embarrassed when I think about our sex life. I hate thinking about it or talking about it and I don't want to see him because I feel disgusted and ashamed every time I look at him and I feel like he is probably thinking the same thing. What the hell is this?

it's a mental assosiation (spelling?) of your past activities with him. ive had the same things with people ive had feelings for (not sexual) but felt a great dislike whenever i saw, thought about them. im not positive what it is exactly- but after a while it went away. it's different for each person, and sooner or later you'll never think about it again. just give it time and try to focus on something else. =] -ask_anything

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im 16 in high school this year we had a new history teacher.im dislexic and he always picks on me about it and sends me out of every lesson since september.for reasons that are pathetic like asking questions too loudly.on friday he sent me out of the lesson within 3 minutes.i dont know what to do,i like the subject its interesting but im thinking of dropping it because of the teacher.what shall i do?shall i drop it?pleese reply asap

definitly talk to a guidance counsulor/principal/your parents because that is breaking some sort of rule. they could possibly switch your teacher, or talk to him about what he is doing and be warned. im sorry your teacher is giving you a hard time, you really dont deserve to be taken away from a learning experience just because your teacher is mean. hope things get better real soon =] -ask_anything

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Hey. WeLL, I have a lot of stress on me right now. I have a math project and a book report to due, and I only have 3 more days tp finish including today. The book report is not only writing the book report, but you have to make a cover for it, reading notes, web organizers, etc. And in the math project you have to make graphs, research, solve problems, etc. I really want to make staright A's this quarter, and I think that if I don't complete these 2 assignments that it will bring my grade down, and everytime I think of that I have emotional breakdowns where I keep on crying, and I can;t control it becuse I keep on thinking negative without thinking positive like I should be doing. Can anyone help me get through this on a positive note. I'd really appreciate it.

take each project step by step, it's a lot of pressure to get everything done, but if you pase yourself it'll be fine. dont think you're going to do bad- because that's really negative, think positive and get ideas in your head about how you want to do the projects. in 3 days i bet you can get everything done if you just get to it and if you need help- ask your parents or friends. =] -ask_anything

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i reallly reallly like this certain guy but i think he only see's me as a friend, what can i do to make him see me as more? i have done so much! please help me! thanks

i have a close friend who's going through the same thing. all you can do is either : tell him how you feel, or, talk to some of his friends and see what they say. it's a hard situation, but if he doesnt see you more than a friend right now, you'll have to deal with it- it stinks, i know. but either later on it'll work out, or you'll have to move on. but things all have a reason to their doing. =] -ask_anything

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what r sum cool games and stuff to play at sleep overs? mi friend is coming over soon n im clueless
*I RATE HIGH*

it depends what kind of friends you have- if they're silly like most of the girls i know, then usually you all will kind of think of something yourselves. i know towards the end of the night- when i go to sleepovers we play truth or dare and it's fun as long as you dont do anything stupid. but you can also do fun things like movies, call other people [preferably people you know] and pretend to be someone else and do that kind of stupid stuff. you all will find something that will make you laugh- dont worry. just try to stay out of trouble! =] -ask_anything

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i'm going to be moving soon and i was wondering if there are any teenagers out there with some good ideas on how to decorate a new bedroom?? you know, something fun yet classy, but not too crazy.

it all depends on your personality, but i get a magazine called "PB Teen" which has all sorts of ideas and cool set ups. you can have it sent to you at the potterybarn website! i really recommend it! =] -ask_anything

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14/f

I'm going on a cruise for Christmas. And I went on one a few years ago. The last one i went on I saw tons of hott guys but i was to afraid to say hi. So I spent the entire cruise with my family (which was ok). Well, this time i want to be able to meet people while I'm there. What are some ways to meet new people without being really weird about it? thanks!

just get all your courage together- and remember it's very unlikely you'll seem the guy again unless all goes to plan, so if you make a fool of yourself it wont matter later. but how to meet people is just to bring up casual conversation about where they live, how old they are, what they like to do. find someone you could find common interests : ex: art, swimmer , music etc. and just go for it- if the guy doesnt have an interest, you'll know. have fun, and enjoy the cruise, and remember: enjoy yourself more than worrying about the guys on the trip! =] -ask_anything

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