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I'm 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend whose 22 for over 5 months. We've had a few problems, mainly minor but so far things are going great.
There is one problem though when we're having sex he won't take off his shirt. Actually make it where he won't let me see him without his shirt period. I actually tried pulling up his shirt because I wanted to try something new, and as soon as I did that he pulled his shirt back down.
When I asked him if I could see him without his shirt off, he said no. I asked him "Why not? I'm not your girlfriend," again he told me no.
He's the only boyfriend of mine that I've never seen fully naked. He does have a lot of body issues, he's overweight from playing football and has never been able to take off all of the weight. I'm used to when I'm having sex actually getting to see the guy naked.
He loves me and I love him, we're both very much into sex. He's seen me naked and topless a bunch of times, I would like to have the opportunity to see him naked.
Is there anything that I can do to get him to feel more comfortable about taking his shirt off in front of me? (link)
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God, men are such pussies nowadays.
The only halfway rational reason I can see for his hesitance to not go fully starkers in bed is that he has something like back hair and a previous girlfriend gave him a lot of guff about it. But if he is already significantly overweight he has to know that you realized that a long time ago.
If he really wants to lose the weight he can. If his body has been beat up by football, he can join a swim club and do one to two miles a day in the pool, which will be a lot less stress on his body than something like jogging. If he can couple that with weight training he can blow the pounds off in pretty short order unless he refuses to make the necessary dietary changes. Then you have some thinking to do as to his prospective health outcome in the long term and how that may affect your future with him.
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20/f. Most of the time, I get A's and B's. But, I am striving for straight A's this semester. It's not like a make it or break it thing. I just want to try to do it. I am graduating from college in December 2012, and then I plan on going on to grad school. Right now, my GPA is a 3.3, which isn't bad, but I really want to get it to a 3.6 or a 3.5 before I apply to grad school. I was looking at the credentials, and the schools I'm applying to are generally looking for a 3.0 or higher. So, I just want to stand out. I was just wondering... if any of you get straight A's, how do you do it? Because it's more of the hard classes, like math and science, where I get B's. I usually get A's in my psych classes and english classes and stuff. I also work part time and am involved in two organizations at school, one which I am on the executive board. So, I just want to know how I can manage my time accordingly and stuff like that. Thanks! :) (link)
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The only thing you can do is work your butt off. I graduated college with honors even while I worked fulltime. I basically sold out my social life to get the grades I wanted.
It really helps to be well read and have a polished writing style going into college. Obviously, you are way past that point and are about to graduate, but professors tend to be impressed by people who have a wide view of things beyond just the usual canon of a given major.
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I'm a christiam, and I am pretty good. Like, I've NEVER smoked or drank, neeever had sex, or even dated/kissed a guy yet! And of course I'm straight. I'm known as the inocent one in my group of friends, the one everyone knows to shut up about that type of stuff around.
Okies so, I like to read some manga. (Japanese comics) I go to this website oniline and it's a place where you can read free manga scans. Of course there's some adult/mature manga on thissite. Sometimes I get some...Urges... (I think you know what I mean.) Sooo, I look up some of that adult stuff. Like, I love romantic stories. So whn I get those... Urges... I look up adult romance stories. So it's love-dovey love story, but it shows some nudity and, there are some sex scenes. But, and I am ashaamed to admit this, I look up yaoi sometimes when the... urges..., get really bad. (Yaoi is'guy on guy') There are some pretty hard core sex scenes and sometimes I can't help myself... Is this wrong? I feel so guilty afterwards. I don't masterbate or anything, I just look that stuff up every ONCE in a WHILE. So, am I being wrong? (link)
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You're young so you don't know yet that religion is little more than a highfalutin hustle/scam. The stuff any church tells you about sex is horsesh*t. There is absolutely nothing wrong with reading what you are online nor is there anything wrong with masturbation. If you get urges then take care of them with your fingers.
However, like all things in life, you have to have a sense of proportion about it. Almost all porn is fiction and rather cartoonish (actually, almost all of it is either gross, stupid or a yawn) at that. So you have to compartmentalize what are your fantasies from what goes on in real life. One can have relatively outrageous fantasies and still have a satisfying vanilla sex life if all the right elements are in place. It just depends on the people involved
It might interest you to know that per capita the largest population of practitioners of BDSM are in the bible belt, as are the worst divorce, incest and teenage pregnancy rates.
Look, you get one time in this life. So take control of your body and life and determine what makes you happy and go after it without letting others sabotage you, especially secret pedos in black frocks (pastors, preachers, etc). Make your default source for information the reality based world and not that rooted in myth and superstition.
Finally, since you read gay manga, and that's cool, whatever turns you on, if you have questions about your sexuality you might want to check out http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/index.php
Good luck and have fun.
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I need help there are these three fantastic guys thet like me.
#1 his name is cody we have been dating for a couple weeks. he is amazing hes the type of guy that tell me im beautiful not hot. and in stead of making out all the time we hang out and have fun. witch ny the way makes the romantic moments even better. but he also has had a tendincy to cheat in the past even though hes never cheated on me he has cheated on others.
#2 his name is david. he is so sweet and random. plus he has a nice body! not that he would need one for me to like him. Any way he came up to me in the middle of class and was like " would you think about breaking up with cody to go out with me?" and i was like idk i wouldnt do that to cody but at the time i didn't tell that to david! i felt like a slut for the rest of that day!
#3. me and nick meet a long time ago but never talked. then we both ended up going on a trip to hermit island*a campgrund on the beachin maine* with our friends who are brother and sister. Me and nick started hanging out. we would go to the beach and when him and my friends brother were playing football he kept dropping the ball* nt something he would normally do* later when me and my bff went back to the campsite to make sandwickes she told me that he was looking at me the entire time! so for the rest of the week we were hanging out dwn by the kelp shed plyn volley ball and pool. btw he kicks but at volley ball! anyway he would do little things to show off you know how guys are. any way later at night it was a full moon and we were hangen out on the beach my bff and my bff's bro was byen ice cream at the shed. me and nick were on the beach talking and he told me that i was beautiful! my heart was going like 5 miles an hour and he bent down and kissed me! like full on kissed me. Then when we got back we were sitting on the couch watching the fillies ply cause nothing else was on tv. then his parents showed up so we kissed good bye and he walked out the door. than he came back in cause he forgot his hat.we kissed again then i followed him back outside. while his dad was talken to bffs dad he kissed me in front of both of them plus my bff and my bffs brother. *btw he was super jelouse but hes got rly bad temper* then his father said something to nick and nick flipped his dad off and keept kissing me! then got in the car said good bye and he left.
Idk who to choose. i still talk to nick but hes in a grade below me even though hes like 6-10 and im only 5-1. rly short compared to him. so id never get to see him cause im a freshman and hes 8th grade. david is in my grde and almost all my classes. cody is amazing but in non of my classes btw dosent matter to me. who do i choose cody david or nick? pleese help me. (link)
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You can't say no, can you? No wonder all these guys are coming at you. This post actually sounds like you're bragging.
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(18/F)I just started a job where I stuff animals for kids. Let's call it "Build-an-Animal Workshop" (I can't say the real name because I could get fired if this would ever become public). We're going to call it BAAW for short. Anyhow, it was a fluke that I applied to this job. However, my interviewer said that there were 100 applicants for my position and I was the only one that he wanted to take it. He said that I was the best person I'd interviewed in 10 years. One of the qualities that really drew me to this job was that my interviewer assured me that it wasn't about making money- it was about making kids happy. Plus, everyone there seemed super nice. The whole thing seemed great and predestined. Also, I'm in college so I need this job pretty badly. Needless to say, I took the job. Fast forward three weeks. I have a mean manager. I never met her during interviews. I want to know if I'm overreacting or if she's really a bully. The night before I had to leave early from work because I had a family emergency (my mother has dementia and it had something to do with that). I explained this to her the night before. Today she took me aside before work started and threatened to fire me if it ever happened again. She then stood behind me all day and criticized every aspect of what I was doing. After about three hours she finally left me alone. I was scheduled to work from 12 to 5 with a possible on call shift from 5 to 6. The managers are supposed to tell us at least one hour before if they want us for on call. We're not allowed to wear watches at my job because they're not part of the uniform so I had no idea what time it was. The big problem was that I HAD to know if I was staying until 6 so I could call my parents so my mom (with dementia) wouldn't freak out. I was stuffing and stuffing and stuffing animals for the longest time. I assumed it wasn't 4 yet because my manager hadn't come up and told me if I was on call or not. Then I happened to catch a customer's conversation in which she stated the time was 4:50! That was 50 minutes past when she was supposed to tell me. I finished the animal that I was working on and politely excused myself from the next customers in line, promising them that I would be right back and just had to check the time. I caught my manager walking by and asked her if I had an on call. She said no and very rudely told me to go back to the customers. After I finished my final customer and went to clock out at 5, she pulled me aside. She said it was "horribly inappropriate" for me to have left a customer like that. She said that if it ever happened again that I needed to excuse myself for "a drink of water" (because that's any better than excusing myself to check the time). I then explained my situation with my mother (for like, the seventh time)and told her that she hadn't told me if I was using my on call. She got really snotty with me and told me that they never tell people if they don't have to use their on call shift, only if they do. This was never the case with my other managers. I just accepted my fate and decided to go home. I grabbed my stuff and went to clock out. She jumped on me again saying, "NEVER GRAB YOUR THINGS BEFORE YOU CLOCK OUT. ALWAYS GRAB THEM AFTER. IF YOU GRAB THEM BEFORE WE'RE PAYING YOU ON YOUR OWN TIME TO GET THINGS OUT OF YOUR LOCKER!" By that point, I had started to cry and just ran out of there as fast as possible.I don't know what to do... Is it my fault? Am I overreacting? There are other weird things about her too. We all have lockers. Everybody's lockers are decorated with drawings and pictures and such. The only thing on her locker (and she's worked there for two years) is a sign that says, "Do NOT touch my locker. Do NOT take anything out of my locker." That's scary. There are other things about this company too. The main boss seems sweet on the surface but there's evil bubbling beneath. It always feels like he could snap under the slightest bit of agitation. In fact, the whole company seems like that. The whole "it isn't about making money- it's about making kids happy" is complete BS. They're extremely money hungry. The other "100 applicants... best in 10 years... you're amazing" thing is BS, too. I'm 99.9% sure that they only wanted me because I can work weekends. One other weird thing is that two other kids were hired the same time as I was. They're always getting glowing compliments from this manager, so I'm starting to think it's personal. Also, they've been here as long as I have but they've already learned how to do clothing, stocking,cleaning, machinery maintenance, and cash register. The only thing I'm allowed to do is stuff animals, sweep, and take out the trash. Nobody has taught me anything else. This makes me want to quit really badly. But, I do love stuffing animals for kids more than anything else in the world and my coworkers (not bosses or managers) are extremely sweet. I would do it all day if it weren't for the evil head honchos. So, do I quit? Do I express my anger? Do I suck it up? HELP. (link)
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There is no job worth that kind of abuse. The stress you are feeling from your work is only adding to that you feel from your parental situation. So you need to quit, but not before writing a letter to her superior and HR. Make three copies of it, one for you, one for the superior/the HR department head and then one for your attorney if you ever need one to deal with this case.
You might even consult an attorney. This might fall under the rubric of a threatening and hostile workplace.
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Okay, so I love my husband and my girl more than anything else in this world. And I hope he does the same too. But sometimes, he just goes way too far. I mean when we were dating, he never used to let me go anywhere without him or used to get into fights over me for normal stuff like if a guy used to tease me on the street or something like that. At first, I used to think it was kinda cute.. But with time this got really annoying. We got into so many fights for this reason. If I asked him that I needed my space too, he was like "yeah.. use that typical line on me as well.. you don't love me anymore."
Anyway, I somehow learnt to live with it. We got married and had a baby. And his apprehensiveness sprouted up again. He wouldn't let anyone hold or touch the baby unless their hands were disinfected. She's 4 now and he won't let her go out and play wih other kids saying they'll hurt her, they're not upto her mark or it's too dangerous to let her go on her own and play "In The Park"!! Sometimes, I let my baby go and play outside, but if my husband comes to know about it, he lashes out at me like anything and scolds her too. I somehow control my emotions, but I know it would be very difficult for my daughter. I'm afraid she might develop some disturbances in her mind this way. she's even afraid to ask for something from her father without first consulting me. She even asks me who asked me to marry daddy; why is daddy always so angry or whether I am happy with daddy or not.. I mean, tell me, is this normal for a child her age to ask?
God knows what would happen when she's a teenager. I know she would be dating other boys and all. If not dating, she's atleast be friends with them. But what would my husband's reaction be against that? He didn't let a guy put an eye on me when we were dating, what would he do in his daughter's case? I don't want him to put her under house-arrest kind of situation or something like that. I want my daughter to have all those liberties which I could never have.
Tell me, what should I do to atleast bring his agitations down if not completely change his attitude towards us. I'm just worried about my daughter and her upbringing.
P.S.- I am a resident of India. (link)
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Your husband is mentally ill. I am saying that as a clinical fact and not as simple name calling.
Look, somebody has to be a rock for your daughter, so it will be up to you to act as if you have a mentally ill husband on your hands and give what he says all the credibility it deserves (none) and be the calm rational one for your daughter. So when he gets angry or calls you names, don't take it to heart because they are the ravings of someone with OCD, is what I'm guessing. Relax, be calm and get him help. If he won't get therapy then you have to think about divorce for the sake of both your and your daughter's own mental health and perhaps even physical safety.
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Well my mom is my best friend but sometimes she can be really mean and i don't know why. I mean it's been like this for quite a while, like over a month now, i mean she's 42 and maybe it's the hormones or something but she gets really irrated and she calls me names like patheic or loser, and i really hate when people call me names and when my mom does it it hurts tiwce as much i don't want our friendship to be ruined but i don't know what i should do i mean when ever i tell her to stop being mean she always yells at me saying that i'm the one being childish what should i do?
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Could be a sign of early menopause perhaps. Either that or she is depressed and needs to see a psychologist.
Don't take what she says personally. Just look at her as if she's just kinda gone off the deep end and shrug it off. It got nasty between my grandmother and my mom when granny got Alzheimer's in her late 70's. It happens and you're not alone.
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Hi um well for the past two days I've had bloody stool it isn't thick and it doesn't hurt me but should I be worried (link)
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Go to a doctor.
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i cant were a condom cause i have a huge penis what can i do (link)
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Wear a trash bag.
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Hello!!!!
Im 15 years old and my boyfriend is 14. Tomorrow is homecoming and I want to kiss him. But I have no Idea how though.I been hearing that he wants to kiss me but I just dont know when to. Any Advice will help before tomorrow night please..... (link)
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Jesus, kids are so overplanned now that they have to schedule their kissing? Man, how times have changed.
Listen kiddo, relax. Keep things simple and don't overthink. If you want to kiss him THEN GO FOR IT!
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I'm Male/16. I'm very interested in science, but not just regular science, theoretical & fringe science. I like to think that NOTHING is impossible. I believe that a God is possible, but not as much the religious god from Christianity. I think that I was a lot happier when I was a Christian. I remember feeling a lot better about life. But, I disagree with a lot of the teachings and some things just make no sense. I think we all have souls, and that when our physical body dies, we leave as an energy that cannot be destroyed, like our souls are scientific, but just cannot be understood by our physical minds. I also think that our energies have meanings to which we will never know and time doesn't apply. I used to go to church and communion. But if I go back, I'll feel like a fool, I kind of want yo go back but I don't want the criticism and force to feel guilty. I don't need Jesus talk or go pray things. More like God and my Soul. I feel like I've lost faith but there's still a little bit deep inside of me. (link)
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The problem with religion, especially Islam, Judaism and Christianity, is that they aren't spiritual at all, but rather more like joining the army. They don't want you to do individual contemplation of your place in the universe. Instead, they want you to just suck down their fast food version of spirituality and march according to whatever spin a pastor/imam/rabbi puts on it at a given time.
So you can leave religion out of the equation entirely because it's mostly a combination of local myth and a need for cult like mind control. In other words, like a lot of hustles, it devolves down into questions of money, sex and power.
Going to church is a wholly masochistic exercise and a tragic way to spoil a fine Sunday morning.
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My baby daddy wants to be in our baby's life now and I still have feelings for him how can I tell if he wants to hook up and it's been 8 months and y he just wanna be in his life (link)
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Has the child custody issue been officially adjudicated? No matter what deal you guys work out privately on that issue it doesn't hold any legal weight unless there has been a decree handed down my a court. His abandonment of you and the child might get you sole custody plus child support payments.
Anyway, at this point, the guy isn't ready to be a dad and he is going to come and go as the mood strikes him. In the meantime, you wouldn't be able to pursue better candidates for being a father to your kid. So allowing the guy back into your life after he cut and run isn't a good idea.
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What are your top...lets say 3...reasons to live? What makes you happy to be here? (link)
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1. Every day is a cliffhanger. What happens next? I gotta find out.
2. I run a popular hobby website and play guitar and still want to get better at the latter plus there are still a lot of good books I haven't read and traveling to be done.
3. I have a great dog who is quite a character and he keeps me in a good mood.
The problem for me is that I am spread rather thin. I wish there were three of me and then I might get to do everything I want to before I croak it. But at least I'm never bored.
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Hi there :)
I'm 5'1 and roughly 150 pounds - which is quite overweight for my height.
I feel so self-conscious, and as a result of my size, I hate going out with my friends in public. I feel as though everyone stares at me. :/
I really, REALLY want to lose a good deal of weight before my birthday, which is at the end of January. ...I'm one of those people who finds is extremely easy to gain weight, but can't seem to lose it. :( What should I do? Should I take a dietary supplement such as Proactol, to kick start my weight loss?
Thanks :) xx (link)
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Drugs aren't the way to go for lasting weight loss. A 1200-1500 calorie low fat diet with 1-2 hours of vigorous exercise a day is the only way to go. Swimming uses every muscle in the body and therefore is excellent for tapering bodies and building strength. Keep in mind, though, that swimming also builds muscle so you could end up being 5'1" and 120 pounds and still look amazing because that extra ten pounds is toned muscle and not fat. Plus you will sleep deeper if you engage in a hard daily workout.
If you can couple the exercise with eating five small meals a day rather than three big ones and lay off the junk food that will keep your metabolism revved up.
Also, don't look at the scale every day. Make it more or less once a week. It's a psychological trick, but one that will be more encouraging to you.
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How to ask a guy to give uu a hickey.....???? (link)
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Hickeys are generally held to be tacky. But they feel good when one is being given them. Just tell the guy flat out what you want.
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I am 18 years old now. ohkay i need help. ive been trying to figure this out for a while. So since i was little i remember humping things, i remember tring to do sexual things to myself and playing "doctor" with other people when i was like 9ish. i was told from my mom that she caught my older cousin kissing me one day, i dont remember this AT ALL. i just remember her never letting me and him alone together ever. Ever since those young years i always get this "guilt" feeling like when i have sex with my boyfriend i have to stop because i get this feeling. but i had that feeling even when i humped things when i was little. and about 3 years ago i fell asleep in my brothers bed and i woke up to him touching my butt so i moved alittle to the side and he started touching my butt again and then after a couple minutes he stopped, i just acted like i was sleeping so idk if he was or not. i just i want this feeling to go away and idk why i get it, but its an occasional feeling. any response is helpful. thank you. (link)
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If your feelings are interfering with your sex life then you need to see a therapist. The rubbing against things itself isn't an indication of anything. Many kids do that and you could have felt guilty about it for any number of reasons (sexually repressive household, religious messages about masturbation being bad, etc).
However, you need to tell your brother that the next time he touches you will result in you going to your parents about it.
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What does it mean when a girl sticks her tongue between two fingers? (link)
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Yeah, it means oral sex. But it seems like she is a future candidate for "Girls Gone Wild" or as a frat boy party toy. Not a classy gesture to say the least.
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Okay so i have a boyfriend and i understand that spending time apart is just as important as spending time together but he had borrowed his sisters car and i hadnt seen him or spent some quality time with him since wednesday (its saturday) and instead of spending time with me he went to spend time with his friends and driving other people here and there.
My question is should i say somehting to him about how im feeling or should i jus let it go?? (link)
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The only thing I can add to the other answers is to be rational about this when you ask. Don't show up angry or he will automatically start playing defense, don't yell and don't call names. Have an adult discussion. Based on what he tells you then you can react.
Personally, I'm rather suspicious of why he wanted to spend so much time away from you. One day I could understand. A weekend to go hunting or fishing, yeah, that's feasible. But just driving his friends around? I'm not sure that passes the smell test. But see what he says and, again, try to keep your emotions at bay during the discussion.
If his default is to act defensive then something's up. Remember, listen to your gut always. If something seems hinky it's hinky.
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can u get pregnant if a guy cums in ur butt hole (link)
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Very, very unlikely, especially as the male should always use a condom during anal because if he doesn't he might get a painful infection of the urethra of his penis from all the bacteria hanging out in the anal cavity.
However, it is theoretically possible, but the female would have to be extraordinarily unlucky. The semen would have to leak down her taint to her vagina and somehow get into it. The sperm can live for a little while outside the body.
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is male ejaculation is bad for marriage life?
im ejaculating once in 3 days.... plz answer whether its tough to give birth to a child in future?
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Your question asks a really broad question. I can only take it at face value, so the answer is that ejaculation has no bad effect on marriage per se. However, if you are having sex and you ejaculate quickly (say, 2-5 minutes into the act) then yes, that can be a big problem because she won't be satisfied.
One way to delay ejaculation during sex is to masturbate beforehand. You can actually make his part of your foreplay with your partner. Or she can blow you to completion and then you eat her and after giving her an orgasm or two that way, you should be able to have it back up to have intercourse (middle aged guys need much more time for this than younger guys).
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