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boyfriend spending time with other people instead of me
Okay so i have a boyfriend and i understand that spending time apart is just as important as spending time together but he had borrowed his sisters car and i hadnt seen him or spent some quality time with him since wednesday (its saturday) and instead of spending time with me he went to spend time with his friends and driving other people here and there.
My question is should i say somehting to him about how im feeling or should i jus let it go??
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The only thing I can add to the other answers is to be rational about this when you ask. Don't show up angry or he will automatically start playing defense, don't yell and don't call names. Have an adult discussion. Based on what he tells you then you can react.
Personally, I'm rather suspicious of why he wanted to spend so much time away from you. One day I could understand. A weekend to go hunting or fishing, yeah, that's feasible. But just driving his friends around? I'm not sure that passes the smell test. But see what he says and, again, try to keep your emotions at bay during the discussion.
If his default is to act defensive then something's up. Remember, listen to your gut always. If something seems hinky it's hinky.
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You love him right? and he loves you? well then you should tell him that it bothers you. But don't be mean when you bring it up and don't get angry just simply ask him why he isn't spending time with you and why he would rather spend time with his friends then be with you. Ask it out of the blue this way you'll get an honest answer. Why? because guys tend to come up with great lies to make you believe that that's what you wanted to hear but after a while you realize that it was all bull, so if you ask him when his not expecting the question he'll give you an answer that will be honest. but before you ask him anything ask yourself first "am i being to clingy?" hope it helps.
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Letting something that bothers you in a relationship can lead to problems along the way that can actually break up your relationship, tell him that you think that he should have made time to see you. Having great communications is one of the keys of making a relationship last.
Good luck!
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