...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
Gender: Female
Location: CA
Occupation: student
AIM: BreathingxDeeply
Yahoo: SuNkiStDeLonGe
Member Since: December 1, 2003
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I clicked their names ask them a question and all fo a sudden it appears int he public, im so madd! (link)
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lol! You may want to ask spacefem about this problem because Im not having it. Better luck next time!
-shay :-)
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What do you do if everyone you thought was your friend suddenly turns their back on you? (link)
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I would try to understand why they're doing it. If Im said something stupid or something. Or I would try to get a hold of them bt phone, email etc. and ask them why they're mad. Other then that I would be really nice to them to try and earn their friendship back.
-shay :-)
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ok here we go:
my boyfriend told me I don't kiss him back
the problem is he's really aggressive with the kissing and I like can't move my lips
well scratch that
I have no idea what I'm doing.he's the first person I've kissed and gahh I'm so insecure now about my kissing. someone help me..
what do I say to him and how can we solve this problem??
thank you =) (link)
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You should tell him your not ready for such advanced kissing, but a small peck every once and a wile is okay.
-shay :-)
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I've had this best friend for about 11 years now.. but I'm so sick of her. She's always lying to me, deceiving me, hurting me, so much stuff that I'm so pissed off. I talk to her about it all the time but she just comes up with more excuses, then expects me to forgive her. She's pretty much friends with all my friends, and you could even say she's "stolen" some from me and now they're better friends with her then me, so I can't hang out with them anymore. What should I do? (link)
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Tell her that if she doesnt clean her act up real soon you two wont be friends anymore. Then name all the many things she has done to you that hurt you and demand an apology.
-shay :-)
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I like him and he ignores me now after i told him that i like him. Why does he ignore me now? (link)
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Okay this guy ignores you because after you told him you liked him he doesnt feel comfortable around you. He probably doesnt feel the way you do about him and now hes confused because he thought you two were just friends.
-shay :-)
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hey whats ur AIM name cu i kno sum 1 named shay but i dk if thats u do u live in FLORIDA? if so email me.... um... or just answer a question of mine i dk thnx BYE (link)
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Sorry I dont live in Florida I actually live in California.
-shay :-)
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Okay, so I have this friend who is gay. And he really wants to tell his parents, they said they'd love him not matter what, but also, they don't approve of gays too much. I'm thinking of talking to them myself, but then he might get mad at me. So I really don't know what I should do, or what he should do actually. I told him to wait until he moves out to tell them, but he said he might feel guilty for doing that, letting them think that he was straight for 18 years or so.. then all of a sudden breaking the news. What should I do? Talk to his parents for him, or just leave it to him? And if I leave it up to him, can you give any advice for me to tell him? Thanks! (link)
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Well this is his decision and it is what he wants, but being homosexual isnt always a great thing. I know his parents wont approve, but theres nothing YOU can do, but HE can.
-shay :-)
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I like this guy... and i have told him that i like him and hes sooo nice to me but he hasnt told me if he likes me... so i want to kno and i dont wanna scare him i just wanna become more than a friend to him what should i do? Should i harass him until he tells me? ASk his Best friend? jsut leave it alone??? TY (link)
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Just leave this alone. If he has feelings for you he'll tell you when the time is right.
-shay :-)
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I need to go out of town for like a week. Is it worse to give my plants tons and tons of water before I leave, just just give them the normal amount of water and let them wilt some when they run out and hope I can bring them back to life when I'm back? (link)
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Try getting a neighbor or a close friend to water your friends. Offer to pay them for their work, but if you really dont want to water a lot before you leave.
-shay :-)
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Ok this is going to be a semi-novel but I'll try to make sense. I'm 15 and at the beginning of September I met a guy(whom we'll call Bob).We were friends for a little over a month,and around the middle of October we kissed for the first time;he asked me out very soon afterword.our mutual friends had been bugging Bob to ask me out because it was obvious he liked me.He made the announcement to our them that he asked me out and it was understood that we were a couple.so from that day on, tho we never went anywhere(lack of money and transportation played a major role )but we still managed to kiss at every opportunity(including behind the school at lunch)and took every opportunity we could to be together. One day, we were talking and I mentioned that a friend of mine who(that I have known since childhood was jealous)that we're a couple; he says "well you know, i only see us as friends and plus there's this girl i'm interested in.she lives in maryland" and I go "but i'm here.she's there and I'm here" and he goes "well I've known her since july.plus i helped her through a serious breakup..." and I go "so why did you ask me out?why do you kiss me if we're only friends?" he goes "I don't know" so we weren't talking much for about a week and then suddenly we started up with our old routines. We have been doing this everyday since. My friends tell me that I need to get rid of him. Should I? Thanks… (link)
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Yes get rid of him there is no room for two timers. It seems the only reason he asked you out in the first place was because of the deep presure he got from all of your friends.
-shay :-)
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Im not so perfect at spelling, and puncuation! WOW! Who cares. .atleast im nto an ass and making people feel bad for asking a damn question!
Loser. . . And I am going to be what ever the fuck I want! So shut up and you might wnat to stop giving advice, cuz u suck at it. Im being serious! Punk is a lifestyle, and music. . Punk is being yourself and not trying to be noticed. . . You arnt born punk, so obvoiously people ahd to say I want to eb a punk. . and they became punk .. ok u cnat be born punk its not like punk is like japaneese or mexicna or english u know wut im trying to say!? Well I mean I dont know everything about punk, but I know its not just clothes. . So have fun and bye (link)
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Im sorry you feel that way about punker, but why is it such a big deal?
-shay :-)
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Hey I am going out with this guy i like and then i have all these other guys i like and i want them to I really dont wanna break his heart cuz i love him to death But theres these other guys that i have been out with and they Like me and i like them to I love them what am i to do (link)
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Try staying with just one person that you like a lot for a wile. Otherwise you'll be known for being a player.
-shay :-)
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This guy at my school has a big crush on me. He's the type who goofs off and tries to get laughs from everybody, so of course he makes it nice and obvious to every single person in my school that he likes me. Don't get me wrong, he's a good guy. But I really don't like him back. I can understand, I've been in his situation, but when I was told the guy didn't like me, I shut up. And I hadn't said anything before that. But it's real torture, and you should have heard the whole class laughing at me when the teacher unwittingly picked us for partners on a long project. It's awful. I've presented this to him, and I can tell he's trying, but he can't stop, even though I kind of swallowed my crush when this happened to me. This might even be something that would relate to us not getting along as an item, plus I'm not ready for a b/f. But nevermind. Anybody have some advice about how to make him hold off? or something??? (link)
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You have a couple choices. You can be really mean to the guy and make him realize that you care nothing for him. You could talk to him wile your doing your project about things you like in a guy that arent his qualitys. Or you could tell him you just want to be friends.
-shay :-)
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Hi..you answered my question about my ex watching me. You said that I should flaunt it and make him realize what he's lost is far better than what he has now. And I was just wondering, if you had any ideas on how I should flaunt it? hehe. Thanks.
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Hmm. are you talking to one person in paticular? Well I dont think you need to flaunt it. It already seems like your doing everything right because hes staring at you all the time. So just stay being yourself.
-shay :-)
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I aksed for that type of stuff for xmas, and now all Im worried about is when I go back. . They will have to accept me. . Im not gonna look crazy but Im gunna look different. . Thanks (link)
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You welcome. Hope you get what you want! Happy holidays!
-shay :-)
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I wanted to work on a new look for the new year, I've been thinking about punk, not being way over board. . but adding my own looks, mixing and matching I don't want to be noticed, but I want some say in what I wear. . . For the past years I dressed to impress, now its time for a change. . . IM gunna be dressed cuz I feel like wearing w/e the heck I want! I love the color black. . and fire is pretty, but I wouldnt cal myself a pyro, cuz I dont really love fire. . There r ups and downs. . about fire ya know, And I feel depressed and silenced, and I write poems and write lyrics for songs. . Is that like gothy??? I mena The goth style is pretty nice, but I dont want to be a goth. . Iw ant to be maybe a skater punk. . or something. CAn you give me advice for this problem?? *I dont care what my friends think. . IM gunna chnage even if they dotn wnat me to, not my personality. . just my clothes. .why would they care right??* (link)
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It seems to me like you already know what you want. You want to go punker, but not to over board with flames and black. I suggest you ask for some of those things for the holidays. And yes friends do care about that kind of stuff. I left my friends just a week ago from school and they always dress normaly, but if I came back to friends going all punker I would probably lose my mind.
-shay :-)
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Umm. . I really lke this kid. . But why would I bash my friend on the head? and wut wus witht hat frekay guy dancing and walkign by me?? And and. . uggh I have dieas of what would happen next. . Like I will end up aksing him out or somethng. . I have no lcue I wish I could finish that dreAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! (link)
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lol! I told you! You inner feelings. You bashed her head because maybe inside you have feelings that you do not like something about her. Or something bugs you about her personality.
-shay :-)
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like almost 2 years and we want to have sex but i am a Virgin and i dont know how it would fell can i get some advice explain how it fells and what i should do (link)
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Im very sorry that I cannot help you with that. How old are you? You must be ready to try this. Try to keep your virginity as long as you can!
-shay :-)
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My boyfriend will not be getting me a chritmas gift this Christmas. I have already purchased his gift and given it to him because he needed it early (an expensive snowboarding coat). I am trying not to be upset. Times are tough, money's tight, the problem is he spent $200 on his mom's CD player, and bought his dad a forutne in hunting gear and we went out all weekend and he had no money problems then. Sunday we went shopping and he mentioned that he looked at his account and he's going to have to write a bad check so that he get his sister a gift. I told him not to worry about me, he says he's really sorry (he's really beating himself up over it) and that he'll get me something great the next paycheck, which won't be until January 5th. Am I being stupid and girly because my feelings are hurt? (link)
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No you are not being stupid and girly. It is perfectley normal to feel the way you do and I dont blame you for it. I would feel pretty crushed myself. Dont worry though you will get a gift in January!
-shay :-)
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I've had this dream of my crush. . He was staring at me. . and then my friend called and I never got to finish the dream!The next night I was hoping it would finish but it didnt. .what does this mean??
The Dream:
* I was sitting at a tabel with my friend, this kid he is liek walking/dancing at the same time he is just passing by. . .Then I move over to a different table, and I bash my friend in the head!! I have no clue why. . Then I lok over and there he is staring at me. . He keeps staring, and I get up and Im walking. . .............................................................................................................................................................................................then I woke up!*
*Signed ::I Wish I finished That Dream!::
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It is mostley about your contact with the divine and inner feelings for this boy which is a great expression of spontaniousness. Though if you dont know this guy you deel with outer self.
-shay :-)
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