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I've liked this guy for a long time, and I can't tell if he likes me or not. A while ago I told him I liked him and he said he didn't want a GF at the time. I still wanted to be with him, so I managed to become his friend. We used to talk for hours online, go to the movies, and we even hung out at my house alone one time. I don't understand, what happened? Things have changed so much over the past few months. I used to think he liked me more than a friend (he was the one who showed interest in me before I even knew him). Nowadays he seems upset when he sees me. No so much annoyance, but almost sadness. I don't know, maybe I'm overanalyzing things (I do that quite often when I'm crazy about someone) but I'm positive that things have changed drastically. Now when I ask him to do things he either doesn't get back to me, or has to work. It hurts really bad because I like him so much, and I thought he liked me too. How can you just stop liking someone? I still catch him looking at me sometimes, but it's so different now. I'd appreciate any advice ya'll could give. Thanks so much!!!

Tell him what you think or feel. Might not work...but think about it. if you think it'll hurt your relationship with him, just ask him why he looks sad when he sees you.

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My husband and I wan tto get pregnant, we have sex biut it's very shallow. Can we still get pregnant this way?

Unless there's something "wrong" down there. Otherwise, anything can get you pregnant.

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One of my friends, Lizzy, is always talking about her friend, Kate. It didn't bother me until I realized how much Kate hates me. Kate once went on Lizzy's screenname on AIM and started saying "I hate you!!" and stuff like that. When I told Lizzy, she said, "I'm going to kill Kate, I am so mad at her!" but they are still best friends. Also, Lizzy talks about all this stuff she hates and when I do, she says its not that bad. And she is always saying blondes are dumb, which they truely aren't and it bothers me to hear people say that. But when I told her it bothered me she just said "Its only a joke." K, so today I said, "wow, Mrs. F really acted like a cheerleader today!" and she said "most cheerleaders aren't ditzy."
K, she said blonde jokes as a joke, I realize it...so when I say the cheerleader thing as a joke, why should she get all mad? She's not a cheerleader, but I am a blonde. blondes aren't dumb. I told her that!

PLEASE HELP ME! WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER WHEN I TALK TO HER??????

Tell her the truth...what bothers you.
if it doesn't work out...call it quits and get another friend.

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Toady I had my first kiss with my boyfriend. I guess I kinda wanted to do it but I wasn't 100% comfortable. I thought it would be really great but now I think that it was totally horrible. And to make it worse my friend got online afterwards and told his I liked it...ew. What should I do, I dont want to break up with him...maybe i do...oh i dont know! Help!

how do you know when a kiss is good or sucks? a kiss is a kiss!

well...i never had a kiss *shuts up*

but because the kiss went wrong doesn't mean it had or is over between the two of you.

unless you don't like the way things are going...you don't have to be with him if you don't want to.

the choice is yours...good luck!

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I just lately found out that my cat, Orangy, could talk and now he's asked me to marry him and I accepted. Now I'm having second thoughts... What should I do??????


Kat Luvere

your kidding...right? *blink*

if this is true...*blink*...go see someone, scratch your cat's ear or belly and say NO.

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Is it bad to have wet dreams?

Is it bad when you burp?

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2years ago my mum went on hoilday and left me at home with her bf. one night ewarly in the morning i heard my bedroom door open when i leend over to see it was her bf in a shirt and undies. i screamed and he shouted sorry and slamed the door but i new it wasnt a dream coz you have to lift the door to shut it. I was so scared . now i lock my bedroom door and cart sleep i have to fall alsleep to the tv. last night he was at my door saying he didnt no who to go to bed with me or my mum how sick i cart tell my mum i no ur goin to say i much but i dont no what to do i have a bf but i cart talk to him hes older and lives in london he said i could go live with him but i dont have the cash i wanna get out of here i cart stay with my dad coz he died when i was young help

you have to tell your mother...she's the parent...the person that has to take care of her blood.

or he is probably trying to be sarcastic...and failing miserably. if that is it, then tell him to stop.

going to live with your boyfriend can make matters worse...will your mother know? does she even agree to it?

if he tried doing more two years ago when your mother was going returning from her vacation...then you have to report him.

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My friend is really annoying. She's always complaining about everything. Her grandma spoils her rotten, so I know her life is not that bad. I want to tell her o shut up, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I do?

If you find something that's worst than what she complains about, tell it to her after she finishes.

Or just tell her there are worse things and that she should think about it before she complains about whatever she complains about.

Tell her that it irks you and that she should cut back a little.

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OKAY....

I turn 14 Mar. 9 and there is going to be a HUGE dance and stuff Mar. 12-13 and there is this guy *Darin* [sigh] ALL of my friends are always saying he asking about me and saying he is going to ask me out when I get older and he plans to ask me to dance the 12th. Plus I keep catching him looking at me and then turning his head away like he wasn't lookin' am I just making this up in my head or does he like me? he is 16.

I am just TOTALLY lost. I don't know what is goin' on!
PLEASSSSSSE!!!!!!! answer this Question! IM LOST!
signed
Lost

He might like you. How long did you know him for?

Age really doesn't matter.

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I have a biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig butt. Every guy just stares as i walk into the room because my butt is sooooo big. I don't want people to see me as a small waist and a big butt. Please tell me how to make my butt appear smaller

You and I have something in common. I hate it when people stare at it in PE sometimes. Or maybe it's my mind.

i hate shorts and tight pants, so you should avoid them as well. sometimes i wear longer tee shirts than usual (like half way down your butt). Or just a fleece jacket (?) like the ones that resemble those hooded sweatshirts (most) "ganstas" wear. *nodnod*

you can't to anything except surgery...and that is just gross. :( so don't.

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Towards the beginning of this year I was placed in the wrong lunch for me. Gah, people threw food and got out of hand and it was horrid. I decided not to change my schedule so I'd get a different lunch and delt with the task of finding another place to eat. Choice A was the art room. For some weeks I did this until my friend's moronic friend came in and, to make a long story short, ruined it for all of us. Then I began talking with my bio lab partner and he told me about the library. Even though you can't eat inside it (unless you're bookclub) it has atmosphere. I started going and doing my algebra homework and just hanging around with cool people who flock there.

Into the 2nd week or so of this I realised the shy burnette in the corner who was always silently contemplating life was my bio partner. I began to sit with him and play chess. It makes me sad to see someone without many friends in a new school. Sure, I had friends, oodles from the old school, but he was someone who had come from a low-budget school and knew 2 people at this high-school, one of which was in only one of his classes and had already "moved on", the other an acquaintance.

Soon he and I became great friends. And more people started to join he and I. One of my better friends comes in 2 or 3 times a week to study with us.

Last Thursday we had to sit on the floor in an aisle due to 2 classes havng reserved the library for 3rd hour. My lab partner, my previous friend and one person from the class which was in the library sat and had a generally great time. The night before, Wednesday, I sat up with insomnia and drew penguins. Some turned out to become valentines, one which was for the person in this post. I gave it to him and he smiled like he likes me. And I'm pretty sure he does. I think I've finally gotten under his skin. But... I do not want to be anything but friends with him. I just came from an evil relationship with someone who was originally my friend but then more. The problem is that part of me wants to be more than his friend or side-kick (as I dubbed him). I just don't know which to go with.

Do you have a first and a second lunch/es too?(!!)


That wasn't the point. Ask him out. But if you really want to wait because of your ex, wait until your ready. THEN ask him out.

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how do you ask a guy out if you are a shy girl when it comes to asking guys out (or friends out)

So guy though it was creepy...I showed him creepy...muahahahaha!

Er...anyway, get the guts to do it. Ask a friend...or...nevermind. Just get into a conversation somehow. Be friends, because he might not be what you expect. If he is, ask him out. Get the guts, take a deep breath and if he runs away, CLEARLY he is not the one ;).

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My boyfriend and I started dating after an internet freindship of about 3 and a half years. This isn't the problem per se, but I think it has something to do with it.

The family is very close, so they knew quite a bit about me, including my somewhat dysfunctional family (My father's an alcoholic). Add in the major class differences (we're low working class, his parents are filthy rich corporate lawyers) and you have a huge problem on your hands.

Apparently I remind his father of his ex wife, his mother thinks my boyfriend is in too deep and I'm going to get pregnant (Considering we both practice abstinence, highly doubtful), and his sister thinks I'm an idiot because of the writing style in my journal (Apparently I'm not New York enough or something?).

Especially after my family and I sat down with them, his mom (who was basically in total control) was a completely polite ice queen. It was very uncomfortable for everyone involved because they kept talking to my father and being very lawyer-ish about everything.

I feel like they've unjustly made an opinion of me from that one failed meeting, and I have no idea how to fix things, because they want nothing to do with me. I feel really rejected and this is gnawing at me like crazy. What should I do?

Er...do you know him in real life?

Anyway, he is the one that likes/loves you. They can't do anything about it. So ha? Be happy your with him while you can. Be polite to his family, no matter how nasty things get. Just like Anne Frank...

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYONE!

I hate valentines...one day to show your love? blah to that!

but happy belated valentines!

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at my school dance i was dancing with this guy named sean he is really nice then we started to freak dance. i knw that is worng but i think he likes me also does he?

I always think that guys just want the chicks around him. but i might be wrong, so go ask him if he feels the same way about you the way you feel about him. i think it was just the moment--but ask him anyway.

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At school, there is always someone who makes fun of me.. Because of how I dress and how I act, and just because I like a certains tyle of music.
This kid always says you're a freak, and whyd o you ahve black nails, and one kid said that I should dress like this, because its cool, not hwo I dress, and I was liek whys hould it matter how I dress... sheesh, and he just kept saying it and syaing it.. and I dont have a question, Im sorry.. unless you guys wanna know, i cana dd some things.. Just im me or e-mail me!

ROCK THIS WAY!



Bleh...I still listen to that song.

at least your not a poseur. be yourself...not everyone is going to like you anyway. think of it this way, they are jealous and have no life. at least you have friends to hang out with and hobbies to get your mind off of other things. listen to your music when things let you down.

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Ok, here it goes....

There is this kid, I dont know his name, and I know barely anythign about him, but to me he seems like a really nice person on how he acts with other people, and he is realllly cute, and they just switched our classes around because its half of the year,a nd he ended up in my class!! And Im so happy, but I mean I dont know him, and I dont think he will talk to me... I just dont know what to expect from him...
I just felt like letting it all out...

Have any comments?

be glad that he is in your class and just start off to be friends. Later on, who knows. -nudge-

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My ex fiencee, Tim, left me two days before my birthday. He left me at the worst time of my life. Since then we haven't talked much...and now he suddenly shows up and tries to apologize. I am so angry with him, but I still love him very very much. I want to hate him...I really do...but I can't. When he left, I started getting my life back into order, although it'd fall apart right after. I have a boyfriend now, but he means next to nothing to me. I don't want to let Tim hurt me again. He'd been my best friend for three years before we started a relationship.

*Alone by nature*
Abby

Dump your boyfriend if he means nothing. It just sucks for him because you got him excited...

As for Tim...why did he dump you two days before your birthday? Unless you two had problems or something, that was just wrong of him.

Getting over a boyfriend can be hard, but dwelling over it isn't going to help either.




(bah, i'm tired...if something doesn't make sense, bleh.)

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whatis love?

Only two responded when i came here. I went to dictionary dot com:

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=love

bleh...i think this question is too strong for people to answer in an advice column. especially when people have a lot of different views.

i think some love is just lust.
but as said, there is more than one kind of love...it's just hard and confusing...find everything about love*...from there, you decide what love is.



*as is, look up things relating to "love"

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So. I liked A. B liked A. Both are my friends, both are female. A and I, C, kissed a few times and I was an idiot. Okay. A and B are now in love with eachother. This happened over one day. I dont give a fuck about A, but I love B. Not like that. She's my best friend. And now Im going to lose her because of A.

I get confused with these sometimes...

Are you going out with C? If you are...just break it up. You don't care...and never do things with C again before it gets confusing.

Ok...you like A, and B likes A as well...only A and B love eachother...you don't care about A anymore, but B because she's your best friend and you feel your losing her? Ok then...

You should just tell A you like (or liked) her but you feel as if your losing B because they are together.

If you don't want to do that, then first you should tell B your feelings and thoughts about it.

If their responce is being bitchy and crap, then give them time for them to say "sorry." If not, then you don't need people like that in your life.

I hope this works and that i didn't screw up... Good luck!

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