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My exboy and I broke up around 3 months ago. We dated originally for 2 years but kept fighting so we decided it was time to call it quits. I have not been able to stop thinking about him and recently he started messaging me on facebook. We talked for like 3 days straight through text message after that and he said things like he hasn't found anyone else or had sex with anyone else. Then he said he still loved me but he just didnt want people to look down on me since he was so lazy. But the thing is...now he isnt really trying to talk to me. Like its been a week and he hasnt made a move to talk to me or anything. Im so confused :[
The thing is..my family and friends all hate him. He treated me pretty badly before but I was so blinded that I never really ended it. I really miss him and I havent really found anyone ive been interested in. Ive made a stupid mistake and I am terrified hes going to find out and just not talk to me ever again. Id rather tell him things in person cause its just better that way.
Im so depressed and I feel like I cant find someone that made me feel the way he did. This is my second real relationship and I am only 20 but Im terrified that I will end up alone because I cant move on from this breakup :[ PLEASE HELP (link)
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It's normal after a break up to stay in contact with your ex but it doesn't help you to move on. You are use to being able to talk to him and confide in him for 2 years. Now it's different and it's scary. He maybe having second thoughts or he might jsut be checking up on how you are doing. I've been in relationships where I never moved on because I didn't force myself to or I would always keep in touch with the guy.
If your ex treated you abd why would you want to talk to him? Whenever I talked to my recent ex it just made me realize how I don't want to be friendly with him. He doesn't deserve my kindness after what he did. You need to think about what he did and remind yourself why he's not with you. Of course you're going to miss him and you're not going to find someone right away. You need to concentrate on you and be you for awhile. I think the best bet for you is to be single and enjoy it.
The stupid mistake you have made doesn't even matter. You're not with him so there's no point in telling him. To me it seems you are trying to find ways to talk to him and get a reaction out of him. You aren't allowing yourself to move on. You're 20 years old and theres a whole lot of there.
I know how you feel and better I would never wish that pain on anyone but you need to move on. Forget about him. Delete him from your phone. Block him from facebook. Forget about him and start thinking about you! I hope you feel better and keep your head up it will get better.
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i like this guy and he likes me back but things were not working out so i broke up. he said he doesn't mean to be pushy but he wont take no for an answer he is gonna keep trying until he gets me back. should i go outwith him? (link)
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From your question I get that you're not happy. You were the one that broke it off. Clearly you had a reason for breaking it off. Talk to him and tell him how feel and how you don't want to go back out with him. Don't let him be pushy and don't date him because he's pressuring you or guilt tripping you. Do what makes you happy!
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if your x boyfriend kisses you months after we break p and says he wants you back what should i say? (link)
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What was the reason for the break-up? Was it something hurtful? Was the break-up bad? It's never good to go back with an ex unless you are certain it's going to work out. My first boyfriend and I dated for a bit. We broke up and then soon after got back together. It was a mistake and it should not have happened. We just weren't meant to be and even though we weren't we reamin friends today. We are civil to one another. I would think about what you want and what makes you happy. I would than talk to him and make a good decision about whether or not you guys should get back together. Good luck!
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I know I'm young (16) but I've been curious about "the one" lately, and I have a few personal questions to ask.
What is "the one" to you? (If you're married now, how did you know your spouse was the one?)
How long did it take to realize it? Is three months enough if you've known the person for a long time but have only been together for three months?
I spend all my time with my boyfriend. He's very responsible, very neat and organized, smart, and good with children. I am around him so much that I see him in several situations, like grocery shopping and decision making and all the so-called important things in life. Not only do I feel like he could be the one, but we have such an amazing bond. Our trust is so strong and we're best friends: telling each other everything, sleeping over at each other's houses, etc. But we've only been dating for three months. He talks about the future subtly, and he says he won't leave unless I say the word. Am I just insanely infatuated or could he be the one? He's 17. (link)
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It's really hard to say. Everyone has a different definition of what the "one" is like. I'm not married. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we've been on and off for 4. We've had a lot of struggles to go through and we still do today. I think he may be the one and I hope he is but there's no way of knowing until it happens. I guess I feel like if I label him as being the one than I might get my hopes up. I believe some of the qualities and support he gives me is why I think he is the man I want to be with. He supports me in what I like to do and encourages me to speak up and to use my voice. My boyfriend is also my best friend. We always laugh together and make jokes together and we always have fun. Are there some serious times? Of course not everything can be fun and games all the time. We've talked about the future and such but right now we live in the present and we're enjoying each others company at the moment. Life is too short to rush things.
Relationships are bumpy it's not always a steady ride. It's how you handle the bumps in the relationships that shows if you're relationship is strong.
With past boyfriends I always thought I had to be with them 24/7 and that I had to cater to them I was wrong. I lost myself when I was with them and I didn't know what to do when I was single. My boyfriend now lets me be me and doesn't try to make me someone I'm not. I don't see him everyday and I might not speak to him all the time but I know he loves me and I know that thinks of me. I do the same with him. I guess it's the feeling I have and the trust that I have with him. I feel comfortable in the relationship because I don't have to cater to his needs. At first I was lost because I thought that we needed to be together all the time to have a relationship that was similar to others. It's better to do things apart like hang out with friends and have a few hobbies. Many relationships are different from one another so to judge your relaitonships based on others isn't necessarily going to work.
I'm having the best time of my life with this man. He truly makes me happy and makes me want to be a better person. We've been through a lot together and when I was first with him I didn't realize what he meant to me. I realized over time that and especially last year that he means a lot to me. I guess when you are willing to do anything for that person and sacrifice things it shows hwo much you truly care for that person.
Live in the now, appreciate the time you are spending with him now. Don't rush things you're young.
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Does anybody know any songs by a FEMALE singer about being in love but people keep doubting that love? Like they keep insisting it won't last but the female singer says it will?
Please only list any songs recorded between 2000 and 2011.
I like pop, pop-punk, rock, electro-pop, and SOME country. Like Taylor Swift, Cady Groves, Carrie Underwood, or The Band Perry.
Thanks! (link)
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The artists that are coming to mind right now are Pink and Kelly Clarkson. I know Pink has a song called "Who Knew". I would check out that song and check out some of their other songs and I'm sure you'll find something.
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I had bronchitis for over two weeks, my breathing was getting better until now, my dad was working on the (ancient) house and as soon as I get home, I start coughing, now Its hard to yawn and I can't spit the mucus out anymore, is this going to add another month to my recovery? Can i get bronchitis again? If the stairs kill me tomorrow I'm going to be really pissed off. (link)
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I'm not a doctor but it's a possible that you might have bronchitis again. I would suggest going back to a doctor and maybe having them prescribe you some medication or something. Than you should relax and rest. I hope you feel better!
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19/f
I've never taken a dance class in my life, but for some reason i've always wanted to. I've never really had the time until now. I'm really considering it but I'm not really sure what type of dance is best for beginners. I'm looking more into jazz, hip-hop, contemporary style of dancing. please no ballet or anything.
I guess i'm just asking if this is weird for me to start taking dance classes now?? most kids start when they're young like 6 years old, but i'm 19... wouldn't it just be weird if I showed up to some random studio alone without any dancing experience?
I feel like I really want to do this, but i have a little hesitation about actually doing it.. any advice on how to just do it and take a class?? (link)
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I danced until I was ten and then I quit. I then did a hip hop class during high school for 1 year and than I decided not to do it again. It's okay if you want to try it out there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe try jazz or hip hop to start out with. I'm actually thinking of doing ballroom dancing because it looks like so much fun I would love to compete. Be confident in yourself and don't compare yourself to anyone in the class. Everyone learns the dance steps differently. You might catch on to one step really quickly and then not get another dance step so quickly. If you want to dance and you think you might enjoy it than try it out and give it a shot. If you don't like it you don't have to continue going. Good luck!
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Hi everyone! I dread giving gifts, because I never have an idea of what to give! My boyfriend and I have been together for a year on the 20th of November; (which is also my birthday) and I have no idea what to give him! I'm stressing so bad. He lives with me & my parents; so I can't really surprise him.
He really needs underwear, socks, basketball shorts, and such; but I feel like that so boring; Anyone have an ideas? I want something he will like or maybe even enjoy;
**Sex is out of the question, since we live at my parents house! haha.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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I would do something that has to do with the two of you. Do you guys have inside jokes together? Maybe base your gift off of that. Or maybe even get a picture in a frame of you two. I would go for a sentimental gift if I was you. Congrats to you both! :)
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15f here. Well let's just start off with this I'm not attractive. I'm a little overweight nag I keep gaining more. I have never had a boyfriend/first kiss. The closest I've got with a guy was 2010 summer but we just randomly stopped talk ing no reason why. I allways blame myself for that I should have took more chances. I miss just talking about random stuff with a boy its nice to know someone cares. I'm not happy and I want to be friends with more guys. I still have feelings for that one guy but I do like other people but not As much as him. I act sorta tough. I allways feel like I'm wasting my life alone.noone understands my life style. I never asked to be like this. I'm not a bad person but I feel like I am bc I'm allways bringing myself down. I just want to be that same old happy girl who is courageous and brave. I try so hard to not care what others think. (link)
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It sounds like to me that you need more confidence in yourself and who you are as a person. Your style is who you are don't try to change that. The way you opened up in your question I knew right away you weren't confident in yourself. There are things that can be changed; if you feel you need to lose weight than do it. Make it a goal and work on it, to just stand there and complain about it is not going to change anything. As far as the boyfriend thing, you need to be confident in yourself before you can find someone. How can you expect someone to love you if you don't even love yourself? Love who you are and celebrate who you are. Try and stay positive I know it's hard but always thinking negatively is always going to put you in a bad mood.
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Hey, I am a 17 year old female. I have a 17 year old male best friend. We have been best friends since the third day of third grade. I love him like a brother because that is how I see him. Everybody else, however, tells me daily that him and I are going to get married. That "everybody can see that we are in love except for us." I have read numerous places that a boy and a girl can not be best friends because of sexual tension. Either the girl wants to have sex with the boy or the boy wants to have sex with the girl. I completely disagree, my friend and I aren't like that.
What do you guys think? Can a girl and boy be best friends and that's it? (link)
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I have been best friend with my guy friend for 10 years. So many people have said that 'we belong together' and we should get married. Heck we still get stuff said to us even today and we've been friends for 10 years. He had a crush on me but I didn't feel the same way but we have remained good friends. He is like an older brother to me anyway. The best thing to do is to ignore everyone. I don't know who came up with the idea the girls and guys can't be friends. I am friends with plenty of guys and its strictly just platonic. Girls and guys can definitely just be friends!
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ok i know this is early but im a girl and im 13 and i have no clue what to give my boyfriend for christmas. i dont know what guys want. so what should i give him that guys would like for christmas??? (link)
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It's never too early. We girls usually like to plan ahead it's just how we are.
What does your boyfriend like? Whata re his hobbies? Does he like video games? Does he have a favorite sport, team, or player?
Maybe you could get him someone that involves the two of you like a picture of you two together?
Do you two share inside jokes together? Maybe have a joke gift or something. Whatever it is I'm sure he'll love it!
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My boyfriend really thinks im am or going to cheat on him and sometimes it makes me want to give up on us. Some people say it could be him cheating but dont want to be the only one doing wrong. I hope hes not and know i love him so much. What u think? (link)
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There is really no way of telling whether or not he's cheating on you. Some people say that if people cheat then they project what they are doing on another person. Maybe he's projecting this on to you to make him not feel so bad. Or he might just be very insecure. Either way I would confront him and tell him to stop accusing you or cheating. If he continues I would move on.
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14/f
which is really important to know for this question that I am going to be asking you.... Well I made up a Christmas list and my family says 1 of the items sounds to boyish for me.. That item is Legos and yes I said legos. I always thought that it would be cool to do like a 5000+ lego activity. Well that is my opinion. What do you think....Do you think that it is to boyish for me?
Thanks. (link)
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Whoever said legos are boyish? That's what I want to know. Legos are not boyish girls can use them too. Heck I play video games does that make me boyish? I don't think so. Who cares what anyone else thinks if you want legos for Christmas then no one elses opinion should matter.
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I have a boyfriend, we've been going out for a year and I've been noticing he's been acting different like lets say one of his friends said something rude shit to me and he was there and he didn't say anything to him, but when someone is talking shit to him, he expects me to defend him. I always do defend him though. There was one time i didn't say anything when this guy said something insulting to him and i expected him to say something back, but no he didn't say anything O.o and he got mad at me I've also notice that he gets angry when i hang out with my brothers whom I'm very close with. I hang with him and his friends and he would pull me aside and tell me that he doesn't like a certain person in our group because he thinks he likes me or some bull shit. Then at the end of the day he is buddy buddy with him. O.o Isn't that what you call a two face? I don't know, like I don't think i should try to make this work. He pretty much went over the line when he gets mad at me for hanging with family? Think i should ditch the guy? (link)
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Only you can be the one to decide whether or not you want to stay with him. Do you like the way he treats you? I would say he isn't acting like a great boyfriend and you either want to talk to him about changing or you want to leave him and move on. The choice is yours in the end.
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I am 24yrs a boy and my organ cannot get up am tired of life. i want to kill myself,tell me what to eat in order to give up. thanks
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We are all dealt a hand of cards in life it's how we play that hand. You think killing yourself is the answer? Well it's not. Life is too short and precious already why do you want to give it up? There are so many people out there who have it bad and they don't give up. I knew a girl who committed suicide and she had so much going for her. Her friends and family are now left to deal with the pain and sadness. You have people in your life I'm sure that care about you and think about what would happen. Suicide is not the answer! If you need to talk to someone please feel free to email me: ohthatgirl1987@yahoo.com
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18/f
I've been taking birth control for about 4 years, but I just recently (last week) changed brands so I took a month off to wait to start at my next period. My boyfriend and I have had sex a few time since stopping, with and without protection. He always goes soft when he uses condoms, but if we do it without them, he pulls out. I know you can still get pregnant even if the guy pulls out; my question is, since I JUST stopped taking BC, how likely am I to get pregnant? (link)
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That's like saying how likely am I to get pregnant if I don't wear a condom?
No matter which way you put it that's a risk for getting pregnant. So my advice is wear protection until your back on birth control because the method that you're using right now is putting you at a higher risk for getting pregnant.
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dated a chick for 2 weeks. she said she wasnt ready for a relationship. then bout 3 weeks later she calls me wantin a ride shes drunk. i take her home. she left her keys at her friends so we drove 20 mins to get her jeys 20 mins back to her house which didnt have power...so no heat...we hooked up and i left. a week later she asked if i wanted to stay. i asked where i was sleepin she said in her bed if i could behave. we didnt hook up or even kiss but she cuddled with me all night. she says she dont want a relationship. then she says im being pushy when i talk about us. what do i do? what does she want? (link)
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It sounds like she just wants to be friends with benefits without the title of boyfriend and girlfriend. It maybe that she had a bad relationship experience or she just wants to be single with no strings attached. if you're starting to have feelings I would move yourself out of the situation because I don't think she wants a relationship at the moment.
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Me and this guy (we're friends) have had a very confusing relation ship. Ive loved him for while and he doesn't like me back. I just don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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It's tough thing to go through.
I really was close with one of my guy friends throughout high school and we had a lot of classes together. I started having a crush on my friend and we would flirt. I wouldn't say I was in love with him but I loved him as a friend. We continued to flirt and my feelings grew stronger. I finally told him how I felt and he told me he didn't feel the same way. It crushed me. From then on I didn't know how to act around him or what to say I just felt awkward.
Thankfully he cared about me as a friend a lot and he wanted to continue being friends. He handled the situation maturely.
Now I know you still have feelings but you have to respect the fact that he doesn't and move on. He told you straight out that he doesn't feel the same way. Good thing is, is that I'm sure theres still a friendship and that you can work it out. My friend and I are now fine I'm over him but I still care about him as a friend. It's going to be a bit weird for awhile but know that this to shall pass.
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I accept the words '' cheaters never win'' it's normal for the human being inlove. but I hope not he way he wanted to. He does know I love him, and I know he does enjoy seeing me and being with me. But he never say his feeling for me. But he does want to continue keeping in touch with me on email only. After a year not seeing each other I thought I am strong enough and good start to not seeing him anymore. But from time to time I still receive emails from him asking me where I am what am I doing. I honestly don't know what's wrong me, but a year without seeing him I found myself begging him to try seeing me again:-(. Although it's not I always wanted. At least I wanna see that he would make the effort to say'' when I can see you again'' but never heared of it. He seems to enjoyed hearing that I am begging him.the last time i saw him because I begged him, he told me he wasn't be seeing me anymore if he is not happy. I ask if he is now happy his answer is always be ''he can't complain more where he is wih his wife. doesn't mean im just a fling?? (link)
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You're right 'cheaters never win'.
He has a wife and that is his main relationship. The reason he was cheating on her was because he wasn't happy in his marriage. Most cheaters will cheat over and over and over again. So what makes you think he wasn't going to cheat on you? The only reason he was contacting you is because he knows he has you wrapped around this finger. Anytime he wants to contact you, you probably are sitting next to the computer or near the phone wiating for a response. Am I right? You are making yourself available to him and he knows that and he's taking advantage of that. This guy sounds VERY selfish and wants to take care of himself and he doesn't care if he hurts other people while doing that. He comes and goes as he pleases, and to be honest he's just using you. I know it sounds harsh but you have to hear the truth, this man is selfish as I have said before and there's no way you are going to change his mind. You need to stop seeing him and cut off all ties with him because this behavior is not acceptable. You need to move on and find a guy who is single and who is going to treat you right and not like a doormat.
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in my life as u say that stamp past that i am 2 years failer so every one touchier to me that i am a failer (link)
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Thinking negatively is going to continue to make you unhappy. You need to stop putting yourself down and stop listening to others who are saying theses things. Find something that makes you happy, do things that you love to do. Negative nevere anyone anywhere. Keep your head up and think positively!
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