Okay so there is two questions here
first one is Me and this guy has been having sex since like october but then we took a brake and we started having sex again but then he was like fuck...and i was like and he was like you make me cum to fast. SO like is that a good thing my friends say it is but is it?
2nd one is
When me and him have sex i don't get off is that like a normal thing like when women have sex all the time with a man and don't get off is there somthing wrong or yeah
his the first person i have splet with
Okay, first question: Yeah, it's a good thing. It just means that you turn him on a lot and you're good in bed. But if he's getting off too quickly, try taking things a bit slower.
Second question: It's fairly normal since it's the first guy you've been with. You guys probably just don't know your triggers yet. If you don't already, try having him rub your clit while you're having sex.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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So i am a girl (22), and i have a girlfriend, yes we are lesbians.
So we have been together a really long time and we are trying to think of ways to "spice up" our sex life... we were thinking some sort of games or something, although most out there are made for heterosexual couples. does anyone have any ideas?
You guys should try that game where you roll dice and each number represents something; fingering, licking, massaging, toys, etc.. One of you rolls and if you get a 5 and that stands for rubbing, the person that rolled gets to pick the spot and you do that for five or ten minutes, then the other person rolls.
You could also try role playing, tying each other up, spanking, toys, or whatever else you're into. Ask her about any fantasies she's had and tell her any that you've had.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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can blukimia kill you
Bulimia absolutely can kill you.
By throwing up what you eat, you're depriving your body of nutrients that are necessary to survive. It also effects your heart, esophagus, teeth, stomach lining, mental state, stomach acid levels, kidneys, salivary glands, etc... It effects pretty much everything.
And 10% of people that have bulimia eventually die from it's effects.
Check out these websites:
http://www.annecollins.com/eating-disorders/bulimia.htm
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Effects-of-Bulimia&id=73214
http://www.feedagg.com/feed/78732/Bulimia-Recovery-SelfHelp-for-those-ready-to-recover
Here is a test to take if you think you have an eating disorder:
http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/eat.htm
Hope this helps
Darby(:
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Okay. Here's the thing. This boy (14/m) and I (13/f) have been super close for the past year. We really like eachother but agreed that we wouldn't date because we dont feel like we are at a mature enough age to handle it. Also, we knew ahead of time that he would be moving away at the end of the year and I really didn't want to get invloved with him just to have him pulled away... Well I tried as hard as I could but when it comes down to it you can't control your feelings and Ive really fallen for him. He totally understands me, and knows me better than I think some of my friends do. This summer is going to quite literally suck without him. He's not just a boy I like, he's my friend and I dont know what I'm going to do. My friends can see the writing on the wall. They already know what a mess I'm going to be and I know they will want to help but I dont want to have to depend on them. I'm fairly independent and I am mad at myself enough that I have let this boy mess with me so much and I want to be able to handle some of his being gone (not ALL of it, I know not super girl) on my own. So if any of you know any good tips (please dont tell me to just throw myself out there, I'm soo not that kind of person) but maybe just give me some pointers or a few really good promises I can make to myself that I can look at when I am feeling down. You know like "I promise myself I will not mope everyday" or "I will not text/call/IM him everyday" because I really want to move on. I'm too young to be try a long distance relationship (especially when we weren't even dating to begin with!) and I think I just need to get over him, but I ned help. Tips and promises I can make to and practice myself please!!
Well, first of all, you seem very mature for your age. You'll definitely be able to move on from this. I can see that you don't want to just hear that you should go hang out and try to meet new guys so here are some other options.
If you like to write, try keeping a journal if you don't already. Outline a recovery plan that you can use when he goes. Go from smaller to bigger things. Put a box at the top of each page next to the goal and check it off if you do it. Below the goal, elaborate on how easy/hard it was to do this goal and what you did to accomplish the goal.
For example:
Day 1- Let yourself stay in bed as much as you want and mope around.
Day 2- Have a friend come over or go to a friends house for the day.
Day 3- Get your hair cut/try new makeup/give yourself a mani-pedi/do a facial mask.
Day 4- Go to a movie theatre with friends or family and see a movie you really want to see
Day 5- Start reading a good book you've always wanted to read
Day 6 or 7- Plan a sleepover with your girlfriends
Day 8- Watch a few of your favorite movies and read more of the book
and so forth and so on...
By Day 20, make your goal to go out to a skating rink or swimming pool
By Day 30, try to go out with your girl friends and at least say hi to a guy you don't know. This doesn't mean you have to start a relationship or even flirt. Just keep your mind open to new things.
It sounds corny but, pretty soon, you won't even need to keep a recovery journal. Try to keep in touch with him, but not every day. Don't text or call him all the time. And don't be surprised when he meets new people. He's moving, so naturally he's going to have to make new friends. And, yes, some of them may be girls.
Try to be there for him as a friend still, but understand what's in the future for him and you.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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Ok, so when I flirt with a guy, sometimes I likke make fun of them for like stupid stuff. & I'm not sure if they like it or not. Do guys like it when girls are nice and happy all the time? or what? I'm so confused with everything.
It's normal to tease people that you like a little bit. But don't do it too often. They'll think you're serious, or start feeling bad about whatever you're messing with them about. As far as guys liking girls that are nice and happy all the time, guys like girls that are humans. The same way girls like guys that are human. You never want to be one way all the time. Don't always be happy and giggly if you don't feel like that on the inside. Sometimes it's okay to be down or not be in a wonderful mood. If you always feel happy, more power to you, but most people don't feel that way all the time. I can't see where a guy wouldn't like a girl being nice. People like people that are friendly and nice in general. I rarely am attracted to people, even as friends, that are jerks. Being nice is definitely not a turnoff.
Good luck
Darby(:
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me and my boyfriend broke up and my best friend asked me why and i told her i dint know.
the next day she asked me again and i said "uhmm idk because we felt like it"
then this morning she pulled my boyfriend over and started questioning him..i got soo mad that i waited until she left and confronted him and asked him what she asked. and what she asked him was why we broke up.. and what happened. my friend is kinda happy
i dont know why she is questioning soo much . maybe she likes my ex.
what do you think?
It's interesting to me that you wouldn't want your best friend to know why you and your boyfriend split up. If she's your best friend, shouldn't you want to confide in her what happened and how you're feeling?
She might just be truly curious. She might think he did something really bad, like cheated on you, and that's why you're not telling her. It's possible that she just wants to know what happened to make you guys break up. She might have been about to yell at your ex if he did something to hurt you.
Of course, there's always a possibility that she likes your ex. But I wouldn't conclude that from her asking you guys what happened with your relationship.
You should ask her what is making her so interested in this. If she has a good reason, like that she's concerned about you and what your ex might have done to make you break up, I would say she's just trying to be a good friend. She could just be going about it the wrong way.
However, if she does not have a good reason, you might want to do some further questioning. If her response is 'just curiosity' or 'I just want to know', you should confront her about why she's so curious. Tell her that you're starting to get the feeling that she likes him.
This will be direct and blunt which will get you to the truth more quickly than dancing around the subject would. The best way to get a straight answer from her is to ask her in a private situation when it's just the two of you. Not at school or out in public, but when you're hanging out at your house or hers. She won't be able to dodge the subject if you're alone in a quiet environment.
Good luck!
Darby(:
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15/F
Okay so theres this guy that i actually really really like.
hes one of those guys who just seems to have that something over you?you know where you just cant say no or resist them. maybe thats just me i dont know but anyway..
the problem is just that.. okay so he lives in a different county to me (like states in the US although not as a far about an hour or so away)and we met through our dads they are both in the army and through a sports club too.
and we kissed a couple of times and we would text alot. but sometimes he would text me non stop then suddenly not and we wouldnt talk for weeks. then suddenly he would text me being all flirty again.
We both know we could never work out as a couple because of the distance its more of a hook up thing when we see each other if either of us arent with somebody.
so weve got this thing coming up next weekend and he said to my friend "im gonna get with Jess this weekend"
this annoyed me in a way because its like he knows im there to have if he wants and making me out to be easy,and i hate him thinking that makes me feel used in a way.
but on the other hand like i said hes just got the iristable factor and even if we were to hook up again we would both be just in it for like fun if thats the right word you know nothing serious.
I dont know if i should or not though im kind of in two frames of mind does anyone have any advice or opinions on what they think i should do?or what youd do if you were me =]
any help is really apriciated sorry its long!
Okay, well I've been in a situation with a guy just like that. I liked this kid for like 3 years, and he would do that exact same thing. He would flirt with me like craaazy, then out of nowhere, he would stop. I would text him and he wouldn't answer, so I would just leave it at that and we wouldn't talk for a few weeks at a time.
Then, out of the blue, he would text me a month later and be ready to pick up where we left off. Unfortunately, our relationship was sex-related and it was a really awful situation to be in.
However, since you're saying that you only want FUN out of this, I don't see what the problem is. Sure, you're only 15, but if you're just going to be kissing or making out a little, it should be okay.
As long as you understand the emotional consequences. If you like him as a boyfriend, don't do it. There are a lot of red flags going up with him flirting like that, then cutting off contact for a few weeks. Have you ever thought about what he's doing during those times that he's not flirting with you?
I promise you, he's flirting with someone.
But if you're only in this for the fun and your emotions and feelings are not tied up, go for it. You'll just make out a little, then he'll go back to not talking to you for a few weeks. Then he'll talk to you and flirt with you again. It will just be a cycle. As long as that's what you want too, have fun.(:
Darby
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I'm not expecting any definite answers, just opinions. Me & my boyfriend were discussing our sleeping schedules. We noticed that if I sleep during the night & am awake all day, I never feel fully awake, but if I sleep during the day & am awake all night, I feel wide awake. He's the opposite. Then he brought up that I was born at night & he was born in the morning, & we were kind of curious to whether or not your time of birth would affect that.
Any opinions on this, or know of any actual research done on this?
That's an interesting theory, but I don't think it's conclusive. I'm exactly how you are. If I sleep during the day, I can be up until the next day and not feel tired at all. But if I sleep at night and wake up in the morning, I'm sluggish all day and never feel fully alert. I was born at 6 in the morning.
I think it has more to do with whether you're a night owl or a morning person. It's definitely interesting though.
Darby(:
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Me and my girlfriend talk about me looking at her boobs and she told her friend who said if she lets u look i bet she will let u feel and i told her and she laughed so does this mean she might let me feel her boob or not
It's hard to say. The only way to know is to directly ask her or move in that direction while making out and see if she stops you. Every girl feels differently about such things and it all depends on what she's ready for.
Darby(:
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Iam 20 years old and I have a problem with trusting people a little bit to easy and I want to know how to be not so trusting?
You have to become a better judge of people. You need to understand that not everyone is looking out for your best interest. There are people that only care about themselves. Just because you meet someone and they're nice, doesn't mean they're trustworthy.
Get to know people very well before you really trust them or you will get hurt often. You have to pay attention to people's backgrounds and their histories. Sure, people make mistakes. But when someone cheated on their ex, talks about their best friends behind their backs, or generally has a lot of enemies; you need to keep yourself on alert.
If a guy is willing to cheat on his ex, there's a good sign he's willing to cheat on you. If a new friend you meet tells you a lot of bad things about their other friends, you can expect any secrets you tell him/her to spread like wildfire. If someone has a ton of enemies, no matter what the say, you can assume that everyone else is not to blame.
Just watch your back and go with your gut instinct. If you get feelings that someone cannot be trusted, keep your eye on them before opening up fully.
Good luck(:
Darby
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where does being shy around guys come from?
practically every guy i tlak to i can't seem to tlak to them. small tlak it easy. but like...everything else doesn't. i know i'm suppose to tlak to them like i talk to girls but then i get all choked up and shy
It's just your nerves. It most likely happens around guys because you're not accustomed to talking to them the way you are girls. You have a lot of girl friends that you're around all the time, so talking to a guy feels a lot different.
Once you start talking to guys more often, this will fade a little. Most people are shy around the opposite sex, especially in their adolescent years.
Just try to take a deep breath the next time you want to talk to a guy. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to keep the conversation going. Just be yourself and be natural. It's okay if there are slight pauses in conversation or if you stutter a tad bit. The more you talk to guys, the easier it will be.
Darby(:
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what do you think about cousins dating?
It's wrong to me as well. I can't even imagine seeing my cousins or any other family members in that way. They're blood relatives too. It's not like they're relatives by marriage or something. It's a bit off to me, but whatever floats your boat.
Darby(:
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Yes i do and might i say you are good at this
If a guy and you were talking about how he dosnt under stand bra sizes what would b your first thought
Aaand you're going to keep them coming, aren't you? haha
Okay,
My first thought would be to completely understand because a guy wearing a bra is out of the norm. I wouldn't expect a guy to understand bras unless he wore them or has seen a lot of them.
darby(:
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Some times my girlfriend catches me looking at her boobs and she says she doesnt care because i love her and she loves me do u think she kinda does care but dosnt tell me
Wow, you have like a ton of questions.
If she says she doesn't care, she most likely doesn't. Just try not to stare at them nonstop.
Darby(:
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How can i make more plans with her even tho her parents are devorced and she is at her moms house alot wich is an hour should i just wait till summer to hang out with her
You'll have to see if your parents or her mother can bring you there or pick your girlfriend up. Your parents will have to compromise on the drive since neither of you are old enough to drive.
Darby(:
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So how can a get her father to like me
It's hard to make your girlfriend's parents like you, especially when your girlfriend's only thirteen. Just try to talk to him and let him get to know you better. Be talkative when you're around him instead of super shy and quiet. If you don't say anything, he's going to assume you have the worst intentions. Once he's around you and gets to know you better, he'll be more likely to let you hang out with his daughter alone more often. Don't try to kiss her or touch her when you're around him. That's a surefire way to make him hate you.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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Neather was mine it sucked i missed and her dad i think hates me so we never go alone we have to have a third wheel the only time we went alone was to a movie on v day thats wen we madeout for almost the whole movie:)
Well you guys are young, her father probably doesn't like her going out alone with boys at her age.
If you have any further questions, please contact me at my e-mail on the lefthand side of my webpage.
Thank you,
Darby(:
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Tjank u i we were actusly thinking of the swimming also what was your first kiss like
It was really no big deal. Just a quick kiss after a movie. No fireworks or dramatically awkward feelings.
Thanks,
Darby(:
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She thinks im a little perv because i said she looked hot in a bikini but we have madeout alot and its nice but is getimg old could u tell me some fun ways to move my toung and some fun places to makeout
Haha, well just tell her she looks good instead of hot (:
And let's see, you could try biting her lip *lightly* when you pull away. That will tease her a little and make her want you more. As far as places to makeout, I don't know where it isn't fun to makeout (: Try going outside to a park or something. It's always nice to makeout outdoors. Also while swimming or in a theatre (make sure you're in the very back so you don't distract people).
Good luck,
Darby(:
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I have to write a research paper about Julius Caesar. I pretty much have two prompts to pick from. How was Julius Caesar different from the play and the way he was in real life? And how was Mark Antony different from the play and the way he was in real life? I haven't chosen which one I'm gonna do yet cause I'm trying to figure out which one would be easier but I'm having a LOT of trouble finding anything! Can someone give me any credible websites, books, history shows that can give me the information I need? And just in your opinion which topic do you think would be easier? Thanks in advance!
I guarantee you you're going to find a lot more about Julius Caesar than Marc Antony.
Check out these sites:
http://www.bard.org/education/studyguides/juliuscaesar/juliustruth.html
http://www.cyberessays.com/History/75.htm
http://www.geocities.com/caesarkevin/caesar1.html
http://www.vroma.org/~bmcmanus/caesar.html
http://library.thinkquest.org/TQ0312647/about_the_real_caesar.htm
It's a lot to read, but these are just different sites that tell the real history of Julius Caesar.
Good luck!
Darby(:
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