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To give in or not?
15/F
Okay so theres this guy that i actually really really like.
hes one of those guys who just seems to have that something over you?you know where you just cant say no or resist them. maybe thats just me i dont know but anyway..
the problem is just that.. okay so he lives in a different county to me (like states in the US although not as a far about an hour or so away)and we met through our dads they are both in the army and through a sports club too.
and we kissed a couple of times and we would text alot. but sometimes he would text me non stop then suddenly not and we wouldnt talk for weeks. then suddenly he would text me being all flirty again.
We both know we could never work out as a couple because of the distance its more of a hook up thing when we see each other if either of us arent with somebody.
so weve got this thing coming up next weekend and he said to my friend "im gonna get with Jess this weekend"
this annoyed me in a way because its like he knows im there to have if he wants and making me out to be easy,and i hate him thinking that makes me feel used in a way.
but on the other hand like i said hes just got the iristable factor and even if we were to hook up again we would both be just in it for like fun if thats the right word you know nothing serious.
I dont know if i should or not though im kind of in two frames of mind does anyone have any advice or opinions on what they think i should do?or what youd do if you were me =]
any help is really apriciated sorry its long!
<3Jess.x
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Okay, well I've been in a situation with a guy just like that. I liked this kid for like 3 years, and he would do that exact same thing. He would flirt with me like craaazy, then out of nowhere, he would stop. I would text him and he wouldn't answer, so I would just leave it at that and we wouldn't talk for a few weeks at a time.
Then, out of the blue, he would text me a month later and be ready to pick up where we left off. Unfortunately, our relationship was sex-related and it was a really awful situation to be in.
However, since you're saying that you only want FUN out of this, I don't see what the problem is. Sure, you're only 15, but if you're just going to be kissing or making out a little, it should be okay.
As long as you understand the emotional consequences. If you like him as a boyfriend, don't do it. There are a lot of red flags going up with him flirting like that, then cutting off contact for a few weeks. Have you ever thought about what he's doing during those times that he's not flirting with you?
I promise you, he's flirting with someone.
But if you're only in this for the fun and your emotions and feelings are not tied up, go for it. You'll just make out a little, then he'll go back to not talking to you for a few weeks. Then he'll talk to you and flirt with you again. It will just be a cycle. As long as that's what you want too, have fun.(:
Darby
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You're only 15. You should NOT hook up with this guy, or any guy. He does sound like a user. If you don't resist, you will feel bad about yourself when he doesn't call anymore, after the fact. Or he may call again just to get more of what he wants.
Personally, guys like that give me the creeps, but, it's your call. The best way to test where a relationship is going is to not have sex for the first year. You'll know whose in it for the long haul and who's not.
I'm so happy to hear you are smart enough not to take this that far (sex). Sorry for the misunderstanding, but, I've read so many questions on this site about girls who are doing all kinds of sexual things at such a young age that I automatically assumed that was what your question was about. You are a girl with a head on your shoulders and you don't need this guy. He sounds like he's just playing games. There are people out there (boys and girls) who love to play the game as long as they don't get caught. It's the game that excites them. Stay away from that type. Wait for the right guy who calls you and can't wait to call you again. You'll find him someday.
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