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Q: For blonde hair and blue eys what is usually the best color to wear in clothes .. i just want a little adive because my school starts tomrorow and i need some ideas .. THANKS

Light blue would bring out your eyes. Pink woukd look nice too. I'd avoid yellow because it could wash you out.

Q: Ok, last year I dressed very plain. Just tee shirts and jeans. Kinda boring. Does anyone have any advice on how to spice up my look?

There are some really cute jeans with designs on them and awesome fitted screen print tees, that could spice up your look without making drastic changes.

Q: I don't know where to begin with so much going through my mind and my heart except to get directly to the point, which I'm sure you would appreciate. How do you stop loving and caring for someone that means so much to you when you don't even know how the relationship ended to begin with? I guess that's a pretty wide open question huh Doctor? Can you even relate to what I'm talking about because to tell you the truth I am so baffled at this point, things in my everyday life aren't even making sense to me anymore. It's like I'm just going through the motions everyday, but at the end of the day not really remembering too much of anything except the constant, nagging pain in my heart, which is really unbearable. I am an adult female who thought she had a pretty good thing going with an adult male. THOUGHT being the key word here. No, everything was not always perfect, but what is? Nothing major that we couldn't handle. We seemed to make each other happy in all kinds of ways that you may not even be able to imagine. I still do believe that the love was mutual and not just one-sided, but maybe I was wrong. He told me he loved me and I believed him. Shouldn't I have believed him? Isn't that what love should be based on, trust? I actually "felt" the love and caring that he had for me so I know that it wasn't one-sided. I totally trusted this man, with my life, literally. We had constant, daily communication that one day just abruptly came to a halt. And I do mean a screeching halt! Not a halt on my part either, but his. With no explanation in any form he just no longer shared any type of communication with me whatsoever. What's that all about? We had a little communication problem the night before everything ended and I was in a position where I could not make him fully understand what all was taking place, no I was not with another man or anything remotely like that, I was just in a position that made it impossible for me to talk at that moment> Let me stop there because I know that's not making sense to you. However I never got the chance to tell him what the whole deal was. And it doesn't look like I ever will. That was the last night that I ever talked to him. I love this man so much more than I ever thought that I possibly could love someone and I know that we would have been so good together and I know that he knows that too. What's the problem then you might ask? As I stated before, he will not answer any of my calls, he no longer calls me, and I don't really know what to think. I do know that he is a very open minded caring person and this just isn't like the man I fell in love with to not let me know what the problem is, so what do I do? Please don't tell me to just simply ask him what happened because like I said, he will not take my calls or contact me. How can anyone be that cold-hearted? He has totally broke my heart, broke my spirit, and yanked my soul right out! The biggest problem that I have is not understanding what happened! Surely you can understand that? He has to know that doesn't he? You can't possibly be in constant contact with someone throughout the entire day, every single day, and then one day just stop all communications and not expect them to question what the hell happened. Obviously he just doesn't want anything to do with me, that's a no-brainer. But until he tells me so and tells me why, how can I ever have any closure with the relationship, or even have any peace for my ever so confused, battered, busted up heart? I miss him terribly. I guess I got that point across pretty well already. On the flip side of this sad, but true story - Right in sync with him just totally ignoring me, this is unreal, but true, all of these men out of my past and some that have been trying to go out with me or come into my life all called in a one-week period. Sad, but true, I'm just not interested. How can I be even remotely interested anyway when nothing has been resolved with him. I will not be interested in anyone in that same way again because I know in my heart that he is the one for me, I know it, and he knows it too. Or maybe not? How do I find out what went wrong when it's impossible to ask anyone a question when they simply won't talk to you? Now how cold is that? Doesn't everyone deserve that much? I know they do, and yes, I know people don't always get an explanation even though there always is one. I don't know how to make you understand that he is just not that "typical" person that just leaves people's hearts hanging without an explanation, or maybe I just have him figured all wrong. Am I a total fool? If so then I'm a fool in love. If that is the case and I am to never get an answer, how do I go on? I can't keep walking around everyday crying, in a freaking daze, with real pains in the pit of my stomach as well as my heart. All of the people who know me know that I smile all the time and am for the most part a happy person always trying to bring a smile to others. But since that day, they all ask me where my smile is, where's that sparkle in my eyes, where's my spunk, where's my love for life? I'm not going to get it back until I know what happened. What do I do? How does one stop loving when they don't even know what went wrong? How do you ever get your mind, heart, and soul "together" again? How do you ever trust again? How do you stop the very real pain? I am a grown woman and this was not a little crush. I took it very seriously as he told me he did too. I did things for him that I had never done for anyone else to try and please him, which ultimately pleased me in doing so. As you can tell my thoughts are all over the place. And like I said I don't see how I can "pull myself together" without answers. This is really, really rough and I don't think he gets that or he would talk with me, right? What to do? How to cope? When does the pain stop? Why did this happen? Why can't I get any answers? How to trust again? When I commit to something or to someone, I really try to give it my all, which is why I get hurt so easily. That, I can answer.

Signed; Desperately Seeking An Answer

It seems to me that you had more invested in this relationship than he did. Unfortunately there is no cure for a broken heart. In time it will get easier to deal with it. I wish all the luck.

Q: I this freind and we have been friends 4 years and just this past summer she has been always hanging with her other friend and just leaving me behind.

You may just be growing apart. Try talking to her, and let her know that you'd like to be included with her other friends. Good luck.

Q: what is the chance of getting pregnant if a guy ejaculates and then fingers you if its on his finger?! please help me i need advice ASAP!

It is definitely possible.

Q: Has anyone ever gone on a "water-diet"? nothing but water...ice/water...and then u eat something on the third day...?has anyone gone on this or know if it works??

This is a very dangerous diet. A friend of mine tried it, and she passed out while she was exercizing. Her sister had to call 9-1-1. Her body had gone into shock and her kidneys had completely shut down. The doctor said that if she had been alone when it happened, she would have died. So you definitely shouldn't go on this diet. I'd rather be fat, than dead!

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl and I think I might be an alcoholic. My family has no idea about this because I always sneak whatever I can get and my friends sometimes supply me with it. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm always anxious for anything alcoholic and it's driving my insane. I don't want to go to rehab or make my parents think I need serious help! What should I do?

Recognizing that you might have a problem is a step in the right direction. My best advice is to give it up cold turkey. If you can't handle it, then it would be best for you to go to your parents for help. It's better to get help now before it gets out of hand.

Q: hey my hair is a blondeish color now..got that way from the sun...i have nothing against blonde hair on other people, i just don't like the way it looks on me. i have kind of pale skin, and dark brown eyes. my hair is 2 inches longer than shoulder length and very layered and straight. does anyone have any good hair colors i could dye it while still looking natural? like i mean specific colors--not "brown" or "red"...like maybe a color on a dying kit and the number of it

Ash brown would probably be good for you. It looks great with pale skin and dark eyes. Auburn with strawberry blond highlighlights would look awesome too.

Q: I met this guy over the summer and we have been going out for about a month or so. I thought it was just a summer 'fling' or romance but I now have strong feelings for him. We don't live that close and we go to different schools. We really want to stay together after summer, but I'm not sure it will happen. Can a summer fling actually last into the fall or even longer?

Long distance romances are hard, but if you really care for this guy, it's worth a shot. If it's meant to be it'll work out in the end.

Q: my boyfriend and i r really good friends in fact were neighbors! lol ok heres my question my boyfriend asked my friend to ask me if i would ever make out with my boyfriend and i said yes and so i know i should b expecting it but when it does happen wat do i do do i kiss him back b/c i love him so much or should he just kiss me and should i just look at him and say i love you! and this would b my first kiss and i need to no wat do i do?!?!!? PLEASE HELP!

thanks,
sweetheart00

Just follow your heart and you'll know what to do.

Q: OK I REALLY NEED HELP. i am a girl and i have questions i will rate 5s no matter wat. ok well here goes: when i masturbate i usually rub it with something like a pillow or blanket. i don't really like to finger, i don't find a lot of pleasure in that. is that weird? please be honest. second thing: i don't know if i orgasm or not. it feels really good and i know that i'm "done" but i don't know if i actually Orgasmed or not. what's the feeling? does a bunch of stuff come out? more than the wetness before? how do i tell

I don't think it's wierd that you don't like to use your finger, but you should be careful when you use the blanket, so you don't rub to hard or to long in the same spot, because you could get irritated and it might burn when you pee.

That done feeling that you get is what comes right after the orgasm.

If you have any other questions feel free to ask.

Q: My friend has been going out with this immature guy for like 7 months now. He is soo rude to her like not returning phone calls, making fun of her friends (like me for instance), blowing her off for his friends. I was open with her telling her how i felt about him, but she didn't care at first. Now she's thinking about dumping him, but she just doesn't have the heart to.
Any advice on what she should do? I rate high! thanks in advanced.

If he's not treating her right she should definitely dump him. If she really loves him, maybe she should have a serious heart to heart talk with him, and lay it all on the line. She needs to be honest with him, and tell him exactly what she doesn't like about him. If he really loves her he should be willing to change. If not then he's not worth it.

I hope this helps, and feel free to drop any other questions into my inbox.

Q: I'm not to sure what this falls under but I wanted peoples thoughts. I love kids, honest to God they are the best thing that has happened in my life (I don't have any). This lady at my church is having a baby in Oct. and has a 10 month old who is smaller for his size, anyways he will be staying with us more then likely. I have a two story house along with basement stairs and breakable stuff. Our house is not by any means baby-proof. Does anyone have any good ideas that don't cost a ton of money because this is probably only going to happen once and I don't expect on having children for another 15 years...LOL THANKS!
Megan

If he's only going to stay with you once, you really don't have to baby-proof the whole house. Just choose the safest room in the house, and move any breakable objects to a higher level, so he can't reach it. Also make sure you block off any stairways. I have one year old twin nephews and I use the kitchen chairs turned on their sides, to block off the hallway and the kitchen. If there's a coffee table in the room you can pad the corners with towels and masking tape.

I hope this helps and feel free to drop any other questions in my inbox.

Q: I really like this boy, and i think he likes me. (i kissed him a few times.) But then my best friend comes out of nowhere, saying that everything he said to me was a lie. She didn't tell me the WHOLE story yet, but since then i havent been able to get in-touch with her. i dont know what to do. I wasnt to believe her because she's my best friend, but people warned me about her, how she lives to ruin people's lives. I dont wanna talk to the boy untill i hear the whole story, but i dont know how long it'll be before i see my best friend again. Wat shud i do?
p.s. Airie! i'm an auqaiurs too!!

I think you definitely need to get the whole story from your friend first, but id she has a reputation of trying to ruin peoples lives, then I wouldn't worry to much about what she says. She might be jealous.

Q: Okay, the thing is, I'm confused. I know this is going to sound stupid, but I need to ask. People are always asking about tips on kissing and making out. I've never done either of those things, but what gets me muddled is the whole 'it comes naturally' thing. I mean, is it really based on instinct, or should i be worried about my first time doing all those things? (I'm having a hard time getting my point across here, work with me). People ask things like 'where should i put my hands' and 'what kind of kiss' and 'how do you french'. Are those things that you really need advice about, or do they really all come naturally and people only fret because they haven't done them? Is it better to have people tell you how-to's so it'll go better, or is it all going to come together anyway? I hope you don't find me too silly for asking, I'm just(like I stated before) confused! Thank you to all who choose to answer

It really does come natural. You just have to follow your heart. It also helps to have a patient partner, who's willing to go slow and make sure that you are totally comfortable in everything you do.

Q: i am 17 and i have been dating my bf for 11 months at 8 months he asked me to marry him i said yes..then we talked about moving in a place i was thrilled..1 week before our 11 months we broke up(not seen eachother in 3 weeks) . he said he wanted to be single.two days later we got back together and that same day talked about our place again? whats wrong with him???who does that! isnt that wierd??advice

I understand that he brought it up, I just meant that if he knows that you understand how he's feeling, he won't be so freaked out. It's a classic case of cold feet and you just have to work through it.

Q: Ok, well my friend is having this party this coming saturday and shes inviting her cousin. i think he's really fun to be around and stuff but all he wants to do is makeout with girls at the party. i like him, but im not into like just meeting a guy and making out. and since ive never made out with anyone, im scared. i was thinking of just not going to the party so i wouldnt have to worry about him wanting to make out. wat should i do? im 13 and hes 15.

I don't think you should miss the party just because of this guy. You should go and have fun, and if he comes on to you be honest with him. Let him know that you like him, but you'd like to get to know him better before ya'll start making out. If he can't respect that, then he's not worth it.

Q: What is a good line right before u kiss someone. bc im not a brave enough person jsut ot do it i need a line.

Just come right out with it--You can say "I really want to kiss you right now", then go for it. If you're not brave enough to do that, a compliment is always nice.

Q: i play soccer and want to try for extreme legue but like i dont know If I am Goood enough for It or not Plz help aBBz

Just do your best and see what happens. You'll never know if you don't try.

Q: Ok, I'm 13 and I get really bad depression. I've had it for like over a year now. I forgot what its like to actually have true happiness. And I know most teens go throug this, but mines pretty severe. Like I never want to do anything anymore, I just dont care, I hate life, And most of the time I just feel like dieing. And like ver since I got it, its screwed up my life. I lost all my friends and havent really had any in like a year. It seems easy when people just say "start making new friends" or "find an activity you like doing" or try to be happy or whatever, but its so hard. I don't know what to do about my depression. Please help?

I've always found that writing helps me. Anytime I'm sad or angry, I write it down. Sometimes it's poetry and sometimes it's a letter to myself. I just write and write until I can't think of anything else to write about, and it usually helps me to work out my problems. And there also nothing wrong with a good cry every now and then. I hope this helps and good luck.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.