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Okay I got this friend and she's a girl, and she so calls me her bestfriend but I don't too much see the benefits of the friendship. The only thing I know is that she says she loves me(I dont know it she means it) and she jealous of me when around other girls. The other night she says we don't have a normal friendship but a complicated one. And if it can't be a normal friendship then what is a complicated one? I don't even think she cares about me when I'm not around! So should I leave her alone, pay her less attention, or work on the relationship? (link)
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Hi, the answer is, work on the relationship. Daniel.
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Ok I always use the term "i like him" because it seems at my age i can't really love someone (i'm 15 and a girl) but i've 'liked' this guy for almost a year and a half. Everytime i see him i feel lots of butterflies in my stomach, i find myself stareing at him and when he looks at me i look away. i also find him looking at me. but i also find myself constantly talking about him and when i talk about him muy friends are always like wow you smile a lot when you talk about him, and when i'm not talking about him i'm thinking about him. i feel a little over liking him for my age. I don't go out with him but i've turned down dates because i can't imagine going out with anyone else. I either need some serious help or could i be in 'love'?!?!
kinda scary to think about. (link)
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Hi, it could possibly be love. But it could be lust. Here are the differences:
LOVE
Heart warming, like him for who he is, When you both feel a liking for one another, When he makes you feel special, can't stop thinking about him, feel romance, feel all lovey-dovey (love letters, poems) towards him, care about him
LUST
Turns you on (makes you feel horny), Want to engage in a sexual activity with him, Fantisise about him, like him because of his looks, Attracts your attention, Sexual desire, Have an orgasm for him, Get emmbarressed (face goes red)when near him, Have a high libido for him
It is normal to feel in love at your age. Try and work out how you feel towards this guy. Look at these 2 categories above. If you feel more to 1 than the other then there is your answer. Don't confuse love for lust. Daniel.
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i have a boyfriend and i love spending time with him and all, but lately it seems that we dont really have things to talk about. and there is this other guy who i have liked for awhile and i have been talking to him a lot lately and i always have a blast with him. i like them both a lot and have no idea what to do about it! i dont really know if there is anything i can really do about this but i need some input from ohter people! (link)
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Hi, I suggest that you think about what could happen if you left your boyfriend for this guy. You could hurt his feelings, and are you shore that this guy really feels the same way as you do? Why do you even consider another guy to your boyfriend? You love your boyfriend and hes alright and you both happy are'nt you? Just see how things work out with your boyfriend. If things in the end don't work out, then you could decide on option B. Think about it, don't make quick decisions. Daniel.
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im not really sure if i am depressed so ill just tell you how i feel and you can tell me if you think im depressed.
how i feel and have been acting:
empty
alone
scared
havent been eating a lot lately
have been getting headaches and stomachaches
havent been hanging out with my friends lately
i like to sit in my room with the lights out
i have trouble sleeping lately
i dont really like to talk anymore
get annoyed at little things
a little bit dizzy sometimes
sad
dont like to talk on the phone anymore
dont really like going places
anxious over stupid things sometimes
please help thanks
one more thing i use to have thoughts bout suicide but now its like i dont care about anything and dont feel anything. (link)
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Hi there, yes it's quite likely that you are depressed. You will need to talk to someone, preffered Counsellor or another proffesional. It could get worse if you don't. Daniel.
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I'm thinking about having a party in a park but I can't really think of something to do there besides play like soccer or something and plus it will probably be very warm out because I would have it at the beginning of July and ideas what 14 year old girls can do? (link)
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Hi, you could all play games, or talk about stuff that girls like to talk about. The whole point in having any party is to socialise. Think of something that involves social. Daniel.
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the guy i like knows that i like him, but his last girl friend was a really popular girl HELP!!! (link)
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Hi, it does'nt matter if his last girlfriend was popular or not. If he likes you, then thats all that matters. Don't change yourself for one guy. Daniel.
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My b-day is July 1st and I REALLLY want to have a party like extremly badly but my house is really small and I want to invite about 25 girls. Its a little late to have a pool party and I just don't know what I could do for a party. I'm going to be 15 and I've only had like 2 b-day parties ever and I have a list of 25 girls already but I just don't know what to do. Any ideas are great WILL RATE (link)
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Hi, perhaps have it at one of your friends house. Otherwise it would have to be a small squeeze in at your place. Daniel.
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16/f
I really want to get a summer job but I want to do something around my neighborhood. Something like selling original t-shirts, petsitting or babysitting. Any ideas? a list of jobs would be great! (link)
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Hi, heres a list of things you can do:
1. Fast food
2. Mow lawns
3. Babysitting
4. Walk neighbours dogs
5. Work in a shop/store
6. Cashier
7. Selling things on a market
8. Help the ederly with e.g do shopping, cleaning
9. Wash peoples cars
10. Look after peoples pets when thier owners are at work or on vacation
Hope that helps and gives you some ideas. Daniel.
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okay well i want to give my boyfriend a BJ
but we have no way to get comdoms
and i would rather do it without one
and like we are both virgins. b.c we have known eachother since we were like 11 we are both 14
so with us both being virgins and not having no kinda sex with anyone just you know kissing each other
can i get a mouth infection giving him oral without a comdom? (link)
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Hi, you could get things like a cold sore on your mouth or the herpes if you are not using a condom. What I reccomend you do is buy a packet of flavoured condoms. Then you could enjoy giving him oral sex and he will enjoy it too + it's safe. Thats a win win situation for the both of you. Try it and let me know how it gets on if you like. Daniel.
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I'm a 13/f. And I'm constantly masturbating. I'm getting to where I do it 3 times a day. That's not normal...and I've been doing this for 2 years. And it is messing me up in school, cause I'm always horny. What can I do to stop?
And please dont answer and say "just get a hobby, to take your mind off of it"...that doesnt work, i've already tryed it.
♥please♥ (link)
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Hi, start off by lowering your masterbation for 2 time a day. Then a week or 2 later, do it for once every day. You can't really stop feeling horny, but you can lower it. Just try and concentrate on other things in life like school, or friends or something that does'nt involve a sexual activity. Only you can change this. Just lower it down a wee bit. Im not sure if theres any treatments that could help you. Book an appointment to see a Docter who specialises in these issues. But for now just lower it down. You maybe doing it alot because you might feel bored or nothing exciting happens much. Explore different options. See how things work out. Daniel.
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Alright, so I'm 16 and am still a virgin. But when my girlfriend and I engange in sexual activities, I can never have an orgasm. Hand jobs, or Blow Jobs. It just dosen't get me over the edge. Sure I can masturbate and it works fine. I don't know, I've tryed to calm down and not worry about someone walking in or something. And also, it seems like she's down there FOREVER. I really need to know the actual time. Any help? Or has this happened to anyone else? (link)
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Hi there, maybe your just not ready. It sounds to me though that your a wee bit tense. Get a lock on the door, make show your parents or anyone else is out, forget about the time. Just lie down and relax. Oral sex might suit you. Try that. If it does'nt work then try again another time. Go to your nearest sex clinic or Docter for some treatment you could use like special gel and what have you. Try that and let me know if it works out. Daniel.
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What causes the "orgasm" in the body and why do you get so tired afterwards? (link)
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Hi, basically sexual pleasure. Rubbing up and down your penis or clitoris until it feels really really good, then you get an orgasm. At first though, you need to be turned on (horny). Hope that answers your question. Daniel.
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Hey, im 13 (female). Yeah so...ive never kissed anyone before, so i dont know what to expect for my first. Is it common to have a french kiss as a first kiss or...just a peck??? Please give a very detailed response. Im totally clueless. (link)
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Hi, start off first with a 10 second kiss on the mouth. Make it longer every next time you meet. French kissing usually does'nt come tell very later on in the relationship. Daniel.
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I'm sixteen years old, I'm a virgin, I've never kissed a guy, and I've never had a boyfriend.
I feel like if I don't do these things soon, I'm never going to do them. I feel like everyone around me is so experienced in all those things and I'm still just a kid. I've gotten really depressed about it because I feel like no one wants me.
Am I alone in this? (link)
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Hi, this can be quite painful for you. Just remember, sometimes in life we have to reach out and grab what we want with both hands. What I mean is, you've got to create opportunities for you to make friends or boyfriends. The important thing to remember is, your not alone in this. You just need to get out a bit more, show your face, join clubs, start conversations. You don't have to be popular to have a boyfriend. You just need to get out a bit more and create the opportunity. Your not a kid anymore. People are probaly only just starting these relationships at your age. We all want to be loved and cared for. But we also have to follow our dreams, by creating the opportunity. You are more than welcome to get back to me about this one. Start creating the opportunity when you feel ready. Get your background (depression) sorted out first though. Daniel.
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I've realised I have depression and I desperatley need to talk to someone.
I know who i can trust (its a teacher) and I'm so scared because Im not an open person, I cant talk about my feelings easily.
I've tried to go to the counsellor at college but I cant walk into the room.
Anyway, how can i talk to the teacher?
What do i say to begin the conversation?
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Hi, hi first of all remember this:
1. Time
2. Place
if your both o.k about them 2 then you can start the conversation. Begin with a few seconds silence, then begin the conversation. Something like this for example "Will the thing is, I think I may have depression" she will reply then start talking about how you feel. Simple really. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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im going away soon for vacation and i never been on a plane before this will be my first time. i dont know what to expect here are some questions i would like to get answered
should i be scared
alot of people say to chew gum should i?
willl i get sick?
what should i do to keep busy?
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Hi, I will answer as best as I can.
1. It's normal to be scared of anything you do the first time. Just get into a position were you feel comfortable, take a few deep breaths, do something like read the paper or something that will distract you from your thoughts.
2. Chewing gum can be quite helpful
3. If it's your first time, theres a possibility that you may feel a bit sick. But you should be alright.
4. Read the paper/magazine, watch TV, listen to music, play a game, talk to someone.
Good luck!!! Hope it all turns out right. Daniel.
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what are signs of depression?
please answer i really need to know.
easy 5's!
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Hi, heres a list of signs of depression:
1. Eating more/less than usual
2. Sleeping more/less than usual
3. Constantly tired or out of energy
4. Wanting to kill yourself (suicide)
5. Feeling sad or down all the time
6. Difficulty concentrating
7. Not interested in friends/hobbies or life as you used to be
8. Feel like your life is over
Depression can be treated. Hope I helped. Daniel.
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okay.. well i was just wondering.. its a wierd question accually but i was just wondering.. when a guy fingers you.. what will he be expecting? hair.. cut hair.. not a lot of hair.. none at all.. im very confused about this.. people tell me it differs.. i guess im just asking whats the norm? (link)
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Hi, it all of course depends on the boy. Some boys like it smooth down there, were as others love hair down there. In fact, having hair is apart of puberty, and I think it's quite healthy to have it. Shave it off only if you feel comfortable. Don't worry about it. Boy's have hairs too. Daniel.
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Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?
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Hi, heres a list that the average guy will look for in a girl:
1. Good looks
2. Humour
3. Honesty
4. Passion
5. Plays hard to get
6. Hot or sexy
Of course some of these are'nt nessarcerry, but there you have it. The thing is, if you want something in life then you have to reach out and grab that opportunity. Start a conversation with a guy. Go to clubs of your interest. Talk to your friends, or someone you can trust about how you can get a boyfriend. Don't change your personality, or be someone else who your not. Being yourself is the best person you can ever be. You just hav'nt met your right match yet. Explore more through your emotions, and remember, if you want something then you have to reach out and grab it with both hands. Heres 3 tips on how to have a conversation with the opposite sex:
1. Compliments
2. Small talk
3. Questions
Join a group, create the opportunity. You can do it, and if you don't succeed the first time, then try again. Never give up your dreams. Daniel.
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This guy asked me out through my friend. He's really nice and funny, but he is sooo ugly! I mean that's the only reason I said no! The other problem is my friend wanted him to ask her out, but she claimed she didn't like him (wierd huh)...
that's part (very small) of the reason i didn't say yes. Do you think i'm too shallow for saying tno just because of that?
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Hi, this is quite difficult to say. Lets say fair enough you don't want to go out with him. Would you let him be a friend? I think that if he's funny and nice, then he would make a good friend. But obviousley if you don't think he's attractive then fair enough don't go out with him. All I think is that if you like what's inside of him e.g funny, nice then you could grow to like the outside. However I can see what your trying to say. We all seem to go for people that look sexy or beautiful, wether it's their hair, clothes or plain old looks. Which kind of leaves the not so attractive people out of it in some ways. Just think about it maybe for another 2 days. If you still think no, than at least you've thought about it. Remember, it's not what's on the outside but the inside that counts. Let's take Austin Powers for example. I know that it's only a film, but he is'nt that attractive himself now his he? But the girls still liked him. Thats because he felt good about himself and had humour and was always smiling. Do you get my point. You don't have to be attractive. Maybe being attractive is a large part in teenage life. But as you get older it will become a small part. Make your own decisions. Just enjoy being young and date all the hot guys for now if you feel comfortable with that. But remember that being ugly does'nt mean that they are'nt worthy of your time. They might show you affection, and talk to you through the tough times. Thats what true love is. Daniel.
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