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Q: Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl and my parents just don't understand me.My mom and dad had a divorce and I just hate it. They don't realize what this has done to me and how much its effecting me. My dad is ALWAYS lecturing me about how I'm going to screw up my life when I'm 18 and that he's not gonna help me when I'm older. Every chance he gets he tells me to get better grades and I'm the laziest person ever and I don't do anything. He doesn't Ever appreciate what I do for him and he doesn't realize that I want to do things regular teenagers do. I watch my 4 year old little brother all the fricken time and I never get to do anything a regular teenager does. I never go out or nothing just sit at home watching my brothers. My mom just doesn't give a sh*t she never wants to listen to me and married a complete moron (my stepdad) and they had a baby. He is currently 11 months and I watch him to. My dad thinks I'm a complete failure and he is always putting me down. I cry every night and try to put a smile on my face the next day. I'm fed up with it I need someone to help me to give me a reason to smile.

Hahaha. Wow sounds like me when i was around your age. My mom was a drug addict who actually never married my father. And i stayed with her. and i was always either staying home watching my handicap older sister or grounded for small reasons so i could be forced to stay home in general. And my dad... i live with him now but growing up he basically has always criticized me. So let me tell you sweetie. It doesn't matter. If anything, your family has just taught you the same thing my family taught me... in the end all you got is yourself. And your dad always saying stuff to you don;t let it bother you because he honestly seems to have nothing better to do with his life. and in the end if all else fails, do what i use to do. Think about how much worse others have it. How there may even be someone in the world going through the same as you feeling alone. And how in the end if you make it through this, you'll only be stronger.

Q: 21 - female

I cannot finish no matter what my boyfriend and I do!!! A couple nights, he ate me out/fingered me for at least an hour and still didn't finish. We've tried 69, everything...

He tries so hard to please me and give me what I want but I feel terrible that I can't! I have never finished before (I don't think so at least)

I don't know what to do anymore!!!

Welp... i have to ask... do you masturbate? I've heard it's one of the easiest ways to find out what makes you cum. The exact spot he's got to hit. Maybe if your not comfortable with masturbation which is understandable because i was like that have him finger you while you guide him with your hand.

Q: I've recently experienced my period last week, and am having terrible breast pain. I have never had pain in my boobs. I always use protection when having sex and was just on my period ( although my period was slightly weird because it was a little lighter than usual) so I don't think I'm pregnant, but what other reason could there be for my boobs to hurt this badly?

uhm... there are many reasons for breast actually, one of the most common is from growing. When they grow they hurt.

Q: okay im 15 and i kno i hear it all the time im to youbg but i really like my boyfriend because i think he is diffrent but isher really?? the guys i ussaly date are like thugish and thinks there to good for everybody kindaguys but now im with this guy who is quiet kinda thick plays soccer and NOT the ussalua guy for me.well anyways i thought he was diffrent weve only been out for 2 months and we only kissed twice (it him not me lol)and i understand he wants to wait but its like he is obssesed with my butt he alwas grabs it and says its his.... im like wtf im up here dont down there...i tell him to stop he he stops for like 3 days then does it again..... is that normal or what should i do ?? anything helps thanks

young* is he* usually* usual* not*
anyway. if you don't like it, just tell him and if he can't stop tell him you will end it. And of course it's normal it might be his fetish. Butts. or he could be secretly gay. But hey, then at least you can have a really good friend.

Q: I caught my daughter giving my best friends son a blowjob. How do I confront her and my friend?

0_0 well it depends how old are these individuals? And are they dating? a bit more detail would be nice. But just sit them all down and talk about it i guess... unless they are in a relationship and they are over 16+ then no offense but thats not really your business, they are going to do stuff at the age no matter what you do.

Q: How come good guys are so hard to find these days? I mean most guys just want s** what happened to the good guys you know the ones that are actually interested in someone and would like to have a relationship with them?

There are alot of good guys out there. The problem is you might not think they are "attractive" or they may even be just a friend to you. Usually the ones us women don't take the time out to notice are the ones we should.

Q: Basikly he has slept with my friend she wants to be my friend and he wants to go out with me againxx
Don't call me silly

Basically* and uhm... i don't really know you don't give enough details for this. I mean for all i know he could have cheated on you with your friend. So i don't have an answer.

Q: So i'm a female of course, 16 years old, and my boyfriend is 17 years old, and i want to loose my virginity to him, but i'm scared. We've almost done it several times. The first time we almost did it he removed half my clothing, and we stopped since i was scared. I'm sort of insecure with my body, but he said he loves me with sex or without it. We've talked several times about doing it, but i'm not sure what to do or if i'll do something totally wrong. I got my promise ring, but i want to try at least once, we know how to turn eachother on but i'm still a little scared. He's only done it one other time his whole life, so i'm not worried about that, but should I do it, or not.? Help please, any advice welcome.

Do you love him? Is this the guy you really want to say you lost your virginity too? Is there a chance you'll regret it? And if you guys break up, will you have wished you never did it? THESE other the questions you should be considering. And if you are scared and insecure, you might want to hold off. But if you love him and you know this is what you really want that he is the guy you want to remember as your first... then go for it. He knows your a virgin im guessing so don't worry about the not knowing what to do part, let him guide you.

Q: Is picking a friend over a boyfriend wrong?

Yes. Because even though friends can become enemies quickly they usually stick around longer then the Boyfriends do. But then again it all depends on the situation, you need to give more details to this.

Q: Hi.

I want to know how to give a blow job.

uhm... you put your mouth on the penis and suck on it. you can also lick it. stroke it. play and lick his balls. other stuff like that. just don't use your teeth...

Q: 16/f

Firstly it's important to note I have got over my ex. He's with another girl now and I'm cool with that, as he asked me out again and I said no and ceased contact as he's abit of a player really.

You see, for a start hes not nice to me, like when he walks past with his gf and there not holding hands he'll like grab her hand and hold it.
I have to go to revision classess for a subject and he'll be there too. But tbh I'm too scared to go, because as daft as it sounds he makes me feel so uncomfortable I feel ill. I cant talk to him about this as i've blocked him off fb, plus give him so much as a smile and he things you want him back.

Any help? :)

Just pretend he doesn't exist he is obviously desperate for your attention and probably is just using other girls to get you jealous. But don't be scared of him, just shrug it off.

Q: Do Women Enjoy Anal Sex ?

some do.

Q: How t do move your tounge when you makeout, I want to but im scared I will mess up!!!!!!! Im tired of people calling me prude. I mean ive kissed guys and all. But i wanna makeout. I have a boyfriend and he is experienced. i dont wanna disapoint him and get a bad rep. help?!?!?!?
im 14

of course your 14, otherwise you wouldn't care about a "reputation when it coes to making out" listen sweetie, if he is your boyfriend just be honest. say you never made out before, let him guide you. it might even add a little fun to your relationship. but only do this if you want to makeout with him not because you don't want people to think your a prude it shouldn't matter whether you makeout or not with your boyfriend to other people, because it's your relationship and if he went around telling people you "make out good" or "make out bad" expect him to put alot of your business out there and you'l get a bad rep that way.

Q: Please,no abuse please this is really serious.

When I was about 10, my cousin james was very "horny" if you like, and he'd always try to get me to have ''sex'' with him. I didn't want to at all, but I was too scared not too. He didn't really have sex with me, he just touched me in the wrong places.

Then, when I was 12. My brother and I were really close, so we'd sometimes sleep on the same sofa and stuff (no sexual activity at first) but then one night, I fell asleep with my mouth open and he started ''kissing'' me. I just let him. I got him off me and ran upstairs. Then, I was sitting with trousers on and my legs slightly apart and he started ''feeling me up''. I also just let him, and ran upstairs after again. Now he always tries to put his hands up my top or down my trousers and I'm too scared to tell anybody.
I think I'm a bad person, seriously I need help, what do I do?

one of the most common things about sexual assault victims is not wanting to tell not just because you're scared but because you feel like it's your fault like your disgusting because you deserved it. You need to tell someone that isn't right and if you don't it could get way worse and even progress to violence. Tell someone.

Q: this Kavin :3, when you gonna let me tap them cheeks hun

xD u crazzzzzy

Q: I'm 18 and I was giving my boyfriend a hand job and he was fingering me I'm scared some semen got in my vagina yet my period was on time and normal

uhm... welp unless his penis somehow magically hit your vagina while your hand had it, i think you are alright but if you are really that worried take a pregnancy test even though you got your period so it sounds like you're just being a bit paranoid.

Q: Ok so 15 year okd from Cali and I'm on my period and I was masturbating in the shower with and inanimate, metal pointy thing. When I reached the point of satisfaction I stopped and stood up strait to rinse off. noticed some blood on it, and then a handful of blood just fell out of my vagina!. I know it wasn't period blood because the period blood freezes when in water. I touched my vagina and there was blood around my hole. I smelled it to see if it was period blood or regular, it was regular. Also I usually stop period bleeding on my 3rd day of my period, but I start bleeding again on the 4th day. I'm guessing I did pop it but I'm scared I did some serious internal damage!. I don't know what to do HELP PLEASE!

You should probably visit a doctor though you may have broke your hymen "popped a cherry" you still stuck some random metal pointy thing up there which by the way sweetie if you're going to masturbate do yourself a favor and buy a dildo because sticking random objects up there can get you a bacteria infection OR WORSE.

Q: I'm a bisexual girl and I am always so horny. What do I do?

Hahahahaaha being bisexual has nothing to do with that. though i got too tell you as a fellow bi, there are alot of us like that. I, myself, have been called a nymphomaniac because i crave sex ALOT and i'm horny ALOT. They can tell you it's all about hormones or whatever but for some people it's just the way you are i mean you could even be a sex addict.

Q: My boyfriend is flirting with this girl that i really hate .. What do i do? he's doing it infront of me and crap and im pissed but not showing it.. Its awkward and weird and ugh! What shoudl i do?!?!?!?? Grrrr...

The problem here ISN'T that your boyfriend is flirting with someone you don't like, it's the fact that he is flirting at all. Whether people want to believe it or not flirting and cheating go together like peanut butter and jelly. Your boyfriend shouldn't be flirting with ANYONE. and it shouldn't be wierd and awkward it should get you pissed. Kick his ass to the curb and let him go treat someone else like that. Because you deserve better then that

Q: me and my boyfriend been together for a while now and im thinking about having sex with him but im scared.. how does it all work. we kiss & make out alot and dry hump but like..do i take my clothes off first or does he?? how can i make it fun?? all that kind of stuff.. help me please?? im nervous..

so i'm guessing your a virgin which is awesome BUT that's where the lecture comes in... before you have sex with him make sure this is what you want because so many people regret their losing their virginity to the people they did INFACT most of the people i know all regret the person they gave it to including myself.
IF, Remember if this feels right, you shouldn't be scared. I mean nervous but not scared like hell. Just let what happens happen. There are no rules to sex honestly. But make sure ya foreplay because that is one of the funnest parts of sex. and explore each others bodies that's one of the best parts of making love, being able to see the things that turns each other on and pleasuring your partner while also being pleasured yourself.

bio

Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?