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I caught my daughter giving a blowjob
I caught my daughter giving my best friends son a blowjob. How do I confront her and my friend?
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It is a parents worse nightmare to catch one of their, young, children having some type of sex. How to handle this depends a little bit on the age of your daughter and her boyfriend.
Unfortunately there is a bit of a double standard when comes to parents of the boy then the parents of the girl. So if your thinking your friend will be as upset as you are that might not happen.
You did not give the ages of the your daughter or the boy which does matter. If they are in their early teens how you handle this is different than how you handle this if they are closer to the age of consent for your state or 18.
If I were to have caught my children at an early age in that act I believe what I would do is this: I would sit both of them down and explain it is not the act that I am upset about. I would not want to criminalize the act so to speak. What I would want to stress is that at their age they are far to young to understand the ramifications of the act and where this may lead to.
I might, here again knowledge of their ability to understand helps, go so far as I do in answering question here. Explain how I believe sex is a wonderful thing between two adults and why though their body's may be capable of the act; they and their body's have not matured enough to be fully aware of the consequences that come with adult sexual relations. A blowjob is part of adult sexual relations.
Yes they have hormones floating around in them that causes sexual tension in them. There are ways, if you wish to discuss this with them, to relieve those tensions without any sexual contact between them. I am of course speaking of masturbation. This is of course up to you to decide if you wish to discuss this with them.
They have hit puberty and they are feeling sexual tension. This tension is the driving force behind what you walked in on. Boys more so than girls are constantly looking for sex. Boys also confuse lust and love in there search for sex. They say whatever it takes to get relief.
As for confronting your best friend? I would not confront her. Confront means having a confrontation or argument. I don't think this is what you want. If the boy agrees to sit down and talk with you and your daughter. If you are able to reach an agreement with both of then. Having a fight with your best friend can be avoided. If you feel she should know what happened you can say something to her conversationally Like; "You'll never guess what I found our two kids doing the other day?" If he hasn't already told her you can follow by , " Ihave already had a conversation with both of them and feel the situation has been handled.
The last thing you want to do though is to bar your daughter from seeing him. Remember the old story about forbidden fruit. They will find away to be with each other if they want to be with each other. Better you know who your daughter is see then not know.
I hope my advise helps.
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0_0 well it depends how old are these individuals? And are they dating? a bit more detail would be nice. But just sit them all down and talk about it i guess... unless they are in a relationship and they are over 16+ then no offense but thats not really your business, they are going to do stuff at the age no matter what you do.
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