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Q: One nyte i was with this guy, nathan who i knew a long time and we ended up going down on eachother and doing "69". We are just really good friends. Then three days later me and this guy went over to one of my other good friends' house and i gave the other guy head because i was pressured into it and he kept asking me to do it but i kept refusing. After about 3 hours i finally agreed to so he would get off my case. Well Nathan went off with my friend and pleasured her..after i did this i felt really regretful and felt horrible. Do you think that i'm now a slut?
You made some decisions that weren't good, but that doesn't make you a slut. Just don't let bad decisions become a habit. You should never do something that you don't feel comfortable with, just because you are pressured in to it.

Hope I helped & feel free to drop any more questions into my inbox.

Q: my boyfriend... who i HAVENT talked to in like 3 weeks... seems to be ignoring me becuz he knoes im wantin to dump him... so what do i do sinc ei can never get in touch with him? Do i call and leave him a message breaking up with him?
Break-ups should definitely be done in person. The next best thing would be sending him a letter.

Q: ever heard the song bossman ft. rod lee? they have a song called welcom to bmore or somthing and i cant find it at all or the lyrics...anyone know?
Try going to lyrics.com


Q: hey i was wondering if anyone knows if a newer mazda millenia car comes spercharged from stock, im pretty sure it doesnt but a friend says is does. let me know
Do a search on the net and you should be able to find out anything you need to know.

Q: okay last night was my cousins baptism and it was fine until the party when his parents got durnk, and his parents are my uncle and my aunt and my aunts like a second mom to me and my aunt got stoned and sooo drunk and my uncel got drunk and they culdnt take the baby cuz they culdnt care for it so my mom had to fight with them to get it and it feels like my whole family is falling apart...im afraid of my aunt now wat do i do?
Writing has always helped me, because sometimes it's easier to put your thoughts down on paper than it is to say them. If you are really close to your aunt, you should try writing her a letter. Write down how you felt seeing her behave that way and how you feel about her now. Make sure that you tell her that you love her, but that she scared you. Hopefully, you can give her something to think about before she gets messed up like that again. If she has a problem, maybe your letter will make her realize that.

Q: I know silly question but I want my last day of summer last.. I thought you guys give me some ideas to do tommorw.. and beisde nobody dont want waste there last day of summmer. i mean i am ready to be a senior.. my point is i dont want to watch tv all day beecouse i want to do something keep me busy. thanks. i know few list clean,layout, what other 18 and up do with out job and cars and beise driving.. any tips.... I know worst advice qestion but oh well i just bored lol.. thanks
Do whatever it is that you've put off doing all summer.

Q: how do you see who asks you the questions on your column?
You can't find out.

Q: Ok, I am 15 and so is my boyfreind and we have been going out for a month and I trust him but I always have the fact that he's known as a player in the back of my mind. I really like him don't get me wrong, and he's as sweet as can be even with his freinds around and everything, which makes me happy and he does make me happy, but lately it just seems like he might be cheating on me. This weekend for instance, I talked to him friday night n he told me 2 call him saturday after I got home from shopping and I called and he didn't call back until tonight when I called him. I told him I called yesterday and he said " Yeah I was busy..doing something... Oh but I forgot what it was, but I was doing something." When he said that I just started thinking something might be up. What do you think?...
It sounds suspicious. When it comes to matters like this, the best thing for you to do is follow your intuition. If that little voice is telling you he's cheating, then he probably is. Especially if he has that type of reputation. It's hard to be in a relationship with someone you can't trust.

Q: My Friend Recently Got Dumped By "The Love OF Her Life" She Thinks That It's Her Fault. And If She Can't Have Him Then Her Lifes Worthless. And She Refuses To Eat. She Hasn't Ate In 4 Days. Does Anyone Know A Way I Can Try To Get Her To Eat Again? It's Killing Me. I Really Really Need Your Help Really Soon.

Sincerely,
A Concerned Person...Aka Steph
You just need to be there for her, and let her know that everything will be okay. Try to get her to at least drink milk or juice. It wouldn't hurt to keep her favorite foods on hand to tempt her into eating. The pain of heartache willsoon fade, it always does.

Q: ok, recently i jus started being a columnist (yea, and i need advice!!)Anyway, i dunno wats wrong wit me. But i started this on.... Aug. 16th i think, and since then only OnE person dropped a question in my inbox. I know i give good advice cuz my average rating wuz a 4.57, but then how cum i'm not gettin any questions?? Is it that i'm not being patient enuff, or wat? Cuz i'm thinking about quiting being a columnist. Help me out please. thanx
I started on the same day as you, and so far I've had 2 questions in my inbox. I think you should keep answering questions, and if you give good advice, eventually more people will drop questions in your inbox. Just be patient.

Q: I like this guy a lot..and I really do care about him. He just got back from vacation and I told him how much I missed him. He said that he really missed me too! Here is the e-mail he sent me:

Whats up, well I think I kno who u like now . well I got something to tell u. I also like the person who has liked me be4 and has very pretty eyes, nice, and pretty but what I didn’t tell u is that I go wit somebody but I like both of them a lot and I don’t kno what I should do. I need some help here.

I am so happy that he likes me a lot...but I was wondering if you could help me figure out how to help him!? THANKS SO MUCH*PLZ DONT DELETE!*
The best way to help him is to give him the time and space he needs to make his decision. I hope everything works out.

Q: Okay I am seriously about to go crazy! I posted a question about my moms b/f being a jerk before so this kind of continous sort of. But My moms b/f is name dale and he has a 13 yr old son. well his son and friend went to this club for 13-20 yr olds and i felt like sleeping in the basement tonight. I wake up at 2am and find these 2 chicks sleeping in my room! He let his son bring in 2 girls from the club! im about to go nuts cuz i dunno what they are going through in my room! Dale is only doing this cuz he knows im pissed! im freaking 16 yrs old and i have no say about who can sleep in my own freaking room! Do you think im overreacting
You are definitely not over-reacting. Your room is your own personal space. They have no right being in there. You should go in there and tell them to get the hell out of your room! Tell your mom about it. Get a lock for your door, so this never happens again.

(Don't forget to wash your sheets.)

Q: everything's too late...i'v already gone out with him and now he's out of reach it's like he's almost there, almost in my grasp, but then...he's gone, i can't feel nething nemore
I'm not exactly sure what your question is, but it seems like you're in pain, maybe of a broken heart? My best advice is time heals all wounds, even when things seem hopeless.

Q: ok, i really like this guy. he is always at the pool and we always flirt. i started to really like him, alot. and i thought 4 sure he liked me. my friend always goes to the pool wit me. so 2day when i was doin a lap, my bro's friend came up to my BF and said, Chris wants to no if youll accompony him at the movies. chris is the boy i like. my friend said no. it turns out chris has been likin my friend 4 a while. i still like him but did my friend say no cuz she nos i like him? how can i steal him back?
You should talk to your friend and find out why she said no, maybe she's just not interested in him. It wouldn't be a good idea to try to go with him right away, not if he still likes your friend. Give him a chance to get over her first. After a little while, ask him out. That's the only way to find out if he's interested or not.

Q: how can you tell if you have a yeast infection and what do you do to treat it with out going to the doctors.. like what are the symptomns.. ill rate!!
Yeast infections cause itching and burning. There are many over the counter medications that you can buy at any drug store.

Q: im a freshman and all the senior guys are all over me. its great but its kinda bad ya no. this really hott guy invited me to a party and there will b drinking drugs sex and everything there and i dont want any of the guys to expect sex or a hj or bj from me. do u think i should go to the party? thnx
If you think you can go to the party and not be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do, then you should go. But if you don't know if you can handle the pressure, then you shouldn't go. If you stand your ground now, then they will all know that you're not easy.

Q: I'm a 19 year old girl and I can't stand my dad. I move out in a year and a half to go to get my BS, but I don't think I can make it.

He's a slob! He leaves open cans of cat food out on the counter, reaches to the bottom of the bread loaf and crumples all the other slices, leaves sharp and dangerous things where my baby can get them, never closes the cabinets, never takes off his shoes in the baby's play area, etc.

He comes home from work and plays a video game. He has played the same video game every day for the past two and a half years. He never helps my mom or me. My mom is so stressed because of him, and so am I.

He thinks he's always right. If I prove him wrong, I get sent to my room! He yells at me, belittles me, laughs at me, and calls me names.

I just need some advice on how to cope until I can move out, or I'll take any other suggestions.
Unfortunately, since you are living under his roof you don't have much choice. Unless you are able to move out now, you have 2 options. First, have you ever heard the saying kill him with kindness? You can be as nice as you possible can to him. No matter what, just lay it on thick. In theory, your niceness will be contagious, and he will start treating you better. If sucking up to him doesn't appeal to you, you can always try avoidance. Just stay away from him. Stay away from home as much as possible. And when you have to be home, try not to be in the same room with him. I hope this helps and hopefully the year and a half will go by quickly.

Q: I get really bad migraines almost everyday. I've tried taking advil, bayer, exedrin migraine..almost every kind of aspirin, and nothing helps. My doctor doesn't want to prescribe something to me because I'm only 15. So my question is does anyone know of a way to relieve migraines? Not regular headaches but migraines..thanks
I started getting migraines when I was about 13 years old. The prescription meds didn't help. Most meds did about as much good as eating m&m's.

My first suggestion is really wierd, but I swear it works. (My grandmother told me about it.) Take a raw potato and slice it into several thick slices and put them on your forehead, and tie a bandana around your head to keep them in place.

Here are a few other suggestions that aren't as wierd.

Dampen a bandanna with some rubbing alcohol and tie it around your head.

Cool gel eye masks are great.

(My favorite) Two ice packs, place one on your forehead and one behind your neck.

It also helps to try to figure out what's causing the migraines. Certain foods can cause them, like things with nutrasweet. Also lack of sleep can trigger migraines. That's the main cause of my migraines.

Sorry so long, but I hope I've helped, and if you have any other questions feel free to drop them in my inbox.

Q: well i was dating this guy for a while...then things kind of fell apart between us. nothing bad really...he was really busy with work and we kind of just drifted. anyway we just started talking again and he explained everything he was thinking and all that. but while we talked i never really got to say everything i wanted or ask him what the deal is with us. i talked to him online tonight and i had to leave but i thought we would talk when i got back. but he hasn't come back online, and i know he's really busy so i dont want to bug him on the phone. so my question is, should i email him...say what i have to and ask him where things stand, or should i just wait until i talk to him again? i'd appreciate any advice...i really dont know what i should do!
I think is this is an issue that is better dealt with in person. You should talk to him face to face.

Q: See I have boys that are my friends and their best friends , but they both have a crush on me , but when they both found out that each other liked me and they stoped talking to each other, I like one but the other I don't want to hurt ,what do i do???!!!
I think you should be open and honest with both of them. If you and one of the guys become a couple, the other guy might have a hard time being around ya'll. Just make sure that he knows that you value his friendship, and hopefully in time he will come around.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.


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