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Can't stand my dad
I'm a 19 year old girl and I can't stand my dad. I move out in a year and a half to go to get my BS, but I don't think I can make it.
He's a slob! He leaves open cans of cat food out on the counter, reaches to the bottom of the bread loaf and crumples all the other slices, leaves sharp and dangerous things where my baby can get them, never closes the cabinets, never takes off his shoes in the baby's play area, etc.
He comes home from work and plays a video game. He has played the same video game every day for the past two and a half years. He never helps my mom or me. My mom is so stressed because of him, and so am I.
He thinks he's always right. If I prove him wrong, I get sent to my room! He yells at me, belittles me, laughs at me, and calls me names.
I just need some advice on how to cope until I can move out, or I'll take any other suggestions.
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if you really want to go to this extrme, which i dnt recomend, you can sue him for child endangerment. do you have property like a car taht you can take out a loan agaisnt? if you do you can move out now, and take your mom with you doesnt sound like a good place for her to be either.
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Unfortunately, since you are living under his roof you don't have much choice. Unless you are able to move out now, you have 2 options. First, have you ever heard the saying kill him with kindness? You can be as nice as you possible can to him. No matter what, just lay it on thick. In theory, your niceness will be contagious, and he will start treating you better. If sucking up to him doesn't appeal to you, you can always try avoidance. Just stay away from him. Stay away from home as much as possible. And when you have to be home, try not to be in the same room with him. I hope this helps and hopefully the year and a half will go by quickly.
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Your 19 why do you put up with his crap. I understand how hard it is I've delt with some of that crap to just a little different. Stay away from him. But don't back down from him. When you back down from him it just makes him feel better about himself. Try playing some of these games to him.
But if your not doing this because he might kick you out or something just ignore him. You go your way and he goes his. Hang out with some friends. Take your baby out for a walk. Try just getting out of the house.
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You need to get your mom and both of you need to talk to him. The man can't spend all of his time playing a video game when he has a grandson/daughter, a daughter, and a wife living under his roof. Tell him he needs to start to clean up after himself and be more sanitary. If he doesn't listen, pester him constantly and maybe even hide his game for an evening or two.
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