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Q: ello there. i am 17, a virgin, and getting married next month hopefully. i don't want to sound like a complete idiot, but i need to find out bout riding top when having sex. does the girl do most of the work or does he do it. and how exactly does it work? thanx for the help

i truly wouldn't recommend you being on top for the first time since penetration through the hymen(if still intact) can be very uncomfortable. Being on top does give you the most control but if you lean foward and raise up your hips he can thrust into you from below. what feels good and what doesnt differs with everyone just remember to talk to each other about it. have fun!! and congradulations.

Q: my parents have just got a divorce and life at home is very hard as dad is moving out, i love him so much and don't want him to go please help

stay strong!! divorce is hard on everyone but if your parents didn't think it was for the best they would be doing it. Dont think this is your fault, it is not. You probably cause them to try a lot harder to hold it together and if they couldn't do it for you they know it would be better for all concerned if the marriage ends. Just remember that only the marriage is ending, not the family. They will be your mom and dad for the rest of your life and if they can find happiness down seperate paths it will better enable them to help you find your own happiness. Good luck!!

Q: hello i would really love a dog because i love animals and have always wanted a dog. My dad loves dogs but the problem is that we have 2 cats, is thier anyway we can teach them or get a special type of dog?

it does not matter too much what breed of dog you get but your best chance of success is gettting a puppy, a full grown dog that is aggessive towards cats may kill them but if that same dog is raised around cats from puppyhood the dog does not see cats as prey. Have fun with your new puppy!!!

Q: I'm 16/f Australian. Can someone please help me with ways to really make my resume/CV stand out?? What should I include in it and are there any tips you can give me? I'm applying for a casual job over the holidays at a teen girls clothing and jewellery store (like Supre but smaller). Also, should I put my interests in too? If so, should I only include things that are to do with fashion etc. or just what I like doing??

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

Dont stress over the resume so much, as you said this a a casual holiday job so work experience isn't going to be a big factor. just make sure it is neat and that is shows your interest in fashion. As the other answer on here states, you first impression is going to make or break this job for you. Make sure to make eye contact and be concise and try not to speak to fast if you get nervous. Meanwhile, just remember this job is not your career here and if the job doesnt work out, go next door and try the next place.

Q: I'm 14 just got my license I live in ND so we can get them earlier then most. anyway I need a car but i dont know what kind. i dont want a small cars like the ford focus or anything that smallwhat would be good? thanks

your a new driver...i would suggest a pick-up you inve in ND so i would reccomend 4 wheel drive. but mostly i would recomend something that fits in your budget. how much money you got? that more than anything is going to tell you what kind of vehicle you will end up driving

Q: 15/f

My school requires me to fulfill 24 community hours. I have only 3 and the hours are due by the end of January, but I don't know what to do for them. I got the three hours from camp, but it was from pulling weeds. PS it needs to be supervised like I can't go to the beach myself without anyone and clean it up and put that, it has to be through some function or organization

so basically what is a way to get more communtiy serivice hours I was thinking of an animal shelter but I'm too young for that.
PS. don't say babysitting please
thanks so much and I would love you if you could help.

your local fire or police department will let you wash their vehicles usually, and its a good way to check out to see if you might want to become a fire or police officer.

Q: I don't like this guy at all, like as a boyfriend. But, everytime he talks to me i just wanna get with him and do stuff. So like I told him i don't like him and he's like let's be friends with benefits. So i kind of want to, but i'm going out with the most amazing girl. If i love this girl, why do I always want to get with him?

save sex for someone your in love with it is better for you and them. Being atracted to someone is just the hormones in your body telling you this person meets the requirement for breeding. Unless your are looking to breed you should probably suppress these feelings most of the time.

Q: I not shure in right categroy but I would like to know, you know people iron like pic or put pics of anytihing on shirt.. they haven't made yet. like i want put pic of gilmore girls on T shirt or notebook photo. I wondering ther a site or anyone know how do something like that. to like put photo throu a shirt like, hope someone understand what i mean ..

office max carries iron on paper for 14.99 a twelve pack online. (go to officemax.com and put "iron on paper" in the search box)you may get it for the same price if there is an office max neer you to avoid shipping fees.

Q: About a month ago I found out that my boyfriend's mom is pregnant! :) I'm so overjoyed, as is everyone else. At first it was a little secret, so I couldn't tell anyone. My boyfriend finally asked his mom if he could spread the word and she gave him the a-okay. This happened a week ago. I'm no longer happy. Everytime I try to tell my parents she's pregnant I feel sick. Not disgusted, literally sick to my stomach. I also feel embarrassed and ashamed and a bit hateful. Not at all hateful towards the baby or his mom but me. I chicken out. Now my boyfiends starting to get a little annoyed with me, as you can imagine. Just writing this makes me feel sick. WHAT SHOULD I DO?! Please, any advice would help Thanks. 13/F

dont make yourself sick over this. It's no big deal. either wait till it comes up naturally in a conversation or let your boyfriend tell them. Nine months from now they will know whether you say anything or not.

Q: ok well when my father lived with us we would get invite to all family events. now we dont. wat, my and I brothers arent part of my fathers family. wat do you think I should say to him and his family?, because I like my family and hanging out at events. i was going to send an email to all of his family sayng Im sick of this shit and rreally pissed off!!, not getting invited to anything anymore this is rediculuos that his kids dont get invited to anything i dont mean to swear at all but i Just want to show u how mad about not getting invited to anything i am.

sooo wat do u think i should do about this? Is the email is a good idea?

it sound like you really like your father family so dont send them angry emails. You should try to talk to your father about this but if that is hard to do remember this.

Those relatives are yours too whether your father is in your life or not. you can pick your friends but your relatives are stuck with you (and you with them) for your whole life. Use the email idea to open up the lines of communication with your relatives.
Send them pictures of you and your brothers to keep them up to date on your lives. They will surely invite you to the familiy gathering then and if they dont have a gathering of your own and be sure to invite them.

Q: I'm pregnant and due in just one month, and we still haven't agreed on a middle name for the baby. My husband and half our friends and family like Emma Lynn. I and the other half like Emma Linnora.

Linnora is a family name with a long story that has to do with a fort being attacked by native Americans and my ancestors, Linnora and her brother, being the only ones to survive.

Also, our last name is French , like Leblanc or Lecarte.

Please suggest some names OR some ideas for a way to reach a compromise and break this 6 month long deadlock.

this wont be a popular answer but i say give her both names. There is no law saying that someone has to have just three names. i know several people with no middle name at all and i myself was born with four.
Emma lynn linnora leblanc. say it out loud. i think its cool. plus when she is older and you are yelling for her across the house EMMA LYNN LINNORA will surely get her attention.

Q: Is it true that bird feces will ruin car paint?

Mystics right about the acidity of birdstuff but whether damage happens depends more on the condition of your cars paint. If you have a newer car with paint in good-excellent condition the bird stuff will have a hard time getting through the wax and or clear coat. But if your paint is several years old and starting to oxidize the bird stuff will eat into to it much as mystic says. if you drive a beater car with an old paint job the bird stuff wont discolor the paint anymore than the sun already has so you wont notice anything. your best bet is to clean it off within a few days(4) if you think your car falls into the middle category.

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i am a work in progress but i pay close attention to everything. I feel it is a good thing to share the knowledge i have acquired in my travels to anyone asking and it brings me pleasure to do so. i have lived in California, Alaska, Idaho, and New Mexico and been married and divorced. I have no children of my own but have fostered several .