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My name is Sami.♥ Wherever life takes me, you'll find me with a smile. Feel free to ask me anything, I will give you the best advice that I can :)
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I know most people would think that it is a bad idea to be friends with your ex right away, but neither me or him want to stop being friends. The thing is that even though I broke up with him, I still have some feelings for him and he still does too. But I'm dealing with them and trying to make them go away. But he told me that he is scared of us hating eachother one day. I would never want that to happen. Does anyone know how we can stay friends without risking ruining the friendship altogether? Thanks.
It is really hard to do but dont hang out with him for a long time until your feelings are gone. I mean say hey in the halls or whatever and you can even text him, but dont be with him 24/7 i promise it will only make you miss him a lot! Then when your feelings are gone it will be like you guys are best friends, if your not dating you have no reason to fight so there is a very small chance of hating eachother. Hope i helped =]
what would be good sizes for the parts of a drum set for a beginner and when you get better at playing, would a person buy larger sizes?
also what are the differences between crash and ride cymbals? How many of them would be in a rockbands set for example (underoath). Would there be more crash or ride?
All drums sets are the same size. Begginner sets just come with less drums. Beginner drums are just a 3 piece set. When you get better you should get more accessories for the drums.
A ride is thicker than a crash a crash is smaller and thinner.
Most drummers just have one crash and one ride. you usually dont need more than one. But i could be wrong, you can look up music videos of the band and see if they have more. Hope i helped =]
If you need anything else feel free to go to my column and ask me personally =]
15/f/cuabn
okay so my boyfriend and i had something going on for the past like 3 months, but we finally made us offical about a week or so ago. so my parents found out about me and my bf cause my dumb ass brother told my mom, now shes SUPER pissed at me cause obviously shes racist to me going out with a black guy (she doesnt care about black friends) and i dont know what to do cause she told me i better not be with him, and i better stay away from him cause if not shes gonna call the cops and all this bulshit, and she just so mad and shes like how are you going to ruin your life like that and all this crazy crap, and tomarow i have to have a talk with her and my dad about it. and im super nervous cause i dont know what they are gonna say, and she treatend me about not being able to go out unless shes with me cause shes scared im going to meet up with him. and she doesnt know him, never seen him or met him, and shes judging him saying all these mean things and just cause he has tattoos she thinks hes bad and nasty or whatver.. ugh! i dont know what to do, i like him so much, and he likes me too.
): all i been doing is crying.
Ok well This is a really hard thing for a lot of parents to deal with because when they were your age they saw black people to be wrong and that they should stay with their own race and yada yada. It is hard for them to realize that we are not like that in this day and age.
When you go to talk to them tell them that they need to trust you and tell him all the good qualites about your guy. Tell them that he makes you happy and thats all that should matter. Tell them that your young and just dating everyone to see what kind of guys you like. Say that ya you may like him now but they know that it probably wont last that long. (even if you think that your relationship could go a long way, it will make them feel more comfotable)Hopefully they will understand!
Hope i helped =]
how can you tell if someone is sad/upset but they are trying to hide their feelings?
Well i have alwyas been good with telling how people are feeling.
I think its just in how they act, if they aren't acting like they normally do then there is usually something wrong. Or if someone is trying to play it off as they are just fine but there not i can usually tell by how they laugh or smile. I can just tell that it is fake.
But a lot of people hide their feelings because they dont want to talk about it. Just talk to them and tell them that you are here if they ever need to talk.
Hope i helped =]
17/f. I recently started having sex with my boyfriend with condoms, and we decided I should go on birth control. I got it from my local Planned Parenthood and realized it was making me moody and crazy. This could have just been my body getting used to it, but I decided to stop taking it after a week and a half. I still have two packs left that I could use if I want, but I'm afraid of getting moody again.
Should I continue to just use condoms? Is it safe enough, or should I take the pills just incase, even though they might change my personality a little bit?
Birth control can have a lot of bad side effects. When i first started taking it i got really emotional and moody and i gained weight. It is just because your body isnt used to all of those hormones, and you will get used to it. But this is completly up to you. Give it about a month and your body should go back to normal. But dont keep taking the bc and then getting off it messes with your body really bad. Hope i helped =]
ok so my boyfriend just fingered me for the second time, and it was really hard and really deep. im a virgin and the first time he did it, i bled a little bit in my underwear, so i figured he popped my cherry (broke my hymen). but this time, he did it just as hard and intense and i bled again. is it just possible that my hymen didn't break all the way? is there any other reason why it could be bleeding?
Well it not being popped all the way could happen. But most likely it just the motion of his fingers in you, this causes friction and irritation, (especially if you do it for a long time) So it is normal to bleed. There is nothing to worry about. He could have scratched you or its just because he went so hard and deep. Hope i helped =]
ok, so I made my friend email my crush and tell him that she has a friend that really likes him, she would forward the emails to me, but somehow my name got in there by mistake and i didn't want him to know i like him.
So i emailed him and told him i didn't like him, he said he was cool with it, but he said he didn't know who i was. He probably forgot my name, so last time i saw him one of my friends was shouting my name
then after that he started acting kind of hurt, did he like me? I like him and i really want to let him know now, what do you think I should do?
Well you shouldnt be afraid to tell him that you like him. He probably got his feelings hurt or was embarrased thinking that your friend was just messing with him, he might have liked you and then he heard that you didnt like him and it hurt him.
Talk to him. Tell him that you were just scared of what he would say and that you didnt want him to know that it was you. Tell him that your sorry and if he would give you a second chance to get to know him. I bet he will understand. Hope i helped =]
my best friend is very pretty(no homo)i am also considered very attractive but when we are at school and i am beside her i dont feel attractive at all.most of the boys like her but they like me too.i always feel like i am in second place which is considered to be a loser in my eyes.my friend has a cute shape and a pretty face,i have an average shape and i am also the biggest girl in my clique.i used to be so confident in myself now i don't know what happend.i act arrogant to hide my real self.how do i make myself feel more comfortable in my skin and how can i talk to her and let her know how i feel?(13/f)
This is because of how you think of yourself. I bet before when you were confident you didnt have a problem walking next to your best friend huh?
Well tell yourself that your beautiful. I know this sounds cocky but it works. Tell yourself how great you are. If Be CONFIEDENT AGAIN. if you've done it before you can do it again. Weight doesnt matter. just because your the biggest girl in your clique doesnt mean anything. Someone has to always be the smallest or the biggest or the prettiest. Thats just how cliques work, dont worry about it i promise you shouldnt care what other people think because it really doesnt matter. You are who you choose to be and no one else matters. Hope i helped =] If you need anything else feel free to go to my column and ask me personally =]
i have this crush he is considered to be a bad boy.i really like him but i don't know if he likes me i don't even thinks he knows my name.how do i find out if he likes me and how can i start a conversation with him?(13/f)
Well when your that age you have a thing for "bad boys" i promise you will learn that bad boys really arent as cool as they seem. But...
Just talk to him, text him ask him about music and movies and hobbies. Then as you get to know each other, start flirting with him and then be like "so who you liking" and then carry on the convo from there.
[[Sorry so lond]] Well I moved to californa last month and stared school like 4 weeks ago so im new and i go to school with my cosuin and i like this kid a lot i've kinda been talking to him on myspace sometime when i lived in New mexico so we kinda new each other becuse my cousin .but he likes another girl a lot but she dosent like him should i tell him i like him or wait, tell him face to face or tell my firend to tell him....??
Well just wait a while. Get to know him, let him get to know you. Then if things go okay then tell him. And you could tell him to his face or even over text just in a flirty way so it sounds cute! Dont have your friend tell him guys like it when more when you come out and say it. Hope i helped =]
The subject line says it all, however here's a little more detail. I've been dating the same guy for seven months and ever since five months hit, I've been feeling myself fight back the urge to tell him that I love him. He always puts me in a good mood, and he's a really laid back guy. I just wish he would say it on his own, but is it okay for the girl to say it first?
He is probably worried about saying it first because if a guy says that to us and we dont feel it we usually leave them. He is probably just worried about losing you. It is perfecyly ok to say it first. As long as your sure that its true. Just wait until one of those perfect moments... look him in the eyes and say it. Im sure he will love it! Hope i helped =]
I hear it in songs, poems, and in everyday conversations among friends.
What does it mean to "wear your heart on your sleeve?"
I feel dumb for asking.. but anything would be good.
Thanks.
It means that you are very emotional. If your "wearing your heart on your sleeve" your heart is unprotected, you take things personally or your feelings get hurt really easily. ive heard people say it to girls when we just have those "cry at everything" days. im sure you know what im talking about. Hope i helped =]
hi guyz
1stly i am 16/f
basically i`m confused..i know this guy who i really like & he has not actually said he likes me, even though we have kissed quite a few times ! he was alwayz texting me asking how i am, saying im beautiful, funny ETC and can`t wait until he sees me again & now he doesn`t text me as much. he has still text me but he doesn`t seem as interested in me. does he like me ?? my friend thinks he might want me to make the effort idk i wondered wat you guyz thought
thanx
He may feel like you dont like him. Try flirting back when you guys are texting or hanging out. he probably thinks that you dont like him so he is giving up on you so he doesnt look like an idiot. If you guys have kissed more than once then it sounds like he likes you! So just try a little harder and see where it goes. hope i helped =]
Okay, im getting a tattoo this week
and I need to know where is the best place to get it hidden?
your but haha your shoulder as long as you dont wear tanks or anything. waist line. If your a girl then under where your bra goes, if your not a girl im sorry =] Hope i helped Oh and your feet if your a guy and dont wear flip flops.
how do you tell a guy you like him
Well it depends on if you like him or love him. If you love him and want to tell him then just let him know, i mean try to make it cute don just come out and say " oh i love you" do it when your hanging out at a cute time or something. If you like him the just bring it up be like so who are you likin these days??? and just be kidna flirty and then lead him on to thinking that you like him. He will most likely get the hint =] hope i helped!
Well I'm 18/m. I guess the title says it all? Basically I've been single for far too long, and my last relationship was ended by the girl. Ever since then, I've lost my confidence in talking to other girls, I just don't have any good communication skills any more. I've also got that "nerd" image, but I've changed my hairstyle and I'm now wearing contacts, just to sort've lose that image. But I've still got that background of a "nerd". Any ideas on how I can gain back my confidence? + I don't have very good communication skills!:( Help!!
Well for one if you had a girl friend before your not a complete nerd =]
But also dont let one girl ruin this for you. Im sorry she left you but there are other girls out there.
Second you need to have confidence in yourself before anyone else can. Tell yourself that your hot and your the best. Yes i know that it sounds cocky but you can control this, do this everyday until you have confidence. I guarantee that other people will notice your confidence. Look up when you walk, dont look at the ground i promise it will always be there. Look up to see whats going on.
Also if you tell yourself that you cant talk to girls or carry on a convo then you wont be able to. Your setting yourself up to fail. Tell yourself that you can talk to girls. When you find a girl you like talk about your interests in music and movies and food. There are a lot of things to carry on a conversation.
Your reputation will change once you have confidence in yourself people will notice and then word will spread and you will be seen differently.
Hope i helped =]
If you need anything else feel free to go to my column and ask me personally!
well i went out with this guy and we have been on and off for like a year , he is all i ever thing about . But on new years eve we broke up for stupid reasons .It broke my heart beacause i love him so much. People say " he treated you soo bad just forget about him " but the thing is i cant and dont really want to . We havent been together
for about 5 months and i saw him the other night and he told me to my face that he had no feeling for me and it broke me ive been crying for 2 days now and the pain wont stop .. what do i do? i want him but he doesnt want me?
I know that heartbreaks hurt bad. And if you really want him bad enough talk to him and maybe even hang out with him. Tell him how you really feel and show him what he should miss and how your not like other girls.
Its really hard but after you try, if he still says that he doesnt want you then thats going to have to be something you deal with. I know this isnt what you want to hear but i promise that you can get over him there are a lot of other great guys out there =]
Good luck and hope i helped =]
So I really wanna get my back walkover. I've been practicing on trying to get it since september and I can do the back bend really good...and I can do the back walkover on the cheese mat but not on the floor (the triangle one). Sooo yeah any tips and tricks on the kicking over part? I really wanna get my back walkover! Please help!!!
Have someone spot you. I found out that i was scared about hitting the floor and thats why i could do it on gymanstic mats and not the floor. Have someone spot you until you are comfortable. Then hopefully you will be cofortable enough to do it on your own. Hope i helped =]
13/f.
I shop at hollister and abercrombie and all those places but i kinda want to change like my style to scene or skater? Like i love alternaive music ans stuff also. But where do i buy these clothes? && i want to slowl ease into this because i dont want to one day show up being skater when the day before i was preppy?
I like skiny jeans, etnies, and alternative musice also.( i also like pop, miley cyrus, hollister, talor swift)?
Zumiez
Rue 21 (have a mix of girly and a little skater)
Pac Sun
Quicksilver
Anchor Blue
BC Surf and Sport
Journeys
Shi (by Journeys)
Torrid
Wet Seal
Hope i helped =]
why do guys give us the silent treatment? It has happened once I told him its a pet peeve of mine that he didnt mean to do it just had a lot on his mind, but its been 3 days since ive heard from him. whats the deal?
It depends, some guys do this on purpous because they know that it bugs you. Some will do it for attention. And some just dont want to talk about their feelings. If you told him that it bugs you he is either being a jerk just to bother you or he is just going through something and doesnt want to talk about it. Try talking to him to see whats the deal. If he doesnt want to talk try textin him to see whats up and tell him that your here if he needs anything. Hope i helped =]