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lack in confidence
Well I'm 18/m. I guess the title says it all? Basically I've been single for far too long, and my last relationship was ended by the girl. Ever since then, I've lost my confidence in talking to other girls, I just don't have any good communication skills any more. I've also got that "nerd" image, but I've changed my hairstyle and I'm now wearing contacts, just to sort've lose that image. But I've still got that background of a "nerd". Any ideas on how I can gain back my confidence? + I don't have very good communication skills!:( Help!!
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well your answers in the title too.. speakng from a girl perspective girls luv confident guys.... you would have a way better chance in gettingg a gf if you went up to a pretty girl instead of just looking across the room. you might get rejected but thats part of the game. you have to take that chance or you will get no where. And nevver say noboddy would like you, because there is ALWAYS someone who likes you or would liek you, you just have to take the risk
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Well for one if you had a girl friend before your not a complete nerd =]
But also dont let one girl ruin this for you. Im sorry she left you but there are other girls out there.
Second you need to have confidence in yourself before anyone else can. Tell yourself that your hot and your the best. Yes i know that it sounds cocky but you can control this, do this everyday until you have confidence. I guarantee that other people will notice your confidence. Look up when you walk, dont look at the ground i promise it will always be there. Look up to see whats going on.
Also if you tell yourself that you cant talk to girls or carry on a convo then you wont be able to. Your setting yourself up to fail. Tell yourself that you can talk to girls. When you find a girl you like talk about your interests in music and movies and food. There are a lot of things to carry on a conversation.
Your reputation will change once you have confidence in yourself people will notice and then word will spread and you will be seen differently.
Hope i helped =]
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You should search the relationship questions on here. There are tons of them from girls that feel exactly like you do. I think if guys and girls understood that they're both self conscious and nervous when talking to each other, things would be a lot easier as far as relationships go.
The only way to get good communication skills is to practice. When a guy talks to me and is nervous, it's definitely not an immediate turnoff. It just makes me feel like I should let them know that everything's okay and that I should try to make them feel more comfortable. Remember, any girl you talk to is only human and no one is perfect.
When you talk to girls, try as much as you can to be yourself. Take a deep breath and just let yourself relax. It's not necessarily unattractive when a guy is shy, but it's much more attractive when they're confident in themselves.
Don't let your last relationship ruin your future relationships. You're only 18. Most 18 year olds don't have great communication skills and aren't extremely comfortable when it comes to dating. Most people feel the way that you do at times.
Just list your positives and get back out and try again.
Darby(:
p.s. a lot of girls like 'nerdy' guys :p
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