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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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i just got a new boy friend(he asked me out today...) and before he asked me out we were really good friends and we would say hi and stuff.....
but anyway, so he asked me out today and i said yes but now it's like really awkward to talk. it's like we don't really no what to talk about.
So, do you have any conversation starters or things we could talk about?
it it helps im 13/f
aw, how sweet. =]
haha, only one of my friends was asked out on valentine's day today.
just talk about school, friends, make fun of the teachers, what you're gonna do over the break, if you guys wanna get together sometime this weekend, etc.
just if you two stop talking, say, "ughh, sorry if i'm not talking much. i don't really know what to say." & then kind of laugh or something.
ok so me and this guy have been dating for almost three months. ever since we have dated i have had random blocked phone numbers call me saying i am a dick and not to hurt him... and how much they hate me... so i told my boy and he took care of that.. and latly the people have been spreading rumors that i am cheating on him and saying shit behind his back... and he is starting to double think our relationship... and he says he loves me to much to let me go but i am really scared that he is and i want to keep him cause this is the first boy i have really like this much... so what should i do to have them stop saying stuff to me and make my boy not believe it?? please help thanks
i hate it when girls do that.
they actually call you & told you that?
wow, they have no life what-so-ever.
i seriously doubt that you want to hear this, but my used to be best friend was in the same exact situation & he broke up with her. in her case, his best friend -- who was a girl -- was the one telling him this & who doesn't trust their best friend? they got in a huge fight & broke up. needless to say, they absolutely hate each other.
don't go over to the bitches -- excuse my language, haha -- & cuss them out or anything. that will just piss them off more. do have any idea what the heck their problem is? see if you can figure out, so then maybe you can apologize for whatever it is that you've done. i doubt that you even did anything to them, but oh well.
you need to block those numbers who are calling you too. talk to him about it. i'm sure he knows you well & can tell when your lying or not.
call him & ask him if he wants to do something.
while you guys are out say this & be serious about it ..
"okay (whatever his name is), i know what everyone has been telling you & i really need you to trust me. i would never cheat on you or lie to you no matter what -- i swear. i don't know what i've done to them to make them say all of this, but please believe me. NONE & i mean NONE of it is true. i would never do anything to hurt you & i have no idea what i would ever do if we broke up. i love you more than anything on this earth & i mean it,"
yeahh, & then smile & kiss him. =]
i think if you say all of that & be serious about it, he'll know you're telling the truth.
let me know how everything works out.
good luck!
For the past week I've been coughing my brains out, literally. I don't know what to do because last week I went to the doctor and I ended up having strep and bronchitis (I spelled that wrong). I swim year round and had 3 meets, so I swam in them saturday, sunday and monday, but did horribly because I basically couldn't breathe. I stopped everything after monday because i wasn't getting better at all. Since I haven't gotten any better, I went back to the doctor yesteday and had to get a chest x-ray. I don't have pneumonia so they gave me cough medicine. How can I get better faster so I can get back in the pool?
the person below me needs to check that orange juice part.
with strep & bronchitis, you obviously have a sore throat.
in orange juice, there is some type of acid thing (i think it's called citrus acid; i forgot.) that burns your throat & irritates it.
so, for now .. i'd just stick with water.
drink lots of water, rest alot, take all the medicine they gave you, dress warm if it's cold where you live, & stay away from other people who you know are sick.
hope you feel better! =]
alright well i like this kid named "R". hes one of my good friends. we hang out and stuff. some times i catch him staring at me. i dont think he likes me though. and then i like this other kid "S" who is me and "R"s friend. i dont wanna like "S" but i just do. i dont know what to do. i really like "r" but i just cant help but like "S". s is the friend that everyone calls big and ugly. i heard he spit in his ex girlfriends face and hit her once. he told me that it was once and he didnt mean to hit her. r is the type of guy that doesnt show his feelings for girls at all. me and him already talked about him being gay and hes definatly not. but idk what to do cause i like them both and i know if i tell r i like him, s might get mad cause i think he likes me but if i tell s i like him then ill ruin any chance of ever being with r.
with the hitting thing, that doesn't sound good & nowdays, it's hard to tell when people are lying. plus he spit in her face? ew.
"R" sounds like a good guy, though. if he's staring at you, he must be at least A LITTLE bit interested in you or at least think you're pretty!
if i were you, i would just ask "R" out.
get one of your friends to see what he thinks about you and then just ask him out.
my mom is irrational and manipulative. if i even begin to make a point during one of our disagreements, she turns it around on me and starts crying. the littlest things get her upset. she can't even react normally. she mopes around all day and when i ask her why she's mad, she says "oh, i'm not mad, sweetie." and then cries or something equally retarded. how do i even go about dealing with her?
hmm.
i'm guessing she would be bi-polar.
at first, it might seem like alcohol or drug abuse, but it is not. bipolar disorder is an illness that involves long-term changes in mood. a person with bipolar disorder experiences alternating highs (mania) & lows (depression). a manic period can be short & last from 3-14 days or longer, lasting up to several weeks. the depressive periods might last from days to weeks or even 6-9 months. the periods of mania & depression range from person to person many people might only experience very brief periods of these intense moods & might not even be aware that they have bipolar disorder.
during severe manic or depressed episodes, people with bipolar disorder might have symptoms that overwhelm their ability to deal with reality. this inability to tell reality from unreality results in psychotic symptoms like hearing voices, paranoia, visual hallucinations, & false beliefs of special powers or identity. they may have distressing periods of great sadness alternating with euphoric optimism (a natural high) or rage that is not typical of the person during periods of wellness. these abrupt shifts of mood interfere with reason, logic & perception to such a drastic degree that those affected might be unaware of the need for help.
if left untreated, a bipolar disorder seriously affects every aspect of a person's life. Bipolar disorder tends to get worse & the person experiences full-fledged manic episodes & depressive episodes, which is why she needs to see a doctor.
A boy. Never met before. Pretty cute. Not all that popular. I don't know if he is single or not. How do I go up to him/talk to him. I would like to get to know him. CONVO STARTERS??!?!
well, the question link i'm about to post was asked by a boy, but the same things would apply to a girl if she asked this question like you did about a guy.
so, here you go.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=470993
good luck!
I've known my friend since third grade and we werent always close friends, but since 6th grade we became best friends. In seventh grade I stopped being her friend for few months and I felt relieved, but at the same time I saw that she seemed like a good person and someone who I could be friends with, so we became friends again. Toward the end of seventh she drove me nuts but at the same time I still liked her. Things have been the same ever since then. Sometimes I cant stand her and dont know why I'm her friend and then 5 minutes later we're okay and I know that she is a good person. Almost everyone who knows her can't stand her and sometimes I definitely understand why, but then again she can be a good person and also she kind of has a hard life. The person she turns to for advice and just to listen is me and I try to help her, but seeing how apart of me cant stand her I would feel bad not being her friend, because I'm basically her only friend. Then again, she can be a real BEEP sometimes. There are these girls who are mean to her and she always says she will say something to them, which she really needs to and she never does, so I try to give her advice and tell her to stick up for herself and she flips out on me and cusses me out. So then I flip out on her and say why are you cussing me out when you should be doing that to them, because I'm the one thats your friend, not them. Our friendship is crazy, because I dont like her, but it's like the other half of me does, but one side can take over so quickly and then go away even quicker. Should I be her friend or not ? And if I do be her friend, what should I say to her,because things have to change.
gahh, come on.
people tell me i'm to nice (in person, not on here) but...
give her another chance. think about it -- has she really done something to get you so angry that you should stop being friends with her?
i mean, it doesn't sound like she has to me.
i know exactly how she feels. & this sounds like something that my "best friend" would say if she asked this question. she probably is a good person. people with hard lives don't need to have their friends walk out on them too along with everything else. that's not fair to them.
if she's being a real "BEEP" have you ever thought that maybe she's on her period then? & if it's on the computer, things always get screwed up on there & you can never tell if people mean things in a mean/rude way or in a nice/normal way.
just calmy talk to her. if she's like me, then she's pretty sensitive to things & is gonna be crying pretty easily. don't attack her about it; just calmy talk to her.
please don't stop being her friend -- please.
EDIT:
oh, okay. what'd she do though?
Which 1?
according to my brother, 'they don't give a crap.'
haha, most of the guys i know including my brother don't really pay attention to that & they all said that it doesn't matter to them as long as they actually HAVE them.
I'm in love with the Urban Outfitters Boyfriend jeans and pants. We're not gonna get an Urban Outfitters here in Vancouver until Spring. What are some other jeans that are similar to the style of these jeans? Any that I can at least find in Vancouver, BC?
These are the ones I like:
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/shopping/product/detailmain.jsp?itemID=26144&itemType=PRODUCT&iMainCat=1273&iSubCat=11283&iProductID=26144
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/shopping/product/detailmain.jsp?itemID=24783&itemType=PRODUCT&iMainCat=1273&iSubCat=11283&iProductID=24783
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/shopping/product/detailmain.jsp?itemID=25620&itemType=PRODUCT&iMainCat=10&iSubCat=594&iProductID=25620
(The last one I like the brown and black ones)
I would buy them online but I wouldn't know sizing and stuff.
Thanks.
well, with the Levi ones .. i know they'll have them at JC penny cause that's one of the brands they sell. i'm pretty sure khols & belks would have them.
with the jeans that have the holes, try checking american eagle, abercombie & fitch, & hollister,.
& the other pair would probably be at JC penny, belks, or khols too.
What can I do?
ehhh.
there's not much you CAN do at the moment.
is he flirting with you?
if he is, then if he went out with you, do you seriously think he would act any different? that's unfair to anyone -- no matter who he's going out with. so just watch yourself on that.
wait. nowdays, it seems like that's God's favorite word.
I have this friend, lets call him Bob. Bob is funny, nice, and has a good personality. Also, Bob is my friend and a boy. Sometimes I get mixed signs from him and mixed thoughts from me. In class Bob will turn around since he sits in front of me and he will just stare at me, for a long time too. I'll sit there looking at a book or whatever the class is doing and act like I dont see him, but then I look up and he keeps staring. Then, I'll say "What?" and he always says "Nothing". I always wonder, "what does nothing mean, because it must be something if you were just staring at me. Or sometimes Bob will turn around and just smile at me and I'll smile back. I dont like Bob as more than a friend, but then again I think I might. I feel like I'm positive I dont, but its like some little part of me does. I dont know what to do and I really want to know if Bob likes me as more than a friend. What other signs are there of guys liking you?
gah, this is exactly what i do.
haha, i think a guy likes me, so then i start to act like i like him when i honestly don't. so there's the answer the the first part of your question. =]
now, it sounds like he's at least somewhat interested in you or at least he thinks your hot or whatever.
here are some signs:
1. stares at you alot.
2. gets sort of mad when you talk or hang out with other guys.
3. gets mad of stupid things.
4. flirts ALOT.
5. tries -- & i mean REALLY tries-- to make you laugh.
6. tries to talk to you or start a conversation whenever they see you.
7. if his friends ask you if you like him.
8. if he tries to help you alot with stuff.
9. if he freaks out whenever your mad at him.
10. if he talks about you to other people.
Is it true that if a guy is staring at you and you look him in the eyes and his pupils are big or get big then he likes you as more than a friend ?
well, if a guy's just staring at you -- there's always a possibility of him liking you.
about the pupils though, i don't think that's true.
but i know that there IS something about like if someone's pupils go from big to small fast or something, it means that they are lying.
maybe whoever told you just got them mixed up or something.
My friend Daniela is not a saver and is very clean and neat. Her mother even tells friends and relatives; I have one daughter named Joanne that saves and one daughter named DANIELA that does NOT save. Last month Daniela brought home from work a menorah that is gorgeous and two months ago she brought home from work a jewelry box. HERE IS THE STORY: OK Yesterday, Daniela came home with a cover from a box of chocolate that really is a work of art. Daniela is going to frame it. So when Daniela came home last night she showed her mother the cover and her mother said; wow that is gorgeous; Her mother and she spoke about the cover and her mother said; Your coworkers are going to think you are a pack rat; Daniela said; why are you saying that; Her mother replied; because of the other times you brought things home; This bothered Daniela because Daniela is not a saver and neat. Daniela asked her friends; is my mom saying that she thinks I am a saver and a hoarder; HER friends said; No she is not saying that at all; MY QUESTION: DO you agree with Danielas friends?
does it honestly matter?
i mean, come ON. this question is completely pointless.
just like my "answer."
i'm sorry, but i needed to say something about this cause it was gettng annoying.
wait, do you have OCD? not in an offensive way, but my friend used be sort of like this & she had it. go to a doctorrrrrrr.
idk,
lately it seems like all guys are jerks. atleast all the "decent ones", and the ones you REALLY like, are way out of your league.
:S
um, this isn't even a question, so i'm not even going to give you advice.
i no you probably see 395839 of these questions a day but i need some helpp.
i really really like this guy and we have like 2 classes together. he recently just started coming over after school. well like 2wice. but my other friends are there. he acts like hes just a friend but i try flirting every way possible and idk if its working. my friends suck becuase they always cough when were together or theyre like *look at the love birds* and he doesnt even no i like him. i dont think. fhaipfadh i relle am soo confised because hes a sophmore and im a freshman and hes always like wow you freshman are gayy blah blah blahh...and he sits behind me in one class and is always playing with my chair ..kicking it.. and just like talking to me. welll anyways if your still reasing thiss HELPP because i dont no waht to do...what should i dooo!!?!?
yes, we do see 395839 questions like this a day, but we're used to it. & that's what this site is for -- advice.
what should you do?
stop freaking out.
"and he sits behind me in one class and is always playing with my chair ..kicking it.. and just like talking to me."
that right there would be flirting. =]
just wait till you kind of have more of an idea if he likes you, & either ask him out or don't.
heres the question.
HOW DO I BECOME POPULAR?
like how do i have tons of friends, people love me, and i look AMAZING (im pretty now, but at school im not at pretty because like, idk why. im just pretter at home. like i look like i came back from the ocean with like long wavy blonde hair and blue eyes and crapp) . i will rate good if you give a good answer. im talking like everything here. i wanna become popular with the GUYS and the GIRLS. so tell me anything you can so that i can become popularrr. =] oh and i wanna become popular FAST. but problem is i can be shy and when talking to someone popular, i tend to not act like myself.. like i'll get all weirdish and shy and not know what i should say like would they laugh if i did this or like think im weird. && i dont have many friends but i have a "shawdow" friend, like where they follow you around. im not saying that i dont have any friends at all, just like not many. lets say theres like THREE tops that i hang outside of school with or w.e. and the other people are just from other towns. one more thing (thanks for actually like reading this) but i feel like not as pretty when im with other girls who are pretty. even if im the most prettiest girl, i feel like ugly. idk. HELPP PAHLEASEE
okay, you posted this same thing a day or two ago.
most "popular" hate people who are obsessed with being "popular." just like anyone else, they can tell who's real & who's not, so chill out. if they think you're weird, they'll get over it. most of them probably KNOW that you're quiet, but they don't think you're weird.
most "popular" people have tons of enemies, tons of people who hate them, tons of drama, tons of fake friends, tons of backstabbing friends, & tons of people who talk about them behind your back. alot of them hate wannabe's, fakes, two-faced people, liars, backstabbers, people who talk shit about them, people who are suck ups, and sluts. so as long as you aren't any of those, then you're just fine the way you are. =]
I have this friend.. who i love being around. we do a lot of things outside of school together, and he always comes over, and we just have an understanding with eachother where we know exactly how we act.. i guess you could say we feel comfortable around eachother. secretly i fell in love.. at least i think. He is the most amazing person i have ever met. ive never seen him be mean to anyone and i think that attracts me most. last night i found out he had a girlfriend and i was just in complete shock.. that this has been going on for a couple weeks now.. and he never told me. i dont know what to feel or what to say. im heartbroken
"i am probably going to sound bitchy for saying this but it is true stop yourself from wallowing in self pity/ doubt."
you never said you were crying your eyes out over it, so wtf?
gahh, whatever.
anyways, don't give up on the friendship. i knew a guy once who had a girlfriend, but he liked me also. guys can like two girls at once, so you never know .. he might like you. i'm sure their relationship isn't even serious. my best friend has been going out with a kid for a year & they haven't even kissed.
don't get mad; guys don't like that (well, the ones that i know don't). just keep waiting. once they break up, you'll know. then he's all yours. =]
mkay.well im 15.my guy is 15 as well. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 5 months.(actually 7 months, but we broke up over the summer)I am honestly in love with him. and he really likes me as well, we just have a great relationship, we almost never fight. and when we do, like seriously in 5 minutes one of us is calling the other in tears to aplologize. so, i guess im saying that we have a great relationship. BUT. whenever where together, ALL he wants to do is makeout, and finger me, and go up my shirt. like seriously.at my house, the movies,the mall,school.i mean everywhere. we talk on the phone ALOT. in the month of january, we talked for a totaly of 1,658 minutes. most of it late into the night, usually 12:30 or later. im epileptic, so i really need my sleep. One of my problems is that i am SO embarassed about my epilepsy, i have so many great guy friends who care SO much. and are always right by my side when i have a seizure. but, im not sure how HE feels about it. he doesnt want to talk about it usually, but its not like he just doesnt care about me, and my epilepsy. BUt anyways my bigger probelem. whenever we talk on the phone, he ALWAYS wants me to masturbate while on the phone. ive done it more and more recently, i dont mind doing it once in a while, but honestly every night just isnt my cup of tea. and i feel a little uncomfortable. he also wants me to send him pictures of me doing things to myself.im really not up for that. ive already sent him like 4 pictures, but its just never enough, and he uses stupid excuses like "if you loved me" and "the other guys got to see it"(when i was in seventh grade, i got into a really uncomfortable sexual situation with older boys, and i told him about it, and now hes holding it against me) the other things he pressures me to do, is to give him a hand job and a blow job, and i REALLY dont want to, i mean i have never done that, and i just dont know how to. Am i too young for a serious relationship like this? Im not sure if im old and mature enough for this stuff, but i dont want to loose him, and he tells me that he will wait as long as he has to for me to get ready. but i feel really pressured. i DONT want to loose him,i mean i would be devastated. i have NEVER felt like this. am i too young? should i just let it go and wait until somebody else comes along later when im more mature? should i stay with him, and keep feeling pressured?i mean he doesnt pressure me, but i still feel rushed. i just HONESTLY need help. i would talk to my friends, but im in a group of realy goody goody friends, (im one too.lol)and im the only one who has ever had a real boyfriend, and so they think that making out is gross.
PLEASE HELP.
please and thank youss.
i was shaking my head about the guy the whole time i was reading this.
that guy = no good.
wanting you to send pictures of you doing things to yourself & then making you feel guilty when you don't do it because it makes you feel uncomfortable? that's not right.
trying to pressure you into things your not ready for? even worse. right now it's just those two things, but later it could be sex. & that...that it was more serious.
you need to get out of this relationship -- fast.
i'm extremely proud of you though for not letting him pressure you into those things. most people now days aren't mature enough to handle what you boyfriend's done.
I have been looking for the perfect man for some time now. I am in 7th grade. I have been checking out some guys, but i am afraid they won't go for me, although there is one, but i don't know his name, he is cute, but not over-the-top cute. the big valentines dance is coming up. how do i get the boys to notice me?
god, people below me .. shut up.
jesus.
okay, maybe try & wear something you feel comfortable in, but look really good in. it'll make you more confident. a guy can always tell if a girl is confident or not, so confidence is very important.
flirt. flirt. flirt. hah, flirt like crazy & you'll at least get one guy. =]
try & be more talkative.
just have funnnnn.
My dad and I don't have a good relationship. I only see him at family gatherings and we greet each other and say bye when the time comes and that's about it. He helped make my life difficult when I was younger and I don't approve of his actions. He never makes a move to talk or anything and he doesn't even call me on my birthday or anything. I want to make the relationship better though. Even though it's far away, I want him to walk me down the aisle and with the relationship we have now, it isn't going to happen in the future. I am at a loss with this one, so any advice is welcomed :)
mm, what a coincidence.
if there's something i've learned in my life, it's that you can't change people. i've tried to change my dad practically my whole life (since i was six) and i've finally given up. you can't change someone unless they are willing to be changed.
do you believe in God? if you do, there's only one simple thing TO do, which is pray. that's all you can do & God will answer your prayer in his own time.
good luck! =]