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Q: When my gf and I are "fooling around" I really love softly rubbing her chest. It doesn't seem like she gets any enjoyment from it though.

Do girls get any pleasre from getting their "boobs" played with? Or is it simply a guy thing?

Kind of sort of. All girls are different. Playing with a girls "boobs" won't lead to an orgasm or anything of that nature, but it brings a little pleasure.

Q: i have masturbated alot but i can only go in 5 1/2 inches.is my hymne stoping me from going ant farther?is it normal?is ther anything i can do to get more in?

thanxxx
13/f

If your hymen is stopping you, it's obviously not popped. You can break your hymen by having sex, but I don't advise that since you're only 13.

Q: Do girl prefer it when a guy doesn't show his boxers..or does (but not in that oh-my-god-half my-arse-is-hanging-out way). and do girls prefer designer or not *-).

Edit- No reason for the 3, I answered your question just as everyone else did.

Showing your boxers is tacky and pointless. Personally, I don't prefer any designer stuff but the majority of girls do.

Q: i really want to shave my dog but my mom wont let me. i already dyed her tail blonde and got in trouble but i cant help it, i really want to shave her.

Alright.

Q: When I go to the mall or movies with my guy friend he always holds the first door open. But my question is if there is a second set of doors should I just wait for him to open those too, or should I just open them myself?

If there's a second door, open it yourself.

Q: so i'm going to college next year and i currently have a fairly new toshiba laptop with windows...i was wondering if a mac would be better for college? i know they're better with graphics and such and i can use both but i've been using a pc longer. are there any college students who have an opinion on this?
please no answers from 13 year olds

I'm not in college, but I use my laptop alot for highschool. I have a mac, and I absolutley love it.

However, if you've never used a mac, i'd stick with a pc. If you're used to a pc, using a mac is like learning how to walk again.

Q: Im 15/f and havent done anything sexually. i was wondering if i should be shaving? I have and it hurts really bad and leaves red bumps. Any suggestions? I dont know what guys are into. Should I even be shaving or does it matter? THANKS!

If you aren't having sex, nobody is seeing it, so there's no need to shave unless you feel uncomfortable or unclean. If you're going to the beach or something just shave along the bikini line and put dove deoderant over the area to avoid red bumps.

Q: how do you make holes in your jeans
do you just cut them or what? ;/

If you cut them with plain scissors, they'll look tacky. Cut a tiny hole and literally rip them, it'll look more "realistic". Also rub sandpaper or something scratchy around the area.

Q: well on this site i answered a persons question and even elaborated on it and they gave me a 2 what is that?

The person is an immature bitch and you probably didn't tell them what they wanted to hear so they had a hissy fit about it like a child.

Q: Okay, so I shave down there, and I'm a girl..I ALWAYS ALWAYS get razor burn. You know, the little red bumpy things? It's SO ANNOYING! How the HELL do you get them from comeing back? It's driving me nuts, and I'm really self concience about it. PLEASE HELP! ANYTHING!

After you're done shaving, put Dove deoderant on where you usually get razor burn. It helps.

Q: ok so i like have dark hair on my arms, and it really pisses me off and like makes me hate my body is there anything i can do about them?and im not hsaving my arms by the way

Yeah, definitly don't shave your arms. That's probably the most ridiculous things i've ever heard of anyone doing.

I have dark arm hair too, it doesn't bother me much though because I have olive undertones to my skin.

Try bleaching the hair, you can buy commercial hair bleach or you can get it done professionally for a higher cost. Don't use nair or veet or anything like that.

Q: I have no idea what to do for my 16th birthday.. any ideas?

Two words.

Hotel party.

Q: Can you take your boyfriend into the room when u go to the Gyno?

Why would you want to? Why would he want to? Regardless, you're allowed to bring in whoever you want.

Q: i have a blood clotting disorder and i want to get my tounge piersed.

my mom said i could be a issue
but were not docters!

and i cant check with a real docter cause my mom said shes not letting me get it piersed just yet untill im older (she thinks it looks tackey) and so i just would like to know about body piersings and how it will effect me.
i personally dont think something as little as a piersing will make a serious issue.

can a body piersing be harmful least i have a blood clotting disorder? ( the only piersing ive gotten is my ears (2ce) and attempted my belly button but it got infected badly)

I have a blood clotting disorder too, Von Willebrand's.

Yes, a piercing, especially a tongue (it's a blood sponge!) is dangerous. When you decide to pierce it, go to the doctor, a hematologist, and get stymate or whatever medicine you need for whatever disorder you have (I get powdered VB factor) and PRE MEDICATE before you go, and 5 days after. Also make sure you tell the piercer so they're prepared.

Q: My boyfriend was over today, and he fingered me. It hurt, but felt good at the same time. He dropped me off at my house at like 1 because he had a thing to go to with his family. I went to the bathroom, and I was bleeding. I knew he broke my hymen, so I just went about my day. Well, it's well over 10 hours later, and I'm still bleeding. I know it's not my period because my period shouldn't be here for another 10-14 days, and I don't have any cramps. So, how long am I gonna bleed for? Because I'm sick of going to the bathroom & finding blood. Ugh.

Unless the blood is constantly gushing, I think you're fine. Since it's only been a day, there isn't anything to worry about. However, if it's still bleeding in a few days, you should see a gynocologist (as humiliating as it is). Or if you're worried about your parents ask a health teacher or a friend.

Q: i want to get a stuf in my nose, does getting your nose pierced hurt? please people who have it, tell me honestly

No, it doesn't hurt. But the aftermath of it does. Swolen and sore for a while.

Q: Ok I was wondering what are some easy ways to get rid of a hangover QUIK! I drink, and I need some answers ASAP!!!

Have another drink.

Q: Should you use hot or cold water to wash your face. I heard one of them was better than the other.

Warm, not hot. If the water is too hot it will cause your skin to dry out, and nobody wants that.

Q: OK i need all of your opinions! i have to write a story, and i'm deciding between two plots. I need as many opinions as possible please! thanks
1. about a girl, 15 or so, her mother died when she was very young, over the summer she is in a store and meets a woman in her 30's, 40's, the woman tells her about a place up the mountain where she is landscaping this whole big beautiful garden like thing. The woman offers to teach her to garden in return for the girl helping out. they start to do that and become friend. All the while the younger girl is kind of seeing this woman as a mother figure even though the woman isn't doing anything motherly, they're just friends. In the end, she puts too much trust in the woman, and is disapointed because the woman like goes away without telling her or something else bad that she knows a "mother" wouldn't do. And it's basically about that, just how when people want something so badly they see things that aren't really there. She wanted a motherly so desperately that she clung to anyone and was let down.

2. a girl in ny city, her mother dies and she finds an adress of a family member(she doesn't know any of her relatives) they live down south so she goes there to find them. She finds out that her "mother" is actually her aunt her took her away when her mother went crazy. So it's about her learning about the south and meeting family and getting to know her mom.

which should i do? i'm better at descriptions than big exciting course of events. which one is more original and crative, and what should i do? does the first one seem like boring, like it's been done before and is too disney, cliche, boring?

PLEASE HELP ME DECIDE

I really want it to be well written

The first one. If you're a good writer. If you aren't that great of a writer, go with the second one.

I personally choose the first one because it has potential to portray alot of emotion and whatnot. The second one is interesting, but it would be hard to organize on paper.

Q: i wash my face once a day with proactive. it works pretty good except for a few blemishes here and there. i use to have the worst acne about a year ago and it left my face, scar-ed, fish scaly, and oily :(

i dont know what to do! i can't wash my face in the morning before i go out because it leave my face dryer than ever! but i have a realy problem because my face then get's really oily thought out the day! it's so bad it takes my make-up off! what can i do! i've tried so many different lotions but everything just dried out my face even more!

is there anything out there i can do! i powder my face every liek 2 hours and still nothing works! please help me. if it helps, i recentyl started tanning. thanks

Wow. I read this and thought I asked it.
Same situation, same bad acne a year ago, same skin type, everything. I used proactiv and absolutley couldn't wash my face in the morning. My makeup came off halfway through the day. On weekends I could only do something during the day or at night because I couldn't wash my face and re-apply my makeup without getting an oily mess of fish scales.

Stop using proactiv. Go to the dermatologist and ask for a sulfur-based face wash. Also, use neutrogena moisturizer. I promise you, it worked for me, it'll work for you. After a week everything should be fine. I just started using it. I wash my face in the morning, at night, and in the late afternoon if I want to re-apply my makeup. Foundation stays on nearly all day.