I'm a third year psychology student and i love giving advice to those who are in need of it but if you ask me a stupid question you should expect a stupid answer i love hanging out with friends and socialising i can be really conceited at times and if you get on my bad side you might wanna sleep with an eye open!
Altogether I would say that I am still finding myself and my place in this huge world, searching for the great amor and visiting beautiful places
so guys feel free to ask me anything that's on your mind and I will try to give you the most helpful advice
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in 2007 my husband was sot and killed in front of my 3boys in that same year my mother lost her life on my birthday in one year ive lost everything my childeren , my life. i think of offing myself daily. the aunt that has my boys refuse to even let them see me. im alone an scared i need advice on how to dig myself out of this hole before its to late (link)
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the aunt just doesn't want to let you see the boys because she probabaly just thinks that you're unstable i understand this is really tough on you because you've been through a lot maybe you should take someone else to this aunt and let them speak to her and make her understand how hard it is for you but i personally think that you should sought legal advice about this because it could impact your life dramatically and interfere with your mental wellbeing in the meantime try to find ways to occupy yourself just remember that this is not your fault and i'm sure everything will work out for the best
best of luck
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OK sorry if its long.OK so i was at band camp the last few day.And we were trying to get my ex to ask out my friends.Well that backfired when he told my friend he was gonna ask me out.Then i was sitting on the couches with one of my crushes he said "so do you wanna go out with"then my ex runs up and says "watcha guys doin" Then while at the fundraiser my other crush kept taking my flag playing around begging me to play cymbols so i could stand next to him.So I am really confused who likes me?Who is gonna ask first?How do i let some down gentle,but wait for the right one to ask?
THNX IN ADVANCE
TINK2359 (link)
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okay so it all really depends on who you like more, has it ever occured to you that maybe your ex just said that because he didn't wanna go out with your friend and said it so she'd leave him alone? but i can't say because i don't know him personally so whoever asks you out first and who really takes an interest is the one you should go for
best of luck
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I live with my bf of 2 yrs and i am 8 months pregnant. He has totally ignored me for the past few months. He does not help me or has bought the baby anything. I feel so sad I do not know how to fix the problem. He wanted a baby and begged me for one. Now that he is acting like this I am so mad. I wish I could fix this problem. I am 30 and he is 39. I thought with his age he would be more mature. I do not know if I should stay and somehow fix the problem or just leave him. (link)
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guys often tend to get like that when girls are pregnant but just wait until th baby comes along he will immediately fall in love with the child it probably just hasn't really sunken in yet that he's going to be a dad just speak to him about you two doing something fun in the meanwhile because once the baby is here you will have no time for each other
good luck
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i am 11 yeas old and i asked this guy named branden to go out and hi sed hed think obout it and my bff shelby caled him later that day and asked him if thay can go out an he sed yes to her what shuld i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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well this means he just didn't want to go out with you for some crazy reason and just wanted your friend i get that you like him but it would be best that you forget about him and if he asks you out in future please do yourself a favour and say no because he will just make it seem like he can have you both
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hello im a 17 male and today was me n my girlfriends 6 month aniversery and i was going to go hang out with her but instead i went and hung out with my friend and i met this other girl and i ended up cheating on my girlfriend not anything serious just a few kisses but now i like this other girl alot and confused about what to do and who to go with (link)
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well the fact that you cheated on your girlfriend on your anniversary shows that you are probably bored i understand it happens but you should probably break things off with your girlfriend because it seems like you're not serious and will probably do it again so save you both the trouble and end things now just be sure to let her know it's not her fault
good luck
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I know this will sound crazy but what are good tips for giving a lap dance (link)
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haha as you probably know guys love hips and your butt let your back face him and put his hands on your hips while moving side to side slowly going down but sexy of course then kind off sit on him while rubbing like dry humping and do a sexy dance damn this is really hard to explain on a computer
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Me and this guy Gio were messing around in March, We stopped talking because his sisters a physco bitch and didn't want me talking to him, and my mom was going crazy about his age because he was 19 and I was 13.
So we dated other people he was gonna mary this girl, but he went to jail and just got out like a month ago, And now they broke up. And i got really drunk one night and wanted to see him so my friends boyfriend called him. he came and we kicked it and we had sex. He wanted to see me again so we kicked it again that thursday. Then Saturday i went to a party with him and i was kinda being a bitch to him because his ex girlfriend was there, the one he was gonna mary. They were in the kitchen talking and it looked like he wanted her, So i was pissed then he tried talking to me, and i kept ignoring him!
So we talked on myspace like 2 days later and he told me i was ignoring him hella so he went to the next, and we just kept talking and i told him i wanted to kick it, and he told me to call him when i wanna kick it, so i said okay, i called his phone last friday and his friend answered [My ex] and he started talking to me asking me to go kick it with him and stuff, i said wheres Gio and he said right here, and he told me who was there, and Gios ex was there. And i could hear gio and her fighting in the background, so i hung up. And i accidently deleted Gio off my myspace so i added him and he hasn't approved me, and he hasnt denied me. I just don't know what to do.
I feel like i should send him a message telling him how i feel, but at the same time i feel like i shouldn't because what if he doesn't feel the same way. i just wanna know where we stand.
Helppp? (link)
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from my personal opinion i actually do think that he is a bit too old for you and i know you probably hear all the time that older guys just use you and the worst part is that it is true and what's he doing hanging about with his ex anyways guys will say any damn thing to get what they want i actually think that you should try to forget about him there are plenty of guys out there and you will find your perfect one remember nothing happens overnight all im trying to say is that this guy is just using you and he kinda sounds like trouble and if your mom had to find out agin this would just tear her so do yourself a favour and forget about him trust me it will benefit you in the long run
good luck
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okay. so i have really hairy arms. i am a girl and its embarrassing. everyone always makes fun of me and tells me to shave it. i really want to but i dont want to make it seem like im "bieng bullied" and "giving in" and listening to them. or even making it seem like i care so much. (im trtying to make it seem like i dont care". the answer is probly going to be "hey. u should just be confident in yourself..blah blah blah" but i would like a rlly answer. is putting alittle bit of nair on my arms going to take off only a little bit of hair so its not like "naked"? also i have a crush and i think he likes me too but i know for a fact he doesnt like my arm hair. okay thanx for listening bye. (link)
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i think you probably know yourself that you should should shave it off and even if they do have something to say it would just be for a little while atleast you know that after you do it they would have nothing more to tease you about so go ahead its only normal and everybody gets under arm hair
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I finished my period on a Wednesday.
That Saturday night I made out with a boy which led to dry humping. He had taken off my underwear but was still wearing his jeans.
I've been discharging alot (its thick and gooey).
did sperm enter my vagina?
can i get pregnant? (link)
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no if he was still wearing his jeans then nothing can seap through it and don't worry about the discharge it's normal don't worry you're fine
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I'm 20/f almost 21 and I'm only a size 32 a.. what is wrong? Why havnt my boobs grown? (link)
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i understand because i am actually facing the same problem as you and quite frankly i don't think we're gonna get any bigger so i guess we gotta make do with what we have
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So, I was at my boyfriends place the other day and I decided to look through his computer's history (yes..I realize bad idea, but this is not the issue here). So basically..he just looks through a LOT of other girl's pictures. Like pretty girls..slutty pictures..etc. every single day. and it's not like they are his friends in real life, it's like the people that youre friends with on facebook that you havent talked to in years. So..when I asked him about it, he half apologized and said that he does feel bad when he does it.
So my question is..do I have a right to be upset? jealous?
I admit, he is allowed to look. We all look at a cute guy/girl walking by us. But when you're on facebook, it's like you're actively looking for a cute person to check out. It just hurt my feelings and I don't look at other guys pictures on facebook. and there's nothing I can do about it and i'm sure he'll keep doing it.
does it mean he's getting over me? or that he doesnt find me attractive anymore and is looking for a new girl?
Thanks (link)
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yes you do have a right to feel jealous i mean any girl would but the reality is that all boys do it and theres nothing we can really do to stop them hes not growing tired of you its just boy nature to check out other girls so try not to feel to upset joke around with him talk about how sexy some girl is he'll know that you're cool with it and brag about what a cool girlfriend you are and you two will get closer
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School starts back on monday and yesterday I started getting a sore throat after classes. I hate when I get a sore throat because then I dont feel like talking and then I get this weird scratchy voice sometimes. I hate it with a passion. Is there a way I can do something and get rid of my sore throat quickly before school on monday? thanks (link)
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pour about a quarter cup of warm water and add a teaspoon off cinnamon powder with two teaspoons honey and a few drops of lemon juice tnis always helps me drink twice a day before school lemme know if it helps
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I met this girl this year and we're becoming decent friends. She's black and I'm not which is no big deal. I just have a question. I never thought of it but I know black people usually have like tight curly hair. How do black people get their hair straight? Because she has straight hair. I dont want to offend her and ask her. I know its none my business but I'm curious. Really curious. How do they do it? (link)
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well she probably has hair extensions but if she doesn't i guess they use this relaxer which untangles the hair and gets its straight
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Me- 19/f
Him- 21/f
How do I get a guy to stop seeing me as a friend? If it helps, I've known him a few weeks and we've hung out once, but he constantly makes it clear that we're just friends. I don't think the problem is me, as he's mentioned multiple times that he thinks I'm hot/pretty, would make a great girlfriend, etc. Is there anything I can do? (link)
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i understand exactly what you're going through because at the moment i'm going through the very same thing but if he made it clear to you that you guys are just friends then maybe you should stick to just being friends or if that won't do then try to do something pretty with your hair, get a new outfit or something like that and make him notice how attractive you really are try being sexy around him flirt once in a while and if he responds to this and shows you signs that he has feelings for you then thats your chance to tell him how you feel
good luck:)
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I did something really stupid. I was talking to my ex online, and he was trying to make me mad, and it worked. So I said "you're a dead man". He said he was going to the police. I told him I didn't mean it, and he knows I didn't. I was just mad. Can I still get in trouble for it if I told him I didn't mean it, and does anyone have an idea of how much jail time I can get if he does turn it in? (link)
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not really any jail time you can easily justify yourself considering that it was a metaphor and your ex was probably just saying that to make you afraid and anyways even if he did take it serious do you really think he would put his pride aside and tell people that a girl threatened him? pretty stupid guy if he does
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My husband forgot to log off his gmail account. I found out that he signed up for "citysex.com" and amateurmatch.com". When I confronted him, he told me it was a stupid mistake and he was just playing around. I'm so confused, because our relationship has been so harmonious (physically & emotionally" and can't understand why he would sign up for something like that. Please help (link)
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you say that you two are harmonious which would mean that you trust each other so it would be easy for you to talk to him about it try to be understanding about it and the truth will come out men in relationships often tend to get bored so they turn to these websites for excitement so hows about you do something to spice up your relationship thism will help a lot i'm sure he wants that every man does but doesn't really know how to ask you but don't worry about those websites most men do it doesn't really mean anything
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on the inside, i am an insecure person. people who really truly know me know that, many do not. i am constantly saying negative things about myself. people think that im doing it to get positive feedback and responses. to me, ive always put myself down since i can remember. the only reason i do it is because it makes me feel comfortable to point out my flaws before someone else has time to criticize them. how can i try to control myself from saying these things. its basically a reflex at this point. and i have been working on my insecurities over the years, and although they have dwindled, when it comes down to it, i am just a self conscious person at my core. basically, i just need some advice. how do i stop myself from criticizing myself openly? how can i ever really like myself? thanks (link)
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personally i think that this is just a phase that you are going through and with time it will pass but lets try and speed up the process start by getting a new haircut or try buying some new clothes put a little make up on this will help boost your confidence you know "look good feel good" or maybe you can tell your friends to help give you a mini make over just so that you can feel good about yourself trust me by looking good on the outside you will feel great on the inside and you will feel really confident
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19/f. i can't believe im sitting here complaining about this. but anyways i was friends with a girl. let's call her Jane. Jane and i worked together, and we had a math class semester. we hung out for a while and i told her a few embarrassing secrets about me. Well anyways she was rude to me sometimes and i was too and it kind of hurt so i told her and she said she was joking and she didn't mean to hurt me. well anyways Jane and i spent two weekends in a row. then she had to go to San Antonio so we didn't hangout that weekend. the next weekend i asked her if she wanted to hangout but she said her mom took her phone, so i said okay. Then i got a text from her phone saying why don't you go to Dairy Queen and buy a hamburger. And i had told her about this boy i met there and went on a date with and we hooked up, and then she started talking to him on facebook because she wanted to see who he was, so i was like fine, and she became friends with him. and that text was a reference to me being skinny obviously. I asked her about that text and she told me that Fred did it. She said he took her phone and was texting people. I was mad but then i got over it. I felt stupid though for telling her my secrets. then i asked her like maybe a few weeks later if she wanted to hangout and she said she doesn't know what she's doing. but then i saw her facebook status and some girl asked her if she wanted to hangout on Friday and she said yes. now i had a problem with this for a while but then i said whatever they're other people out there and we hung out a lot anyways. so Jane has this gay friend she hung out with a lot. At school he saw me and said oh hey your Jane's friend and i was like yeah and felt awkward, because i hadn't talked to them in so long, and i was mad because i remembered that text he sent. I wasn't sure if it was him, but anyways today Fred saw me again and Jane was with him and he said really loudly hey Jane look it's your best friend and she turned around and i was like hey and i felt weird and Jane just started laughing in my face. and i was so embarrassed i walked away and she was like um okay? and i heard her saying something but fred was like shh. so i don't know what her problem is. i mean i hadn't seen her in so long and when she saw me she was so rude. i mean she had no reason to be. so why would she do that? i mean she had no reason what so ever. (link)
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well its obvious that jane is telling all your secrets to her other friends and quite frankly i hate to say it but she takes you for a joke because if she laughs with fred in your face i wouldn't really call that a friend try to stay away from her just ignore her and if doesn't help then its best that you give her a piece of your mind some people are as cruel as her but don't worry every dog has it's day
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I haven't had my first period yet and I'll be 14 in early october. Sometimes I have cramps but they only last about. 30sec-1 min and sometimes if I fart they go away. What is this? Also my nipples Itch sometimes. I wear a 36a right now. And I have pubic hair and underarm hair and have had it for like a year... What do you think my cramps are? Are they related to my period? And my nipples ithing? (link)
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im not sure but if its time for you to get your first period you will see vaginal discharge which is a clear jelly like substance about two weeks after that you will have your period
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Hi 8)
ok i have a huge problem and its been on my mind for ages basically theres this boy i really like but he doesnt know me. he doesnt even know i exist. i see him sometimes but he hasnt ever seen me. ive had a crush on him for 5 and a half years now and i really want to meet him i hardly ever see him now only sometimes, and im always with parents when i do see him. i think im in love please help i need to find a way to speak to him, hes been on my mind a lot lately and i cant eat, think or study please help
thanks everyone in advance (im 19)
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wow five years that definatelY means something so since you cant meet him because of your mum why dont you ask one of your friends to get his number for you and then you can phone him and make a plan but dont mention that you like him for quite some time now you know how guys are he'll think that you're stalking him
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