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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.

if you drop one in my inbox, please try to be as detailed as possible (like your age & gender) so i can be as helpful as possible :D

advice

I`m going to be asking this guy that I like out tomorrow or sometime soon, whenever I see him next. I want to look cute / sweet / pretty, you get what i mean. But I dont want to look to sluty or anything! what should i wear? p.s im pale so sometimes i dont like wearing skirts but i kno its summer so yeah..

any suggestions?

Nice tight jeans (maybe your fav pair) and a really cute, sequin or halter top. Sandals/heels or a cute pair of shoes. This combination works so well together! Try to go for a bright top, and not something plain. Try a shirt that has something on it, like buttons or a design or sequins. It IS summer so make sure its a top you won't be hot in!

p.s. pale skin is sexy! compliment your skin tone with jewelry that matches your outfit.

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Im going to lose my virginity this Saturday and Im very scared and nervous. I really wish I was prepared but Im not. I really am ready though. I just wanted some advice from ppl who already lost the Big V. Or maybe some websites telling what it's like. I know the skin hurts when it breaks but I dont know what it's like to have a guy "In There". U kno,,, with a condom. I really don't want to make a big fool of myself. Thanx.

Believe me, I know about sex. If you're asking this question here, obviously you aren't quite ready. It's great that you asked about it which shows you're mature. It seems like you've been going back & forth on the issue and I seriously suggest you think real hard about it before you do it. No matter what anyone says, losing your virginity is important and should involve 2 very in love individuals.

If you disreguard what I say which is fine because it is your life and decide to have sex, you can't really explain it. It does hurt and you will be uncomfortable but so will he. First times aren't all that magical, bliss stuff you see on movies. Your first time is special, yes, but it's a learning experience. When you're actually engaging in sex, you won't be worrying if you're doing it right because there's no real "wrong" thing to do. It's your first time! Relax and have a long, serious talk with whoever you are planning to do it with. Make sure you're both on the same page.

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in our state we have to be 16 to get your permit..and im 16 and i didnt get it yet. because my parents think 16 is too young and my sister wreck her car in 3 hours of having her liscense at 18 and my other sister hit the neighbors car 3 days after at 18..so now they dont trust me even more..and i know about 7 people who are 16 and have their permits and my friend just turned 16 yesterday and got her permit. and going out driving today..and its annoying me because everyone always asks why i dont have my permit or why i cant drive till 18..and they cant understand that every parent has different rules.

Don't let your friends bring you down. All you have to say is "My parents are really strict when it comes to driving and getting my permit". Even if you want to, mention how your sisters messed up - "Well, I probably would be able to get it if both my sisters didn't get into accidents and my parents think I'll do it too!" They can't say anything to that. I didn't get my permit until I was 17 and then didn't get my license until 18. The permit test is hard too! Spend time studying the book until you're allowed. Just remember you aren't the only one who has to obey parents' strict rules about driving.

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why do people make out for so long? like i can see why only a few minutes, but some people make out for 15 minutes, and i want to know why?

Making out is possibly one of the best feelings in the world. When you're actually doing it with someone you really like, time literally FLIES by. 15 minutes seems like 15 seconds! I even heard making out (if its with 2 very involved people) can feel better than sex...weird, yeah.

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what are the chances that you already broke your hymen? from using tampons, going horseback riding and that sort of stuff, not doing sexual things.

Well, there are definitely chances. Tampons and/or horseback riding could do it, and even masturbating. This doesn't mean you're not a virgin though.

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i don't really think this is in the right category, but anyways,
when i put soap or acne wash on my face, should i wash it off as soon as i put it on, or leave it on for a little while to get into my skin?

thanks in advance.

When you're in the shower or just washing your face, you should leave it soak on your face for no more than 10 seconds and then rinse it off. Don't scrub too hard or use a washcloth daily and you'll be fine.

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Everytime I take a shower, I end up losing a lot of hair for some reason. Like when I'm washing my hair and I run my fingers through it, I get a lot of hair falling out. Even when I brush my hair after the shower I still lose a lot. And I use a Garneir conditioner and it makes my hair soft and so its not like its tangly and I'm pulling hair out... it just comes out when I brush it... why does it do that?

Don't worry about this at all. You're actually supposed to lose hair every day. When I shampoo & condition, it does the same thing when I wash it out & even when I brush it. There's no reason to think somethings wrong! Make sure you get atleast a wash & trim at a hair cuttery every few months or so.

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If a pregnant woman is killed, it's considered a double homicide then why are abortions looked upon differently? I've heard things like when a pregnant woman is killed, it wasn't her choice but it is her choice in the case of an abortion. But, she isn't killing herself when it comes to abortions; she's doing it to another, developing human being. So that just doesn't make sense to me.

Abortion is not murder. Abortion occurs around the first 3 months of pregnancy. It's not even a living, breathing baby yet. It is a fetus, which is not alive. After 4 months, it becomes a living, breathing, developing human being. The double homicide thing is understandable, since was no choice in the matter for the mother.

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I need some good sites that i can find music to put it my myspace profile... im kinda accually looking for a certian song.... "Slipped Away" by Avril Lavigne... it doesnt have to be the music video just the song.... its not in myspace music i alrealy looked... please help

acousticspot.com
its great, with almost ALL artists ever with almost ALL their songs. you'll find it!

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does anyone have any good things i could talk about with my boyfriend...we're both shy so its always quiet! i rate high!
13/f

~thanks~

well, since summer is around the corner ask about that. ask what he usually does in the summer and what he's planning for it.. ask about what he thinks his final grades will be.. ask about his family.. you know! just be yourself and don't force a conversation, it'll happen.

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sorry if its under the wrong category, but i need a little clarification on the dating bases. i have an idea but i want to know each one specificly. like first is make out and im unsure about 2nd and 3rd. so help me out. thanks in advance!

yep, 1st is making out. 2nd could either be getting felt up & getting fingered. Alot of people have different ideas of that base.
3rd is also like that with getting fingered or giving/receiving head. You can decide on what you want to put them under!
Homerun, of course, is sex.

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i keep trying to make my boyfriend jelous is this normal?

It's normal, but not a good idea.
He'll start to get very annoyed and it'll be very noticeable what you're trying to do. A little jealousy never hurt, but you should stop doing it so much.

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I want to know if guys like easy girls better? Or if they like the challenge. Anyone who knows anything about that Help me! Tell me in details if you can.

a teenage guy would probably give a truthful answer, but i know from experience guys like a challenge. believe me, if you give it up (that goes for anything sexual) right from the start, he will not respect you & there's nothing to look forward to. build up the anticipation, build your relationship and trust before you do anything. guys love working for it because once they do get it, they feel like they accomplished something huge and he'll respect that you made him wait. on top of all that, you'll feel better about yourself and not regret it!

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Anyone know any good summer reads. Everything I usually read is depressing. Like someone usually dies. I'd like suggestions of books that are funny and enjoyable to read. Even Harry Potter depresses me although I do love all the books. Maybe even books I can relate to. You know being a teenager and typical teenage problems. I'll rate anyone who gives any names

Hm, there's many of them. "Define Normal" is a good one, not really depressing. "Catcher In The Rye" is an amazing book, even though it is about a depressed boy, it's pretty funny. Anything by Stephen King is sure to be good. My favorite author is Sarah Dessen, so any book by her will be an addictive read.

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well you see i am soooooo guilty of what i have done i well... looked at porn all different kinds and i feel so guilty should i like bow down to my parents and like tell tem or shoul i live with it? I'm going on a trip in like a couple weeks and i dont think its going to be any fun being guilty. but i realized if i tell them i might not get to go on the trip!!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!

It's totally, absolutely normal to look at porn. It's even normal to like it! Do NOT feel guilty about it, it's nothing bad at all. You were curious and wanted to see, there's no shame in that whatsoever. Don't worry and have fun on your trip :)

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I'm 16/f catholic; and I masturbate. Is masturbating a form of lust, thereby making it unacceptable against the commandments? I was just wondering, as I found that I'm virtually addicted, and although it is healthy, I want to know whether it is morally wrong for me.

Cheers. I rate high

I'm sorry, but what's WRONG with bringing pleasure to yourself? Being happy/pleasured is a SIN? I'm not religious at all, but come on! No one should tell you not to do it or even tell you it's wrong. You do what makes you happy, and even better if you think about someone you like while doing it.

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I'm 15/f... There is this guy that i have been "talking" to (Grant) for about 2 months and he keeps telling everyone that he's going to ask me out but never does it. And then there is this guy in my Biology class (Todd) that is totally cute and nice and seems pretty interrested in me (ex. always walks me to lunch, always telling the teacher he is helping me just so he can talk to me, always making excuses to go and sit with my study group (all boys and me)) so should i just give up on Grant and move to Todd? please help...

Alix

If Grant's not stepping up, then maybe go for Todd. You're wasting time on someone who is not making the move, when you could be spending time with Todd. If you feel like you still want to wait around for Grant, that's okay. You're young and should be free to flirt and have fun. Don't stress over guys, let them stress over you!

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okay..well there is this kid that had liked me for three years but like i always thought of him as just a really good friend,and i never relized how much i was breaking his heart. This year he hates me now cause he said he didnt want to get hurt anymore and now hes friends with all the people i hate...the thing is im starting to really like him now but its to late. I also just got dumped by my boyfriend but i want to tell the other guy how i feel and i dont know how to tell him and i dont know when to without looking like a girl that goes from guy to guy.

Okay, well you have to talk to him alone. Make sure you don't have your friends around and he doesn't have his. (It never works out when friends are involved) Explain to him you made a mistake and you never meant to hurt him. Ask him if you guys can start fresh, and if he's a good guy, he'll understand and things will be fine. Work up from friends though, unless he says something about being more. I hope everything works out for you!

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My bestfriend is 21. She is pregnant and does not want to keep the child because she cannot support it. She wants to have an abbortion. I have mixed feelings about it, but it's her life. I don't know how I can help her..because I'm still in highschool and don't have a job where I can lend her some money. But she's lent my cousin a LOT of money because he needed help, but he can't pay herback, for other reasons. I don't know how I can help her. And she can't tell her Mom because her Mom will kick her out of the house, and then she won't have any place to live & a child.

I'm scared for her.

Any Advice??...

- If you have opinions on abortions, I don't really want to get into the subject. So thank you anyways.


Thank you

I'm pro-choice, so actually I just want to point out it's not 'murder'. Puh-lease, abortions ONLY take place before you even show and it's not even a baby yet, it's an embryo = not alive yet. Anyway, you could talk to your parents about it or maybe she can talk to someone at a clinic or planned parenthood, they're always helpful there. Just make sure you're there for her no matter what, she needs your support. Good luck with you & her xo

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hi, my name's kelli. I just got this new bf ryan right? And well people at my school think i like this kid mitchell cuz i sed he was cute and i'm scared that since people think i like him they're gonna call me a slut because i got a boyfriend. I don't know what to do if they call me it. Please give me some advice on this. It would really help.

Ok, no one has any right to call you a slut. You're not going around hooking up with every guy. You have a boyfriend and you said one boy was cute. That is perfectly fine! If anyone does call you that, tell him they just have no idea what they're talking about cause obviously you're not. You're young - have fun & flirt hun, dont worry what anyone thinks of you! hope i helped xo

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