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Hello,
I was just wondering if anyone has experienced having a friends husband attracted to you? See, there are all kinds of websites that tell you the signs of flirting or how to know if someone likes you, but, can anyone tell me what the signs are if your friends husband is flirting? Because they have to be more discreet about it if they are interested in you. I just need to know. I will rate high for serious answers. Thankyou. (link)
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If he is flirting with you, then you'll know. Since you suspect it, then I would guess that he probably is. My advice would be to back off on your friendliness so he gets the picture that you aren't enjoying the flirting (it may be completely harmless after all, and no need for a confrontation)and he will stop the behavior. Otherwise, he'll think you are into it and continue, and depending on how much of a dengenerate human being he is, he might try to take it further.
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My parents have been divorced since i was a baby & i am know 16teen!I went 14teen years with out saying anything cause nobody cares.I had a teacher for the last two years & she forced me to talk to her then the last week of school it got really bad & she said to me that i put her in a bad spot!It hurt cause i thought i could trust her!My sisters are 11 & 9 years older than me so they think i should be over it by know but it has just really been driving me crazy the last couple of years!My dad got caught with the woman is still dating & its just really hard for me 2 like her cause i was only 3 days old when they were caught & my stepdad & me are always getting into then it cause problems with me & my mom!My grandma is really sick so my mom is really stressed out about her so i get yelled at for everything!Then my dad has the nerve to ask me if i feel like he a banded me.Then i got stupid asthma from his side of the family & everyone thinks i fake having asthma attacks!I am the baby & nobody wants to let go & let me do things my friends do or listen to music thats not country!Being the baby sucks cause you can`t do the anything they did when they were my age!I just don`t know what to do anymore! (link)
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You need to talk to a counselor or therapist because you obviously have problems dealing with the normal stressors of your life. This isn't bad, it's just a problem that you and your family need to work on for you. There isn't anything inherantly unusual about your home life, it how you are dealing wit it that is the problem, and it will only get worse unless you address it.
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Is rubbing some Baby Oil (Johnson's) into your hair good or bad for you? Thanks in advance. (link)
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It won't damage your hair but it will look extremely greasy, so I don't recomend it.
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is always calling him. Like everytime I am with him, she calls. she'll call like 92875 times if he doesn't pick up. Then he told me that he told her to stop calling because he has a new gf and she cried, cuz she loves him and they lost their virginity to each other but they broke up in february. soo then i thought she stopped calling, but then the other day when i was with him and his friends and his friend has his cell and told him that she called, and then he's all like, why.. what time.. etc. He was really interested in her call.
i've never met the girl, she goes to a different school.
I feel like i'm just getting in the way of something that they could have again. If you've seen The OC, I feel like I'm Anna and they're Seth and Summer. I wish I knew a way to bring this up to him, but I don't know how and I don't even know what I'd say because I can't even put it into words how I feel. I feel like a fool, but theres more to it.
and then last night we hung out til like 11, and then he called me at 11:15 because he's going on vacation and we won't see each other til next week and i said i had a headache, and he told me to go to bed, and i told him that it wouldn't matter if i went to bed because i'm not tired. at the time i thought he was just trying to give me good advice about my headache, but he was really just trying to get rid of me so he could CALL HIS EX GIRLFRIEND. after the headache thing, he was all like, "im sooo tired, im gonna go to bed." but i believed him at the time. then i logged onto myspace and his ex left him a comment being like, 'thanks for calling me at 11:30 last night! call me tons when your down there!" me and him got off the phone a little before 11:30. so much for GOING TO BED.
i've never mentioned anything about how i feel about him and his ex gf, i just keep it to myself because i don't know how to bring it up. he said he'd call me while he was on vacation, so when he calls I think I'll just be like, "I'll let you go, so you can call [his ex] or something." Idk. Advice? (link)
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This should be more then a red flag, it's a recipe for cheating and I promise you that he still has feeling for this girl. Get out while you still can, before you get even more hurt. There is no excuse for this behavior, in fact, there was no reason for him to ever talk to her on the phone, even once, while he is with you. It is shockingly disrespectful, and the "we are still friends" excuse is total BS. Honey, get out.
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Do you guys think it's weird that my parents grounded my brother who's 21(I actually think it's funny)?
He's staying with us for a few weeks and he got a $300 citation for punching a guy on the beach yesterday. My dad didn't actually say the words "you are grounded" but he won't let him do anything. I mean he is an adult and everything haha.
My dad and brother have been arguing all morning because of it and I don't think my dad is right because my brother would have paid for it on his own. I want to say something but I just wanted a few opinions before I do so. (link)
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Yes, it is ridiculous, because your brother is an adult and can handle his own problems. Conversely, he should be able to stand up to your Dad for himself-because he is an adult and needs to handle his own problems. If he can not do this, he'll be pushed around in this manner. He needs to learn how to stand up to your father on his own.
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i was always told that going on the pill would make your period stop completely (by freinds, not doctors) and lately i've been seeing a commercial about a pill that can reduce your period to only 3 days?? now, is it true that there is such a thing as a birth control pill that can make your period stop altogether, or is that just a myth? (link)
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Yes, there is a specific pill type that will reduce it to 3 days and another one that will only give you three periods a year (seasonale). While there is no pill disigned for the purpose of stopping your period all year, any constant dose pill brand, when taken so that you skip the "period week" will keep you from getting your period for as long as you take them is this manner. Also, this will not affect the protection agaist pregnancy factor. Lots of woman do this, but you need to talk to your GYN to get the details on how to do it correctly first.
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okay under my arms, it's always dark. i shave every day & use a lot of soap each time i shower so i'm not quite sure why they get that way. i use Dove deodorant so it doesn't leave any marks er anything so it's not because of that. is there a certain deodorant i can use?? i heard lemons work. any ideas??
thanks!! (link)
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Hello,
My sister has this problem because she is overweight and the rubbing has caused this. Use a fresh and sharp blade at all times and ask a dermatologist about skin bleaching.
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how acceptable are erections on nude beaches how do i keep from getting one? (link)
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It is completely unacceptable, if you think you can't control getting one then do not go. Period.
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In about one week, I'm going to North Carolina for Jr Beta Convention and my class is going to be going to a water park on about the third day of my period, given that it's on time. I don't really have a choice, so I HAVE to go to the water park, but my mom REALLY doesn't want me to use a tampon. She thinks I'm too young. I've looked it up and some sites say I can wear shorts over a red or a dark colored bathing suit. Mine is pink, I have black mesh shorts. They also say that when I get in the water, the flow should stop and the water should wash it away quick enough so no one will be able to tell. BUt what about when the class is walking around the water park? Is there anyway I can still have fun, not embarress myself, but not use tampons? (link)
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Blood flow stops in water for SOME people, not all. Do you really want to take that chance? Also, it isn't sanitary to let "the water wash the blood away". In addition, the bleeding will come right back when you step out of the water.
If you are old enough to get your period, then you are old enough to wear a tampon. Your mother probably have a stigma attached to the idea of you putting anything into your vagina. This is ridiculous. You really need to use one, nothing else is remotely effective for bathing suit situations. I don't normally advice going agaist a parents wishes but this is a situation where your mother is being unreasonable, there is no other way to put it.
I just want to add that you might want to get some practice wearing one (and putting it in) before water park day. A lot of first timers experience leaks while they are getting used to it.
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I strongly want to avoid college. So, I researched different degree programs and found that an associates degree is PERFECT for me, so don't try to convince me otherwise, please. Here are my questions:
1) In what area should I specialize in order to get the degree most quickly? I don't like history or social sciences at all (psycology/humanities=NO)
2) Are associates degrees easy and quick to obtain, or is that just what everyone thinks?
3) What good paying jobs are available for people with associate degrees? I already know that you can be a flight attendant, dental assistant, and therapist assistants, but what else is out there?
Thank you SO much. I want to get this degree out of the way really quickly, but not overwhelm myself with studying, you know? Thanks again. (link)
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1) Whatever you want that your college offers, this should reflect your interests and what you enjoy studying or want to eventually persue a career in.
2) They are easy, as in they only take about two years to get, instead of the usual 4
3)Honestly, not much. There isn't much you can do with an AA degree, and noone, no employers look at AA degrees as real degrees, because they really aren't. Medical/dental assistant jobs, for example, are nothing to write home about. They require (like any job that only requires an AA degree) very little skill and education and anyone with a pulse can aquire them. They don't even pay much at all. This is why (in my opinion) your focus on just getting an AA degree is misguided. it IS an easy way out to avoid real college, but you can't get anywhere NEAR as good or as well paying a career with just an AA. Most people find jobs that pay much more and do not require any such education, and then find that they wasted their time/money on getting their AA. My advice is, if you don't want to go to college- don't. Find something that doesn't require anything of the sort. An AA degree sounds great but in the real world they are essentially worthless.
I don't mean to burst your bubble, or insult anyone who has such a degree or career, I'm just giving you the advice I have found in my real world experience. Generally, people with AA degrees are looked down upon (by those of us with higher education) as people who couldn't get into "real" college and can't do any better then that. Just wanted to let you know, and I hope it helps your decision.
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hey guys i'm goin into junior year. i was wondering if anyone can give me some advice on the SAT and SAT PREP classes. which ones are the best and what is the best tiem to take it, a few month before the SAT so u cna extra time to review the material or right before the test so the stuff is fresh in your mind? any other advice is also good
thanks very much guys
jack (link)
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If this is one of those Princeton Review type classes (that you have to pay tuition for) it is an enourmous waste of money. Go to the library and check out a few SAT review/prep books (they'll have a lot of different ones) starting as soon as you can and read them. Take the practice tests. Reread them. This is all you'll be doing at the classes, oly you'll be paying an arm and a leg for them to tell you things that you'll read for free. I scored very high on mine, back in the day. Here are my tips.
-Read a lot of novels and books for pleasure. I think someone estimated that every your verbal score will increase by 20 points for every "real" book you read for fun
-Take the test (the real one) more then once, your score might vary but hundreds of points, and colleges will focus on the highest.
- Bring snacks and coffee on testing day, you'll starve to death and fall asleep if you don't.
-Read those practice books! In particular, check out ones written by students/test takers- they are loeaded with tips that you won't find in the offical books.
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if you give a bi guy head can you get dieses i think he cumed in my mouth and i think he has anal with guys.
so yeah
haha thanks (link)
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You sure can get diseases.
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I have to go on a cruise with my family and I get sea sick really easily. Is there anything to stop me from getting sick like that? (link)
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LOTS of people get seasick, and there are many ways that you can cope with this. If it is really severe and you already know that, get a perscription from your doctor for medication and bring it with you. There are also over the counter medications, like dramamine, that you can by and take (the cruise line will also have some on hand for passengers like yourself). Some people find that taking ginger supplements also alliviate the nausea. Cruises are so much fun, there is no reason why you should have to suffer and miss out.
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I am a divorced 48-year old woman with a ten year old child and her own business, who's not very close to her family. When I was 15, I had a baby, gave the child up for adoption and never lived with my parents again. (I am the eldest child.) They divorced shortly thereafter after a troubled 17-year marriage. I moved in with my grandmother (who was my best friend) and lived with her until her death, now more than 15 years ago.
Since then, with the exception of my father, who moved 3,000 miles away, my immediate family has done everything to treat me like I don't exist. It really hurt me but was a continution of the pain I experienced from them as a child.
My mother didn't attend my college graduation, wedding or anything important to me. She rarely has anything nice to say to me. She has refused to help me out financially. Family events came and went and I wasn't invited. My siblings come in and out of town and I am the last to know. Rarely were my phone calls were returned. Our few meetings are tense.
I did therapy after going through some personal troubles. There are a lot of things going on here, but I just want to know if my strategy of seeing to my own personal happiness is a thoughtful one.
I realize that to minimize pain I cannot accept responsibility for or control the actions of others. I have good relationships with my cousins now, but this means I rarely see or talk to my mother, aunts and siblings. It's too challenging for me.
But now it's affecting my 10 year-old. He complains he doesn't have "normal" family ties. What things can I do to minimize my own pain while at the same time trying to see to it my son has a strong relationship with my family?
PS--his grandmother has always tried to have a relationship with him and I never interfere or bad mouth them, but my son still complains...
Thanks for any help anyone can give me.... (link)
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You seem to be amazingly well adjusted, and you are absolutely right about seeing to your own happiness and not fixating on the actions of others which you cannot control. Your son will soon realize that there is no such thing as "normal" family ties, and he is lucky to have the mother and family members he does have to care about him. I know it does hurt you that certain family members don't want to associate with you and yet you are constantly reminded of this. It's good that you don't bad mouth them to your son. I would continue to talk to counselor, because you still are hurting over this and the wond is constantly being re-opened. You are doing great but there are still some issues. Maybe they can help you eventually get to a point where either you no longer have any feeling toward them OR find a way to establish some sort of relationship.
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I asked a question before about my mother and how she's divorcing her 3rd husband--// Actually, they're separated but you KNOW it's leading to a divorce.
Well, my wonderful mother wants me to see a freaking therapist for the way I've been acting towards her and number 3 (irresponsible, disrespectful, ungrateful, demanding, blah blah blah).
SHES THE ONE THAT NEEDS TO GO SEE A DAMN THERAPIST NOT ME!! I KNOW why I act the way I do and I don't need some fag bag shrink to tell me. She's my problem. Who gets married AND divorced 3 different times by the time they're 36?? She should be seeing someone about that.
Plus I know the only reason she wants me to go see one is because I told her I wanted to move in with my dad (number 1) at least until number 3 is gone. Which he will be, soon. Then she'll move on to number 4.
So how do I get out of this??
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Judging by the things that you have said here, and the way to describe the people in your life and the situations in it, I think your mother is absolutely right. Yes, you could benefit highly from talking to someone. The irony is, usually those who need it most are the ones who sear up and down that it is the stupidest idea they ever heard. I'm sorry if it isn't want you want to hear, but I agree with your mother. You'll get alot out of it.
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ok on this survey it asks your heritage.....is your heritage like if your german or like italian or irish..etc? or does it mean like your race? i know dumb question but ill rate high.
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You heritage is a mixure of your culture, traditions, and ethnicity. Your race is included in all that. Your color, however, is a different thing. It isn't a dumb question, a lot of people are confused about such things. You may be considered white (and have light skin) but yout race is mediteranian and your ethnicity is Greek or Italian. See what I mean?
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for like a month, i have been getting headaches and stomach pains, not aches. also it hurts on my ribs too. its on and off. like for an hour i have a little headache and for another hour it hurts on my ribs or anywhere on my stomach. my doctor says im making myself get this by worrying. so im going to a counselor so we can figure out whats causing this to happen. can worrying or thinking about it really bring on stomache pains and headaches? also can this just be my period, remember it has gone on for a little over a month. do you think my doctor is wrong and i have a disease i can die from or will last forever? whats up? (link)
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If it doesn't go away and/or it is really bothering you then go to another doctor. Yes, there could really be something wrong. I have noticed that when there is no obvious cause for a symptom, doctors automatically blame stress or psychological issues when sometimes that isn't really the cause. For example, I have Crohn's Disease and it took a couple years to get diagnosed because it isn't an obvious single test that can be done to explain my symptoms. They told me the pain was just psychological, but it turned out to be a very serious autoimmune disease. Get a second opinion and really push for more testing to be done to solve the problem.
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I have this friend, who I love terrably, and were close, but we always seem to have fights between every 3 days and every other week, plus, there is something about her that is scary to me. She is satanic, and I have a fear of satanic peopkle ( i dont mean to sound prejudice, i mean, i would give them the respect i would give everyone else}. What should I do? Should I cease communication with her, o should I still talk to her? (link)
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If she frightens you and you guys can't seem to get along, then maybe you should hang out quite as much. You can still care about he and talk to her with her being a big part of your life, maybe that will be the best thing for you.
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So im 15/f and i so far have never took any chances! Ive never even kisseda boy for crying out loud becuase i am scared. I think my parentals made me this way. Anyways All my friends ONCE in awhile get together and drink. Now i dont want any rude comments but would it be all that bad to try it once? I am sick of being called the good girl, or princess! I meen i wouldnt get attatched to it would i? Is it as bad as grown ups make it seem? (link)
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At 15? it IS that bad! It just seems like a way to fit in and be rebellous and have a great time, right? Drug and alcohol use can be dangerous, and is certainly unhealthy. It's ok to be scared to get involved with boys, 15 isn't too old to have never been kissed. In fact, more teens are not as involved as you think they are with the opposite sex, you just hear about it a lot from those who are because they are very vocal. You are fine, and even if you never tried drinking or partying, and really were a "good girl", there isn't anything at all wrong with that. You'll see when you get older that the kids who were heavy into that typically turn out to have less-desirable lives then those who were always more responsible. I wouldn't worry if I were you.
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my dad makes up lame excuses for why i can not go out with my friends after work affterrr i come home and my friends come in the house to meet him and find out whos driving and everything. I'm going to be 17 in like..20 days i dont see why i can not go out til midnight on a summer night! He says its cause "i dont know your friends". okayy well he's going to have to meet them sometime, right? why not now. the sooner the better. The way i see it, there driving me insane not letting me go out with my friends ever and its just going to hurt them in the long run when i get my car and my own place and never come home........i jsut dont kno what to do to let them realize i'm growing up and i dont want to stay home with them all the time.... (link)
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You both have valid points, so you have to compromise. Maybe he can meet your friends and they can start hanging at your place for a little bit before you go out, like once a week. Then he'll get to know them. Maybe midnight really is too late to stay out, but if he knows exactly what you are doing then once a week it'll be ok. He just wants to protect you, he has this vision of you all cracked out and knocked up and doesn't want that to happen, he wants to be the best parent he can be. You have to calmly tell him your concerns and get him to trust you.
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