Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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for like all of elementry school and 7th grade i was basically the shy people-pleasing girl who no one really noticed unless i was thier passing grade. in 8th grade things really turned around and i still got striaght a's and got like 2 new bes friends and alot of other close friends. i think the only reason i could really talk then was because my best friend since 1st grade was with me and we can be wierd and loud together and i can feel sociol. now i'm like that with my 2 other best friends and kind of with a new close friend. well now i'm going to high school and it's a huge new school with a ton of new people i don'tknow and the ones i do who new me as that quiet girl and i don't want to be her agian becuase now im independent and loud and don't care what people think and i just think if too much new gets thrown at me ill close up agian how do i learn a new school and keep who i am...how do i make new friends,keep my old ones and not be peole pleasing? o and i how do i stop freaking out? (link)
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Hey...calm down...high school is pretty fun.
If you want to make new friends...try to do it on your own...don't have your friends there...because then you are forced to do the talking and not just nod when they speak and not make a real connection with any of the people you meet.
I feel being shy is a great disadvantage. Want to go to an ivy league school? Well, you are probably going to have to go on interviews...and if you can't seem interesting and are too shy with your interviewer...they may not want you to go to their college because they won't feel like you add anything in college. Just like if you want anything in life...you gotta go for it. But you can't get far, if your shyness continually holds you back. So you see, shyness is not only an impediment to you with making friends but in the greater scheme of things too. So remember this, many amazing things happen when you take chances, if you never take a chance...you'll never really live. Don't let anything hold you back.
I realize this may sound a little off track..but I think if you feel confident in yourself, you won't have room to be shy. So if you want to be a smart girl who is not predictably quiet...then don't let yourself be.
Life lesson: You can't please everyone...so don't waste your time trying to.
Good Luck and enjoy high school. It's fun! =]
Teacup
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Does anyone know anything about Fung Shui?
Like where to put stuff in your room and stuff?
Thank you SO much! =] (link)
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Hey.
You should try ehow..they have instructions to lots of things...hope this helps
http://www.ehow.com/how_3778_feng-shui-set.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_3776_feng-shui.html
--Teacup
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My older brother, 19 years old, is going to school at the naval academy. He is home right now for the summer. He doesn't do much to help out. He just sleeps at our house, and eats our food. He lays on the couch all day and watches cartoons and goes out with his friends (without telling us) so sometimes we find ourselves without a car because he took it. He doesn't go to church with us. He ate 2 gallons of our icecream in just a few days. And at dinner tonight, my mom changed the channel before we sat down, so my brother went upstairs to watch what he had on before instead of eating with us. When my mom told him to come down, he said he wasn't hungry. I just want to yell at him and tell him to get his act together, but I don't think it's my place. What do I do? (link)
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Don't yell at him...but tell him you think he's being rude, you have every right to do so. His taking the car for example and just eating all the food and lazing around the house, is something that gets in your way. Just tell him to be more considerate.
Hope it helps,
Teacup
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On Friday my freinds and I are going to the beach. We want to meet hot guys. How can we get guys to notice us and come up to us? We don't want to be like slutty though. Thanks in advanced! (link)
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have fun...and don't look cliquey...this way you are approachable and like the type of girls they would want to hang out with. If not...be bold and go up to them and just introduce yourselves...just have fun with it.
=],
Teacup
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I'll start dating a guy and it only lasts from like 2 weeks to one day. I get bored really easily and I need adventure and excitement. All the guy's I date bore me. They can't keep up with me either. If I date a guy I like to make out and if I'm dating him for a week and we haven't even kissed yet i'll just brake up with them because None of them ever have anything interesting to say or do, and I don't know. What should I do? I hate being single, like i'll date almost any losser so i'm not alone, but then I'll just dump them like a week later because they are sooooo boring!!!! What should I do??? Please halp. Thanks a bunch!~!~! (link)
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Your problem is...you always want to have a boyfriend. Just stay single until you find a guy that won't bore you...because all you end up doing is hurting these guys feelings. The reason I think you are bored with them is because well...you don't like them. Wait for a guy that you really like...and you won't get bored.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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Hello.
My boyfriend recently graduated so I'm going to strip for him when we go on vacation to the beach.
The thing is I don't know which song to stripdance to!
We both like alternative and rock but pop is okay.
I need a song that I can dance to in stilettos, seductive/sultry songs are preferred, but with enough of an update beat to dance to
Thanks!!! (link)
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Peggy Lee...Hey, Big Spender
It's a song the pussy cat dolls use to dance to on their shows...and their shows are kinda striptease like..hehe
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killing animals, then skinning them for furs/coats/jackets etc. is wrong. is it still considered wrong if you keep the animal until it grows old and dies and then you skin the animal to make a new jacket/coat/etc. ? i'm really curious. (link)
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I don't think it's wrong if you don't kill the animal. It died of natural causes and all, it's not like you went out and killed the animal to get something stylish. I'm not sure what the PETA's stance is on this...but I don't think it's bad.
-Teacup
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i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice] (link)
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It's nice to hear that you plan to hold out til marriage. I have always said I would do the same, and now I'm older...and I still think it's a nice idea..but realistically it's difficult.
As for your friends, you can't convince them not to have sex, because waiting for marriage is not right for everyone. But, you can explain to them that if they don't love the guy and are just doing it to fit in...they are going to regret it. And as long as they don't regret their first time...it's alright. But of course, if they haven't been dating the guy for too long and barely know him and if the guy is just plain bad news. Try to help them see that if they do want to have sex...that they should do it for the right reasons. You can't really stop them...but you can be a friend and help them see they need to find something real and yes it is pretty hard to find it at 13.
Well I wish you best of luck.
--Teacup
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i`m a 15yr old female,
i started to hang out with this boy about 2 months ago. he is in 2 grades higher than me he drives and i relly like him. tha first day we hung out i started to like him and since that day we havent gone more than 2 days without seeing eachother. But tha thing is he only wants to be friends with benifits.. and i want more. He is also involved with this other girl but they arent dateing she is an ex but they still have sex. I havent had sex with him yet he has asked but i said no. I met a few of his friends and became friends with some of them too. One night 3 of his friends asked me to hang out with them even though the guy i like wasnt there but i wsaid yes anyways. i ended up haveing sex with one of his friends. When the guy i like found out he was mad i`m not to sure why, he said he was mad because i said no to him when he cares about me and knows me well but i said yes to one of his friends that i jut met and didnt care about me. I'm not to sure why i had sex with his friend and won't have sex with him. He still asks me to have sex but i always say no. It might be a revenge thing because the night that i had sex with his friend was the same night i found out the guy i like was still haveing sex with his ex.. now the guy that i had sex with started to call me and ask me to hang out. i like him too but i don't think he knows it. i think he just thinks i like fooling around with him. so im wondering what i should do about this because i think tha first guy i like is just useing me and i don`t even know what to do about th second one. (link)
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From what you wrote, I'm not sure if I like any of those guys. They are so preoccupied with sex. And if you want something more serious...it's honestly not going to happen if the relationship is just based on sex. That passion will burn out...and then he'll get tired and want something new.
The guy you like is constantly asking you for sex and has made it clear that he only wants a friends with benefits relationship with you while he's also going to keep sleeping around with his ex girlfriend. It's not even as if he plans to just sleep with you...he needs another girl too.
The second guy,which you have had sex with, he keeps wanting to hang out with you. If you do like him and see that him wanting to hang out with you is not just based on sex but rather becuase he genuinely likes you and wants something real, then you should pursue it. But if he's calling you as a sort of booty call...I would say forget about it...because the relationship being based on sex is ultimately doomed.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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im 13/f
Well, to make a long story short..
There's this boy I've been crushing on for about a month now. I'm going to spend a week with him at his house for vacation with a whole bunch of people and i just want to know how do i let him know i like him? i really wanna go out with him but the thing is i've never really had a REAL boyfriend. and i haven't hooked up yet & i'm pretty sure he has. and if he asks if i've hooked up before do i say yes and lie so he'll hook up with me and think i'm experienced? or do i say the truth and say no and see whatever happens from there? I really need to let him know how i feel but i don't wanna make it obvious, i wanna keep him guessing. he's 15. what are some ways i can play hard to get and flirt with him? PLEASE HELP! xox
& btw, what are some signs that boys give to let them know they like a girl.. i really really realllyyyy like him, so please make this work! (link)
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Honestly, there's nothing anyone can say to get this guy too like you. Don't lie about anything...if you want this boy to be your boyfriend, you need to be honest. Also, don't go any further than what you are ready for...you are only 13, if you do something you're not ready for...you may wind up regretting it.
Just act like yourself...flirt with him, but don't throw yourself on him. Be subtle, but let him know you are interested.
Signs boys like you differ from guy to guy. But, they give you a lot of attention, lots of eye contact, a difference of tone when he speaks to you. It really depends.
I know this is pretty useless to you, but this is just something you have to just be yourself...remain confident and hope for the best. You can't pretend to be something you're not.
Well I wish you luck.
--Teacup
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im starting to absolutely hate rap, hip hop etc. im starting to like 80`s music, like i've fallen in love with it ever since my dad took my to a poion concert. soo i was wondering what are really great 80's songs/bands
thanks. (link)
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Well...I'm no expert on '80s music...but...I found top songs from the '80s...so here ya go
80s Hits: Top 40 Chart List - 1980
1. Call Me - Blondie
2. Another Brick In The Wall - Pink Floyd
3. Magic - Olivia Newton-John
4. Rock With You - Michael Jackson
5. Do That To Me One More Time - Captain & Tennille
6. Crazy Little Thing Called Love - Queen
7. Coming Up - Paul McCartney
8. Funkytown - Lipps Inc.
9. It's Still Rock And Roll To Me - Billy Joel
10. The Rose - Bette Midler
11. Escape (The Pina Colada Song) - Rupert Holmes
12. Cars - Gary Numan
13. Cruisin' - Smokey Robinson
14. Working My Way Back To You-Forgive Me Girl - Spinners
15. Lost In Love - Air Supply
16. Little Jeannie - Elton John
17. Ride Like The Wind - Cristopher Cross
18. Upside Down - Diana Ross
19. Please Don't Go - K.C. & The Sunshine Band
20. Babe - Styx
21. With You I'm Born Again - Billy Preston & Syreeta
22. Shining Star - Manhattans
23. Still - Commodores
24. Yes - I'm Ready - Teri De Sario With K.C.
25. Sexy Eyes - Dr. Hook
26. Steal Away - Robbie Dupree
27. Biggest Part Of Me - Ambrosia
28. This Is It - Kenny Loggins
29. Cupid-I've Loved You For A Long Time - Spinners
30. Let's Get Serious - Jermaine Jackson
31. Don't Fall In Love With A Dreamer - Kenny Rogers & Kim Carnes
32. Sailing - Christopher Cross
33. Longer - Dan Fogelberg
34. Coward Of The County - Kenny Rogers
35. Ladies Night - Kool & The Gang
36. Take Your Time - S.O.S. Band
37. No More Tears (Enough Is Enough) - Barbra Streisand & Donna Summer
38. Too Hot - Kool & The Gang
39. More Love - Kim Carnes
40. Pop Muzik - M
80s Hits: Top 40 Chart List - 1981
1. Bette Davis Eyes - Kim Carnes
2. Endless Love - Diana Ross & Lionel Richie
3. Lady - Kenny Rogers
4. (Just Like) Starting Over - John Lennon
5. Jessie's Girl - Rick Springfield
6. Celebration - Kool & The Gang
7. Kiss On My List - Daryl Hall & John Oates
8. I Love A Rainy Night - Eddie Rabbitt
9. 9 To 5 - Dolly Parton
10. Keep On Loving You - REO Speedwagon
11. Theme From "Greatest American Hero" - Joey Scarbury
12. Morning Train (Nine To Five) - Sheena Easton
13. Being With You - Smokey Robinson
14. Queen Of Hearts - Juice Newton
15. Rapture - Blondie
16. A Woman Needs Love - Ray Parker Jr. & Raydio
17. The Tide Is High - Blondie
18. Just The Two Of Us - Grover Washington Jr.
19. Slow Hand - Pointer Sisters
20. I Love You - Climax Blues Band
21. Woman - John Lennon
22. Sukiyaki - A Taste Of Honey
23. The Winner Takes It All - Abba
24. Medley - Stars On 45
25. Angel Of The Morning - Juice Newton
26. Love On The Rocks - Neil Diamond
27. Every Woman In The World - Air Supply
28. The One That You Love - Air Supply
29. Guilty - Barbra Streisand & Barry Gibb
30. The Best Of Times - Styx
31. Elvira - Oak Ridge Boys
32. Take It On The Run - REO Speedwagon
33. No Gettin' Over Me - Ronnie Milsap
34. Living Inside Myself - Gino Vannelli
35. Woman In Love - Barbra Streisand
36. Boy From New York City - Manhattan Transfer
37. Urgent - Foreigner
38. Passion - Rod Stewart
39. Lady (You Bring Me Up) - Commodores
40. Crying - Don Mclean
there's more...but I'll just give you the link for that.
http://www.eightyeightynine.com/music/top40-2.html
Hope that helps =],
Teacup
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I think my best friend has major jelousy issues and I don't know how to help her out. Example: If someone has one of her favorite songs on their myspace or something she gets mad. She acts like she's the only one who can like it. Same with layouts and colors for A.I.M. She's really spoiled but her family isn't even rich. Her parent's can't make her understand that they need important things for the family besides Abercrombie clothes.
There is a guy she likes and he has a girlfriend. She was talking all trash on her saying how she was fat and ugly.. and seriosyly, she's not. If I hang out with other friends, she gets mad at me. She didn't make a volleyball team and soccer team and she threw the biggest fit!! She kept yelling at her mom like it was her fault and was being really bitchy towards me. She also gets upset if she isn't first in someones profile or something. If she's last or something, she gets upset.
Anyways, she's my best friend and I would never justt blow her off and I've sat down with her and talked to her about it but she gets mad and then forgets about it. I mean, there are good things about her but it just drives me insane and I don't know what to do. (link)
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If you don't want to give up on her friendship, that's good because it shows you have dedication to your friend...but also...there's nothing else you can do but talk to her about it. Try to get it to stick.
Tell her that you have tried to explain things to her many times alread, but it never sticks. Truth is...this is a quality many people dislike in friends and it can make her lose friends. Also, to be considerate of her parents needs. And as much as it sucks, she can't get everything she wants. She needs to stop throwing hissy fits for everything and just deal with it...it's life. She's not the center of the universe...and that is a horrible attitude to take on.
Good luck,
Teacup
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My parents have been smoking since they were teenagers. I'm just curious if everyone who smokes has a really high risk of getting lung cancer? It's not common in my family and I'm worried that my parents will get it. (link)
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I copied this from Wikipedia
Smoking, particularly of cigarettes, is by far the main contributor to lung cancer, which at least in theory makes it one of the easiest diseases to prevent. In the United States, smoking is estimated to account for 87% of lung cancer cases (90% in men and 79% in women), and in the UK for 90%. Cigarette smoke contains 19 known carcinogens[2] including radioisotopes from the radon decay sequence, nitrosamine, and benzopyrene. Additionally, nicotine appears to depress the immune response to malignant growths in exposed tissue. The length of time a person continues to smoke as well as the amount smoked increases the person's chances of contracting lung cancer. If a person stops smoking, these chances steadily decrease as damage to the lungs is repaired and contaminant particles are gradually vacated. More recent work has shown that, across the developed world, almost 90% of lung cancer deaths are caused by smoking[3].
If you are really worried about your parents contracting lung cancer...research the severity of damage it can do to a person..so you can try to explain to them why you are so worried. Also, try to search ways to help them quit.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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My boyfriend has a friend thats a girl, and theyve been friends for a couple of years. They have pet names for each other and talk all the time. He doesnt talk about her all the time, but, when he does I just get mad. I dont know why, I just do. Hes always concerned or worried about her. I really dont like it when he talks about her but I want to help him because hes always worried about her. Am I just being jelous? What should I do? I'm so confused. (link)
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I would be jealous too. It's hard to hear your boyfriend so concerned with another girl. If you trust him and know there's nothing going on with them..see if you can find out why he's always worried for her. He may just be overprotective of her like a brother, so just try to help him help her.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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How can a relationship last if your with a guy that is all about being with his friends and wont give them up for his g/f who he loves even though he has to keep those worlds seperate because his g/f and his friends don't get along? (link)
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I sort of had this problem. I dated this guy...that really liked me, but he was so conscious about his brother's feelings and hanging out with his brother...that he gave me less time. Needless to say...it didn't last. I regret not really making a bigger deal out of it..I tried to understand his need to hang out w/ his brother and tried to be a good girlfriend...but it was kind of in push over territory. So, I would just say, make sure you talk about it..and tell him that he needs to divide his time evenly, because it's not fair that he doesn't give you much attention. Tell him how badly it makes you feel and hopefully he'll understand and a change will happen.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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ok i am 14/f and i just dyed my hair a dar k reddish color.. nad now none or my cloths look rite with my hair... i want to loock like i kno what to wear for high skool (ill be a fhresh man) so pleas give me some ideas for some colors that would look good with my hair... its a color like this http://i9.ebayimg.com/04/i/05/98/e5/88_1_bo.JPG (link)
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I think black and white are very safe colors that go well with most hair. colors. I would also say the clothes you wear depend on your skin tone.
But I'm sure you don't want your entire wardrobe to be just black and white...because it's safe...and lets face it..kind of bland.
Other colors...
tan
gray
turquoise
pink *not too bright...not too pale*
I would suggest you look up celebrities that have darker red hair. Lindsay Lohan and Amy Davidson have dark red hair...or have had dark red hair at one point.
Hope this helps,
Teacup
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My boyfriend left my friend a picture comment on myspace that said "your so sexy shortii." I'm really jealous. Should I be jealous? I don't want to seem so clingy but I'm kinda jealous. (link)
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Heck yeah, I'd be jealous...my boyfriend shouldn't be cheking out another girl...especially if they are my friend. But yeah, casually ask him about it.
-Teacup
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how do you put eyeliner on your top lid? (link)
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you can use an angle brush..Carmindy from What not to wear...does it all the time.
Hope that helps.
-Teacup
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Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me! (link)
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Crying is good to get feelings out...but if you cry too much it's not good for you. I know that sometimes I have cried so much that I feel like throwing up. If you are pregnant, crying is not good for your baby. You may feel like you can't take it anymore...but you have to suck it up for your baby. Try to keep yourself busy...time always flies by when you are busy.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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HELL0. What are some good baby names? Boy, or Girl. First, and Middle would be appreciated! Thanks! =] (link)
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Well not sure if you would like these...but I'll tell you names that I have always liked and I may name my children.
Ok Girls
Samantha..so u can call her sam or sammie
Audrey...sounds very pretty and elegant
Abigail...nickname her Abbie
Scarlett...sounds like a strong name
Boys
these are just appealing to me
Josh
Shawn
Scott...but I'm iffy about this one...cause it sounds like such a grown up name...but...it does sound like a name with power..hehe
I hope you find very cute baby names =]
-Teacup
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