HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
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I'm a junior in high school, and it's now 2nd quarter. The past few weeks I haven't cared about my grades, and I don't know why. And, so they slipped. Now, I'm caring a lot more. I just need some good study habits to help me. What can get me motivated to study and do realy well on tests and homework? Anything good will help me. Thanks! (link)
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Give yourself a reward for studying and doing well on tests and quizzes. For example, if you do badly on a quiz, don't let yourself hang out with someone, or talk on the phone. Maybe don't let yourself on AIM or something for a day, so you can study. It will teach you consequences, and how to disciplin yourself .
Good luck. =)
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earlier today i went into hottopic and there was this song on and i loved it but i dont know the name it went something like this "tell all my friends im dead" it sounded like new found glory but i never heard that song (link)
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Try going to AZlyrics.com, and put in the lyrics you know, in the search section.
Also, it sounds like a My Chemical Romance song, Dead, but I'm not completly sure. Good luck, though.
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soo i told my gf that i love her, and she really did not say it back, she is really shy and all plus i'm her firt boyfrined, so what should i do? (link)
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Just take it slow. It really means alot to people, especially people who are shy, and that's a huge step to take. Don't feel bad if she's not ready to say it back yet, it dosen't mean se likes you any less, it just means she wants to take things more slowly. Just some tips for reference, ask her if you want to kiss her or anything like that. Same with holding hands and stuff. =)
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my dog got run over by a car. my mom is on a business trip. should i tell her before she comes home or should i just stage his death? (link)
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You should tell her now.. She may get sad, but it will hurt alot more if she finds out so far after the death. Just think about how you would feel in that situation.
I'm sorry, and good luck telling your mom.
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i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year but im starting to have major feelings for an ex boyfriend. i know its very bad of me but my boyfriend now just isnt making me happy anymore and i dont know what to do. my boyfriend lies to me about everything so im to the point i dont know whats real and whats a lie. hes lied about smoking (twice), going to a party, going to school, and to as stupid as how much he spends on something. i just dont understand. he tells me hell change but hes said that since day one and it continues. also on two occasions he didnt go to school once i found an earring and the other time i found an ankle bracelet. i asked whose it was and he told me he didnt know. i told him i thought he was cheating on me and he got all mad and said he wasnt. im just not happy anymore. i love him to death though. but my ex boyfriend and me have been talking the past 3 days and im not sure whats gonna happen but hes making me so happy. ive been smiling nonstop and hes making me feel whole i talked to him yesterday from 1:30 pm all the way til 5 am nonstop. on the internet and phone. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend but in the same sense im not happy. but i dont wanna rush it with my ex boyfriend either. please help me (link)
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I'd just say to do some 'further investigation' on your boyfriend, and try to still be friends with the ex. YOu need to have some faith in you boyfriend, but if he is going to lie, he needs to go, cause trust is a huge part of a relationship. If you get more reason to break up with him, do it. The first thing you should look for in a good relationship is that there's not uncertainty. You shouldn't have to wonder about things like cheating, lying, ect. Also, even if he dosen't want to listen, try to get him on a good track. Explain that you're not trying to control his life, you're doing this because you care about him. If he dosen't stop with the smoking or anything, tell his parents. Don't worry if he gets mad, tell them, or a teacher.
Please, email or message again if I missed anything, or if you need anything else.
I hope this has helped, and I'm sorry if it hasn't.
Kat
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on myspace whenever i make words bigger they automatically become bold. is there anyway for me to make words bigger without them being bolded? thx. (link)
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use the code; insert any number 1-6. the bigger the number, the smaller the font. good luck.
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I was pondering this for awhile, and I have really bad upper-digestive problems, mainly acid-reflux (like REALLY bad), and heartburn. I get a lot of spasms in my throat, frequent shortness of breath (especially exercising), and i'm always coughing. I am not sure if these symptoms are just from other reasons, but people keep telling me I might have cancer, or somewhere to the chance of developing it. Maybe asthma as well from my breathing problems. I get confused on this. And I need what to look for in cancer (like in the throat) and the symptoms of asthma (maybe other breathing conditions) also, if it does sound like I have anything to seek a Doctor with, what could I possibily have (in your educated opinion/guess).
I would like to hear that there is not anything wrong with me, but I keep getting on-going symptoms with breathing, and acid-problems. I'd say I had these for a year now. So please list me symptoms/signs for conditions I may have, and again, I have these symptoms:
*Frequent shortness of breath (especially when exercising during short periods of time and waking up/going to sleep)
*Breathing spasms, especially when waking up.
* Bad acid-reflux, heartburn, any acid-conditions, that actually occur several times a day, even WITHOUT junkfood, eaying before bed, WITH OTC meds, and all the other rules of treating it.
* Coughing frequently from the time I wake up to when I go to bed (I don't know about while I am sleeping).
So just help me out here. Thanks in advance! And I apoligize for how long this is, I just want the most accurate answers as possible. =)
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Well, I deffinately reccomend going to a doctor, and tell him/her about any concerns you have. Actually, to me it sounds like you could possibly have crohns/colitis or maybe just acid reflex disease. Any one of those would explain the neck problems (because of the acid), but I'm not exactly sure about your shortness of breath..
Good luck, though. Tell your parents about this, and ask them to let you see a doctor.
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I am a teenage girl. I am completely SICK AND TIRED of being single and shunned by everyone I know. Lately I have started drinking. Actually it's a bottle of my parents' red wine that I have taken and hidden from them. Every day since about a week ago I have been drinking about 2-3 sips of it every day. (which is a lot for me) I used to get headaches and feel bad after I drank, but now I feel really good- like it's the only thing that can make me happy. I don't really get hangovers anymore either. Maybe this wine is really strong or something, but I feel the affects of it (without getting drunk) after this small amount. I feel all gross the next day until I drink again. And I fall apart and shake and start crying if I don't drink some. It usually sends this tingling sensation all through my body (similar to sexual desire) and I get really horny. Like I feel like i could masturbate for 5 hours. Then, whatever is upsetting me at the time comes back and I have another emotional breakdown. Please tell me if you think I have become an alcoholic or not. (link)
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I don't think you're quite an alchoholic just yet.. but you need to stop where you are. Do you really want to become dependant on this now?
Dont throw your life away on this.. please.
Also, with what's making you sad (the weight) just try a simple diet, and count the days you can do it. When you feel like you want to drink, work out.
Also, you need to realize, drinking will make you gain more weight, so you're just throwing yourself into a horrible cycle.
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14/f.
please readd. i need your help.
My friend, she has a cheerleading competition, on the same day as my halloween party. its like huge like 60 kids. & everything. I can't reschedule it, because its the only day they could do it.
Its our last year at the same school together, so its not like there will be another halloween party.
Anyways, I'm really mad.. that she'd rather go to some stupid cheerleading competition then be at my halloween party with me. is that being selfish? I mean there will be other cheerleading competitions. Right? Wouldnt you be mad, if that happened to you? (link)
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You shouldn't make a big deal out of this. You have the right to be mad, but cheerleading is a very time consuming sport that you have to be very dedicated to. It stinks that the party is on the same day, but she has to go to the competition. Missing one person could completly throw a team off, especially when stunting. You need to realize that. Yea, there will be other competitions, but without her, they may have to change their routine, and she may even get kicked off.
Sorry, but you need to realize this isn't her fault, and she probably feels bad as it is.
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heres the deal i have been going out with this guy for about a week and it is obvious to me that things are going no where there is just no spark so can someone please tell me how to break up with this guy gently because he is nice just not boyfriend nice for me. (link)
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I'd say to do this in a note or something, just in case he's the clingy kinda guy, lol. Just tell him something like : Hey, I'm really sorry.. but I really think we should stay friends. I mean, I wouldn't want to mess our relationship anymore if we went out for a while and had a gruesome break up anyway. Plus, you can keep your options open, for other girls.
Then, just offer to be his friend. Be there for him and he should take it pretty well. =)
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does anyone know how to get a body like Jessica Alba? cuz shes skinny but not too skinny. like athletic. thank you! (link)
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Okay, this one's easy. =)
Just drink lots of water (no soda, ect.) work out on a daily/weekly basis, and eat as healthy as possible.
You'll see some good results with time. =]
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is it true [[well i heard - could be just one of those stupid fitness rumors. lol]] that if you drank 8 glasses of water a day you could really lose weight? if so, how much? dont worry im not going on any of those crash diets.
thank you =] (link)
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Water on it's own will not really make you lose weight. But it's got great benefits to help you on the cause. For one, it keeps you filled up, so you don't try to drink other things, along with snacking too much. It also helps to boost your metabolism, and gives you more energy to work out.
Hope this helped. =)
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I need help fast! My friend is having a bat mitzvah party at a hotel pool, and I need to know how to do my hair! I'm wearing a flowery bikini and the coverup im wearing there is one of those babydoll terrycloth things in green, white leggings, and flats. I need to know how to do my hair though! I know I want it to be up. Since I will be in the pool the whole time, I need something good for water. Also, I have sidebangs. Should I pin them back so they won't be in my face in the pool? One more thing: Should I not wear makeup? I think I might get all runny black eyes if I do. How can I look good without wearing little or no makeup? (link)
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I'd say to not wear any makeup. Either that, or wear a waterproof mascera, and bring some in you purse to reapply if needed. For the hair.. I'd say to just put it into braids, a bun, low pigtails, or a plain pony tail. You could leave your hair up or down, but if you're wearing something like a pony tail, I'd reccomend pinning them back, or leaving them behind your ears. (bangs)
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i want to dye my hair a shade of red. now like a bright vibrant red, but one thats darker and closer to a brownish color, if you know what i mean. http://img181.imageshack.us/img181/9411/dsc02095oa1.jpg
thats what i look like. its not the best picture of me, but the lighting makes my skin tone show up right, along with my eyes.
so basically, my question is should i dye my hair? and what shade. I really want some kind of change in my hair, besides a haircut.
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I'd reccomend going with something like a light brown with hi lights. A very bright color may be too much for your eyes, and may not match your skin tone. The red closer to brown though, you may be able to handle if you wear the right things.
I'd say to go for it, as long as you're not going toooo bright. =)
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im 13/f and 135 lbs. i want to lose a few inches in my stomach and thieghs. also i would like to lose about 10 lbs too. if anyone knows how to help me, plz tell me. also i amplaying basket ball this eason until febuary. ty! (link)
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First off, find ways to make this fun!! Maybe try running every day. That's great for you. If you don't have a treadmill, try running around your block every day, and timing yourself. Then, try to cut your time each week or something. This will give you a challenge, so you stay dedicated, and it will also bring up your endurance.
I'd also reccomend writing down what you ate every day. This will make you think about what you eat. Ask yourself if you would be proud to write down the item you're going to eat. It will teach you to snack responsibly. =)
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okay, so i really like this guy in my english class and i dont know what to do!! i really want to go to the winter formal with him this year, but he doesnt know that. 2 of my friends who know him pretty well said that if i just talk to him he'll want to go with me for sure! and i heard that he might like me and that i deffinately have a chance. but heres the thing, .......... i wanna talk to him extremely bad in english! im am just wayy to shy (which deffinately isnt me). im scared to just randomly go up to him and talk cause im scared he'll think im weird or something. I also have to ask him if he'll work on our morning announcements tv show with me in december and work in our schools office with me. i just really dont know how to bring it up to him and i rreally like him alot. i just really need some advice. (link)
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Heyy. First off, just remember, he's only a guy!! Think about him as a good friend, and just let it all loose. First, make sure you start talking to him alot more. Get excuses to talk to him over the phone/see him more/ect. Like working on a project together, studying, charity work, ect. Also, just go up to him and ask if he would like to work with you in the office. He wont think you're weird for that, just explain you don't want to be bored, and it would be a good way for him to get out of studyhall/homeroom.
Once you two have really gotten to know each other (Seriously, talk as MUCH as possible) , get your friends to talk to him about the dance. If they think he likes you, and you're sure that they're right, then bring up hints to him about the dance. Say things like 'Gosh I really need a date,' or make a joke about you two going together.
Hope this helps, and message if you need anything else!!!
Kat
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14/f. I babysit this adorable boy who is about 3 i think and he is so hyper and stuff! i usually babysit him at night, like i put him to bed and stay there for another few hours. i am usually only watching him for about 3 hours and then i sit there and watch tv when he goes to bed for the other like 2 hours until the parents get home. they just told me to put him to bed and then i could help myself to anything to drink and watch tv and what not, but i just feel bad when they come home and im sitting there watching tv. i dont know why but even though they told me i could i feel like i shouldnt be. like basically they're paying me to do nothing. before the kid goes to bed i always am playing with him and i dont ignore him. i just feel bad. should i do something differently? or is it ok to still sit there and do nothing when they get home even though i feel bad? please help i am babysitting for them tomorrow night. thanks! (link)
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You shouldn't feel bad at all. You know that you're doing a good job while he's awake, and you're there just in case he wakes up again, or if anything bad were ever to happen. If you really still feel guilty, though, try cleaning the house a bit. =)
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hey im 13/f. i recently have wanted to start wearing makeup but im not sure what colors are right for me. i have medium lenght brown hair. i have brown eyes with tints of green in them and dark eyebrows. i am 4'10'' and i want to know how to put it on without making it look over the top and slutty. colors and techniques would be great! thanks! (link)
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I would say to try a shadow effect, or light colors to bring out your eyes. Try to do a light layer of green, maybe with a little glitter, possibly, from the beginnings of your eyes to about half an inch after the ends.
You could try that, or a very light layer of black to bring out darker features.
Good luck. =)
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ok so there's this guy i like and his name is jon... and i really like him so what are ways i can get him to like me? and how do i flirt w/ him? (link)
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I'd just say to act completly natural around him. If he likes you, you're going to want him to like you for you. Just try to hang out with him alot, and to talk to him like you would with a friend. Get alot of inside jokes, too, that always helps. =)
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i cannot find a good site to get myspace layouts from. anyone have any good ones? please and thanks! (link)
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I'd say to go to whateverlife.com
or to velocity_layouts (search it!)
they've got amazing stuff.
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