I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
Gender: Female
Location: New York
Member Since: January 17, 2009
Answers: 281
Last Update: September 11, 2011
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can anyone tell me about how much the average salaries of these careers are? i really have no idea what to do and what i should major in when i get into college, and knowing how much a certain career makes would really help. thanks! heres the list:
1. radiologist
2. publicist
3. office nurse ( nurse that does not perform surgeries in a hospital, etc. )
and does anyone have a job they really love that pays well? i know it may not appeal to me, but i honestly have no idea what i wanna do and college is coming in about a year and a half. anything will help. (link)
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The salaries depend on where you live. Go to this website....http://www.salary.com/ You can research any job you want.
Many people love their jobs and some pay very well. The best places now for good paying jobs is health care. All the forecasts are saying that the health care industry has a shortage and the shortages are getting worse. Radiology pays very well. If you live in Kansas, you won't make as much as if you live in NY, but you'll do very well.
Nursing is a hot area too. Good money, but very long hours.
Health Care is it.
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18/f
i am very confused whether this guy likes me or just "wants some" and is attracted to me. now he's only had one girlfriend, and lost his virginity to her meaning he's only had sex with one girl
liking me signs:
1. whenever i see him he always asks about ME. he asks how i'm doing, whats new, hows school and my new job, etc.
2. he opens up to me, he shares almost everything with me!
3. he always notices if i dye my hair or cut it, or if something is different
4. he can ALWAYS tell if something is wrong with me
5. he gets upset when he finds out something about me, and i didnt tell him. he says "you never tell me anything anymore" :(
6. he always wants shotgun when we're in my car and we're with others
7. we'll have those moments where i'll be talking to him and after i'm done he'll just be looking at me and we'll both start smiling
8. we've known each other for 4 or 5 years now
9. we've cuddled when we're alone many times and fell asleep together
10. when it's cold and i don't have a jacket he'll give me his to wear
11. some people think that we're already dating because of how we act with each other, but i dont know if it just because we're so close or what
signs he just "wants some"
1. usually when i see him he'll whisper in my ear.. "wanna fuck" and have a little smirk on his face
2. he flirts with me ALOT, sometimes in a "sexual" kinda way
3. he recently broke things off with his ex of almost 3 years, rebound?
4. when we hang out alone, he tries to get down my pants 95% of the time
5. when we're texting, usually something dirty will come up
it's just hard for me because i've never been in a real relationship before. (link)
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He may really like you as a friend, but if he can score, he will. Obviously, he's trying his best to do that.
Don't do it. If you do, you can kiss him goodbye. He wants to conquer you. Beware.
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Hi, I have had 30 plus years experience in horse activities, this is where my talent is. I have given lessons off and on over the last year, but now I'd like to make a living at it. However, I need to have a steady reliable income at the same time due to the amount of bills I have to pay, and the care of my farm and animals. What are some unique marketing ideas to target young and adult riders so I can get at least 4 lessons lined up a day? I live 30 minutes from a larger city and there are small towns scattered throughout the area. In this enconomy would people spend $30.00 a week on what most would call recreation? (link)
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Do you have a website? That's one way to get the message out. Is there an equestrian magazine marketed to your area? If so, try an ad. How about an ad directed to older adults? Those boomers who gave up dreams of riding to work and raise families? It could read something like this..."Have you always wanted to learn to ride, but, never had the time or money due to family restraints and finances? Well, welcome Empty Nesters! Here's your opportunity. You can learn to ride, whether you're 40 or 70! You can live your dream." Or something like that. Offer a 1/2 hr. lesson at $30 and if they bring a friend, their next lesson is 1/2 price. A promotional. Saturdays can be a bring your grandchild for a free 15 minute lesson to learn the basics.
That's what I would do because the boomers are the ones with the money and the time. If you appeal to children, they have to nag their parents for lessons. Younger parents may not have the means to give their children lessons. If boomers answer your ad, you can count on it. They can afford it.
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I've made a big mistake. I feel my heart hurt as hell. I want to fix it but I don't know how?.
My A(sister) and her b (boyfriend)
Broke up on tuesday.
Me and B are really good friends, I always hang out at his place (he lives alone) and drink etc..
B's bestfriend Y, is also my bestfriend (he is a male).
On wednesday B called me and told me to come over (it's okay he always does) and told me that Y is coming and 3 other of our friends and they are bringing Tequila.
So I went and I was very drunk, me and B were in the room, and I was telling him he should go back to A, THEN HE KISSED ME
He kissed me and said he liked me, we made out really hard(including blowjobs and almost fucking)
I don't remember anything, but that all our friends left but Y was sleeping in the room and we were making out HARD again on the couch, then I don't remember exactly but that I woke up and I was naked (no pants or underwear) and there was a blanket on me on the couch.
So I put my underwear on and pants, and went to Bs room and found him asleep but Y wasn't at home.
On thursday Y was traveling,(he was going to travel after the party on a holiday) we're at a party and he told me when i'm extremely drunk i'm going to call because there is something i have to tell you.
When he was drunk, he told me "I know that you and B made out, _____ I love you, and I told B that yesterday and he was so surprised because he made out with you, and I was shocked you would do something like that, how could you make out with your A's ex after one day, and I couldn't sleep so when i was leaving i found you naked on the couch, then put the blanket on you" and he kept telling me stufff
I was shocked, i thought B put the blanket on me. I'm so embaressed and i don't know what to do.
I messed up BIG TIME.
I don't know how to fix it and I've hurt alot of people because of my stupidness. Please help me, i don't have anyone to ask and when i asked my bestfriend (she isnt in town, she left) , she told me
"fuck you its B (A's longest relationship... someone she loved!)
sarah that was low
really low
lower than A would ever go or even THINK about going
i cant help you
the only thing you can do now is to grow up ya ______(and im saying this because i love you and i dont what to see you get pregnant or end up being an alcoholic)
you need to start thinking seriously about shit take a look at what your becoming ya ______
i mean first with ahmad(a guy in a party) which was bad but i let it go then with sharaf(ma ex) i couldnt believe what you did but i didnt say shit because i thought maybe this would make you start watching what your doing but no after that came shady(another dude)... sure it was funny but seriously remember when we used to criticize carina(a girl used to make out with shady)? well your waaaaay worse and now B!
i swear to god _____ im starting to think you should go and live with your dad for real
sure he was an asshole but he's better than winding up on the streets with nothing
and believe me _____ this is only gonna get worse when you go to australia...
i know you want me to pat you on the back and say its gonna be alright but the way your behaving its NOT
you seriously need to stop drinking stop screwing around and ACT LIKE A 14 YEAR OLD instead of some middle aged drunken whore
i swear to god _____ if i were there i would slap and beat some sense into you
i know no one gives a rats ass that ur ruining ur life including your mom (i love that woman but enough is enough) but I DO!
you need to start sobering up and stop drinking ALL TOGETHER!
which means no drinking at all not even an ID
its not impossible ya _____ people who r worse off than you did it
thats only the tip of the iceberg
but if you cant do that then im tough luck _____ your probably gonna end up dead before your 18"
Please anyone help me to fix it.
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I would have put it in a more civilized tone, but, your friend is on the money. Follow her advice. What's done is done and you will reap the consequences, but, from here on, straighten up and fly right. If you can't do that at home where you are, then maybe you should consider living with your father. You need someone to discipline.
Are you really only 14?!!! My God, what will you be willing to do when your 18?
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How do you earn your new friend's trust?
like with a secrets and stuff how can i prove her that im trustworthy and good at keeping secrets?ive known her for 3 months
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The proof is in the pudding. Don't repeat what she tells you. Trust is earned and you'll need to establish a track record.
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Ok so im in my 1st year of college and i live on residence with 3 other girls.
The one girl is in my program and at the begining of the year we have been realy close. But now, she wont even speak to me. She tries to exclude me from everything possible. Ive even heard her talk about me behind my back to one of my other roomies and some classmates. Its not even like something was said or we got into a fight shes just gotten into some mood.
I cant talk to her becaus she wont give me the time of day and i have to live with her for another 2 months.
What do i do? (link)
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Ask her if you've done anything to offend her. Work it out. If she doesn't give you the time of day, shrug it off and go about your business. Don't let her think she's important enough to you to consume you time and thoughts. If she won't discuss the problem with you, then she's juvenile and spiteful. Get on with your life. You have more important things to concentrate on than an immature roommate.
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So I've known this boy for like six months, I can't say we've been talking that whole time, cause when we were we weren't that serious, M. I had sex (lost my virginity) to another guy during the course of that time, I have no affection or love or anything for that boy. I truly feel I love M. Im pretty sure were going to end up having sex, but we're not together or anything, do you think it's bad for me to have sex with him & he's not my boyfriend? He knows how I feel about him, and he knows I wouldn't do anything with anyone else but him. Do you think he'll think I'm fast cause I have sex with him & were not together, & do you think he might not ever want to get with me because of us doing this before being in a relationship? Advice pleasee (link)
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He won't think your fast if you have sex with him...he'll know it!
You call him a "boy" so that tells me you are pretty young. In my humble opinion, you are probably too young to be having sex anyway. You aren't in love with this boy, you are infatuated with him. You have all the emotions that go along with infatuation and they are strong!
There are consequences to everything we do in life. If he perceives you as 'easy', he will take full advantage of that and he will have bragging rights to it. Your reputation is far more valuable than any relationship that could ever come from this. We are talking about your body, here. Your body is YOU. Do you really think you should hand yourself over to a boy who you aren't even dating? I say "no". Not even to a boy you are dating! Any boy who respects you will respect your decision not to have sex. Sex never bought anyone's love or commitment.
You'll know true love and commitment when you have a boy who sticks around day in and day out even if he isn't getting sex from you. That's the kind of relationship that is worth pursuing. Anything else is just an exercise on how to get in your pants.
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In two weeks I will be staying in Florida for 10 days.I have never been there before, i know its warm but i am still not really sure what all to bring. I will be staying at a resort along the ocean. what all should i pack?? (link)
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Bathing suit
3 pairs of shorts
3 short sleeve shirts
2 sweat shirts
1 pair of pants
5 pairs panties
2 bras
1 or 2 pairs of sandals
1 pair of shoes (or sneakers)
Tanning lotion or sun block
Make-up
hair care products
toothbrush
toothpaste
deoderant
You can get most sundries at the hotel. Some they will provide (shampoo & conditioner, lotion) others you can buy. If you run out of clothes, they can be picked up at your room and laundered for a price. You could wash them yourself and let them hang to dry while you're out on the beach. The worst thing to do is to bring too many clothes. People tend to over pack. Keep your bag light! Trust me...I've been traveling for 40 years. Light is the key word.
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16/f
well me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago. we have been best friends for 2 years and have dated for 8 months. we know eachother inside out and hes the only one i trust. he was my everything. he was the first guy i ever loved. now that hes gone i just cant believe it. he said he wasnt ready for a relationship so i had to let him go. its too hard for him to talk to me as a friend so now we just ignore eachother. its really sad, i miss him more and more everyday i have cried everyday for the past month. i hate seeing him flirt with all these other girls and he acts like everything is fine. it kills me inside. he was the perfect guy for me and the most amazing guy in the world. he was captain of the football team, always so smooth, class clown who made everyone laugh. most popular guy in school who everyone knows and likes. so strong on the outside yet sensitive on the inside. someone i could spend everyday with no matter what and really open up and cry to him when something was going bad. we would sleep on the beach on summer nights with eachother, watch movies on rainy days, get dropped off in random places and find the funnest things to do. he was absolutely everything to me, all i ever needed. my best friend. now that hes gone everything just isnt worth it anymore. my heart is crushed and i would kill to have him back. id kill to be able to fall asleep in his arms 1 more time like we used to every night. for him to whisper to me that everything would be ok and that he loved me more than anything. that he'd stick with me through anything. just for him to kiss me one more time i would do anything. he was absolutely the perfect guy for me. he had not one thing about him that i didnt like. we really were perfect for eachother. my friends are telling me to move on but i really cant imagine ever being with anyone else. and even if i was they wouldnt be perfect like him. im so lost. what do i do?!? (link)
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You're not ready for a new relationship because you aren't letting go of the previous one. The wounds are still a little fresh, so for now you are still pining away. You'll get past this, but it may take time.
You are setting him up in your mind to be perfection. I promise you, he is far from perfect. If you feel he is, then nobody will ever be good enough because nobody can compete with perfection. While you are still hurting and have him on this high pedestal, you must remember, he has flaws, just like everyone else in this world. There are other guys out there who would be sensitive enough not to flirt with others if they knew you were anywhere nearby to see it. Or even hear of it. Right there is your "perfect" boyfriend! That's cruel. "Act's like everything's fine." That kinda says it all. He doesn't care who he hurts. I call that smug and arrogant. Not my idea of perfect or sensitive.
You love him and it'll be tough going for a while, but you'll get over him in due time. Meanwhile, chin up. Keep in mind that he continues to hurt you by his actions despite the fact that you once had a relationship. Keep in mind that he should respect what you once had, even though you've broken up, and should act with more sensitivity than he is. Keep that in mind and you'll eventually see that he is not the guy you think he is.
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i need to lose 10 pounds
and i started last week on eating healthy and working out everyday
i have been doing cardio for 40 minutes in the early morning and then later that night. (Turbo Jam Cardio Party mix 1)
after that week i weighed myself and i havent lost any weight im EXACTLY the same when i have REDUCED my calories to about 1400 a day..
i should have lost about a pound or something right?!
am i doing something wrong? (link)
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It does seem strange that you haven't lost weight, but you don't say how old you are, your height, weight and age and your gender.
Here's a website for women that can help to determine how many calories you need to maintain your weight, assuming you are a woman...http://www.caloriecontrol.org/calcalcs.html
To lose weight you would have to take in fewer calories than that.
If you're taking in less calories already, then you could be holding onto water. The first 10 lbs. are usually the easiest to shed. If you are retaining water, lower your salt intake. Don't cut out the salt altogether because your workout sounds pretty intense and you need salt.
I wish I could be of more help, but, I'm not sure what to make of it.
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*17 female
prom is in a month and i am soo pale. its disgusting. well i want a tan and spray tans don't work for me. they make me look orange and it smells and the tan washes onto my clothes. i know fake baking is bad but i would only be doing it for a month. once a week. sometimes maybe 2. thats it...
can someone please give me a good argument i can use against my mom so that maybe she will let me? (link)
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Tanning on a regular basis is bad, but, I don't think it would hurt a couple of times a week, just to produce results for the prom, as long as you discontinue the practice afterwards. It is the long term effects of tanning, whether it's artificial OR natural, that causes cancer. It's the burning of the skin, over and over, that's the problem. That's the only reasonable discussion I can think of that you could bring to your mom.
The only other solution would be to spend 3 hours a day outside until the prom. That will definitely give you some color. I know because I spend 3 hrs. a day, everyday, outside riding horses and I always have color. If mom says "no" to the tanning bed, then go outside and rake leaves, take a walk, ride a bike....do your homework outside! Anything, just get out there.
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Dose anyone now a good store to get diet pills from at a reasonable cost that REALLy work? (link)
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The only diet pills that really work are precription and they can be dangerous. Over-the-counter pills are all bogus, according to my own experience. They don't do anything except, perhaps, make your heart race. AND SOME OF THEM DON'T EVEN DO THAT!
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I'm like 155 pounds and 5'5". And its hard to get motivation and the time to go out there and run. Cause I want to train for the sports I'm taking next year by becoming more agile and having more endurance. And what can I do to target the problem areas? (from stomach down to ankles). I'm getting a bit chubby on my stomach and my butt is huge! Its one of the things of being black (lol) but still.. what else can I do other than running to lose weight? Like can you give me a work out schedule for the week? cause I dont know how much in the week i should be working out. and what time is the best to work out, and how to eliminate cravings (its probably how i gained a lot of those extra pounds, ugh) and find time inbetween my busy life to do this stuff?
any extra tips on how to be healthier are good as well. I'm only 15 so i dont have a say on what my mom buys for food. like we dont even have a lot of snacks and we rarely ever eat out (like less than 10 times in a year do we either go to a restaurant or order food like pizza, chinese, etc. i love sushi and other japanese foods but its expensive and my mom doesn't really like that some is raw but its amazing) so sometimes i feel so.. sugar deprived. then i go on a binge and eat something "special" she buys like.. binging on hot cocoa powder and adding extra sugar to tea and stuff. its pathetic but idk.. like i feel that other people who have grown up with all this junk food in their house are used to it, so they dont get as excited as i do when we FINALLY have it. i hate that. i mean i love eating fruits and stuff (my mom buys plenty) and i dont exactly want her to buy junk food but how can i just stop the binging? like when im going shopping i tend to end up buying candies and stuff just cause of the cravings. and i even end up wasting my money on school lunch (I always get a sub, fries and chocolate milk when I do) because my mom doesnt buy the stuff they put in subs.. like those special cheeses and meats that my mom says isn't good for you cause they are processed. i know that but they just taste soo good and while i can make a sandwich at home (tuna, avocado, or pb&j usually) like the other is so appetizing and i make a snap decision and get it. and i end up eating the whole meal down to the last fry when other people.. some dont even finish their meals. i guess cause i've been brought up to fiinish the food on my plate and since its rare to get that food and its my own money i dont want it to be a waste. like it got to the point where i took money from my mom just to get lunch since i didnt have 2 bucks, and felt so guilty and didnt want to bloat like i do by eating too much of the school lunch that i got a pack of gum & a giant cheese pretzel at first. yeah i seriously need help.
I mean my calves are pretty muscular as are my arms too. I have no idea why I have arm muscles.. like people ask me if I exercise them when I dont.. I've just always had them.. as far back as I can remember having defined muscles was when i was 4 or 5 - why is that?
anyways, thanks ALOT for reading all of this, and by answering you can really help me in life. i want to be healthier and feel better about myself from not only losing the weight but by training for next year so that i can be even better than i was last year, and for putting an end to silly binges. Any other tips you have on the topic, PLEASE SHARE! Ones that have worked for you.. other people too. Once again, thanks! =] (link)
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Exercise alone won't necessarily cause you to lose weight. Muscle weighs more than fat, so if you build muscles, they'll be heavier than the fat. You must exercise to get in shape, but, you can't eat back the calories you burn. One pound of fat equals 3500 calories so you must cut out 3500 calories (diet)to lose one pound. If you cut out 3500 a week, you will lose one pound a week. To lose two pounds a week you need to cut out 7000 calories a week. It's just a matter of arithmetic. You can burn those calories and restrict your intake.
My son recently lost 40 lbs. over 5 weeks. He did it by being very careful with what he eats (low fat, healthy foods, vegetables) and restricting the amounts he eats. Small portions, 6 times a day. The reson for eating 6 times a day is to stave off the hunger which tens to make us binge and binge on whatever catches our eye! If you're starving, you much less likely to resist the temptation to over eat and eat things that are guaranteed to undermine your diet.
1. 7am: 1/2 cup oatmeal, no sugar.
2. 10am: One egg.
3. 12pm: Can of tune, no mayo, no bread!
4. 2pm: large salad, no fattening dressings, one slice of whole wheat bread. (lemon juice)
5. 4pm: 4 oz. chicken and 4 oz. green vegetable.
6. 6pm: Another salad (smaller) with 1 egg.
optional: Very SMALL portion of dessert ( two small cookies, 1/4 cup ice cream, etc.
Don't let anyone tell you weight loss is easy. It's not. You will have hunger pangs because your body is used to a certain amount of food everyday and now you will be depriving it. You must stick to you regimen even when you reach plateaus and fight through them.
You can work your problem areas by targeting them with exercises. Go online and look up exercises for your specific problem areas and do them. They work. Keep in mind that no amount of exercise will get rid of the fat on those problem areas. For that you need weight loss. Once the fat is gone, you will see the muscles. The stomach is notorious for that! You can build your ab muscles pretty quickly because they are some of the largest and strongest muscles in your body, but if there is a layer of fat over them, you won't see the results (a six pack). That doesn't mean they're not there. Also, your problem areas will be the last areas that lose fat! Period. That's why they are your problem areas.
Your mother knows what she's doing! You probably should have gone with her plan in the first place!
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I am a singer, but if I am not playing the part acting like someone else on stage, it is hard for me. I have to go on stage showing who I really am, and show my emotions through my music, but I get terrified because its like being naked in front of the world, and they can see my soul. Im the kind of person who generally keeps to myself, but my passion is to sing. I dont cry in front of people either, and singing for me is like that, because I am exposed. I dont have anything to hide, I am just causeous. Can anyone knock some sense into me per say, or knows of a way I can come out of this? (link)
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I could never get on stage and do what you do, even though I can sing very well. I would be freaking out. If I were you, before I went out to sing, I'd psych myself out and pretend to myself that I was in character for whatever song I was singing. Go out there as if you are playing a part and sing the part!
Hope this helps.
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my friend has been with her bf for like 4 monthes now and he pretty much rapped her. she was broken in a million pieces and i was the only one there for her. it was horrible it hurt me to see her go through all the pain!
to make it worse she went back to him! cos he didnt want to be alone... shes 18 and works full time, shes not that close with her mum or her sister and she told me if she broke up with him that would make her feel lost and empty.
i told her how i felt and that i dont trust him anymore and dont want to see him. she understood why. i cant get how she just forgave him like that! i hate him for hurting her it still makes me cry cos of how broken he made her.
at 12am last night i got a msg from her saying "can i come over sorry if i woke you=[" i didnt get it til the morning and then i msg'ed and ask why she said she wasnt going to stay at her bfs house for a week... im so scared he did it again... what do i do? i cant bare to see her sad again it hurt so much and iv already told her she should brake up with him but she wont listen.
what do i do??? (link)
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By "rapped" I am assuming you mean "raped".
There's not much you can do except talk to her and try to convince her that this guy is very bad news and DANGEROUS. This is a classical abuse situation and he has alot of pent up rage. Really...your girlfriend needs psychological counseling. If she could get counseling now, while she's young, she be a world ahead of the game. Rape is a crime motivated by violence, not, as many people believe, motivated by sex. Eventually, he will be smacking her around. If she tolerates this, she will have to tolerate alot more. People who stay in abusive relationships have very low self esteem and other issues that go back to childhood. Same with her boyfriend. He's acting out. Abusers and the abused always seem to seek each other out. Mark my words, unless she gets help, she will find another abuser to hook up with and the cycle will remain unbroken.
I know it hurts to see this happening, but you can't do much about it. Just encourage her to leave him. She doesn't feel that she deserves better treatment. So sad. Perhaps you could scare her to her senses by telling her the next step is that he uses her as a punching bag!
RE: You don't have to give up your friendship with her, just let her know how you see her situation and then let it go. You can't do anything but encourage her to stay away from him.
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My hair is constantly falling out. I'm pretty sure its due to stress even though I feel i've been alot less stress then usualy. It used to not be so bad but it keeps getting worse. The problem is my agency wants me to grow my hair out long but its physicaly impossible cause my hairs falling out and just getting shorter. What can I do to strangthen my hair and stop it from falling out!! please help (link)
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Buy a good vitamin supplement(powdered)and take it daily. All One by Nutritech is a very good supplement. If you are not eating properly then you probably have a vitamin deficiency which will show up in your hair and skin.
On the other hand, you should see a doctor as well. A dermatologist can tell you if you have other issues, like alopecia. Does you hair fall out in clumps where you have a bald spot or is it all over your head? Regardless of the diagnosis, you should take a vitamin supplement.
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Is sex (in marriage) for a Christian just for reproduction? I am a Christian and I don't plan on having sex before marriage. So is sex for a Christian not allowed for anything but reproduction? (link)
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Sex for a Christian is not only for reproduction, but to show your love for one another, exclusively. The fruit of that love is children.
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I met this really nice guy (lets call him warren) almost 5 days ago. We met at a bowling alley and I actually kinda liked his friend (Luke)- however when I found out that I was 4 years older than Luke, I knew that wouldnt ever happen because it would be illegal because he was 14 and im 18... so thats a negative. Well, Warren, Luke's friend, ended up letting me stay at his house for the night because it was too late for me to get back to my house. Warren hit on me, and then we started kissing, and well, one thing led to another. THEN, after that happened we were just talking and I found out he is my best friends cousin. I told her about me and warren hanging out and when i did she was like "Please tell me you arent messing with him." I told her i wasnt, but that i was becoming pretty close to him (which is true). I dont know what it is about him though. We are complete opposites. Im more of a voluptous girl, while he is skinny, im in high school, he is graduated, he is country, and I am proper. However the connection we have is hard to ignore; physically and emotionally. He said to me, "I bet you $100.00 that you will fall in love with me." and of course I denied it. I cant tell if by saying that he is wanting to start dating me or not. But based on the situation do you think that I should pursue the relationship or let it diminish? I just wanted an honest opinion.
madison
(I rate high for good/well-thought out answers!) (link)
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Well, I wouldn't pursue him, I'd let him pursue me. If you really like him, I don't see why you shouldn't see him. I will say that I wouldn't sleep with him, or even mess around. Right now, you are both infatuated with each other. You shouldn't do anything that you might regret should nothing come of it. It may not develop into a relationship. His $100 bet might just be a clever line or it could be a come on.
My advice is to go slow and don't assume that things will work out. I have a friend who mat and fell in love with and married her complete opposite. Nothing in common. They are now married 35 years and very happily! Others who've done the same thing have regretted it as they have no common ground when the infatuation dies. And die it will.
Date him, with caution.
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I love my boyfriend and I've known him just about the majority of my whole life and I'm happy we are together BUT it's not enough. We barely spend anytime together except school. And we only have one out of eight classes together. I have tried telling him that it bothers me that we only spend a little bit of time together but it's like it goes in on ear and out the other. To be honest I feel unwanted and kind of unappreciated. I'm a damn good girlfriend. And lately the whole lack of quality time I've been getting is starting to irritate me to the point where I'm ready to break up with him. And yet I don't want to because I care about him but I think I deserve more. I wish I would get more from him but I'm not. Either I get it from or I'll get else where. Idk what to do...help please. I'm kinda scatter brained right now. I don't want to make a mistake and regret later. (link)
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The longer you know someone the less exciting they are. That's a given. Usually, this is an issue with married people. You don't say how old you are, but if you are still in school, even if it's college, you must be young.
I don't want to tell you to break up with your boyfriend because he may be perfect for you. I don't know because I don't know you or your relationship with him. Perhaps you should just tell him that things need to change in the relationship or you want out of it. I'd be blunt. If he doesn't make the effort, then I would break it off. Big world out there with lots of excitement!
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Are there any advice sites that have your question answer really fast? (beside yahoo answers.) (link)
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Yes. THIS SITE!
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