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Feeling Unwanted <---& Boy Does It Suck
I love my boyfriend and I've known him just about the majority of my whole life and I'm happy we are together BUT it's not enough. We barely spend anytime together except school. And we only have one out of eight classes together. I have tried telling him that it bothers me that we only spend a little bit of time together but it's like it goes in on ear and out the other. To be honest I feel unwanted and kind of unappreciated. I'm a damn good girlfriend. And lately the whole lack of quality time I've been getting is starting to irritate me to the point where I'm ready to break up with him. And yet I don't want to because I care about him but I think I deserve more. I wish I would get more from him but I'm not. Either I get it from or I'll get else where. Idk what to do...help please. I'm kinda scatter brained right now. I don't want to make a mistake and regret later.
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well, it sounds like you need to discuss this with him. tell him how you're feeling. say that you're unhappy with the current situation and unless it changes you don't think that you guys can continue going out. make sure you talk it out with him before you break up with him. if it seems like he is going to improve, then give him a chance. if he doesn't change, then dump him. you deserve a guy who wants to put just as much effort into the relationship as you do. you could also try calling him and asking him to come over or something so you can spend more time together? is he not hanging out with you more because he's busy? or because he just isn't willing to make the time for you? if he's just busy with sports or whatever then you should probably cut him some slack. but if he sits at home doing nothing after school or on the weekends, but still doesn't make an effort to hang out with you.. then things need to change! good luck girl =)
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Be honest with him about your feelings and watch for his body language while you talk. See if he actually listens and cares about your concerns. Let him know that if things are not worked out you are prepared to move on and find happiness elsewhere. If he seems to care and does talk to you about change...there may still be some hope. If he sighs,rolls his eyes,looks away or seems likes he's not interested then you need to let him go and do better for yourself. Be warned that if you decide to leave him and he finds out that you are seeing someone else he will probably try to wiggle his way back into your life. This doesn't always mean that he has changed or even that he necessarily wants you back but will have more to do with the fact that he doesn't want someone else to have you. So, really think about it and be honest wit yourself. If you see that this relationship is going nowhere, get out and find happiness elsewhere.
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The longer you know someone the less exciting they are. That's a given. Usually, this is an issue with married people. You don't say how old you are, but if you are still in school, even if it's college, you must be young.
I don't want to tell you to break up with your boyfriend because he may be perfect for you. I don't know because I don't know you or your relationship with him. Perhaps you should just tell him that things need to change in the relationship or you want out of it. I'd be blunt. If he doesn't make the effort, then I would break it off. Big world out there with lots of excitement!
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