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before, i posted about my friend being over obsessed with her camp friends and making me and her other school friends being like backup. i think im going to talk to her about it, but i dont know how to say it casually without hurting anybodys feelings. what should i say!??! (link)
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There is no unhurtful way to relay this type of information. The only non-hostile way to say it is not to yell, but just say it as if it were a general conversation.
The reactions of your friend will rely deeply on how you speak to her.
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hello, this is Jackie here. I have a problem. I am confused... there is this boy, I like him and from what I can tell, he likes me. I am 14 and he is a little older. This weekend this boy, my sister and another boy went to a community swimming pool. We sat next to eachother, he put his arm around me, and we held hands. after that I went home and soon I got a call from some girl saying that she was the boys new girl friend and that I need to stay away from him now. and I'm not sure if she's for real, or just being mean? I think that it could be this girl who's friends with him, that I made a comment about me not liking. So maybe she found out and knows that I like him, and wanted to get me back. I'm not sure. what do you think? Please help i rate well
*jackie* (link)
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Talk to the guy about your relationship. He obviously likes you.
If you're just curious, ask if he has a girlfriend.
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know any?
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I need a car... lol (link)
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kellybluebook
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So, I've been rping online for a really long time. I have this one rp buddy that I've had for a year or so, and I've really gotten to know, and have become pretty good friends with. Well, as good of friends as you can become over the internet.
I don't have a infatuation with him (he's gay after all), that isn't my problem. The problem is, that a month or so ago he had told me that he went to the doctor to get a malignant melanoma removed. Then, the other day he told me that he had gone back to the doctor to get tested for a form of tuberculosis that had been going around because he was coughing up blood..
They found out that not only did he have ulcers in his stomach.. but he is in an advanced stage of melanoma cancer, meaning it's spread from the skin and into his body. And it's all because the fucking doctors missed a few spots, or didn't remove a lymphnode.
I don't know if I should feel as bad as I do.. I cried last night thinking about it.. I mean he is as young as I am, only 15, and he has just about no chance. And it's all because of a doctors mistake on something that was easily treatable and easily cured. And I hate thinking that one day I'm going to get on and he's just not going to be there, and it's going to be because he's dead. I just don't know how to deal with it, and it's not like I can explain that to my parents. They would probably take my computer away or say he's making it all up. I wish I could help him but I don't know what else to give from where I am other than encouraging words..
If anyone could help me, it would be incredibly appreciated.. I'm sorry this is really long, but I felt it should be fully explained to get any real help from people. (link)
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You have found yourself in an odd situation here. You know someone well enough to have feelings for them, but you literally don't know them at all.
It's perfectly fine to feel bad for him. But really, at this point feeling bad is all you can do. Encouraging words are the only things an online friend can provide.
Enjoy your time with him.
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So my friend called me last night when he was drunk... i'm dying to know: does alcohol kind of act as truth serum? or is it jus the first thing they think of saying? thanks! (link)
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Occasionally it can.
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I was with my boyfriend for a few months and every day I found myself more and more in love with him.
Well, out of the blue, the other day he dumps me. He tells me that his feelings have changed. He tells me he has been feeling this way for a while. And yet I just don't understand why he's doing this. He goes on about how I'm an amazing girlfriend and an amazing person and that "It's not you it's me". He always said that he wanted a nice girl, one that would be there for him and care about him. Well, here I am right infront of him and he lets me go.
I gave him the world on a silver platter.. and this is what I get in return.
I need to know, from a guys point of view why he's doing this. Hell, girls you can answer it too.
Also, what can I do to make myself happier? I haven't been happy in a long long time... =/ (link)
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He may genuinly -sorry to put it this way- be sick of you. He really did have feelings for you at one point, but now he got what he wanted -a relationship- and is moving on out of boredom. It's hard to find the right person.
He could always be someone who likes not being able to have it more than actually attaining it. If you get what I mean.
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well recently i asked sum gal out and she sed yes but the problem is she is 1 yr younger and im gettin teased bout it should i break up with her or just take it i like her alot
and her best frend is my cuzin
plz help
i rate 5 (link)
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Never listen to what others say. Many adults date each other with rather large age differences. 6-10 years some times. Age means nothing in a relationship. Unless of course she's 7 and you're 16. But you aren't.
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okay so here's the deal. I'm 16/f and my best friend is a guy. He's attractive but i've never really like thought about doing anything sexual with him. He used to date one of my other friends, and now he's asking me to do stuff with him. I'm sure if I should. I'd feel bad because of my friend, but I want to at the same time because I haven't been with anyone in along time. Considering i've only been with 2 other guys. What should I do? Am i bad person for even considering it? (link)
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Your intentions are wrong, yes. Just because you don't see many people doesn't mean that since this guy wants to do something with you, you should. You'd just be using him.
You aren't bad for considering it, that's normal. If you were actually do this, it would most certainly be wrong. Make sure you're in it for the right reasons.
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Im just going to get down to the point. What could be a creative way of asking her out face to face? What do girls like to be complimented on? What really really turns a girl on?
I want this from a females perspective mostly. Thanks. I rate 5's.
15/m (link)
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AIM: shootthefat1
I can help you out. Speak to me on that screen name. I have a bag full of tricks/tips/ and TESTED ways for women to start liking YOU!
By the way. Compliments aren't the best way to get her to like you -you do need to start complimenting her once she starts showing signs she does like you though. Especially if she's on the WAY pretty side. Why? She obviously gets them a lot. I can help you out by telling you how to change the pace up. Get her off guard then maker her try and prove herself to you.
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This guy has been calling me a lot, and I barely know him. We've hung out a few times (with other friends with us), and only once has he mentioned wanting to see me in a different way if you know what I mean. But he calls me and we talk about random stuff. The thing is, he's not the boyfriend type and usually has a bunch of girls, never a girlfriend (or so I've HEARD). My question is.. IF I wanted to have something with this guy, how can I make him "settle down" and be in a real exclusive relationship? Any tips, tricks, advice? thanks! (link)
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I recommend staying away from him. You'll save yourself a broken heart and a hard relationship.
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heres a simple question, am i weird? i am 13 and i like old songs like by the 4 seasons and i have them on my ipod and stuff. and also ALOT of other oldies or old songs. not just oldies, like stuff from 80's and 70's. and i loved the jersey boys musical. i dont think of myself as a geek. i also love new songs but i love old songs just as much, am i a little.. odd? (link)
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No. Just because you don't listen to what everyone else does doesn't mean you're 'odd'
Matter of fact you may find people like the fact you don't just follow the crowd.
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my boyfriend just asked me if i would dip..
but i honestly dont know what that means!!
he said.. you do know what that means right?
and i said yes.. and he goes do you want
to? but i have no idea what that means !!
im 14/f & so clueless.
please help me ASAP
cuz i need to text hiim back! (link)
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'dip' is slang for chewing tobacco. I recommend staying away from this.
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Ive gotten to like this girl. Shes beautiful and has a nice personality. I want to say something nice to her and let her know how I feel about her. Im not keen on love letters, asking through friends and things like that, and I can't seem to find the right time because shes always with her friends everytime I want to talk to her. Ive heard that compliments work a treat. I need a list of compliments that are from a girls point of veiw that girls like said to them. Could you give me some girls advice or steps on asking her out or using special body language. 5's deffinately will be given out for really great advice/steps. Girls only. (link)
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Sorry, I'm a guy, but I thought I could help.
Do this. Tell her you can read minds. Play a game with her. Ask her to guess a number between 1-10.
Most girls will pick 7 - trust me, I've tested it. If they don't pick 7, it'll usually be 6. Unfortunately that happened to me tonight. I said 7 , to which she said "Nope! I usually pick 7, but this time I chose 6" DAMN! But oh well, it happens occasionally.
Now, if she doesn't pick your number then say something like this "Oh... that's too bad. We'd never work out"
She'll reply along the lines with something like "What? What do you mean"
Say "I was doing a personality test, people who choose my same number or higher -if she chose something higher than 7 then just say people who go with something lower- I can tell I'll have a great future with"
It's corny, but right here you're pushing her away. From this point on, she'll try to qualify herself for you. To show she is YOUR type.
If she picks your same number just say "Great, you're my kind of girl." And continue on with your story about how people who choose your number you get along with and blah blah.
This should most certainly work for you.
By the way DO NOT compliment her. By doing this you're giving her control. Make her work for you. Don't give her a compliment, but give her a playful I don't want to say insult, but I will.
Don't tell her she's ugly, but say something to show you arent' interested in her. Not only will this make her want to prove herself to you, but you'll definitely see a change in her attitude.
Now, why do this? You said she's beatiful. How many times a day do you think someone says "You're pretty/hot/insert any cliche word for good looking here/ to her?
If you change up the pace and say something she wasn't expecting, she won't know what to do and will want your approval.
As for special body language do this.
Stand straight. No arching of the back or slouching of the shoulders.
Speak in a slow and understandable voice. Don't talk fast. Sound confident.
You're a guy, don't put your hands in your pockets -it shows insecurity. Sprawl your arms out. Look comfy, look confident.
Look her in the eyes -but don't just stare to the point that it is scary.
PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE SAYS! You can run a conversation off of all the info she is giving you. You don't even need your own material. This is also a real plus with women. They do realize you're genuinly paying attention to what they say -don't be suprised if she compliments you on your listening skills-
The best way to end this conversation with her will be 'I've enjoyed talking with you but I have to leave. We should have a conversation like this again. Maybe go out and have some coffee? Whatever works best for you."
From here you can expand your relationship.
If you liked this info I gave you -though I'm not a girl- go ahead and drop a line in my e-mail or on AIM.
Both are listed on my column.
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the guy i like knows that i like him, but his last girl friend was a really popular girl HELP!!! (link)
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If he really likes you, status will mean nothing.
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im 15 almost 16/ female alright well i dont kno y but i dont really ever get guys i go to a small private school in california. well, im thinking it may be my personality. im not drop dead gorgeous but i know im decently pretty cause guyz tell me i am. anyway this year i really want a boyfriend. so what are guys looking 4? and what are their turn offs/ons (link)
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Just walk up and talk to someone you like.
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so this gorgeous guy i talk to on myspace all the time and we went to school together but never really saw eachother and he said i was pretty and blablabla
then he came over today because hes my brothers freinds freind and he sat really close to me
and folowed me and grabbed my hand and stuff lol awe
and he said i was really hot and im like your so cute you look like zac efron lol
then we went in my bed together and he kept touching me and stuff
but then i was like..
i dont want a whore i want a boyfreind.
and hes like come on im not a slut..
blablabla
then he had to leave and we locked my door
and i think he wanted me to kiss him.
but then i didnt..
i should have
then he left
he just left..
with well.
i got to go
cya
and walked out the door..
so...
my question is..
does he like me?
and how do i get him to be my boyfreind..
i really felt something
please help
thank you so much
i rate 5s for tryers..
thank you all (link)
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Does he like you? Well you must have overlooked everything he had done that entire day. Yes, he does.
How do you get him as a boyfriend? Simply ask him.
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My friend is going to kill herself next Friday.
She seems happy about it.
I've tried to change her mind, but that didn't work.
She doesn't eat, she's an insomniac, and she is very stressed.
She's been to shrinks but she says that they were a waste of her time.
She hates her parents because she can never talk to them, I guess.
I don't know what to do. (link)
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Turn her in.
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I've realised I have depression and I desperatley need to talk to someone.
I know who i can trust (its a teacher) and I'm so scared because Im not an open person, I cant talk about my feelings easily.
I've tried to go to the counsellor at college but I cant walk into the room.
Anyway, how can i talk to the teacher?
What do i say to begin the conversation?
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The easiest way to do it is "I have a problem"
They'll probably say "Oh? What's that"
Then go on from there.
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how do you flirt with random guys at the mall. Like, if you don't know them and you walk by them and you totally know they're looking at you. Please no advice saying talk to them unless you add more detail to it- like how to start a conversation. Also, how can I try to walk by them in the mall with out making it seem like I'm a stalker? Thanx tons.
I rate high!
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The best way is to start a conversation.
How? Well, pick something you know guys like.
For instance, most guys like video games. Walk up to him and say "Hey, it's a friends/brothers/ (birthday- or make up some other excuse as to why you'd be buying a video game)
The problem is I don't play many video games so I don't know what's popular right now. Can you help me pick something interesting that he'd enjoy?
Now that you have him hooked, talk with him. Avoid interview questions. For isntance -do you work? What school do you go to? You get the picture-
If you listen to what he says, you can probably just run off of the information he is feeding you.
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so im taking drivers ed this summer and its kind of nice b/c i dont really know anyone in there so i get to act more like myself. basically im not as shy. so theres this guy who sits behind me and he cought my eye the first day. hes smart and taller than me which is rare because im 5'9 but anyways i flirt w/ him and its fun but i dunno im kind of interested in him but i dont know how to get his attention more like i dont know how to be more agressive without coming off as crazy. i think he gets it b/c he flirts back and it makes those 2 boring hours very interesting but im still confused on what i should do. please help! (sorry this is so long!) (link)
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Ask him for a phone number, email, etc.
Or ask him if he would like to go have coffee with you some time.- You sound like you wouldn't be into that at your age, though-
**EDIT**
Well if you take him to Starbucks, the greatness of that store is you can choose from a wide assortment of things. He's bound to know at least one thing he could have there.
Plus, if he's into you, he won't care where you take him. If he really likes you; he'll find something on the menu.
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