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friend problems
before, i posted about my friend being over obsessed with her camp friends and making me and her other school friends being like backup. i think im going to talk to her about it, but i dont know how to say it casually without hurting anybodys feelings. what should i say!??!
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hey, im in almost the exact same situation my BEST FRiEND (no names) goes to a campground every summer... almost ALL summer and i feel the same way, but if you think about it you shouldnt even say anything you should just let it go because it is probably better that she gets a break from her friends shes with all the time because then it will most likely help by you 2 not getting into fights or drama etc. because usually when people hang out with each other all the time they tend to get into more fights then when they dont.. so think of it as a positive thing..
on the other hand, if you feel this strongly about it, bring it up in a conversation ( say if she brings them up ) throw it in casually and just tell her how you feel, if shes truly your friend she wont get mad =]
i hope i helped =]
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Well there really is no way to go about saying it without hurting some feelings. I'm sure she's going to be offended in some way, but just be careful with how you say it and everything.
Just sit down with her sometime and in a calm nicely toned voice, just be like,"Me and ____ have already talked about this as you know, but you haven't really been listening to us, so I just feel the need to repeat it. I mean, we're glad you had a great time and everything at camp, but camp was a couple of months ago, and we've been hearing about it non-stop. Now, every now and then's cool, but hearing it day after day can start to wear down on you, you know? So if you could please just try and stop." ( Or something like that ).
Just let her be aware of everyone's feelings on the situation and that you're all not trying to hurt her feelings or anything and don't want her to feel like she's being attacked, it's just talking with her didn't work before, so you're just to be a little more strong about it and try and make her understand better.
I hope I helped.
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Well, it sounds like your friend is "obsessing" over her camp friends right now because camp wasn't too long ago, as I can imagine. I'm sure she still appreciates you and her other non-camp friends just as much as she used to, it's just she might be enjoying the new friendships (or maybe she doesn't see the camp friends as often) because it's human nature.
You don't really have to *tell* her anything, just try getting together with her and your other friends (but don't include her camp friends) and having fun. Maybe that will make her realize how much you mean to her after all. Or you could try doing something nice for her...
I hope this helps. But if it doesn't I guess you could always say "I just feel like I'm not as important to you as I used to be before you went to camp."
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There is no unhurtful way to relay this type of information. The only non-hostile way to say it is not to yell, but just say it as if it were a general conversation.
The reactions of your friend will rely deeply on how you speak to her.
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