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Q: all my life i had never had a boyfriend and i thought it was me but 3 days ago my brother finally confessed. he told me that he told all the boys i like not to go out with me, its a rule not to go out with my sister. hes 17 and i'm 13. y does my brother want to........... y did my brother ruin my life?

My brother is 19 and always yell's and screams about guys cuz hes really overprotective. he's doing it cuz he loves u and knows guys just want one thing..and he doesnt want to see you get hurt

Q: I like this boy and he is 17 and i am 13. i don't know if he likes me or not but i talk to him on the phone all the time. we could never tell my brother considering that he is my brothers best friend. if my brother ever found out he would kill me! the boy said if i wasn't my brother's sister he would probably go out with me and i am like so in luv with him. i knew him for a year and a half and him and my brother knew each other for 6 years. what should i do now?

He said he would probably go out with you if you werent his friends sister..so he does like you but it seems that he doesnt wanna go out with you cuz he knows ur bro..so just be friends and flirt;)

Q: my mom and dad separted and now i live with my mom and her boyfriend in missouri. my dad still lives in iowa and i want to go live with him but he doesn't have a permanent place to stay yet. and thats y my mom won't let me move with him. do u think that is fair?

Yep I do. Just wait till your dad gets settled, has his own place/job etc. that way your mom and your dad know that you'll be taken care of :)

Q: Okay, well for my Life Management class, I have to work 10 hours of Community Service for free. I'm not sure what to do, I'm really interested in basketball. She told us that cleaning for a basketball team would be considered community service. I was going to ask the local WNBA/NBA arena if I could maybe clean the locker rooms or clean SOMETHING for them maybe 2 hours a day, but I don't know how to do that [ask them]. And they would probably reject that idea. Can you help me think of Community Service Jobs i could do that would interest me? I enjoy basketball, volleyball, and shopping. I also like music.

Thanks SO much in advance for any help!

Halloween is coming up, know any carnivals/schools that need volunteers for their halloween partys and stuff? ask around hope i helped..

Q: ok this gurl likes me and i like her yadda yadda yadda...but she says taht she doenst know if she can take it the next step because i dont go to church regularly...if i did, then she said she would take our relationship further...but i hardly ever go to church...and i usually work on sundays...wat should i do?

Dont go to church just for her..going to church is for God..If you cant go to church because of work and stuff there is nothing you can do..

Q: ok im trying to get an ipod off of freeipods.com does anyone know if its a scam? have u done it and not gotten one or gotten a crappy ipod?? plz lemme know.
thanx--

My friend got a "free" ipod and then every month they would send her a bill for a certian amount of money and they said it was like fees and stuff..and after a while all the fees added up to the amount of money an ipod is..its prolly a scam

Q: I have thick hair and a lot of it....and its layered. School starts next thursday and i want a new style. Ive been tryin to get my hair to flip up on the ends but no matter what i try (curling irons, gel, blow drying with a rounded brush,) i cant make it work. My hair is also really wavy in the back and i want to know what works good to make the front look like the back. (tryed scrunching) If you have any style ideas plz let me know!

Hmm idk but maybe you can go to a hair salon and ask the girl/guy to thin out your hair so that way you can style it more.

Q: My little sister is a freshman this year. We live about 1 1/2 miles from the homecoming football feild, and our parents are going to be out of town so our mom said she can have 5 of her friends sleep over after the game. What are some ideas for them to get home safely (without being egged to death by the seniors) without a car?

Maybe them getting a ride by a friend thats like a junior or something...or asking a relative for a ride?

Q: im 15 and a sophomore in highschool and i'm over weight. Im not gunna say how much cuz i don't feel confortable saying it but it's quite a bit. I'v lost 30 pounds beofre but most ofit came back and its really hard. The strange thing is im pretty athletic and im even faster then some of the small girls n my school. I'm tired of being fat and of people making fun of me sumtimes. It makes me hate myself and sometimes i juss wanna die. I dont remember a time in my life when i was really actually happy. I know that if i lose alotta weight. I try but i never get to far. I'm eating better then u use to but now i just stay the same weight gaining or loseing 2 or 3 pounds. I never throw up so doing bulimia is outta the question. I dunno what else to do.

Maybe a diet? You can try a low carb-high protien diet..it really works ive done it and i lost 7 lbs in a week and 2-3 lbs every week after that if u need more info about the diet just leave 1 in my inbox

Q: what kinda of sites could i go to and get help about sex and teenage pregnancey?

www.plannedparenthood.org

Q: Okay, this guy really likes me and stuff like that. i am starting to like him to, but he isn't the cutest guy ever, what should I do??

Go out with him, Looks are not everything. If you like him thats all that matters.

Q: Ok tomorrow's picture day and I think I'm going to wear a black and pink skirt, pink flip flops, and a pink tanktop with a pink cool looking thing over it (I don't remember the name of it) Anyways, I was wondering how I should do my makeup and my hair. I want something easy to do but I don't know what. I'd appreciate the help! And yes, I rate but if you ask for ratings I will rate you a 1. PlEaSe HeLp!

Are you talking about the yarn thing? its called a poncho if not, anyway...try pink lip gloss, black eyeliner, and mascara..and a light pink blush.

Q: Hey, I'm 21 years old and female. I have a problem. My boyfriend of 4 years (5 October 3rd!) and I havent had sex yet. He is really not that kindof guy to ask for sex or anything. He's really patient and all we have do is makeout. We were best friends for 2 years before going out and he really respects me. I am ready to lose my virginity to him, because after 5 years of going out shouldent it be time to have some fun? lol I have been on birth control for 2 months just incase when I do ask him if he wants to have sex, he will say yes. I want to tell him I want to lose it on our anniversary but I'm really scared because how am I gonna start the conversation of sex? And since he really respects me and cares for me I think he wouldent want to. But I'm not 16 anymore, I'm a woman and I want to do this. I love him a lot and I just dont know how to ask if he wants to do this! We are talking about marriage so should we just wait till were married? Help!

I think after 5 years maybe your both ready. You guys seem very much in love so say something like "(name), I love you and after 5 years of being together, Have you ever thought of taking our relationship to the next level?" and go from there. :)

Q: I have a problem I did somthing i shouldent have my mom told me never But i was curios so I looked a porno online should i tell her i looked at it or just leave it as is?

lol its ok just dont tell her...but dont look at it again if u feel guilty

Q: Alright well first of all.. I'm 16/female.. if you needed that info to help me out or whatever

Well.. last night I was over at my friend caitlin's house and we got bored so we walked around the corner and met up with some friends(rachel,chrus,anthony,katie) and we were hangin out talkin and what not.. and then we decided to walk back to rachels house.. so we're walkin and talkin and I'm a smart ass.. and someone said somethin stupid so i made a remark about it.. ya know? but chris stares at me and laughs.. like nto staring bad way.. just staring.. but yeah.. then we're back at rachels and chris wanted to swim so he strips down to his boxers and jumps in.. hah it was cute.. but anywhos.. the whole time when we're all sittin out there talkin I would look over and catch chris lookin at me.. I mean it feels like there's somethin there.. but I don't know.. I mean.. he's an awesome kid.. I'd like for there to be somethin there but I don't know.. I mean he's a grade younger than me.. but he's not immature and sldflk I don't know.. I wanna get to know him better to see if there is something there and everything.. but he's not one of the people that I hang out with all the time.. so what do i do?

Thanks a bunch

Hang out with him more, maybe by yourselves? Or you can ask for his number and you guys can talk on the phone a lot..he obviously likes you so get to know him better and if theres somethin there then great:)

Q: What are the back-2-skool colors for this year? What are some trends and things guys look for? Any advice on HS? I just had my first day of it today and I absolutely loved it! It was so much fun! Lol guys already asking for my number...is it always lyke that? THANKS SO MUCH!

Back to school colors would have to be turqoise and fushia(hot pink) I saw it in a magazine:) Advice on high school hmmm do your work, you'll get behind quick..dont fail ur freshmen yr cuz you might have to go to summer skool every summer from then on..and yea older guys usally ask the freshmen girls out haha good luck ur first yr of hs and have fun!

Q: Hey guys! I wanted to let you know that each and everyone one of you gives great advice. Well, this isn't a question of "advice", more like a question. I was just wondering.. do any of you guys know any good quote sites? Thanks so much!

www.firehotquotes.com, www.hellz-angelz.cjb.net(enter the site and on the left side their are a whole bunch of pages!)

Q:
k..i have this friend whos like 2 years younger than me, i look at her like shes my lil sister...i usta ALWAYS give her advice and shed always listen to it and everything would be totally kool..she usta be tha sweetest, funniest, maturest lil kid i knew..like i even came to her wit my probs she was that mature for her age..neway, about 6 months ago she got with this guy..he usta treat her really good, but now hes such a FUCKING DICKHEAD. and no matter what she wont listen to me..she ALWAYS uses tha excuse, IM INLOVE WITH HIM AND I DONT CARE WHUT NE1 SAYS, I KNOW HE WOULDNT CHEAT ON ME, I KNOW HE LOVES ME SO MUCH...and blahblah ya know like shes blinded by this "love"..and now for the past like 4 months of their relationship, all she does is complain and cry over him and she comes to me about it...when she needs something i am ALWAYS fuckin there for her..now she doesnt see it but shes like pushing me and prolly her other friends away because of this assfuck. i dunno wtf to do...its hella hard ttalking to her about it cause all she says is, i love him i dont giva shit what ne1 says..but she doesnt see that her bf doesnt love her tha way she prolly thinks he does, etc...please help

Well tell her that would he really love her if she made her cry all the time? if shes still doesnt listen and uve tryed anything and everything...u just have to wait till the guy breaks her heart again and leaves her..and then when shes over him she'll finally understand..

Q: nun of mi friendz r cheeleaders and i wanna b 1. idk if i should try out wut if they make fun of me or say its not like hott n stuff. wut do i do?? nd plz dont say dont care wut they think. my friendz r very open nd honest.

Cheer is fun l0l! Tryout anyways! but make sure u know what your getting into..if you dont have any experience try joining a class at a local gymnastics gym to get some tips and stuff so u'll be ready for tryouts. good luck and if u need more any info bout trying out and stuff just leave 1 in my inbox:)

Q: hey.. my friend has a boyfriend but likes his best friend and her boyfriends best friend likes her to. she doesnt know what to do... then i kind of like her boyfriend and another guy... how should i go about this situation... shes asking me if she should dump her boyfriend... should i tell her how i feel? plz answer thanx!

I think you should tell her that its her choice if she wants to breakup with him or not..and sure tell her how u feel but dont make it affect her decision about him n his best friend...But why is she wanting to date the guys best friend? Thats messed up..