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Q: Why is it that all teenage boys only want sex, sex and sex? Are there any teenage boys, anywhere, that want a serious relationship? It's so hard to even find a half decent guy anymore. Don't guys just ever want to take things slow and want a girl for more than just sex?

I agree. Guys sometimes want relationships, but it always has to have sex too. Thats why I rather date when i'm like 21..guys are more mature when their in their 20's.

Q: 'weegi boards'...
how do they work? do they? the fortune telling boards...
where can u get them?

I dont think they work. But if you play it, you think it works because you WANT to believe it. So then all of a sudden your moving the little triangle thing and you dont know it..

Q: ok on monday i wanna look realli cute to impress this guy thats sposed to ask me out..ive gotten my outfit its black soffee pants n a shirt that came with it...but im not sure wut to do wit my make-up n hair...i have blonde hair n brown eyes if that helps..and ne tips on how to get my makeup to stay on all day? sry i asked so many questions ill make it easier for you
questions:
1. how should i wear my hair?
2.how shuld i do my makeup
3. ne tips on how to get my makeup to stay on...
thanx! ill rate u 5 for answering!

Either straighten your hair or scrunch it. Wear some black eye liner, cute pink lip gloss (or clear), and a bronzer..it looks like a blush but all it does it gives you a natural look...its really cute. hope i helped!

Q: if there are me and my friend babysitting for 3 1/2 hours is $30 enough to split for both of us

Sure $15 is a lot...but if you could get $40..then $20 a peice would be better. But yep thats fine!

Q: ok.i am 13 n 8th grade n my boyfrined is in 7th grade.I see him @ skool n stuff but wenever hes around me hes like really shy n doesnt want to talk to me.Sooo we dont really talk much.We only talk on the phone and he never calls me.Sooo what shouls i do?

You call him, that way hes more comfortable. If he doesnt say hi to you at school, just say hi to him. And if he wont talk much just tell him that you know hes shy. And that he shouldent be because you like him a lot and you guys should act like your going out. Try going out with him to the movies or stuff..so that way hes more comfortable with you at school. Good luck. Any more questions? Just ask:)

Q: Hey, i'm 15 and a junior in high school. soo.. my problem is that i like this guy which i have for the past two years. i know he likes me to, the only thing is that his parents are was strict and wont let him date. Also i am older than him..by less than a year but i am in two grades higher just because thats how it worked out. he said his parents wont let him date till he's 18 well that wont be till i'm about a sophomore in college. but i really do like him and sometimes i try to tell myself its not worth it. he's my best friends cousin, and i've never told her i liked him even though i really do. i'm not sure whether i should give up on him and try to find a way to like someone else, or just wait it out. also do you think i should tell my friend? i'm scared it'll be wierd. Also, i've never told anyone that i like him. i haven't told him either. sometimes i feel like he knows but i'm jsut not sure. okay any advice greatly appreciated!

I think you should go out with other guys. Have fun..and when the time comes when hes 18 and you still like him..go for it. Feelings change, and in 2 years you might be over him and head over heals for John Smith. (haha) Who knows? I hope I helped. Sorry if I didnt help much, any other questions..just ask!

Q: I'm 14/f. I'm really starting to like one of my brother's friends. My brother and his friend are 17. I get the feeling that this guy flirts with me but I'm not sure. How can I find out if he likes me without him knowing and if he likes me back what should I do about it? I seriously doubt that my brother would like me dating any of his friends.

Well first of all he's 17..Dont you think he could want sex stuff from you? I'm not saying thats all he wants, but you have to think about that. Also since he's your friends brother, dont do it...your bro would get mad. Your brother and him could start fights about it too. So yea dont go out with him.

Q: Wut is in styler as fair as hair, clothes, shoes, wut kind of make up to wear, bags or purses what is in

Well as I can see on advicenators, scrunching your hair is in. Also straightening it is too. Mini skirts are in style, so are ponchos..anything pink or turqoise is cute. flip flops are always in..haha..lip gloss, eye liner, and blush for makeup..and name brand purses are in (luis vuiton, coach, bcbg, guess, etc)

Q: Alright, so a kid named Brian asked me to go to homecomming so I said yes b/c we've known each other for a while now and I figured..well that would be fun. I liked him a little and he started liking me and all that fun stuff. Then like today he just showed up at my work and expected me to go hang out with him and I couldn't just say no. Then he called me his g/f to one of his friends and I asked him why and he got all pissy. I don't know why though. Then he went on about how he's lonely, and he feels theres something between us. And the reason I won't date him is b/c I'm not over my x. Well not the only reason. Now he's driving me insane though. He's just one of those people that get on your last nerve you know? So tonight I eventually told him that I didn't feel a lot between us...I mean I do sometimes...but the majority of the time I don't. But now I think I hurt him...but I'm glad I told him so I don't lead him on. But what do I do to make it so he knows I just want to be friends like for sure...and I still have to go to homecomming with him...and I don't really want too, but I'm not that mean....sorry its so long.
-Zero

Just tell him all you want to do is go to homecoming with him. Nothing more..tell him your sorry you led him on. Thats all you have to do..good luck!!

Q: ok well im on a club soccer team so if you miss a practice or game its bad. but i really want to be on drumline but it takes up 2 saturdays a month and those are the days i have soccer and i cant do both because drumline competeions are out of town and all day so i couldnt go there then back for soccer. i dont know what to do

Maybe you should pick drumline. Because you havent done it before and its good to try new things. If you dont like it, go back to soccer. hope i helped

Q: ok well some idiot at skool made this site that has lists off girls in our grade. theres prettiest, uggliest, bitchiest, and sluttiest. in at number 1 for prettiest and this girl who i dont like is number 1 for sluttiest so now everyone thinks its me and its not! what should i do?
thanx-allison

Tell everyone its not you. Even if they dont believe you, who cares? be proud you were named most prettiest. haha

Q: So all of my life I have been living with my parents, the people I consider to be my parents and I love to death, but not the people who conceived me. I was put up for adoption at birth; but then luckily never had to live in foster care, cos I was adopted just over two weeks after. But I just have so many questions for them. Why would be the most prominant coming to my mind. I do not regret for one second the life that I ended up with, I would just really appreciate some answers. I don't even know much about them at all. I don't know what I should do. I mean, should I try to find my parents? What if they don't want to be found? Why would my "parents" I live with wait until I turned 17 to tell me all this. I'm so mad, they should have told me long ago. I don't know what I should do. Does anyone have any ideas?

I dont know where I heard this from, but I heard it was better to tell your kid growing up that they were adopted so their not shocked when they learn at like 16. But I mean how can you explain that to a 5 year old? I think what they did for you was what they thought was best. Your 17 and your mature..they knew you could handle it. Now that you know, you should ask them questions. If they dont know much try looking up the adoption agency you were adopted through. They have to give you some infomation. Trying to find answers might take a while, and sometimes finding answers takes forever..but you should try. Good luck!!

Q: Okay, I was going out with - lets call him "Michael" - for a month. Then one day at school "Micheal" told - lets call him "Bob" - to break up with me for him since he was in my next class. Well "Bob" didnt tell me first "Ian" did. So then I went into 3rd period, but I forgot my hoodie so I went back to my locker. "Micheal" was in the hall so I went to ask him if he really broke up with me. He said "yeah sorry" and kind of laughed, but it was his lil 'im sorry but i dont really care laugh'.
This was on a Friday, and there was a high school football game that night. I told my friend Erin to go ask him why he broke up with me. But he wouldnt tell her. So then I went and took his hat (a great way to get guys to talk to you) and asked him. He said that like 7 (which is my least favorite number) people told him that I was going to break up with him, so he broke up with me first. Then my other friend went to talk to him and he said that he might ask me out again but he doesnt know since he likes someone else and he thought I was mad at him or something. But then Alicia and I went over to talk to him again later and I dont remember what we said, but he said "im sorry" and I said no your not and walked away from him. Then he kept following me and saying hes sorry but i wouldnt look at him, just kept walking away. The rest of the night was downhill from there.

He said he just wanted to be friends but he still liked me. And of Course I still liked him too. About a week later I cut myself. I told my best friend and she told Jeremy, one of "Micheals" friends. Jeremy told "Micheal" and then at the football game that Friday night, he came over too me when I was talking to my friends and said "We need to talk" So I went to talk to him and he said did you cut yourself? and I said maybe. and he said I dont want you hurting yourself over me. and i just shrugged my shoulders and he was like..whatever..and walked off. then later that night we were talking and then i said well im not good enough for you..im just a "cutter" remember? and he said NO IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU AND I WANT YOU BACK then blocked me (this was on AIM) I really got my hopes up after that.

Then about a week later he asked out my other best friend and they went out for like 3 days. Then about another week later he asked out this girl named Kelsey. Ive always hated her. She thinks shes the best and shes a b****. Their still going out now and I have no idea what to do. I love him he means so much to me. I still cut myself. I really need him to care. MY parents no and only said to stop, but i neeeeeeed him to care. what do i do? -confused one-

Well obviously he doesnt care about you. You need to move on and find a better guy. He seems like a jerk, and I know it'll be hard..but move on. it will take some time, but you'll like another guy sooner or later! If you need any more help leave one in my inbox.

Q: so how come everybodys into scrunching their hair now(not that i havent tried it)??? anyways...is there any other way i can get my "scrunch" to hold without adding hairspray? it makes my hair stick out....i add gel to make the curls and then i add the spray to hold it...can i do this without adding spray? will it still hold?

My sister told me about scrunching, its just something I do now because its better than straightening my hair everyday. So i switch off between straight and curly. Yes you can just add gel, it works fine! Spray and Gel works even better..but just gel is ok! make sure you put the gel everywhere:)

Q: I didnt know what category to put it in soo... Dos anyody have any scary story ideas? I wanna know because I feel like rwriting a short story but I have zero ideas..Please reply.

ok how about, A cerial rapist..torturing lots of girls.

Q: okay, if someone has been smoking pot for 3 years, normally how hard is it and how long will it take for them to quit? and when htey do try to quit, what are soem withdrawal syptoms that me, as his girlfriend, could face with him? and how can i help him through it and be supportive of him without being super pushy. will i have to keep a close eye on him and ask him all the time how he's doing? i have never helpoed anyone over an addiction...so i really dont know what to expect...soem one please help me

Ok people. Editing my answer! A buddy ol pal of mine who used to do weed..says that nothing happens at all. Because weed isint like the other drugs. So dont believe the other advice people, because this guy actually did the drug everyday for 3 years and there was NO symptoms..so there ya go..my answer is right! haha

Q: I am the one who asked about the boy I like. If you didnt read it, I said that I like him and I'm not sure if he likes me. He waves to me, and looks at me in class. I talk to him online and I REALLY like him. Okay, I had a dance last night, and he walked by me and stared at me. My friend said he looked at me a few more times that night. He waved to me again at the dance. What are you thinking about this..? Thank you!!!

He probably likes you! maybe you should go up to him at school and talk to him more. Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. Good luck!

Q: When I started high school, my mom gave me the whole "You'll be starting college soon, so grades and extracurricular activities are important" speach, and she said that any extracurricular activity I wanted to sign up for was fine. She had no problem with me joining the school newspaper, art club, or drama club, but when I asked if I could join cheerleading, she said no because "cheerleading is for bimboes". I don't get why she would say that, it's a sport and it's an extracurricular activity, what's wrong with that? I think she's being unreasonable, but she won't even listen to me. What should I say to her that will make her change her mind?

Hmm. My mom is like your mom lol Cheerleading..ahhh so much drama comes with it. I think you should sit her down. Tell her the things you do. You do not just dance around and clap your hands. cheerleading is some hard work. you lift up people, and you flip and jump. Try talking with the cheer coach about it. Ask her what you could do to change your moms mind. Try having the coach talk to your mom on the phone. Good luck! I think the reason why your mom is freaking out. Is because cheerleading doesnt get looked at as an accomplishment when going to college or anything. But soccer, softball, etc. does.. But you can get cheer scholarships.

Q: I was reading your ''Colum'' and When someone asked you a question about how they could relieve stress.. you said go to a party.. or HAVE SEX.. no, I seriously think thats messed up.. no matter how old a person is they shouldnt have sex.. hell knowing someone like you, someone who give advice like that for a question like that.. you must be one who has had sex tons of times.. THERE are MANY MANY MANY more ways to relieve stress then the ways you've stated....you shouldnt be giving advice on love life or sex questions chick....

hey buddy. i am a virgin and plan on staying one till marraige. If he/she was already having sex, then it would be fine. Thats what i meant by it. Not just saying "go find someone to freak, anyone" It is a stress-reducer but I wasint saying it like find anyone to F up..so f off!

Q: me and my boyfriend have been togeather for like 4months almost. and we have sex like EVERYDAY and i love it and all but i mean he thinks thats all i want..and sometimes i think it is to but i do love him a whole lot...but the thing is hes gota KID yes a KID. and my bf is only 17(IM 16) the girl it was wtih lives in a diff. town adn shes a hoe. but neways...im just scared..i dont wanan get pregante and the fact that he can get girls pregnate scares me...and u know hwat if the condom breaks or somthing cuz im not on BIRTH contorl yet..i will soon hopefully..but ya...i dunno..im just scared..what should i do!?!?! i love him tho!.

"the fact that he can get girls pregnate scares me" **Any guy can get a girl pregnant. yes condoms can break. And I bet is scary but you should be on BC to be extra safe.