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What is "emo"? I've heard so many people talk about it. Thanks!
Emo is short for emotional.. and the music is stuff like Dashboard Confessional and Fall Out Boy and stuff. It's also a label.
i broke up with my ex about a month ago and i've gotten over him and i like this boy in my gym class but hes white and one of my friends say dont do it but shes white to. i dont really konw how to ask him Because im not that thin so how do i go about askin him out
First of all, race shouldn't be an issue when you're dating someone. Neither should size. A lot of guys like girls who aren't paris hilton like or super-anorexically skinny. I would suggest flirting with him a little and seeing where you stand with him, then casually suggest that you guys hang out sometime. If he reacts positively, then you can be pretty sure he's interested. :) Let me know how it works out!
i have a friend who cuts, she hasnt since the summer but today she came into shcool and told me one of my other really good friends and one of her really good friends and made us sweare we wouldnt tell anyone or shed kill us type of thing.....the whole thing is me and my friend dont know exactly how we should help her we know she wants the help but we cant figure out how to...is there anyone with any experience with this that has any sugestions that worked? were all really confsued as to how to solve this and we know that we cant force her to get help but sugest it and jsut be there for her and tlak to her but there has to be somthing more we can do
If she still does it, I think you should go to a counselor. I had a friend who cut, and a friend and i went to the counselor and told her. We felt awful about it, and she was mad at first, but a couple months later she told us how glad she was that we did it. And I know that I would have appreciated the gesture if someone had done it for me.. but you have to remember if you do take this advice, shes going to be mad for a while. i hope everything works out with your friend and she gets better!
I have a friend who is dating an AWFUL guy. He's cheated on her, talked badly about her, but whenever he's near her he puts up this stupid act and she totally falls for it. I told her what hes done and she told me that I was a liar! I don't want her to be devastated when she finally realizes what kind of guy he is, but she won't talk to me now, because shes convinced that I'm trying to get him! I don't know what to do!
Wow. It looks like she's in over her head.. I don't think there's much you can do. You tried your hardest and if shes going to refuse to believe you, then as hard as it may be, you're going to have to sit back and let her make her own mistakes. Just try not to hold a grudge and be there for her when she needs you most. Eventually, she'll realise that you were right and apologize.
oK..I'm 13 5'4 and about 98 pounds..I used to be skinny and stuff but now I'm starting to get a big belly. I run and do situps and drink water and try to eat healthy and everything, but I starting to get larger than I should be. Any ideas on how to keep a flat stomache and stop gaining to much more because I used to see myself good now Im huge. sorry if thats kinda long.
~please help
OmG girl you are NOT huge!! I mean, you havent even hit 100?! You probably have the figure that everyone wants to have! Besides, when you start to grow up and "mature" and all that jazz, you're going to gain weight. Don't worry about it, because you are DEFINITELY not fat. just learn to "embrace" it!
There's this guy "Ethan" and i liked him alot over the summer, but then at school it got around to me that he didn't like me anymore and so i thought okay ill just not seem interested bc guys usually come back to what they now know they can't have. Well that's when he started coming back around and wanting to talk and everything and i of course got excited. Then once we started talking again it wasnt much but it was something. i guess i just wanted it to go back to how it was over the summer. so i suppose i got in the habit of ignoring him going back to the belief that he'd show me more attention but now he's not noticing me much anymore either. What can i do to get him back to talk/notice/like me?
I don't think there's much you can do. It seems like you two have grown apart and gone in different directions. I would say that now is the time to find a new hottie!
i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad?
I know the feeling about moving, but think about it.. Chicago is a huge city, and theres probably lots of shopping and things! I think you should give it a chance, especially since you don't get along very well with your dad. If things really suck in Chicago, then you should ask your mom if you could move back. I hope everything works out!
I have a business plan to do and I'm opening a nail salon. Should I name it "Paint" or "Tips and Toes"? thanx for your input
I would go with Tips and Toes! Its cute! I hope your nail salon works out!
In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much
Honestly, I think that you should just do what YOU want to do. People ARE judging you. Thats what school is all about! The important thing is to realise that the people who are judging you and really CARE about what they think of you are idiots and they're not the type of people you would want to please anyway. I can't tell you how to be comfortable around them, because I'm not really, but I have to say if you're not trying to be someone else, its going to be harder to feel comfortable, because, really, who can feel comfortable when they're pretending? And I think people will respect you more if you show that you aren't afraid of them and don't mind if they think you're "uncool" or whatever. I hope this helps!
Okay usually i don't mind when my boyfriend does stuff with me but not in class! i already am failing that class and i have to get my work done..plus i don't want people talking about me in a bad way like i think they were today. Today i was sitting by my boyfriend in class and he kept going down my pants and rubbin my back and ass and shit and trying to make out with me but i kept telling him no not now! But he wouldnt listen and it was really buggin me i couldnt get him to stop even when i moved my chair away he'd pull it right back by him it was annoying. So my question is: What do i tell him when i don't want him to do that kinda stuff to me? Because obviously telling him to stop doesn't work. He's usually really respectful but i don't know what to do. Thanks so much!.
If he isn't going to respect you enough to listen to you and stop when you tell him to, I think you should leave him. But before you do that, because thats kind of harsh, you really need to have like a serious talk thing with him and explain to him to never do that again in class, because it was embarrassing or anything else you want to say.. the main thing you need to do is talk to him when theres no one else around and try to get him to listen. maybe he was just trying to "show off" in front of his friends? anyway, i hope that helped:-)
My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?!
I've been in a situation a lot like that before, only it was with a friend instead of your mothers bf's daughter. If you can't stop cutting, and believe me I know how hard that can be, (I was in a mental institution for 2 months and it STILL didn't help) you have to ask her why she's doing it and try to get her to talk to you, and then explain to her what you've been through because of it, and try to get her to understand that she needs to find a different outlet. This might be kind of hard for her to understand b/c "if you do it, why cant she?" But just talk to her about it and hopefully that will work. i hope that helped!