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How come in the bible an angel comes to josef and tells him that mary will be giving birth to a son called Immanuel - but then he ended up being named Jesus?

Thanks, I'm just curious :) (link)
its Emmanuel, and they are the same... jesus is emanuel! i dont know how to explain it, but thats all i know!
hope i helped!


I really want to have sex with my girlfriend, but i don't know how to do that and i dont know how to get past my and her parents. I am a 14 year old guy. HELP ME!!!!!!! (link)
Now, IS this who i think this is??? seriously???

yeah, well you cant get around parents (or at least i dont know how, but i wish i did...)

ur question is kinda not explaining much...and well what do you mean, you dont kknow how to have sex, or you dont know how to get your girlfriend to have sex??? well i say either way just talk to her about it! (AND IF THIS IS WHO I THINK IT IS, I KNOW SHE WANTS TO HAVE SEX 2!)

and im guessing that if you cant get past either set of parents, that you probably wouldnt have the time, so that would be useless to talk to her in the first place...
hope i helped!!!
~Ali Renee~


im 14 and i need to get money for the holidays to buy people presents, i'm aiming to get 200 dollars by like december 10th? and i need ideas on how to earn it (link)
Well, b/c you would need to get a work permit if you work at a store or organization, you could babysit, shovel driveways, rake up leaves, walk a neighbors dogs (which would only really work if you were in a city or big town), or if you have a lot of stuff you want to get rid of, you could have a yard sale, and just ask your parents to help.

Hope I helped!


hi is there any more things like www.peter answer.com?? thanks (link)
um...well idk, but who is this??? b/c the only person ive ever met that knew of that sight was my bf...haha, but sorry i cant answer ur Q.


okay so im asking this guy to snowball obvisouly
im going to his house to do it, but i havent really ever hung out with him befor so im just wondering after i ask him. then wat happens we just stand there?
haha can you give me some ideas (link)
seriously, i have heard that term. but idk what it means.
and um...well from the way i heard it used, why if u dont hang out with him?


How much do lenses normally cost for eye glasses? (link)
around, like 30-40 dollars... with frames around 120 dollars, but thats just where i was.


well this will be long im sorry but its love okay? ok so i've been going out with this AMAZING guy for the past two months (2 month anniversary on 8th August) and we really love each other...he's really tall and sweet with curly brown hair...ohhh, i could go on n on i'm so in love with him =) but dats not da problem

You see, my normally perfect friends absolutely DETEST him... and its wrecking my life... but let me explain the whole story okay.

in the sixth grade (we're in the ninth now) my bf, say john, was very very popular and was like one of the biggest jocks around school and was considered really really cool and dated all these popular girls. Then he had a stroke (i know i know, so young, i cried for hours after i heard this it was so sad...) and was admitted to a hospital, fighting for his life. The doctor performing the surgery went all oversmart and tried to experiment on an eleven year old kid and messed about with the equipment and even though he recovered the messing about left him paralysed in the right side for a couple of months...he's fine now of course except he has a slightly deeper voice but back then when he came back to school everyone just began ignoring him...you knnow, the way those popular people generally act...and it was like suddenly they didn't even know him anymore and he sort of became, well, NOT popular. They talk to him of course but only with a sorta pity and the girls treat him like dirt (only the popular ones he dated). And all the people who were jealous of him when he was popular are really mean to him nowadays...so anyway I joined the school last year and he's had a crush on me since last year and we've had a complete fairytale story... until now of course...my friends (only some, the really close ones are okay) are being total bitches and dissing him and no matter how brave i am (i stood up to a group of twenty all alone!) and how much i tell them he's nice they wont listen...all they care about is his popularity and i'm beginning to hate EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM for it. And i'm the type who'll die for her love and stuff but its just so sad...i mean am I the only person with a heart in this school? or should I break up with him to please my friends? Please dont give one line advice...you understand i'm gonna need a lot of it...i really cant stand it anymore... help, please!

oh and did i mention that i'm totally in love with him and he sort of cannt go to sleep without hearing my voice (likewise) and i think i'd die if i cant tbe with him...but then i'm dying this way too... HELP!!! (link)
I SERIOUSLY KNOW WHAT UR TALKING ABOUT!
My bf of 11 months, used to be treated nice by everyone, but then in 2003 he got cancer. well now EVRYONE including my friends hate him and say hes annoying and make fun of him and everything.
My friends all hate him, or are creeped out by him. a few friends of myne will only hang out with me when he's not around
If you love him, dont listen to your firends!
I hope i helped!


okay i like this guy and this guy likes me back but the thing is i cant date till im 18 and im 16 right and and he is too and i dont know what to do if he's gonna ask me out because i cant date and stuff my parents said i cant date till im 18 he already holds my waist and stuff what do you think i should do? =/ (link)
Haha... well that's what happened to me, except im 14 and my bf is 13. but anyway so im not allowed to have a boyfriend, but i did anyway and then my parents found out, and they know they just dont approve it very much b/c im there "little girl" but me and him have been going out for 11 months!
so anyway you could just try it and see what happens! dont forget
EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON!


My iPod lists music alphabetically, but for some reason, songs that begin with a number are always last.. (For example, a song called "13 Stars" would come after "xepher", or something..) ..And it's really annoying.

Is there any way to get the iPod to list songs in numerical order BEFORE the songs in alphabetical order? Or is my iPod just broken? (link)
go to either Itunes or settings on ur ipod(i dont remember which), and it will be there to change it!


ok well i used to have this boyfriend and we broke up last december.. soo thats a really long time ago.. soo now i really really like him , and i really want to tell him but i dont think hell like me back, we dont talk that much and more but i really miss him alot.. hes in all of my classes so i dont want to embaress myself..

help please?? what should i say? and how can i get him to like me again

any help would be great (link)
Just start talking to him. give him little signs that you like him, (even though I heard that boys dont look for or notice signs like that... but I havent decided if thats true or not.)
If you know what he's into, talk about that. Just wait until you know that he is ur friend again, and will talk to you and feels fine around you, and then just one day ask him out!
I hope everything goes well, and I hope I helped!


my boyfriends birthday is coming up;
also that is the day of our one year anniversary.


so i got him:
an Italian wallet probably around 120$
i got him a starbucks card in it and
a picture of us in it too.
and im getting him an engraved key chain b.c he is turning 16.
and im taking him out to dinner.


do you think he will like it?
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I think he will love it! and you just gave me ideas for what i should get my boyfriend for his b-day and our anniversary!!! thanks, and I hope that he loves it! I think that if its from you, and if he loves you, he will love it and he will have a happy b-day!
Hope I helped!


Hey, I absolutely LOVEEEE this band and I recently found out that they are coming to my town, the only problem is I dont know if my parents will let me and my friend go. At times, they can me strict and a little protective....Are there any suggestions any of you can think of to persuade my parents to let me and my friend go see the best band in the whole entire world....lol

Thanks in advance,
Spoolie21 (link)
I think it would help a lot if you offered to pay for all or part of the tickets, and if they are afraid of you and your friend being alone, tell them that one of them could go, or an older friend that you have.
Good Luck!


I want to ask you all, (it doesn’t matter if you are straight or gay whatever) please share with me.

I want to know have you been or right now in a relationship with your best friend? How long have you been in the relationship or when did you break up? Were they your first (sex)? Were you nervous and/or giggling when you to shared the first kiss? If you broke up are you still friends? Please share with me because right now I MIGHT be in a relationship with a friend.
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14/f Straight

my best friend who i kinda had a crush on since i met him, asked me out about 3 months into our friendship. We have alot in common, but then again we are so different.. hes loud and obnoxious, and im quiet and shy... but we have alot of other things in common! Our first kiss was awsome! we never french kissed (Yet... he may be coming over this weekend to hang out, and thats never happened before, so idk what will happen :) )we've never had sex (dont forget im only 14 and hes 13, and im not that kinda girl)
we are still going out and its been 11 months!

I hope you have luck with your friend!


I'm 15/f.
I have no friends.
I had a tight group of friends last year, but for some reason they started to distance themselves from me & all became really close just the three of them, & I don't have anyone else that I hang out with.
I talk to a lot of people at school, but no one would just randomly ask me to hang out--most of them assume I'm still friends with the same people I was last year.
I've never had a boyfriend, or a guy show any interest in me.
I hate my body & the way I look.
Ever since school started, I have been crying myself to sleep every night. Especially because it's hard to see my old friends acting like nothing's wrong, saying hello to me but nothing else.
My mom and dad keep telling me to try to make friends, or tell my old friends that I'd like to hang out with them again, but it's too hard. Not to mention embarassing.
I messaged two of those friends on myspace saying basically, anytime you're free if you want to call me, I'm always available.
One said oh yeah, we will.
& the other didn't respond.
So now I think they probably talk about it & laugh at me.
& I know those aren't the friends you want to have but, they really were good friends & we had a good time.
I don't know how to get through three years of high school with no friends.
I've started cutting myself.
I think about killing myself a lot, but I can't do it because it would crush my parents.
That's the only thing keeping me going, is that my mom would blame herself or something & I couldn't do that to her.
I don't know what to do.
But I can't take this anymore. (link)
I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!
ok what i did, is i joined a couple clubs, like orchestra, and 4-H. i found only a few friends, but they are good, and have stuck with my for a while!
like my friend alyssa (whos in my grade) and my friend genna (who doesnt go to my school, but we are still good friends) i met at 4-H.
and i joined orchestra and i met my now current boyfriend who has been going out with me for almost a year.

dont hurt yourself, i thought about it, but i couldnt bring myself to harm myself. i didnt commit suicide b/c i knew my parents would be so upset! so i just lived on...

if you have to go to anyone who looks friendly and start talking to them! just anyone! especially if they dont have any friends either.

i hope i kind of helped!


so my friends have been telling me that this guy that i like will ask me out. and i've known that he's liked me for a while now. and we've gotten to get to knwo each other. so how do i say yes. i've never really said yes to anyone. do i just say...yes? sure? okay? i need help. :] (link)
ok well what happened with me and my bf, is that my friend was saying all day to my crush was "ask her out!" so she wanted to be there with me when he asked. well after class im like "you know im going to say yes when you ask."
So he got up the courage and asked me i just said yes. all you need to do it yes, or sure, or id love to!
you dont have to worry, its the guys that need to get the courage.
and if your sure hes going to ask you out, and he doesnt have enough courage, you ask him out! you dont have to be old fashion and have the guy ask the girl out!

i hope i helped, and im sorry i kinda rambled!


I am a male in high school. There is a girl I really like that Ive only seen at a class once a week for a couple of years. I want to ask her out but Im pretty shy and I dont know if she likes me. I am pretty friendly to her but I dont talk to her a whole lot, probably because I dont know what to say around her. How do you think I can get her to notice me and go out with me eventually? (link)
I think that you should start talking to her more, and if you cant think of anything to say, give her a complement! girls love that! just be really sweet to her. also try to find out what kind of things shes into like music, art, sports, and talk about that. then i think if you can start talking comfortably and your not nervous anymore, just ask her out! just walk up and say Will you go out with me? or something like that!
I hope i helped!


15/f

so right now. im dating this boy matt, and hes a football player and hes like a quarterback and hes really popular, and hot and what every girl wants.


however. i dont. i mean i like him, but i kinda got a crush on this emoish boy, name max. hes soo cute. and he seems so nice.

i guess im just sick of dating jocks, who just want to show me off in the halls like im some prize or something. like my boyfriend doesnt even like listen to what i say sometimes. its so annoying.

what should i do (link)
I think you should date whoever feels right to you (that sounds wrong but know what i mean.)

date someone who doesnt show you off like a prize. date someone who will love you for you, and treat you right. it doesnt matter what label they have, if their jock, emo, gothic, geek. it doesnt matter!

I hope that helps!
and a note about and to the person who answered this question before me: nobody is "normal" everyone has a place some kind of label. there arent Normal people. i think that people should get along with each other, and not label people. but they do anyway. there arent normal people.


I really like this guy. He's my age and we're really good friends. Call it best friends if you want. We're both a little shy. I can't seem to say I like him and he can't either. Is there an easy way to tell him I like him without saying it to his face?

Note: Please don't tell me to just say it to his face. I don't have the guts. (link)
ok well i suggest write him a letter. and if you dont even have enough courage to give it to him, slip it in his locker or something, or have a friend give it to him...and also if you want to make it more mysterious, write it in a different language, like french... i mean paris france is a love capital!!! its so romantic! or you could write it in a different language... (if you need help, go online to a dictionary site that has a translator.)

i really dont think you should have your friend tell him that you like him... it doesnt NORMALLY work out... but if the letter doesnt work try it! (i had my friend tell a guy i like that i liked him, and we've been going out for almost 10 months!!!)
i hope i helped a bit!


14/f

i'm not really religious at all. my family doesn't go to church or anything and one day my parents found out i don't really believe in god. and they kinda like freaked and said we're going to start going to church and stuff [we never did]/ k so i have some questions about all this religion stuff.

-who wrote the bible?

-i mean really how is it possible that theres some great god up in the sky?

-who all thought of this? like there had to be someone who came up with this?

-who created these so called sins?

-if being gay is a "sin", why did this god create them?

-how do people know anything of what they looked like or did?



thanks =] (link)
Many people wrote the bible. They are 2 different parts of the bible. the old testament (written before jesus) and the new testament written about jesus's life.

i'm not sure how it is possible that theres some great god up in the sky. but i believe!

idk who thought of it... it just was there, it was always there...

no one created sin, there just is sin.

i dont think it is a sin to be gay. i know gay people, they are really nice. i dont know why people have to think that its a sin!

and im sorry but i dont understand your last question!

i hope i helped you a little bit!


She is really mean to me and ignores me half the time. We always fight. she says she is my friend but she doesn't act like it. Is she my friend or not.
13/f (link)
she is not your friend, if she doesnt act like she is, then she isnt! you dont deserve to be treated badly. you should just ignore her!
i hope i helped!




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