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Hey guys. I'm 14 and I am dying to see the movie Thirteen. I've read the script and I've seen almost every clip there is to see on the internet! The movie is rated R though. I'm pretty sure I can convince my mom to let me see it, but she'd want to see it too.. and the movie has parts where Tracey cuts herself. I cut myself also, and I do not want her to catch on about my self injuries until I'm ready to tell her. Any ideas on what I should do?
Well...dont say anything about it then. Just be like oh my friends told me it was a great movie to learn by. If you dont feel comfortable then dont tell her. But honestly, when I did..I felt horrible about myself. I told my mom and she almost died, even though it wasnt because of her. She felt it was all her fault and she got me help. and im so much better because of her, because i was honest to my mom. because i knew she cared and she would want to know over me keep on hurting myself.
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my friend has a boyfriend and they have been going out for like 10 or 11 months and last night she cheated on him for her friend..she likes her friend a lot and he was just kissing her to well..kiss her, he doesnt like her. her boyfriend happens to be my friend too and he loves her and everything..what should she do..i think she might have told him by now..
I think you should tell him, cheating is NOT okay. EVER.. personally, if my boyfriend even held hands with another girl..it would be OVER. Simple as that, you need to tell him. Or you need to tell your friend to tell him. DO NOT just let this brush by, thats not right at all. If she really loved him she wouldnt have done that, simple as that.
(sorry, i have such a strong opinion..ive been cheated on before)
x0x-dani
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My friend is going out w/ this boy. When he asked her out, he said that he didn't want to tell anyone. I'm the only one they told. His friends tease him because they hang out so much. She's starting to think that he won't tell anyone because he's embarresed of her. What do you think? If it's just because he doesn't know how to stand up to his friends, do you have any advice?
I think that when a guy goes out with a girl, and says dont tell anyone..thats heading for trouble. Yes, they may like eachother. But if he likes her so much then why wont he tell other people??? HONESTLY! there isnt ever a good reason. Tell your friend to ask him, dont be shy about it. Just like he shouldnt be. Stand up to his friends, be tough..and just tell them off. Tell them to mind their own business..or i bet you couldnt get a girl so shut up. Just show them up..make your voice count, its the only one you got.
x0x-dani
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I have had my Shih Tzu for 1 year and one month got him when he was 3 months old. My problem is he is very difficult to potty train,,,sometimes he has accidents in the house, can't figure out why at his age he does, being I thought he was potty trained he goes for long periods without doing anything, then out of the blue he messes in the house..Can someone help me please???
Search his specific bread online..such as a search engine liek google. There are MANY breeders out there that can give you specific tips and hints to what to do and what not to do. You may want to call your vet, and let them know and ask for some help. Their good with animals they know them very well.
x0x-dani
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okay theres this boy..his names jake and me and him arent together but he likes me and i relaly like him and im in texsa on vacation and he was like i miss you so much..and theni went out for the day wt myparents and i came back and hes acting differnt..like he doesnt care about me anymore :-/ and i seriously will go crazy if what we have is fadding away cause REALLY care about him..what should i say too im to see if we are both still on the same page?
How old are you? ...seams like your kind of young just by the way your acting.
ANYWAYS, honestly. no matter HOW old you are, your never to young to move on. Just because your in Texas on vacation shouldnt change how he feels about you. If hes going to act all weird then screw him! Honestly, there are SO many more guys out there..you just need to find that one PERFECT guy. I understand you really care about him, but maybe you need to tell him how you feel. Tell him what your feeling and why, make him listen and understand.
x0x-dani
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hey, my question is that i have a friend ok shes going to be 14 next month ok shes like all scarying me bc of her x.. like he got with a other girl he said they r going to get marry but see the thing is that the girl his with he doesnt even know in person i told her to move on she said its hard i know it is but what can i do to make her to move on or for her not to be hurted all da time bc it makes me sad my self bc it makes me feel like im not a good friend if you can help i would love it ok bye!!
Okay, well you just need to be honest to her about the situation. Shes only 14, there are over 20 more years she has to look for guys. Honestly, when you get to high school its a WHOLE new world FULL of HOT single boys! tell her to not fret about this boy now, he isnt going to marry this chick he DOESNT even know! I mean..what if she is some physco fat lady 35 years old? NO one knows!!! haha! Just talk her down out of this love triangle. ((Your a great friend for caring so much!))
x0x-dani
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Okay. My boyfriend and I are thinking about going for the whole oral sex thing...and something about the whole subject really weirds me out. Like, I can't imagine giving a guy a blowjob, but it weirds me out even more to think of him going down on me.
For background, we've been together over 11 months, we've had sex, and we've usually kinda skipped over the oral issue. If it matters, I'm 17 and he's 18. I know I should just wait 'til I'm comfy with the whole idea, but I don't think I'll be comfy with it until I figure out what it is that's weirding me out. Anyone have any ideas?
HuMm..well be honest with him and tell him it makes you kinda weird. You dont have to do it! Honestly..if your comfortable enough to just have sex then thats fine! Dont sweat the small stuff!
x0x-dani
Alright .. so im 13 .. and i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last night .. meaning i was a virgin until last night .. well i heard your supposed to bleed your first time .. and i didnt .. it hurt like SUPER SUPER bad .. but i didnt bleed .. and i was just wondering if thats normal or not . Thanks :)
yes, completly normal. not everyone bleeds. and yah it hurts (what ive heard) but its normal, dont worry about it!
x0x-dani
i need some advice please!! on thursday there isnt any school, so me and my boyfriend are planning to go out for a movie, and then over 2 his place. its just going to be us to, and of course we will be doing something! we both are ready to loose it, its just that:
1. im scared i COULD get pregnant
2. im just a lil nervous cause i dont know what to do
3. im sorta of on my period, im bleeding just a tiny, and what if i smell bad?!
Okay, sweetie. nothing to be scared about. Just tell him whats going on. Tell him your scared you could get pregnet, nothing is certain. Make sure he has protection, and if you want maximum protection you should be on the pill. uMm..definitally dont have sex, or do anything if your on your period, or even at the end of it. Good luck with everything.
x0x-dani
This is a really.. stupid.. question.. but.. here goes anyway:
I want to buy some condoms (im a girl) and i think its kind of embarrassing.. i mean.. i dont want everyone to know im having sex. I cant drive.. and if my sis or parents found out i was buying them.. they would KILL me.. Anyway.. when i work up the nerve to buy them.. whats the best kind to buy... i prefer lifestyles or trojan.. so whats the best.. and cheapest at that.. to buy
thanks!
Trojan works best, I think. UmM..they are kind of expensive and dont feel embarrased! Its natural, and it shows that you are responsible enough to protect yourself!
x0x-dani
before getting ready 2 have sex, i know your supposed 2 shave DOWNTHERE..but how do u get it if its like really really DOWNTHERE?!
just do the best you can..honestly a guy can tell, but its not like he is going to stop! just do whatever makes you comfortable! =)
x0x-dani
i have a friend james and his away message use to be "glock glock ya kno what im sayin?" any 1 kno what this means?
haha..an honest guy! gutta love em! haha! im sure hes just being retarded ((thats what guys do)) and it means nothing..soo ya kno! haha! dont worry..unless he goes around making those noises..then be worried! haha!
x0x-dani
okay..im not trying to be gross or anything but what size bra do you wear? and where do you get your bras! thanks!
haha thats iight! i wear 36-b..and uM..i got some from target..but didnt reallie like em! alot from abercrombie..and alot from playtex//some other place! hha!
x0x-dani
i read in your profile about you and ryan's 6 month anniverasry. congrads! :-) my question is kind of personal..okay REALLY personal! what kind of underwear do you wear? I use to wear regular, but im 13 and i think i need to wear something else cause you can see the line through my jeans! where do you buy yours?
xxx-liss
haha..awh thats alright! i wear g-strings. uMm..i bought most of em at weathervane..and now i get em at victorias secret! ((sh its a secret! haha!)) yah..deff try out thongs..i didnt like em AT ALL! i dont like the whole material thang..you can still feel it! and with a g-string u cant! so..do w/e makes YOU comfortable!:)
x0x-dani
hi danielle! its liss again! haha! where do you shop! your clothes are so friggen cute!
jeans?
shirts?
bathing suit (its so cute!)
your soccer stuff?
thanks!
hey liss! uMm..
for jeans most of them came from weathervane..but they closed. so i bought mine this year from pac-sun!
for shirts: pac-sun, weathervane, rave, rue21, uMm..aeropostale..everywhere!
my bathing suit: thanks! i love it! i got it in florida at a bathing suit shop for 80 bucks! ouch! haha..its super adorable tho! haha its by CK
soccer stuff: cleats-eurosport (www.soccer.com) shinguards a local place called sports stop. socks..uMm.olympia
jerseys: my team supplies em
anything else? where else do i shop! haha! wal*mart! loL! best store! haha! MAKEUP HEAVEN!
x0x-dani
ok well.. my boyfriend asked my if we could have mutual oral.. BUT i dont know wut it is!! some1 help me to know wut hes sayyin!! i need to kno!!
uMm..im guessing hes asking to do 69...so that means you give him head while he eats you out. ive never done that! so i cant help you out on how it goes or anything! haha! hope things go well tho!
x0x-dani
what do i do if there is a girl i like but she lives far away but we both love each outher but its been weeks and we havent said one word to eachouther what should i do im getting worried?
awh sweetie..well you definitally dont need to worry! if you know she loves you then there is nothing to worry about. long distance relationships ive heard kind of suck..since u BARELY get to see eachother, unless its like an hour or something away..but since you havent talked to her then just keep your head up and think positive. im sure things are alright!
x0x-dani
If a guy wanted to go down on me should I let him? I mean girls say it feels good n everything but I dunno. I mean I know im clean down there but DOWN THERE isnt the best lookin and juss yeah down there. I mean u cum and what if it starts to smell or somethin or I dunno.. Juss thinkin bout a guy doin that..Doesnt it taste BADD I mean why would a guy wanna..??
haha! well..some guys like to pleasure you simple as that! idk what to do about a smell..spray some perfume down there!=) hehe! make it smell all fruity! haha! and if youre readie for him to go down on you and finger you..or eat you out then let him. dont be scared, it doesnt hurt. it feels good! haha! (idk about eating you out) but im sure the guy wont mind..and if he does he'll stop. its almost the same thing if we were giving a guy head and he cummed in our mouth..so ya kno! haha! payback is a bitch! no justt kidding!!!!!! if your worried about down there...shave it! ((idk what exactly your talkign about)) but definitally shave it! guys like it shaved!
x0x-dani
so...i was giving this 1 guy head...and when i was he started pushing down on my head...why did he do that and what does it mean?! Thanx so much!
thats not a good sign sweetie! most guys when they do that they want to see you coke! which is fuckin mean and WRONG! dont let a guy do that to you! he should feel fucking privlaged for getting that from you..dont let him do that!
x0x-dani
Well my boyfriend was here today and we were makeing out and he got my shirt off and then i told him to stop but i love him so much and we could of had sex but i told him to go home and he knows what makes me feel better and stuff like that well he was kissing my neck (which i like ALOT) and then he took my shirt off. I then told him to go home and but i think i am ready (well at least i think so) What do you think is wrong?
im sure it was just nerves! haha! believe me! it happens to alot of ppl! dont worry! im sure he understood! =) just tell him that you were nervous and scared about the whole thing..but think your ready. dont rush things! have fun with things now!
x0x-dani