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I'm a mom of 3 kids in a long term relationship. I like to think I'm fairly smart(IQ 131), but I definitely don't know everything. I work a regular job, finished high school, but dropped out of my first year of college. I'm not religious, but I think of myself as pretty spiritual. I'm always watching and reading new things that interest me, because I love to learn new things. I guess you can really ask me anything, I love to give advice. I'm sure the people that will benefit best from my advice are other people like me, but don't take my word on it ;)
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i have a cold and i need to get rid of it by tomorrow. ive had the cold for two days, buti have a newly developed dry cough. my nose isnt that bad, but it is a bit stuffed up. any suggestions?
There's products now that are meant to nip a cold in the butt before it gets bad. Try Zicam, I know some people that swear by it. It may not work as fast when your cold has progressed for a few days, but it will shorten the duration of the cold. Also, a great way is to detox your body. Drink lots of extra water and green tea. There's also some teas that are designed to help colds.
when a recipe calls for "wild strawberry", isn't that just a strawberry..? from the market? why add "wild"?
Wild strawberries are the same as the ones in the supermarket. When I think of wild strawberries, I think of organic, or strawberries home grown without pesticides. They taste much, much better then the regular store bought variety.
f/16
Sorry if this is long. There’s this guy, we’ll call him Luke, who I think I’m starting to like who’s in the same 7th, 8th, and 9th period classes with me every day
(7th-Chem
8th-Chem Lab every other day and Gym on the other days
9th-Math)
So we only talk sometimes in Chem cause he’s a little bit farther away from in that class and he talks to this other girl (they’re just friends, trust me) and this guy. Then on Gym days me him and my other friend, we’ll call her Lauren, talk the whole time pretty much. And in math we don’t get the chance to talk because he sits all the way on the other side of the room with a couple of his friends & the whole period is basically working anyway. So back to gym. Usually my teacher takes 10 minutes to start class anyway so me Luke and Lauren talk for awhile and we laugh a lot and such. So Lauren is really teasable so we tease her in a joking way sometimes and we're always laughing and stuff. So on Wednesday we were continuing playing badminton, and when my teacher told us to get with our partners Luke jokingly was like “Melanie (pretending that’s my name) your on my team” so we could jokingly pretend to desert Lauren and it didn’t matter cause my teacher was like no no same teams at last time cause he’s weird like that haha. So yesterday, Friday, we’re sitting on the gym floor laughing and stuff and our teacher walks in and didn’t even say anything about getting with your partners just yet. So Luke grabs my arm and is like “Melanie your on my team!” (I know the way I’m explaining it makes it sound like he did it awkwardly but he didn’t, I just can’t explain it that well) and I was completely taken off guard but like Lauren started pulling me back too anyway (I never ended up on his team anyway lol) And I had been contemplating whether or not I liked him for about a month or two now and when he grabbed my arm like that I knew for sure that I did. I’d been smiling the rest of the day and I barely concentrated in math after, and I've been smiling about it all this morning too. And also I don’t catch him all the time but sometimes I catch him staring at me, mostly in gym when we’re all talking, like even if I’m not the one saying anything. So three final questions:
1. Is it possible he likes me?
2. How can I find out or what signs can I look for to find out if he likes me without being to obvious (I’m too scared to be too obvious lol)
3. Whether or not he likes me what can I do (of course without being too obvious) to grab his attention or get him to like me?
First, guys tend to only hang out with girls they find attractive(not just physically, but as friends and stuff too). All the signs he likes you are in the question you wrote. The real question you need to contemplate is, do you want to sacrifice a good friendship for possibly a romantic relationship? It sounds to me your friendship with him is great, and you have a few classes with him. If you become an item with him, and break up down the road, it could cause a very uncomfortable situation. You just need to approach him some time and tell him you really like him, and see how he answers. If he really likes you a lot, it may be worth discussing if a relationship with him would work.
it seems like some days my boobs are bigger and other days smaller. What is up with that.. and is there a way to get them bigger without the rest of my body getting bigger too ? 15 f if that helps.
You are only 15. Your breasts are still growing and will for a few more years most likely. Also, during your period your breast may swell slightly and get tender with the hormone flutuations of your cycle.
14/f
freshman
okay so im 160 and 5'4
i know thats overweight but im seriously working on it and improving. i honestly dont think im ugly,but i know im not beautiful. i get a lot of comments on my green eyes. so thats good. oh and i have brown and (with a cute haircut:). okay so my problem is last year in eighth grade i had 2 bestfriends and we stopped being friends for whatever reason i dont even know. so this year im stuck with very few friends. and i really want more, a lot more. but the thing is im super quiet and shy unless i get to know you then i cant shut up. so my first question is how can i get more friends and be less quiet and shy?!?!?
alright my second problem is i dont have ANY guy friends and i want a boyfriend SO BAD! you dont even know... so like how can i get guy friends or even boyfriends?!?! like the only guys numbers i have are reletives.. and im 14! thats rediculus...
well the only time guys talk to me is to ask me a question on school work or something because they think im smart just cuz i have glasses. but im getting clear contacts in march(:
so i mean its hard because i want all of this so bad! what do i do. and i cant talk to my mom because i dont live with her, and im a total daddys girl. and he will like chop me up and eat me for breakfast if i even mention dating (well i think) cuz he thinks im a super good girl.
sooooooo ya please help me, im desperate!!
First, your dad knows you are growing up. If he is all you have, then you have to talk to him about it some day. Also, you are only 14, its ok you don't have any guys numbers. The media puts so much pressure on dating, looks, clothing, etc. Honestly, I think you are still fairly young and shouldn't worry about it so much. If you want to make more friends, just try to talk a little more then you do. Talk to peers you know have things in common with you, and you won't have to think real hard for things to talk about. As you expand your circle of friends there will be some boys you'll get to know. Then you can either wait for a boy to make the first move, or you can be bold and be the first to ask a boy out on a date. Goodluck :)
Ok everyone has relationships or is romantically involved with someone at one point or another. I am 15 and i havnt had a boyfriend.. im pretty okay with that and dont necesarily want to rush it. Naturally i am i guess dirty minded or kinky talker how ever you want to put it. My best friend thinks its gross if i talk about guys id like to f*** and says its whorish but im like well im not actually doing it, cuz im a virgin. I wouldnt want to have sex with someone unless i was dating them and for a certain time period but i know there are certain guys that i would have with dating them or not. I wouldnt really care about getting to know them, I would just like to get to know them physically because what i see now is already good. When it comes to a boyfriend i dont care if there a virgin or not because now at this age it seems like half the people arent anyway so why exclude so many people. My friend thinks that sex thing is whorish too..and disagrees with the bf unless im ready to lose my virginity. I just want some other opinions on everything and please just be honest
It's perfectly normal and natural to have provocative thoughts during puberty. It's all part of growing up. If we didn't have these thoughts, we wouldn't want to have sex, and sex is what creates new life. If talking about it with your friend bothers her, then don't talk about it with her. And for the "whore" stuff, a whore is someone who sells sex for money. People use that word very carelessly and cruelly now days. You are definitely not a freak, every other person your age is going through the exact same thing.
Hey I was just wondering why is it when you have your period, it smells kind of like fish?? Is there any way to prevent this? Thanks!
I can't tell you exactly why it smells the way it does, because I am not for sure of that answer. I'm sure it is the blood that smells, and all the blood that is shedding from your uterus has been there for a month. There are a lot of products for smells now days. The main ones being deodorized feminine products(tampons and pads). There are also other washes and sprays just for women that may help.
My period is 2 weeks late and I'm really afraid I'm pregnant. My friends say that it's near impossible - especially because I am usually always late to begin with. My period is completely irregular. I've even skipped a month about 2 times since i've started (about 4-5 years ago).
I've never had sex. My boyfriend fingers me a lot but he has never even ejaculated around me so I don't think any of his fluids could have gotten into me. What are my chances of actually being pregnant?
Also:
-what if he had masturbated earlier that day or something and there were still fluids on his hands? is that possible?
-what if he had precum on his hands and then put his hands inside of me?
sorry. I'm just worry a lot. Thanks in advance.
No need to worry, you aren't pregnant. It is almost impossible to get pregnant any of the ways you have explained. Sex really is the only way to get pregnant. Men have millions of sperm in 1 ejaculation, and many of those sperm won't even reach an egg to fertilize it. If this stuff really worries you, then always have your boyfriend thoroughly wash his hands before you engage in foreplay(he should be doing this already anyways). And for your extra questions... sperm can live inside the body after ejaculation for 1-3 days, but outside the body is maybe hours, not days. As long as he washes his hands, there is absolutely no possibility of sperm surviving on his hands. Precum has very few sperm in it. The 8 1/2 years I have been with my partner, precum has never gotten me pregnant.
kayy i really like thisguy but whenever im around him i get all nervous and cant walk or even breathe .. is this normal ..i know this sounds like a weird question but how do i get past all this to be able to talk to him calmly and flirty?
it may help to just be spontaneous. Instead of over thinking what to say or rehearsing it, just do it. Just walk up to him and say hi. Once you say hi, it might relieve all the tension that is stopping you from pursuing him. Guys like girls that are confident and straight forward, so I say just go for it. Don't worry about what he is going to think of you, that really doesn't matter. All that matters is what you think of yourself.
i'm 15 f
i've been struggling with my sexuality for a few months now, almost half a year. first, my best friend who moved to texas said she had a crush on me over AIM and i grew to like her back. since she hasnt been able to visit us, i think her interest faded. she considers herself bicurious but i really dont think she likes me. it took me a while to finally not like her so much, but she's gotten with a group of friends who really dont label her and they all act sexual anyway. i really wish i could be with that group of friends because my friends would label me in an instant. i dont want to be labeled bi because i really don't know what i am. i'm kinda attracted to girls but i'm also attracted to guys, i know im not straight but i dont want to be bi. i've only dated 1 guy in the past and that didnt work out very well. i havent dated any girls, and i havent opened up except to that friend, and one other friend that i just talked to tonight. how do i get comfortable with myself enough to open up to more people? and where do i begin? all i want them to know is that i'm probably bicurious. at first i thought i was going through a phase, but im not sure what phases last for half a year. =\
help me pleassssssee
Most every girl going through puberty is going through what your are going through. But, for the same reasons you are thinking, they don't talk about it with other people. I went through it in high school. I had boyfriends, but when I was out with the girls, we have a few "experiences" too. It is all the learning process in figuring out who you are. There is nothing wrong with kissing and touching another girl. I'm 27, in a long term relationship with 3 kids, and I still get turned on by beautiful women and lesbians. Women are beautiful, sexy, seductive... what's not to like? If you are with another girl you know well and something happens, and believe me it will happen, just go with it. You will know if it feels right for you.
okay so my friend goes out with this guy and well he has a friend who's cute.I hung out with them like 3 times but its been like a year. She's been going out with him since sophomore year,and well she's been pressuring me to hang out this kid and her boyfriend. I never hang out with them because honestly,i dont really like her boyfriend he's very sarcastic and i just dont liek what he and his friends do their just not my type of crowd you could say. So my friend begged this kid to text me and well we texted like 4 times since december. When she always asks me to hang out with him i say no because well a couople reasons. One is that well id have to hang out with her boyfriend and their group of friends which i dont wnt to do. And well i feel like it would be awkward cause i dont really remember what he looks like ( since it's been a year) and well we've been texting each other so its kind of like i guess meeting a stranger who knows alot about ouy which feels weird to me. Third is that i feel my friend's gonna pressure me saying this like "why are you asking like that?" "kiss him" and stuff but im not like that. Im shy around guys if i like them or interested so i feel pressured.And plus i feel liek she says negatuive things about me to him cause she always tells me things like oh he says this is never gonna work out with me and him or she tells him i never hang out with her. But the weird thing is i do want to hang out with him cause he seems like a decent guy so i dont know what's wrong with him? is their something wrong with me? how do i get over this? anyone been in the same situation before?
thank you!
To start, it sounds to me that your friend, isn't so much of a friend. I had a friend like that in high school, she used me and would go after guys I liked, and would pressure me into kissing guys and stuff. To say the least, she was very damaging and not so good of a friend, but I stuck around anyways. After high school, I never heard from her again, and we were like best friends, we spent everyday together. If you think you like this guy, and not because your friend is pressuring you, then text him and meet up without your friend and her boyfriend there. Do something fun, like bowling or going to an arcade, or just go out for coffee or to a small cafe. After you spent some time alone with him, you will know how you feel. If you like him, try to spend you time with him away from your friend and boyfriend, since they sound damaging.
So i like this boy and he knows i like him. And i have this class with him and i wanna talk to him but im so shy to and nervouse and plus we dont sit close togther in class like he sits in the back in i sit up way in the front. So how can i talk to him and half the class doin class we stay in out sits cause of the teacher does really is talk through the rest of the day. What can i say to him.
find an opportunity to just say hi as you walk by him. You can bring up something from the class that you found difficult, like "I'm really having a hard time with this algebra equation, think you could help me with it a minute?" Even if he says no, or doesn't have time, he at least knows you notice him, and that is a start. I think you'll find it suprising that once you just walk up and say hi, it is not as scary as you think it to be. If you want to be a little more bold, you can say hi to him and compliment his shirt or something, and give him a little smile and just walk away. Guys like a little flirting, it makes them feel good about themselves and its fun. Come out of your shell a little and take a chance, you only go through high school once. :)
Okay I probably sound like really lame and immature or something but i'm going to say this anyway. Okay so theres this chatroom that I go on. I met this guy and we talked a lot(we'll call him D). One day he told me he liked me, and I like him too. We're not going out or anything, but we would like to meet in the future and see where things go. He's joining the marines so he's gone right now for bootcamp. Since he's been gone things have been a little tough and I really miss talking to him. We used to talk everyday for hours on end. Well I started talking to this other guy(we'll call him J). I've grown to like him a lot. I can't figure out if it's just because D is gone and everything or if I really do like him. The strange part about it is, is that it's almost like a need. I'm not quite sure how to explain it. J is just really amazing, and I like him a lot, well as much as you can like someone without meeting them in person. J has a son who's a year old. The story with that, is that his girlfriend and him broke up during the pregnancy but she didnt want the kid, but he wanted it. So he's a single parent, still in high school (he's 17), and just really sweet and amazing. I love kids and would love to have kids young. I think that's one of the things that attracts me to him is that he has a kid. He said the youngest he'd date is 16, which kind of sucks for me since i'm 15. I like to think i'm pretty mature for my age. Most people say I am, so I guess it's true. D is really sweet and amazing as well, but there's just not that attraction that there is with J. D is 18 by the way. Anyway I just wanted to get some opinions about this. Like what do you think about the situation? What would you do? By the way I hope you don't think i'd meet either of these guys by myself or without knowing their not pedophiles are anything, because I wouldnt.
I had met a few guys from the internet in person when I was in high school, and I can tell you from experience it is not always what you expect. Some people like to talk on the internet and say they would like to meet you, but really don't, or you find out they are nothing like they portray themselves. So I have to say from experience, if you really like this guy, you need to meet in person and be friends for a while, just like you would with any other guy. When you meet him bring 2-3 friends (because of your age), and at least 1 of them being a guy friend of yours. Meeting in person isn't like talking to a computer screen where you can be whoever you want, just keep that in mind.
after having sex yesterday, i stood up & felt air come out of my vagina, it made an awkward noise & it was so embarrassing. He didn't say anything but I'm pretty sure he heard it. It only happened when i was bent over. Is there anyway to make that less obvious or avoid it happening at all? thanks
some people refer to this as a "qweef". I'm not sure if there is some proper word for it. Basically, during sex, sometimes when you are in certain positions air can get sucked in and trapped in your vagina. Most men that have had sex before know what it is, don't worry about it. It will happen many times more.