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well im going out with this girl and i really love her...alot.....but one of our friends i think is atracted to me....i think i may have feelings for her too but i really love my girlfriend...kinda contradictory i know...but still what do i do i dont want to make my friend feel like im pushing her away because i want our friendship to last she means alot to me....but i dont want it to look like im leading her on and i love my girlfriend very much....what do i do i dont want to go out with my friend but i still want to be able to hang out (link)
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Well you have a girlfriend right now, and you *think* your other friend might be attracted to you, but what if she's not? Stay with your girlfriend right now, you two have something going. Don't take that risk of trying to break up with your girlfriend because what happens if the other person doesn't like you? If you love your girlfriend very much, then stay with her. And if you find out your other friend likes you, then explain to her that you have a girlfriend right now and that you love her very much.
*I'm not really sure if this helps much, so if not, just tell me :)
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I like this kid named Orlando...I just look at him and I melt. But the thing is, I've never ever talked to him before, and he's never talked to me before and I'm so confused because I don't think it's just a crush, and he is just so cute and funny from what I've seen from him.
In the beginning of the day at school all the students have to go into the cafeteria because classes didn't start yet...and usually I walk in and only him and his friend are there and he looks at who came into the caferteria and I feel like I'm gonna trip or something because his stare catches me off guard....
As you can tell...I like this kid, and my mom works for the Board Of Ed in that particular city, and she lets me do some extra help with her work and she pays me for it. Well, since he goes to the school in the city my mom works for, one day when i was doing a job I came across his address. So my question is, do you think it would be like I'm stalking him or something if I write him a letter just saying how I felt about it...because I'm only going to write it when this school year is over so if anything happens I'm not there. (I know..but I'm shy and I feel like this is the only way I could do it) If I explain to him in the letter that I'm that girl (because he's seen me before, and noticed me) then do you think this is a good idea? Please help me...I really want him to know, but I'm extremely shy.
I'm very sorry for the length, but Im desperate. (link)
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Well to begin with, what makes you think this is more then just a crush? It could possibly be just major infatuation (trust me, happened to me a lot lol). But anyway, if only his friend and he are sitting at a table in the morning, why not just walk up and start a conversation? Get over your fear of being shy! What could happen if you do that? His friend will make fun of you? For what? Liking some guy? Everyone likes someone else, so there's nothing to worry about there. Find his locker number and slip him a note, but maybe mailing him might go a little bit too far, because if you do he might think you're some type of stalker and be really scared of you. So I suggest just introducing yourself either by A) walking up to him or B) slip a note in his locker. Or my favorite! Drop your books infront of him "accidentally" *wink wink* to see if he picks them up for you, then start a conversation from there like "Thank you so much!! I can be so stupid sometimes" Then be like "By the way, my name is..." and introduce yourself that way! Good Luck! :)
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My friends are bugging me to go to this party tonight, but I'm sick. Seriously. They don't believe me, they just think it's me being anti-social. Should I go anyway and make them all sick just to prove a point? (link)
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That's actually quite funny. They shouldn't be forcing you to go to a party, who cares? Let them think what they want, it's your health thats more important then a party. Tell them you'll do something with them once they get better, heck, have them even ask your mom how you're doing just to prove you really are sick.
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Okay, where to start, where to start. I'm a 15 year old lesbian, and a couple of months ago, I think I had a crush on one of my older friends that was 18. She's a lesbian too. Well.. I told her that I liked her, and it was so hard. I was actually expecting something to happen between us, but it didn't. So I tell her, and she says that the age gap is too great and she's already got someone. It made me really upset, but I tried to forget about her, and I did for a while. But now (about 3 months later) I think I like her again... What should I do? I don't think I want to tell her again because I'm afraid of rejection, and it seems like last time I told her, our friendship kind of lessened, and I really don't want that to happen again. Please help me... (link)
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This might be hard, but maybe she just doesn't like you the same way you like her. She might just want to be friends with you, and possibly she could be scared of what might happen to your friendship if something does go on between the two. But.. if you really think there is something possible, give it another shot! After all, its been 3 months now like you said. She might have developed feelings for you over the past few months. Don't be afraid of rejection, that's the #1 thing about love that holds people back. If you live thinking you'll be rejected, then that's all that will ever happen to you because you'll be to scared to try anything. Love is a big risk, and it's a risk you need to take if you want to be happy. Plus love isn't always happy, maybe she just isnt "the one" for you, there's about 6.5 billion people in this world, 32.5 million of those are lesbians also.. so there's someone out there waiting for you.. so if things don't go the way you want, just wait.. you'll find someone! But for now, just take that risk, because what is love besides trusting someone with the power to hurt you?
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ok here we go ..... Im soo ugly ... my boyfreind now x boy friend dumped me after he had sex with me and now i think im pregnet.... he sed i was the uglyest person alive and and i belive him!! i havent seen my parents since i was 5 cuz im they ran away cuz im soooo ugly!! so my uncle tells me everyday of my life... :-( i have no friends... no 1 wants to be friends with me.... at times i think seriously about suicide cuz its the only way out that i can see... i dont want to have a baby or be UGLY n e more... so if n e of u no a good plastic surgun or a good abortionist let me now PLEASE!!.. and if n e one knows a good hiT MAN let me kno so i can give my xbf wat he deserves.... !!!!! (link)
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Wow.. the people in your life just are cruel. Well first, you should see a doctor and have a pregnancy test and confirm if you're pregnant or not.. don't feel too bad if you are.. my friend is also pregnant (and she's 15).. but anyway, suicide is not the answer. Maybe you think you don't have friends, but I'm sure you have some. Meet people that will like you for WHO you are, not what you look like. Introduce yourself to others and try to become friends and don't be afraid of rejection, because that will only hold you back more. As for your boyfriend, he wasn't much of a good boyfriend was he? Screw him (no pun intended)! You'll find someone better, one that sees your inner beauty and like you for your personality. Just be pacient. Oh and don't hire a hit man, that'll just make things worse in your case.
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ok here we go:
my boyfriend told me I don't kiss him back
the problem is he's really aggressive with the kissing and I like can't move my lips
well scratch that
I have no idea what I'm doing.he's the first person I've kissed and gahh I'm so insecure now about my kissing. someone help me..
what do I say to him and how can we solve this problem??
thank you =) (link)
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Just tell your boyfriend that you're not ready yet to kiss him like that. And tell him to slow it down a bit because it's making you uncomfortable, he should understand.
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I like this guy... and i have told him that i like him and hes sooo nice to me but he hasnt told me if he likes me... so i want to kno and i dont wanna scare him i just wanna become more than a friend to him what should i do? Should i harass him until he tells me? ASk his Best friend? jsut leave it alone??? TY (link)
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Harrasing him would just cause him to be a little scared and break away a bit. You could ask his best friend and have his best friend talk to him if he likes you or not.. or better yet, just be pacient. If he likes you, he will tell you eventually, so just wait a bit and see what happens!
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I like him why doesnt me like me? I am always nice to him and i told him that i like him but he doesn't seem to give me a straight answer back whether or not he likes me. Why is he ignoreing me after i told him i like him? (link)
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First of all.. that was pretty vague, but anyway. Maybe "he" doesn't like you back the same way. Maybe "he" could possibly like you back but is too shy to tell you, or maybe "he" just doesn't like you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he's ignoring you, trying to give you a passive answer. Just give it some time and see what happens.
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well my girlfriend used to be in love with this guy (jake) but he moved to another city across state and ended up cheating on her...so she broke it off...now im goingout with her but she still talks to (jake) and jake) is going to be moving back to her town....im worried that since she was so inlove with this man that she may break up with me to go back to (jake) she tells me she loves me and that she doesnt even think of (jake) like that any more but i cant help and be alittle worried about it....what should i do should i break up with her since she seems to still really like (jake) or should i stick it out and she whats happens?
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Well it's really simple. If she really does love you, then she won't think of anyone else other than you. That's how love is supposed to be. Stick around for a bit, see what happens, nothing SHOULD happen if she cares about you the way she says she does. If something does happen, then the relationship was a lie, which may be hard to swallow, but you will eventually move on. ^_^
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I need to go out of town for like a week. Is it worse to give my plants tons and tons of water before I leave, just just give them the normal amount of water and let them wilt some when they run out and hope I can bring them back to life when I'm back? (link)
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If you give them too much water, they'll die. You can't overwater plants! Plants also don't just just like that, I forgot to water my plants for 2 weeks and they're still blooming right now! So just water then regularly, or actually, have a friend to the watering for you while you're gone!
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Hey I am going out with this guy i like and then i have all these other guys i like and i want them to I really dont wanna break his heart cuz i love him to death But theres these other guys that i have been out with and they Like me and i like them to I love them what am i to do (link)
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Just follow what your heart desires. Actually think for a moment what is the right decision. Personally I would stay with the boyfriend you have now, he's been good to you hasn't he? If he has then you should definitely stay with him, if he's abused you in anyway, then just end the relationship. Like the old saying, 'there are plenty other fish in the sea'.. and lucky for you.. you have many fish waiting just for you!
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i don't meant to insult those who are at a young age and say they have found love, but i realize that you have not felt true love until you meet the one meant for you. when my friend speaks of how much he is "in love", it just kinda pains me because he has no idea. i don't want to force him to believe he is only feeling a premature feeling of love and not the real thing... but i also won't be able to stand him getting hurt. what should i do to soothe my concience without telling him all of my opinions and putting out friendship at risk? (link)
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First of all, I know exactly what you're going through. The same thing happened with one of my friends and she got hurt badly (emotionally). What I suggest is to talk to your friend and tell him how hurt he could get from this relationship. But the ultimate decision lies within him, he is the one who decides on what to do. But if you talk to him, at least you can soothe your emotions. Just let him know what may happen and how worried you are about him, and surely he'll understand the risks.
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Ok this is going to be a semi-novel but I'll try to make sense. I'm 15 and at the beginning of September I met a guy(whom we'll call Bob).We were friends for a little over a month,and around the middle of October we kissed for the first time;he asked me out very soon afterword.our mutual friends had been bugging Bob to ask me out because it was obvious he liked me.He made the announcement to our them that he asked me out and it was understood that we were a couple.so from that day on, tho we never went anywhere(lack of money and transportation played a major role )but we still managed to kiss at every opportunity(including behind the school at lunch)and took every opportunity we could to be together. One day, we were talking and I mentioned that a friend of mine who(that I have known since childhood was jealous)that we're a couple; he says "well you know, i only see us as friends and plus there's this girl i'm interested in.she lives in maryland" and I go "but i'm here.she's there and I'm here" and he goes "well I've known her since july.plus i helped her through a serious breakup..." and I go "so why did you ask me out?why do you kiss me if we're only friends?" he goes "I don't know" so we weren't talking much for about a week and then suddenly we started up with our old routines. We have been doing this everyday since. My friends tell me that I need to get rid of him. Should I? Thanks… (link)
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I've been through something similar. My advice to you is to just sit him down and talk to 'Bob' about the problem. Tell him how you really feel, deep inside your heart. Express yourself, and what your heart desires. More importantly, think to yourself if he's "the one" and follow your heart's desire. Maybe what he is saying is just something to get you to not think he likes you anymore. Some guys do that when they're scared of rejection or anything of the sort. So I suggest the both of you sitting down and discussing it through.
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