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Hello, I am seventeen years old.And I am currently a Senior at my high school.
I like giving advice.
One day, I want to make a living out of it.
There's really nothing in the world that I like more than:
Music [New Wave, Electronic, Alternative, HipHop]
Photography [I take many pictures]
Friendships [They're really important me]
& Helping out people [I am always helping out]
There's really not a lot to me.
Other than I like to help out people.
Sometimes, I think that I should take my own advice.
But I rarely do =/
So yeah, that's about all I have to say.
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ok. i am 14, female, and so is my best friend Kelly. We are starting high school next year, and the last week of school, her exboyfriend(went out for one day. loves his best friend now) asked me out. i didnt like him much, and kelly said she didnt care. now my bf is very depressed... and is depressing me. i was going to break up with him, but i am also afraid he will do something drastic... and what scares me more is that he really wont care... or try to stop me. i do deeply care about him, but i just recently found out that the first time we hung out together at the mall, kelly kissed him on the cheek. he always calls her before me... though he tells me he loves me. kelly says i should just ignore it... that he really loves me. i try to talk to him about things that bother him but he doesnt listen. kelly explains to my friend that kissing him was "friendly". tho we were going out at the time. did i cross the line dating him after she did, or did she cross the line kissing him? do i break up with him over it, or forget about it and try to work it out?
You should talk to them. But I think your friend did cross the line by kissing him. I mean, she knows you're with him. But I also think you made a mistake by going out with her ex. There are probablities that they might still have feeling for each other. But just talk to them. Hope everything works out.
my parents are making me do cross country this year same as last year but i dont want to do it at all i dont know anyone i cant run tht good i dont have any fun and everyone puts so much pressure on me how do i tell my parents tht i dont want to do it and make them agree with me??
You should sit down with them and tell them that you are not the best runner. And that you don't want to do cross country. Tell them to give you a chance to find something that you like and are good at.
Parents are always arguing and my mums leaveing my dad and i love my dad but he is really strict so dont tell me i have to decide who be with cause i have ! well my dad has diabetes and it's really bad it awlays goes above 20 and 30 and im to scared to leave him alone sick but i know if i be around him im just gonna end up in tears i don't my fmaily torn apart any advice ?
My dad also has diabetes. So, I know how that can be. I recommend you sit down with your dad and tell him how you feel. You should tell him that his health worries you and that he is very important to you, and that you love him. But you want to live with your mom, just because you don't feel it's the right thing to live with him. And just tell him that you love him and that if he ever needs anything to call you. Hopefully he'll understand. Well, good luck.
my nipples are like in. i don't know how to explain it. like they dont stick out. so i dont have any nipples it looks like. but when i touch them they come out a little but then go right back in. can anyone tell me if this is normal?
15/f
This is perfectly normal. They'll come out eventually.
okay so I admit I put a suggestive video of myself on youtube a long time ago, like in september. (it contained NO personal info whatsoever)
I took it off about 3 months after that though.
I got a disturbing phone call on my cell phone last night from this REALLY sketchy sounding guy with a new york accent and he says "Hi, is this Liza?" and i said "Why do you ask? Who is this?" And he said "My name is John. And I saw your video on youtube." Then I said "I have to go, bye." and I hung up.
I then called the non-emergency police number and they started a report number in case this does develop into a stalking case.
I'm so scared still, and I'm worried that he's going to call me again/rape me or something. (the call was anonymous)
What should I do?
I'm really really really worried about this.
any advice appreciated.
To start off, calling the police what the right thing to do.
But it might be one of you're friends pulling a prank on you or something. And it's not, just try to stay away from strangers. And if they call again, talk to him for a little longer, this time go to up to your parents or someone else (so you would have witnesses} and call the police afterwards.
Kay well my parents' are spliting up , and I've been expecting it , I'm not sad or anything [no I'm not in denil either] and I have a desision to make , who I want to live with.
1) My mom : She sooo nice and I can tell her anything , But she can get moody and emotinally abusive [just a little bit].
2) My Dad : He is always asleep or a work or on the computer ,I can't really talk to him about anything.He is always in a bad mood and is vitiamin D deficiant [usually really bad mood in the winter] and he over grounds me for everyhting.BUT he brings me places and gives me money and treats me my age.
Well, if I were in your position I would sit down with both of them. And tell them how I felt about them. And work out some deal with them. Maybe 3 days with your dad and 4 days with your mom. And if you don't want that you should ask yourself who are you most happy with.
Hope I helped. Good Luck.
Ok well my friend really likes this guy. Shes liked him for like two school years i think. We Anyway, I dont like him, but I have this feeling that me and him might date in the future... like soon, in a couple of months of getting to know eachother again, because we used to be friends. And like i said I dont like him but I do sometimes wonder what me and him would be like. And I dont want to lose this friend, she like him and I would never date her crush, but I wouldn't want to like him either. What should I do?? This feeling is strong, and i feel so right.
Well, I think you should just wait a little. And If he asks you out and you don't like him. Tell him that you don't like him that way, but you know someone who does like. And ask him if he's willing to meet the person. If he asks you out, and you have feeling for him. Ask him to wait until you talk to yor friend. Then you should tell your friend that you have feelings for her crush. And that you really like him. If she was a true friend she would let you be happy with him.
Good Luck![=
I am a 14yearold girl with a bazillion guy friends. ok maybe like 10 and only 2 gal friends. Some people think i am weird but i honestly feel more comfortable around guys. These guys are not the hunky-hunky-baywatch guys they are more the nerdyish-computer-advanced classes-bandgeek guys. Now i have to tell you that i am much like them besides the computer part. Everyone else besides my friends talk about me and my gal friends and think that we are gay because we hang around guys. and that we are "nerdy girly girl virgins". I hear them talking down the halls and in the classroom and at lunch.
But now that summer has come i have mostly forgot about besides the fact the Drivers Ed. came up and i am now constaly reminded. It drives me crazy.
Should i drop my guy friends or what?
HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
No, I say you don't srop your guy friends. You're friends with them for a reason. You shouldn't care what people think about them or you. Some of them might be jealous that they aren't that close with their guy friends. So yes, don't drop your friends just because people talk.
i logged onto my myspace account today and then it had this new box that is labled "status and mood" i had no clue what it was and i clicked on "update" then it listed two of my myspace friends. does this mean they were just looking at my profile? and what is up with the mood thing? i was looking at tom's (the president of myspace) profile and it had no explanation of what this was.
Tom recently added the "Status and Mood" box just today. It's nothing really. It's just to show your friends how you are feeling today. And for you to see how they are feeling. Nothing to worry(:
You know the "HOT or NOT" application on FaceBook?
Well... Lately a lot of guys have been adding me
and messaging me
I message them back, but mostly the conversations are just like hey whats up, nothing you, just chilling, thats cool hows your summer?
Like that.
But so far, this has happened with over 25 guys! My FB doesn't have any personal info, such as house or anything, but it DOES have my first and last name... and I would NEVER give out my address to any of them.
So am I safe?
Yes, you are totally safe. Unless a freak starts invistigated everything about you. Other than that, you are safe. Just don't give out other personal information(:
Sean 13/m lee 14/f ray 13/f john 14/m and me sue 13/f
Me and Sean have track together but its over. My first time doing track his second. we did the hurdles and high jump and a relay together. We suck at hurdles we were with each other to help each other up and laugh in a nice way we're like that to each other i have fun with him a lot. We also loved each other, which we held it off for a longtime because we didn’t wana lose our friendship. id rather have a best friend than a boyfriend. i had a mission carnival at school. my mom was a chaperone. He was going to ask me out today at school. My mom hates my friends were the punky goths. hes real prep. but i loved him he loved me everyone knows. She always says everything wrong about my friends. she would keep him away and always stops us dancing (my other friends) even me with my friends as friends. we did the music my mom was always watching. i just hate it. she tries to keep me away from my friends. my mom doesn’t even know the real me. my BEST FRIENDS can not even come over
We started like going apart when people used to try to get us together I usually will say no if any guys ask me out and his friend said he didn’t wana make a fool of himself. Im quiet around his family ive even known them for my whole life i just see something in them that IM afraid of or hate or something i don’t know. On my site was so much the music, the pictures, what i wrote, all the quotes! He said what’s with the site I said why he said what’s it all about then my friend told him to fuck off so he left I was about to break down my friend saved me. One thing says 'the jerk i loved, did love, you to watch me in ALL this pain stare and laugh the guy who added to all this, who is killing me, inside, i loved you and you fucked up my life to the limit not sure what and who and how can help me now maybe you know buy you don’t know all i go through. This is one of a hundred
Well like a year ago i started liking him. we started flirting and after about a month of flirting i told him i liked him and he was so shocked ME a punk Goth rebel told him a dork, Im WAY higher up in popularity then he is I said I didn’t care we started flirting and talking less and less. Then i found out he liked me by our of his friends by then our friends started trying to get us together. one time they got us alone talking because we were before with about 8 people from different groups. When they all left he started babbling on about red bull talking so fast then he left so quickly. Another time i stayed at a friends house for 9 days the whole school knew we liked each other and she didn’t she’s never really around he was gona spend the night at his friends house but ended up there soo me him and our 2 friends but they were cousins. so me and him sleeping in the basement with our friends I didn’t say a word to him THE WHOLE TIME. My clothes and music scared him so bad then we got a lot of people to go to the pool i wasn’t aloud to bring any other of my friend’s guys or girls. I said I don’t like any of my other guy friends. but he saw me at the carnival with my friends 6 girls including her and 5 guys.- 3 guys and a girl are a year or 2 older he didn’t even know them then we rode rides ate and had icee fights together. we ran down the road chasing and laughing they laid in the rocks on the playground buried each other. two of the guys hugged me we rode the rides dropped icees on the pharaoh(the swinging side to side ride) we sat on each end. We got covered in ice. i got some on my chest and john got it off. then on the scrambler we each got in a different one and as we were spinning wed slap hands or try to talk and most of the time I passed john. I say Sean watching us a lot especially us lying in the rocks. the day after, my page had more it said how i want a guy to love me for who i am that i WILL NEVER change for anyone and that a guy friend i lost how guys can be such a jerk and be so jealous and SPY...my friend came up to him the day after and he was like what did you do to her then one other person came up to him a girl i HATE asked about me. he told me he liked my page i said yea then just looked up at him ‘’with those gleaming pain filled beautiful eyes he never noticed my eyes they kinda scared him their so pretty ’’he told his friend and his friend told me
Our friends party i kind of talked to Sean but nothing good i guess like hi and in the pool he played football i did some of the time but when i wasn’t hed say sue move and be smiling. Then I was with my other best friends that came lee and ray and john. Were the kinda people to wrestle and stuff and just do stuff to each other. Well the guy and i were with each other a lot...and like sitting RIGHT by each other on the pool steps and wed jump on each other throw pool toys squirt each other with squirt guns ok it was a war kind of a play war lol. sean looked like he was getting so jealous he’d come over say don’t hurt her Im like Im fine were just joking and he would just like splash john or something when i wasnt looking. they hated each other before people call john rainbow and he used to before i became friends with him then i told him to stop. Sean is NEVER the jealous kind of person with any other girls but lately...me. he says he doesn’t love me but that was the last day of school like 3 months ago. I shouldn’t be mad at john he did nothing or Sean he didn’t either or me i just don’t know. WHAT DO I DO? He wouldn’t talk to me on aim or not even sign on aim. but yesterday I got in a big fight with my mom and I was crying for once I couldn’t take it and I said I don’t wana talk to you right now but my away message was I don’t wana talk right now. But I couldn’t help it I couldn’t take it I am suicidal and I was about to kill myself. and then lee wouldn’t leave me she wanted to help me so bad so I told her everything and she stayed on aim and the phone with me for over a hour and she is the only one who knows I cut and she does too we try to make each other stop and its help a WHOLE LOT. she helped me I was laughing and everything after and lived. The fight with my family that was the cause of all this was about everything I do wear and my friends and Im the kind of person that you mess with my friends you will wish you didn’t. my mom says to stay away from my friends and all that’s wrong with each of them she says lee will start me on drugs she says she smokes BUT SHE DOESN’T. My other friend was abused with drugs and it started in preK one parent died the other is in jail for life and she broke out once and tried to take he kids back and beat my friend forced her with cigars and my mom says its all my friends fault SHE WAS ONLY 3 when it started. And my other friend is in trouble so much even more than me and im daily. ALL THAT KINDA SHIT. help me with my life please what could I do im perfectly fine with my friends. Please help me WHAT DO I DO? randomgrl777 please as many answers as possible
I think with you should talk to your mom about her relationship with your friends. Afterall they are your friends and you're the one hanging out with them. Just tell her how you feel about what she is doing. And that it is not fair that she's keeping you apart from the people you love and really care about. And she can't do anything aboout it.
As for your friend Sean's jealousy. I think that you should confront him. And ask him if he likes you. And if he says no, and you see he means it. Then tell him to stop messing up your life. And that you deserve to be happy. If he said he does like you, then you should give it a try with him. If he says, he doesn't but you see he does. Tell him how you feel about him. And tell him that you have noticed what he does to get your attention.
I don't believe that people should look at each other as clique. I mean, preps, goths, rockers, they're just words to rename a person. If you like someone just go for it. It doesn't matter if they're the biggest dork in school. The only thing that matters is what you feel about them.
Another thing, I too have cut myself. I felt that cutting myself was the only pain I could deal with it. I would go with cuts to school and people would noticed. And I recently learned that cutting yourself doesn't do any good. You're only hurting yourself. Have you ever heard of the rubberband method? Every time you feel like cutting yourself, just find a rubbing band and start hitting yourself with it. It sound pretty stupid. But that's what my counselor told me to do. And iit really did help. But yes, you should stop cutting. And you need to tell your friend to stop too. Even though you guys try to stop each other, you guys need to come together and just tell each other that you are better than this.
And about your friend that was abused. It's not her fault. You should tell your mom that. She was only three and it just couldn't be her fault. I also have a friend who was abused by his stepdad. He would be in the biggest pain ever. But I stuck with him. I was always there when he wanted to drink or do drugs. I recommend that you stay by your friend's side. It doesn't matter what your mom says. If your mom tells you something. Just tell her that it's none of her business and that you need to help a friend.
Well I hope all this works out with you. Good Luckk![:
alrightt
so tomorrow im suppose to go downtown chicago
with some of my friends
and im 14
and i live like 30 or 45 min rom it?
and my mom told me i have to ask my dad if i can go
and i have been bugging them all week, well my mom
cause she gives in more then my dad
and i have a feeling he is gonna say no
and yeah im 14 blahblahblah im gonna get rapped
and i know theres gangs and stuffy like that
but really if i didnt think i wasnt gonna be safe i really wouldnt ask
and we are gonna go on a train
how can i get my parents to let me go?
This has happened to me many times. & I hate it when they do that. Well, in the past I've told them:
1) That my friend's parents were going to come with us.
2) That I was old enough to take care of myself. And that I would have me cellphone on. And if they want I would call them every 5 minutes. (I never did though)
3) I told them that my friend's older sibling was coming with us. And that they were a very responsible adult. Who finished college and has a good paying job. [Of course there really wasn't an older sibling]
Well Good Luck!(:
hey
please no lecturing.
i was just wondering if you wanted to get tested for EVERYTHING what kind of doctor do you go to becuase i called planned parenthood and they onld do three tests. or is it even possible to get tested for everything? thanks
My friend recently got tested to STD and I went with her. She went to a regular doctor. They're real nice about it. You should try a regular doctor. And if that doesn't work, maybe you should look in the internet.
Hope everything goes well!
I live near a city so i go into there a lot. when i do, i see soldiers sometimes, and marines. I always want to walk up to them and just give them big hugs, thank them and walk away. But i never do. Would it be weird if i walked up to them and stuck out my hand and said "thanks for everything"???
Well where I live I always see Marines training. They actually run around my neighborhood. And one day me and my friends were outside and we see them coming. And at that moment, we knew we had to do something to show them that we cared. So we quickly, got a pen and wrote on our shirt "WE CARE" and they stopped and said thanked us. So I say you go up to them and thank them for everything. After all, they do deserve. Show them that you care(: