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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

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my friends are super skinny and i feel left out cause all the guys are like in love with them and they dont pay atteintion to me at all :( do you think i need to lose weight or just ignore them like ive been doing forever im 5'4" 135 lbs :(
and im 14 yrs old please help any advice is good advice

aw, you shouldnt feel left out... if a guy only went to you by the way you look, that wouldnt be a very good relationship would it? i mean we all would like to have the "perfect body" but does anyone have it yet? i dont think so! your only 14 (As am i) and we still are growing everyday. i used to be kinda chubby when i was younger, but once you get those growth sperts- you'll slim out more! if you and your friends arent affected by the different body shapes, and the guys are... i say do what makes you happy. but remember, you're perfect the way you are =] and if losing a few pounds makes you happy, WHY NOT? just remember we're still kids and allowed to have fun no matter what we look like! cheer up! -ask_anything

well im pretty skinny but i have this fat on my legs and my stomach that i would like to get rid of. any ideas??? it really bugs me and looks bad when i wear bikini. thx

excess fat is usually pretty easy to get rid of, but for your stomach i'd do the usual crunches/sit-ups... for your legs, lots of running, jogging, swimming, sports that involve leg exercise. if you want more ideas or specific work-outs, go to google and type something like: stomach work-outs or leg exercises...
along with exercise, try eating less fatty or high cholestorale foods and more natural and healthy foods (occational treats are okay ;o] ) ... if you need more ideas go ahead and leave me another message in my inbox! thanks for asking my advice! -ask_anything

i am the kind or person that likes to keep things tom myself how can i get my mom to buy me tampons and let me shave my legs without saying it to her face?(hinting)

if you're too embarrassed to ask your mom to buy that stuff you, you could either write on a stickey note asking her to buy them or if you have a grocery list for like CVS or something, just add it on and i think she'll get the hint. but unless your mom has gone french and doesnt shave her legs, i think she can relate to all your wants. -ask_anything

Are the new colored ipods any different that the original ones? (like other than the color, like do they do anything else?)

im assuming you're talking about the ipod minis (they come in a range of colors). the difference between the original ipod and the mini ipods is that they aren't as expensve and hold only 1,000 songs instead of 10,000 songs. this is convienent for people who dont want to pay as much for the original ipod. the ipod minis are lighter and more portable as well.
The new iPod Minis are the size of a business card, half the size of the original iPod. Unlike the white-and-silver iPods, the Minis' anodized aluminum cases come in silver, gold, pink, blue or green. The minis weigh 3.6 ounces and store songs on a 4-GB internal hard drive.
this is about all the differences i could find... if you need any more info on them just leave one in my inbox
ps: they're a great gadget, id def. reccomend them or the original ones if you can afford it
-ask_anything

I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.

dear anonymous-
it must be hard in your place in times like these. religion and love are two huge things in peoples' lives and i think one couldnt overpower the other. if you are a strong believer in your religion, maybe you should stick to your religious beliefs and not get too serious with your boy friend. but if you two have such a strong connection, you shouldnt have to hide your love for one another. dont make any quick decisions, and talk to your friend as well.
hope the advice helped! -ask_anything

Me and this other girl are best friends. She lives right down the street from me and we do everything together. We tell each other our deepest secrets, who we drool over, what we want to be when we get older. We are inseparable. This was what it was like until a few months ago. After this party where my friend almost made some.. eh... rash descisions. Now she's "too cool" for me. "Too cool" for the people she's known all her life. She's forgetting her old friends and trying to be someone she's not. Whenever I'm around her though, she acts like we're still best friends. I've talked to her about it, but whenever I do she always says "Oh don't worry, you'll always be my best friend no matter what." I wish I could be as confident about our deteriorating friendship as she is. What can i do? love,

dear torn-
sounds like this "best friend" is a friend we like to call a "weather friend". a weather friend is someone who is your friend sometimes, but the other times can be one of those people that act like they dislike you too. ive had them before, and sometimes they start out as your best friend who-would-never-leave-your-side, but slowly turn into something that they find to be "better off". if your friend feels like she belongs in this new group (and it doesnt include you), she doesnt sound like someone who will end up with strong relationships. i think its selfish to leave behind a friend that has stuck with you no matter what just to be "cooler". its a sad world sometimes, and it may not be the advice you want, but you may just have to take her the way she is now. who knows, she might return to that girl you knew a few months ago? im sorry about your friendship, hope things turn out in your favor, thanks for asking my advice =]
ps: its good you talked to her about things but, there are many more kind friends out there that wont leave you, you just have to find them - ask_anything

I'm having a really big problem with a certain advicenator that gives horrible advice, puts people down, and makes fun of the questions that people can't answer... I know it's not my place to say something but this person is VERY rude and makes people feel like crud, I would know. I really want to say something.. This one girl said "Im 150 lbs and I need help losing weight" and the advicenator said "Who cares you're the f**king fat a** not me im only 112 and taller than u, fat a**" thats just rude so help me please... thanks alot

tell advicenator authorities and their account will be suspended. yay! =']

Dear Anything_Asker,
I have recently gone vegan and organic. Mmmmm and my favorite organic food is soy nuts. Especially honey roasted and old hickory smoked GeniSoy Soy Nuts. Wow they are so good. But the trouble is i like this cute boy named Jared. AND I MEAN REALLY LIKE. Strange connection, eh? But listen. The only place to get my certain favorite type of soy nuts is Wholly Wheats, an organic farmer store in West Virginia (where i happen to live) where jared so happens to work! He says he hates working there, only does it for the money. He hates the organic food, and hates girls who eat organic foods! He says he finds it disgusting and would never kiss a girl with organic breath. He also says it makes you break out and i dont want to be covered in all-natural pimples. He works there all the time too so I could never sneak by his register unnoticed. So it's either bye bye Jared or Hello Soy Nuts! I can't decide.... weighing my future on boys and nuts seems kind of crazy. BUT THESE SOY NUTS ARE SO GOOD! please do something, you're the queen of the nutheads =o) if you dont help me i think ill be crazy enough to DO MY ROOM! Love, Absolutely Nutty

Dear Absolutely Nutty-
Your choice to go vegan and organic is your personal choice and if someone doesn't respect your decision, they arent worth anything. if someone was truly meant for you, they'd get over the fact you decided to go organic and stuff and see you for who you are. Jared sounds like a stuck-up, non-respective kid who doesnt like his job. maybe its just me. but if you really really really like him, tell him you like him or get together some time and if he has feelings for you, maybe he'll get over his fret of girls with "organic breath"... ive never heard of that, but whatever... best of luck to your non-vegan lover- ask_anything

I this freind and we have been friends 4 years and just this past summer she has been always hanging with her other friend and just leaving me behind.

if you and your friend have a great realtionship and spend tons of time with each other like i do with one of my friends, it's sometimes nice to have some space. but if you feel that this being left out will carry on for a long time, you should definitly tell her/him... its better to straighten things out early then to let them get worse...
hope things work out between you and your friend!

i really like a kid at my camp
but theres a good chance i`ll never see him again ..
but i cant stop thinking about him ..
wut should i do ?
-nicole*

Dear nicole-
summer loves are always ones we never forget... so i know how you feel. if you want to get over him, you need to find someone either at your school, around where you live or if you dont want to get over him, TELL HIM! if you two truly will commit, someway or another you'll see each other. i have friends who have different town relationships and they just commit to each other that they'll see the other one any time possible. but if this kid lives in like another far away state, chances are you should move on, because unless you're rich with money, seeing each other could just be at camp. hope things work out with your summer love ! leave one in my inbox if you have any other questions!
- ask_anything

I seem to have fallen for this guy who I go to summer camp with; hes everything you could imagine- He's sweet, makes you laugh, is active (snowboards, surfs, skateboards), and knows how to treat a girl he cares about and make her happy. The trouble is he's going out with my friend. At least I thought she was my friend. She always hurts me, emotionally and physically. A couple weeks ago I was sitting on a fence and she pushed me off for no reason at all and I twisted my ankle, then i was drinking from a bottle and she hit the end of it on purpose and it cut my lip, she always does little things to hurt me and its finally turning into one big thing. She calls me a whore and a slut on a regular basis and always finds ways to hurt my feelings. She also talks behind peoples' backs which makes her seem a little two-faced, like she always tells my other friend she's pretty and georgous but to me shes like, "I really think shes not pretty at all." Why does he like her if he knows she's like this? He always flirts with me and smiles at me and I've even been over his house. His girlfriend, my "friend" has been wicked overprotective lately though, she yells at me when i even go over to him to just TALK! i dont know what to do, but i trust you. You deffitnly don't suck at love from A to Z if you got me this far. love, Me

dear too much love for one guy-
sounds like you have 2 problems here... one is that you have a so called "friend" who is in a way abusive and your second problem is you have a boy who you like that seems to choose to ignore her abusive behavior (or doesnt realize it). for your first problem, you need to show your friend you can stand up for yourself. next time she makes one of those unnessesary actions, you need to tell her to STOP because it isnt funny and your getting very upset over it. if this girl has any nerve and decides to take this as a joke, this obviously means she isnt friend quality AT ALL. and if things get REALLy serious between you two, you should definitly report it to a counsulor or someone who can help you out (even if it seems embarrassing). from what i can tell, this girl is jealous of you and wants to put you down in all ways possible. shes so protective of her boyfriend when your around,is prob. because she senses a connection between you two and is getting nervous he might dump her for you. if you feel like you can take the chance by breaking them up, you should talk to this boy and ask him if things between you two would ever work. and to your question "why does he like her if he knows she's like this?", this either is because he doesnt realize shes hurting someone so much, or because he finds this "attractive" ?? =\ who knows whats going through his head about her, you should ask him when shes not around.
one last piece of advice, you need to make sure this guy is worth everything. summer love interests usually dont last long, unless both people are commited... so think hard before you make any decisions that could ruin your relationships with either person...

thanks for the compliment =) and if you need to ask more, you know where to find me!

Dear Advicenator,
Me and my best friend both have liked the same boy for a long time and its always been kinda tough! but the other day me and this boy guessed who eachother like and he guessed that i like him and i guessed well you know what im trying to say. Well now i have no idea how to tell her this without her getting mad at me or upset...

Thanks,
Love always,
Cantelope

dear cantelope,
Im sure it is tough, from both points of view! You can't help who this boy likes, even if it means you or your best friend. you should definitly talk to your friend about it and make sure you dont leave her out of things if you become commited to this kid. (no one likes a boyfriend-obsessed friend) If you friend is truly a good friend, she'll understand it's not your fault that things happened the way it did, and that you care about her feelings still. Can't wait to hear how your situation works out, im sure you'll do the right thing!
-Ask_Anything

Dear advicenator,
I love all of my friends and love my school , but im only in middle school. Well I was thinking about going to this awesome new school for high school and theres about 100 kids in every grade as apposed to our like 400! Well i dont know if im willing to leave all my friends behind and have to make completely new ones, i mean its high school, friends are like all the memories you create and look back on, and i dont want my friends from my current school to like get mad or upset or w.e. and i think ill miss them too much? What should I do?!
Love,
NewSchool

hey NewSchool-
im going through the same exact situation right now! from what i can tell, your education is very important to you, but so are your friends. who says that just because you're going to another school means your middle school friends wont still remain friends with you? if your friends are really that great of friends, they'll understand that you are making a decision to better off your learning capabilities, not just trying to make them mad... if anything they'd be really sad to not see you as often! missing your friends is something i also considered when thinking about other schools. unless your new school you are looking at is miles and miles and miles away, i dont see why you all still cant hang out on weekends, breaks, or in the summer! it may not sound really fun, but at your new school you're bound to find more friends you can bond with. you should definitly come up with pros and cons of the situation you have with your two schools, and think about what your future needs. i hope you can comprehend my advice because it's kind of confusing, but i really appreciate you asking my advice! =) if you need to ask more, go right ahead!

hello,
my special friend jessie always seems to steal who people like no offence to her or anything but i mean can't she like her own person!! i have liked this kid for the longest time almost a whole year.. . nd then all of a sudden i come back from a vacation and she tells me she likes the same guy!! and im not even the only person shes done this too!! please i need help on how to tell her what i think she does and not sound like i don't respect her anymore.

hey-
sounds like jessie doesnt know what she likes in a guy yet... maybe because you two are friends, she trusts your judgement in people you pick to be interested in. the way to talk to her would probably be to tell her how you feel, like you did to me. (she only likes him because you do, or however you seem to peceive it), and that you feel like she's invading on your crush guy. it's a common case where two good friends are in a way "fighting" over a boy. if you two are really good friends, she'll know you're not trying to hurt her, but just to give her a heads up. in the end, im sure you two can work things out at one point or another.
good luck with your situation, and thanks for asking my opinion! =)

why

i need more detailed questions! sorry

I like this guy a lot. And he likes me to. The thing is, he wants to have sex. Ive told him im not a virgin but i really am. and now he thinks i will have sex with him but im kinda scared since its my first time. but i cant tell him the truth. should i have sex with him? i really want to, i jus dont know what im doing. what should i do, besides tell him im a virgin???

well, first off, if you just " like this guy a lot" maybe you should wait. to do something like have sex is what i consider to have to wait until you feel like you can trust someone with yourself and be able to tell them anything you want ((and 100% love them)).but thats just my motto... if your scared, thats not good. you should confront him no matter how much you dont want to. if you dont talk and he starts doing things you dislike or arent ready for, you could be in a situation that is overwhelming. you should definitly tell him your a virgin, because your right on track there. im not an expert on this exact situation, but if i were you, that would be how i'd handle it.
PS: this is one topic you should definitly ask a trusted adult about. no doubt about it.
i hope things work out in the end, and thanks for asking my opinion!

my boyfriend's parents don't know we're going out and they're starting to find out and acting really suspicious ever since i went over his house today. we both dont know what to do... if he tells themhe the truth we'll probly have to break up... if he lies then his conscience will get the best of him. please help me. im in tears already.

its pretty common. boys tend to have it harder when telling their parents, because they cant express their emotions as well as girls. make sure this isnt an excuse to get out of a relationship he isnt ready for yet... if the relationship cant further on, why not have him ask his parents when it WILL be okay. this could give you a clue to how long you could become really really good friends (practically bf/gf)... but this def. isnt a fun time... and because i know who sent this, im here for anything you need... as i always am. no parents can restrict our friendship, i promise.

Dearest Ask-Anything Queen,
i have this friend whos totally obsessed with the one thing that bothers me the most... daisies. i swear we'll be walking in the mall, looking at cute skirts and she'll say 'oh i wonder if it comes in daisy print?' and for my birthday and every other holiday she gives me a bouquet of daisies. Every Friday too, which i guess is another holiday to her. She talks about them so much, knows all the best growing seasons, how much sun light they need, the exact fricken amounts of water they need in a day! how do i tell her that her daisy-crazy days need to be over- FAST! i dont think i can stand to be alone with her in another room, it'll literally drive me insane. PLEEEEASE HELP ME! thanks a ton
xo Love-Them-Not!

hey Love-Them-Not!-
you obviously have a friend with a passion for daisies. this may not be your favorite thing in the world, but it seems to be your good friend's. if you are close enough to talk with your friend and care about their feelings, you know you should give them the utmost honest talk you can. you should sit down with your friend and talk to her about how daisies are very popular in her life, but they are starting to effect your friendship. tell her about how you get annoyed when she goes on about them. but dont be too harsh, you dont want any wrong words to come out. you could recommend your friend to share her love with these flowers with other plant-interested people. or even help your friend start up her own website so she can compile all her information and share it to everyone she wants instead of just YOU! if she continues to bug you and doesnt take into consideration your feelings, maybe this person isn't the great person you thought you knew. good luck, and thanks for asking my opinion!

hello . .my husband drinks bear an i want him to stop but he refuses . .please help

hey there- does your husband drink beer a lot on a regular basis or just the occational drinking? because a person who abuses alchohol needs serious help outside of your doing. certain doctor's help can be effective towards the decline abuse of beer and alchohol. if your husband is just like any other man, he might have one once in a while. but if it bothers you so much, you should have a talk with him about why it bothers you, and how you two can sort things out.

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