I'm a third year psychology student and i love giving advice to those who are in need of it but if you ask me a stupid question you should expect a stupid answer i love hanging out with friends and socialising i can be really conceited at times and if you get on my bad side you might wanna sleep with an eye open!
Altogether I would say that I am still finding myself and my place in this huge world, searching for the great amor and visiting beautiful places
so guys feel free to ask me anything that's on your mind and I will try to give you the most helpful advice
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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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I feel like you ended up in my inbox for a reason. I'd swear this is me writing to me two years ago. Eight years, engaged and my fiancé called it off.
I'm sorry for what you're going through, I know it's especially hard if you have nobody to talk to about it. 3 years is a really long time to work through. I know this is cliché, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You have to allow yourself this time to heal. Cry as much as you need, tears carry sadness.
You probably feel like you're never going to smile again, or that you don't know how to be alone, but trust me it does get better. This is one of those tough parts of life that you just have to go through in order to be moulded into someone different. Get ready to find yourself and love yourself after you deal with this emotional burden. If you feel the need, get a rebound, it really does help.
Try new things, for me it's now cooking and gardening, I also quit smoking and I felt so accomplished having done something good through the difficult times. Talk about your feelings as much as you can. Don't ignore them or they'll come back to haunt you. The reality is that the only thing that will help you is TIME. Go through it and get over it, I promise you will look back as a new person.
Please try and reach out to old friends and family who can keep you company and try your best not to contact him. When you don't, he will call you or try to reach you, don't give in. Remember the feelings you've felt. Write yourself a note today on how you feel and what feelings you want to get rid off, then throw it away, this is called a "mind clutter box" and will help you forget what's surrounding your mind.
In the mean time, please address your feelings and know that most people have gone through this atleast once and that you're not alone. Invest the negative energy into something productive and become someone completely new. I hope you feel better and I'm here should you need to talk. If you can't reach me here you can mail me at Nikz.g9@gmail.com
Take care and be strong
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This is probably jumbled and random. I'm a little upset, so I apologize. Thank you in advance.
When I was little, my maternal grandmother lived with us a lot. I had a very close relationship with her, as I do with my mother. Her whole life she's had a hard time with personal relationships, and she's moved around and met different men, none of which have been pleasant. Right now she lives with an old man with a farm, and he's a little off his rocker, and doesn't like to go out or be around people, and besides getting anxious sometimes, he isn't that bad of a guy. However, they have this idea that they just cannot leave the farm unless they need something because they might get sick, and of course, they can't afford that. I haven't seen my grandmother in around a year, even though she lives about half an hour away. My step dad and 8 year old brother saw them from across the street at a gas station. They all made eye contact, but couldn't even be bothered to wave. Just last year, when I was still in highschool I had a lead roll in our winter musical, and we were doing South Pacific. It's my grandmother's favorite, and she promised she'd come see. It was the only thing that kept me from dropping out. She didn't come. Graduation rolled around, and I sent out invitations. She sent me a letter saying that she and her boyfriend or whatever he is would "be there in spirit." I cried both times. I know she's never had the best mental health, but it makes me angry. I want to write her a letter, but I don't even know what to say to her. My mother hasn't really ever had the best relationship with her, and it's at it's worst right now. They haven't spoken in months. Grandma sends occasional cards. She doesnt know what my siblings are up to, she doesn't know I moved out, or that I'm seeing someone. I'm so hurt by her lack of action, but I miss her. I know where they live, and I want to go see her, but I don't know if that would be the right course of action. I'm upset right now, so this whole thing is probably very jumbled. I also don't know if I should take how my mom would feel if I went to see her into consideration. I'm 18 and it's not really any of her business, but I love my mother very much. Also, I don't see or talk to my family much, despite living 8 blocks away, and I don't want another confrontation about it..
I want to see my grandmother again. What should I do??? (link)
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Wow, firstly I am so sorry that you have to face this situation. Your loved ones bring about a happiness in your life that certain things can't fill, I can imagine the pain you're in. It is totally normal to miss her and the rejection you've faced from her makes you seek her approval probably a slight more. You should definately send her the letter, not only so that she would hopefully feel a slight sense of guilt, but also to free yourself of these feelings. Expressing to someone, what they're causing in another's life is essential for change. You might even change her beliefs, maybe she needs to know she is needed by her family as well. Propose that you meet for lunch in the letter, just to catch up as you don't want to intimidate her with a confrontation. If she does not make any attempts after that, you will hopefully live peaceful with the fact that you've tried your best to make amends. Nothing is as comforting as assurance, try to see your family more if it's something you're comfortable with. The love of our families often is what we need to deal with these types of situations. I really hope you reconcile with your grandmother.
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I'm in a horrible situation and need help fast. I'm 22 and he is 22, slightly younger than me. I have no one to talk to because I'm not supposed to be talking to him. I met this guy a year ago through a friend when he moved here from another state. He was staying with his friend who lived with my friend. I was also moving into an apartment at the same time. It's my first apartment and I got it all on my own. Me, jumping into adult life quickly, I let this guy stay at my apartment and then lived there and we were dating. Things got real ugly. Long story shot, I've called the cops on him 3 times, had him sent to a mental help place for saying he was going to kill himself, and he's punched a hole through my door and stolen hundreds from me, both cash from my wallet and items that were sold. He's broken 2 or 3 of his phones, smashed electronics I bought, screamed at me making me hyperventilate and lock myself in the bathroom to call the cops.
At one point, I told my parents what happened and my dad came down from another state to stay with me and change my locks because I didn't feel safe. He also pushed me into going to the police station to start the process of a restraining order against this guy.
We had a court date set. To give you an idea of how careless this guy is, he brought over flowers when he knew my dad was here staying with me after all of this. He does NOT think things through or think of consequences.
I didn't know where he was at this time. The court date was probably a week away and I was having second thoughts about a restraining order. I even went to a center for women who are abused to talk to them and get some insight on whether I should go through with it. I was torn. He was my best friend. One night when I was home alone, I started to think a lot and cry and I called him.
He was staying at a friend's apartment not far from me. I told him to just not go to the court date and I wouldn't either. I mostly just felt that he was my best friend and I couldn't do it. I was so close to him. We related a lot. Soon after, the restraining order case was dropped, and the lease was ending at the apartment he was staying at.
I, unfortunately, allowed him in. I told him it was temporary, and that I didn't want to date. But I couldn't let him live on the street or at a shelter. But, he sleeps with me and we act like a couple in secret.
Now, he's gone through MANY jobs and can't keep one. Constantly asks for money and things that I believe he'll pay me back for. He smokes marijuana outside of my apartment (I do NOT smoke). He does not pay rent. I have to watch what I say. I can't bring any friends over. I can't talk to anyone about it. I measure how mad he is by how hard he slams the door. I am CONSTANTLY STRESSED. I work so much and he just stays here.
Out of fear, I can't say too much how I don't want to be kissing him or talking sweet to him because he gets extremely upset and cries and will scream. So I live, just, carefully and it's the same stuff every day.
I'm so sorry this is long. I really, really need help. I am SO stuck.
My dad is moving down here and he cannot be here. But he has no where to go. So I told him a month ago he needed to be out. It's now that time and only now he is messaging people for somewhere to live and no one is answering. Do I just stand my ground and say he needs to be out by tomorrow night regardless? He's saying he'll live in his car, but he doesn't realize what that all entails. His parents won't even take him back. No friends. I can't do this anymore. I want to be free. What would you do? (link)
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Hi dear,
First I admire all of your efforts in trying to make this situation of yours better second, I am disappointed because of the intelligence you own in not realising what you have to do here. You're a smart independent woman. A woman that most men would be attracted to, your qualities should be enjoyed by someone who is sane. This reminds me of an incident I had read last week. A woman in your exact position living with someone who is clearly physically and emotionally abusive, one day things took there fate and she was shot because of his insecurity. I am not implying that this will happen to you, but if you do not get this man out of your house you will be in a bigger situation than u are now. You are not responsible for him, you're not his mother. You're a beautiful soul that has shown kindness to someone and you now feel responsible for him. My advice to you is, listen to everything your father has said to you, he is older and wiser than we will ever be. Get this man out of your house these are subtle signs of abuse and the next time he isn't going to take his frustrations out on the wall it's going to be you. Please for your safety put aside your feelings and GET HIM OUT. He has made it living life before you ever met him and he will now. I am 22 living with abusive parents, I am unable to move out on my own and you do not realise how fortunate you are, don't let anyone take away your independence and don't let anyone tell you who you're allowed to associate with. A relationship is compromise and he is doing far from that, I hope u will write me again giving me good news, be strong and do the right thing, if you were to have a kid with this man ask yourself, would you feel safe leaving your child around him?
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It’s ok if he moves on and is in a relationship but its not ok for me to do it? I’m not saying I let him get involved in my life but my question is what can i do for him to stop/protect myself. (I actually don't let him get involved. He finds out this info and I only tell a small amount of people, and then he has his "buddies" figure out who the guy I am seeing is)
He has been dating a girl for three years they also plan to get married next month. However when a man tries to enter my life or tries to date me he doesn’t like it and goes and messes it up. (By talking crap about me, by hitting or going up to a guy who shows interest in me) (I also haven’t seen him in 5 years and this past summer was my first time seeing him again). I confronted him about our past relationship since we were so toxic and he said to me "I still love you but I can't be with you because I already promised another girl that I would marry her"
If it also helps he has anger issues like very bad anger issues and in the past has hit my ex boyfriend. The reason why he hit my ex boyfriend was because he found out him and i were seeing each other, He went up to my ex and asked him "What's between you and Tara" my boyfriend at that time replied "I love her" and he punched him for saying that, He also had my cousin spy on us. Also tried another time to beat up my boyfriend at that time by trying to take him somewhere far so he can beat him and my boyfriend got away.
I was also talking to his cousin once on Facebook and we just had normal "Hey, How are you" conversations and I wake up one day and see that he has blocked me for no reason. I believe that reason was because of my ex. But I now have been dating someone else and he doesn't know and i intend to keep it that way.I plan on moving back to the state he's in because my family and friends live there.
Do you guys think this behavior will stop when he gets married and has kids? Why is he still doing this? Advice please? (link)
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The way i see it, he does not want you to move on. when two people break up there is an invisible competitiveness that takes place to see which person is happier without the other. He is in another relationship so he should not be involved in your personal life. your ex is a person that you cut out of your life because it never worked out unless you agreed to remain friends. This is truly unhealthy for you and you should try your best to cut off all contact with him unless you still have feelings for him. Threaten to tell his fiance' if he does not stop invading your privacy. He has absolutely no business meddling in your life and he wants to make sure that you remain unhappy. i dont think you should be bothered about whether or not his behavior will change, by you giving him attention he has already won and will continue to ruin your relationships if you do not leave him in the past. I think it would be wise to not interact with his family so often as it gives him leverage to call your family and question your whereabouts. You should explain his irrational behavior to your new partner so that he does not interfere. Slowly but surely, once he realises you dont have time for him and have moved on, he will do the same
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Why would he ask me, am I your darling? With a tears of joy emoji because I call my good friends by darling mostly rather than their names and it's just natural. After we texted each other for few minutes I said OK darling and he texted back asking am I your darling with an emoticon, I said yes why not, and he sends me a jazz hands emoji, (I think it's an offering hug emoji) as I looked up on Internet. I call him darling now and then. He's a good friend. We get on well and go to same college. I like him. So my question is why the emojis and asking back if he's my darling? Thanks! (link)
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Story short, your friend is into you. He is searching for confirmation that you feel the same way about him. I suggest asking him indirectly, how his love life is going, whether he is into anybody. You'd get your answer from that, but if you don't feel the same i suggest you just let it be.
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I just discovered a web series called "Blue" on a channel called "WIGS" and really want to watch this. However I can't find it anywhere online. I prefer to watch it without having to register on anything. If anyone could find a link for me, please send it. Thanks! (link)
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Try 123movies or Putlocker. I'm not sure if they have the series you're looking for but give it a try they're great and no registration needed
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So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
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I know you may feel that this is the only option right now, but trust me when I say that in a few months you're really not going to care. A long distance relationship requires a lot of maintenance and lets not forget that it's in another country! This guy, I'm sorry to say, will eventually meet somebody, especially because he doesn't know you're feelings, he might find it rather odd too, and you're only going to be heart broken. Move on and meet other guys and when you find the one for you, you're going to look back at this and laugh
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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Although it's possible to get pregnant from pre ejaculation, the chances are not extremely high. If she took the pill, then you're fine, it's unlikely that she will become pregnant
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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance. (link)
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Well, you say that you guys have broken up, so why does this still bother you? She is going away for a year and im certain that in that time you are going to forget these feelings. The truth is that you are just disappointed in yourself for not realizing sooner the kind of person that she truly is, and I'm sure you would not want to make her your girlfriend. So let it go, everybody makes mistakes and you just kissed, you'll eventually find somebody that you are in sync with, and I don't think that this is the girl for you. Maybe it's best you don't speak to her as much as you do now? That might ease the situation, just remember that you have done nothing wrong and you should feel proudly about it.
All the best dear!
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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Hello there, the chances of getting aids from oral sex is very low, although possible through abrasions in the mouth. Are you certain that this person has aids? You could however contract std's such as gonorrhea or chlamydia. Your urine will be tested, if you go to a gynecologist he/she will check down there, and if you are doing an aids test your blood will be tested. Considering you are twenty five years old, you're an adult and I'm certain your result will be confidential. If you shave or wax your pubic area it could probably just be an ingrown hair, however for peace of mind, you should see a gynecologist
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news but from what you're telling me, it's pretty clear that he's over you. I don't buy the whole story about the exam being in the way, this guy seems to be keeping his options open knowing he can always turn to you, he's basically stringing you along for no reason and that will never end until you end it. You're not going to jeopardize his grades and if he loved you he could compromise. I understand it's really tough, but nobody deserves to go through that, once you realize that he's no good for you, you'll understand how he acted and that you shouldn't have wasted anymore time. One day you'll find somebody special but I'm sorry hun this guy isn't him.
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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed) (link)
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Yes you are. You're only a virgin until your hymen is broken which is located in the vagina
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I started dating a girl in December, I'm not going to say all the normal love stuff, because, this was a normal relationship, we believed we were perfect for eachother, we loved eachother, ect. Her parents liked me, I went to church and all with them, they were Catholic I'm Baptist.
Well, she would always say how she's always hungry, she doesn't eat as much (later finding out they sometimes don't give her food for like a day or two), her parents call her names like slut, whore, bitch, just cause their mad or so, or they'd slap her, like, they slap her all the time when they don't get their way basically. Sometimes they whip them (her and her sister) with a belt I believe, but it never leaves bruises so she thinks it's "not illegal" because of that, but it burns and hurts her like hell. One time she said "my mother whipped me with a belt 15 times because I drew on the blinds"
Anyways on with the story, everything was normal, until the day before valentines day, her mom grounded her because we were 30 minutes late from the lake which was half a mile away. February 17th or 18th I forget, she got in a argument with her mom, as always the slapping, name calling, she was unhappy. We ran away in the middle of the night together, she said she was going to run away even if I didn't.
So, I protected her, we ran away, we were gone for 18 hours. When we came back, we went into the house and talked to the parents, well, the parents are HIGHLY manipulative and all so remember this later. The mother said how she doesn't even want my girlfriend there, if it wasn't for the dad she wouldn't be there, and responsibility this responsibility that, basically saying their all gonna die if she doesn't do things right, her mother is literally mentally unstable or something... The cop came obviously, the dad said I was a good kid he liked me and all, and we hugged when I left. Everything was normal.
The next day I went there, the mom was mad obviously, we hanged out for 2 or 3 weeks in a normal way. Then I had to goto another state for 3 weeks, I told them I was leaving, and I really was, but I had problems and went to the state over instead with my family for 5 days. Well, we snuck out when I got back because we knew we wouldn't be able to see eachother until the weekend, we always wanted to see eachother. This wasn't the first time we snuck out, and we've been caught 3 times before by her parents. They forgave us though each time.
This time, I lied to the mom sadly saying I was in Missouri. Acted like I was worried the next day ect, the sister had told the mom the truth I guess. The mother 2 days later (March 7th) filed a Protection Order, for no legit reason. Ill say the statements later. The P.O. was served to me March 9th
The dad, is like loyal to the wife because their catholic and all, not to bash the religion in any way. But he just is. I know he would never do this, he didn't file anything. Anyways I went to the house to reconcile with him and he just kept saying go, go, go bla bla no reason then just started saying I was too old. He knew I wasnt, he liked me, he was just doing this for the wife. Cops ended up coming I still refused to leave because I wanted to reconcile, then they tresspassed me.
Anyways, March 17th, I went to walmart, they were all there, the dad walked like "Hey (my name), I see you got a job!" What? "You're wearing your uniform!" Oh yeah "Well, bye!" he was all happy and everything.
After seeing me 3 more times he left with my gf to the car.
March 20th came, the P.O. court date, the statements on it were "Ran away, sneaking out to the lake several times, reporting bullying and saying everything will be okay" I reported her being bullied from people.. And they think thats bad? Hah. Well, the mom anyways. We told the judge about how their using me as a disclipinary tool, how they call her names and mental abuse, how I always just helped her. Not really detailing it but that's short for it, Judge said "Everything was in good intentions for her nothing was done wrong, all he did was help her." and set the P.O. for 3 months.
We got letters on March 24th and March 27th saying how they hurt her she doesn't wanna be there that they say their the "dictators" of the family and they slap her, call her bitch and slut, and that her Aunt threatened to kill me and has a plan and a gun in her car. And will do anything for her mom she doesn't care cause she loves her mom.
Sad.
April 3rd we violated it, she was being starved I heard so I was going to take her to McDonalds, cops caught us within 5 minutes because I "ran a stop sign", well I was on a slope. It was dark, so yeah.
April 9th, the mother chased me, followed me, I ran from her to my friends house and a cop started grabbing me for no reason when he came to investigate so I pushed him and got charged for assault and battery and a violation, went to jail for 6 days. I really did nothing wrong, this cop just started grabbing me then shoving me into the police car because I yelled my mothers number at my friend because he wouldnt let me call her, I KNEW the cops wouldn't call her thats why I tried. Cop wasnt listening to me say they were chasing me before all this, he detained me as soon as he saw me in my truck he said get out and I did then I was like am i being detained he was like yes. He cant do that without any further cause...
So yeah I was arrested. Went to jail for 6 days and now I'm under 24/7 supervision for awhile, we believe their going to give me probation in another state...
Well, we have around 3 open DHS cases on her, then 2 more from other people we believe. But DHS hasn't visited her since ending of March, its May now. And their all open cases.
Now here's where things get interesting, this just happened, and is why I'm looking for help.
2 days ago she showed up to my house, freezing, wet, covered in grass. It was a 4 mile walk to out here, through the lake woods and all. I was so sad I let her in, got her my sweats and got her warm, held her, she explained what happened how they hurt her and she doesn't wanna be there, she showed me a bruise which is the size of a french fry, my friend and her said it was bigger, it's 4 days old, still blood red.
Her mother ended up showing up, we called the cops, but she was saying she doesn't wanna be there they hurt her they hit her they call her names and just wanted help... A Sheriff came in, I was in the other room then because the PO, my mother was with them, my Gf had said all I've said how they hurt her and call her names she doesnt wanna be with them shes scared and unhappy and some stories on how they hurt before.
So sheriff took her to the police car and then talked to us then talked to her parents. There was another sheriff here then, they pulled out a letter. They talked for like 30 minutes. Now before we continue, this family is highly manipulative, believable, looks normal but when you leave their house their evil and hitting her. They've lie to the POLICE (not sheriff) to think were Sex Traffickers, idk if they believe it just because "were from Arizona" and my mother said it was okay if my Gf wanted to live with us, when she ran away, if it was okay with the parents. So because of that they lie about some stuff.
My gf said to the sheriff how when the police come her parents make them goto the room and their never really questioned or get to talk that the police and her parents just get along... So now theres gonna be more DHS and police involved I guess.
Anyways, sheriff sent her back with the mom, said theres going to be in-house DHS counciling, police, and all. It's devestating because my GF absoloutely doesnt want to be with them, they seriously hurt her. They wont let her go with her real mom the sheriff said "THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE" in a loud voice, because the mother lied to them we think.
The letter the mother showed them was a letter, in short, saying "I'm running away to see (my name)" which ruined everything I think. Because cops said she didn't run away because they hurt her, which is WHY she did run away, she told me, but yes, she came to me to tell me first, she wanted help they do hurt her.
What can we do?!
I've made about a 6 page letter to the dad since theres no Protection Order from him...
Were not doing this just so we can see eachother, that's part of the reason, but they really hurt her she wants out.
I have just turned 17 and she has just turned 15, at the end of April and beginning of May.
When she came here she said her mother had said "Now I see why (cousins name) mother let her boyfriend move in." (link)
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Yikes! You've got yourself quite a situation here. Her mother clearly has aggression problems and with aggression comes hostility as well as lying and fabrication of the truth. What I suggest you do is go to child protection services considering she is 15 years old, I would advise you to take an adult with you as you would get the respect you deserve. Tell them everything you've told me and an investigation will be conducted, they will take it from there. Take pictures of any abrasions on your girlfriend's body or get her to possibly video record this kind of behavior. The most you can do at this point considering your age, is giving your girlfriend the moral support that she needs. Police are not going to believe you without proof, it is basically this girl's parents' word over yours, who would you believe? I admire your compassion to help your girlfriend. She needs to become more involved in this matter and you cannot voice her problems all the time. I hope these guidelines have given you a peace of mind. Please contact me if I can help in any other way. All the best
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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
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Hi dear, hope you\'re feeling better, I have tried my best to narrow this down I hope it\'s useful to you.Your coronary arteries are major blood vessels in your body that supply your heart with blood, oxygen and nutrients. The coronary artery disease develops when these blood vessels become damaged or diseased. Cholesterol is a common cause of this, this is when there is a plaque build up in your blood vessels, this narrows the vessels making it harder for blood to reach the chest and this causes the chest pain. This type of disease develops over decades, so it is unlikely that you have this disease. It is advisable to speak to your parents about this and get the medical attention you require to prevent any future health conditions.
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Hi i need some advice i want to find god i'm 13 male and have had a few family problems and feel lonely sometimes and i do want to become a christian a couple of months ago i started going to church i go every week i pray to god twice everyday i feel good after praying god has really helped me i have started reading the bible i want to give my life to god what else do i need to do to be a christian? (link)
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Wow, I am extremely happy for you. I\'d like to mention that I was a year younger than you when I converted to Christianity and my faith in this religion has continued to become stronger over the years. The fact, that you are going to church and feeling good after prayer means you are saved, you are a Christian. For self assurance, read Hebrews 11:6 which is the prayer of salvation declaring to the Lord that you believe his word is true and you accept him in your heart. You could also ask the pastor at your church if he performs baptisms, this is a rejuvenating experience and I wish you the very best
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my boyfriend has suddenly unfriended me frm fb nd he iz not evn exceptin me request nd not evn answerin ma txt ... nd i love him love him like hell ... so plz suggest me some pills which r easily available in india nd any chemist.... i m a 16 yrs girl.
Nd i frm INDIA. (link)
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You're only 16 years old did you really expect to find true love at this age. He unfriended you, so what, if u could find him you can find somebody else, if you show him you don't care he might come back to you, but if you are clingy to him he will get upset so give him some time. Listen to me hun no life is worth being lost over a guy, you have plenty to live for and a month later you're gonna be glad I told you these things. Treat yourself to a girls day, get your hair done, go shopping, spend time with your friends and keep yourself busy, these thoughts will go away
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I like this girl and i asked her to the upcoming dance, she responded saying "i love u!!" is it a kind rejection or a acception? girls, HELP!! (link)
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Well it sounds like she's been waiting a really long time for you to ask her so its a definite yes
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est ce que le baiser d'amour peut-il rendre une femme enceinte ?????
:'( je veux une réponse svp !! (link)
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I'm sorry I speak english only
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Hi, my name is Austin and my girlfriend Jordan has been cutting herself for 3 years. I'm 16 and she's 14. She says she can't stop and that no one can help her stop. She's had phsycologists help her and that didn't work. She once cut so deeply that she had to get stiches. I really need some advice please. I'm afraid she will hurt herself really bad. I'm also afraid that this might affect our relationship. (link)
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Right now you're her only hope because you're the person that she will listen to, you need to tell her that this is affecting your relationship, at that age you are very vulnerable and she will not think things through, from a psychological perspective, she has become acustom to this behaviour and is probably seeking attention. Have you asked her why she does this? You could try things like bargain with her, tell her if she stops you will return the favour by doing something she would like, you need to express to her exactly how you're expressing your feelings to me. Girls her age care a lot about appearance, remind her of the scars its leaving on her hands and she will have to live with it forever, but right now she cherishes your relationship, and will be willing to stop if you let her know its going to destroy things between you two
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Guys will make fun of my large breast size and my height. Nobody likes to talk to me and girls laugh at my weight causing low self esteem and starvation. EVERYONE laughs at me for being black and having white friends. What do I do? I'm very shy and have a fear of standing up and talking for myself because of years of abuse. I try to laugh it off but at the end if the day it's so painful! I'm so sorry and I don't mean to complain. What can I do to get them to stop without everyone laughing at me. Thank you. (link)
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Since when are large breasts a bad thing? Own it girl, you need to ask them that say "wow you're making fun of my breasts I had no idea you weren't into girls". The only way they will stop these remarks is if you stand up for yourself I guarantee you if you do it once they will not bother you again. Being black and having white friends? That's damn racist and you need to tell them that, you have to be stern now or this will never end, they take advantage because they know that you will do nothing about it. Nobody will laugh at you for defending yourself, people will laugh at you because you laugh with them and you're laughing at yourself
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