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My family and some of my friends hate the guy I love for reasons that in my mind, end up being superficial. My parents told me I end things or they cut me off and won't help with law school. So I kinda did. I'm still in contact with my guy because I'm madly in love with him. I truly believe he's the one for me. The situation is heated with my family right now so I have to pretend I cut him out of my life. I want him in my life and I need my family and their help. What would you do or say to my parents and my guy if you were me? (link)
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Unfortunately,being in the same situation as you,I can understand how you feel. Here is how I do it. I pretend that he doesn't even exist,say I go out with friends but then meet him instead. Not the best way,I know. But if you feel that they have really wronged him and for superficial reasons,and that you can come out a better person because of your relationship with him,please don't give up on him. I guess I can understand their worry but sometimes they don't understand that our ideas of happiness are different to theirs. That what is ideal in their eyes,isn't ideal in ours. The path we are both on is difficult. If you are truly sure that he is the one for you,go for it.
Now,don't worry about their lack of support. In life,you will surely,as I have,find other people who will be more supportive than your family and current friends ever were.
If you believe in a good outcome,you will get one.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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While my boyfriend is eating me out, my legs and my arms and everything go tingly and I cant control my body and I want to close my legs. Am I about to orgasm or what? Why does it make me want to close my legs? (link)
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That happens to me when my clitoris is overstimulated. But it never led to an orgasm in my case. Hope this helps.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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It doesn't apply generally to just those men,but for most. I could very well say we will hardly achieve equality,but oppression is common in any setting. You can never really know what is someone's story. Wealth doesn't mean happiness. Don't be so quick to judge.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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I know all too well how you feel. I've been there many times. And all of those times it turned out I was simply shutting everyone out,hence the seeming lack support. Keeping things in isn't healthy. Do open up to someone you feel you can trust,it could be anyone. Until then,you have my support. Hang in there.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me. (link)
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Please don't feel so down. I understand your situation. But it doesn't make you worthless or means you are going to be unwanted. First off,you need to keep herpes in check. And the best way to achieve that is to boost your immune system. One thing I would like to mention is that you should be honest with future partners. The one will come who will accept you in spite of that STI. Trust me. I hope I could help put you at ease.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Well technically all those things are a form of sex. But in my humble opinion you are a virgin if your hymen is still intact.
Hope that helps.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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Hi I am 24,female..hello there.hi I am middle class family girl from.India and belong to a very complicated extended family where family members n relatives don't take each others side they employ themselves rather to insult n criticize others.. I have to do this I have to do that I have to compete her I have to do better than him n so on to prove my worth...as if I don't have my own identity.i always have been judged on others quality and qualifications.i always have tried to make a good girl impression in front of everyone obeyed everybody.lastly my bf.we fought millions of time n patched up trillion of time.but I never could make him understand what I really want out of him..yes I made million mistakes n he did too..lately I even couldn't withstand him..but still we managed to get back to each other.but recently I am noticing a great change within me.i gathered lots of patience.i don't fight with anyone.i become absolutely silent if there is any possibility of fight.i am being detached from everyone and every emotions.i have stopped expecting things from everyone.i make peace with myself.i have lost interest in every exciting social phenomena;e.g.-marriage,motherhood,family,love..i even lost interest in sex..but still me n my bf we are till now together so I couldn't stop him from being intimated though I don't feel good about it..i did it just to avoid any argument or fight n just to maintain the peace..i feel like leaving home n to go join a nunnery..but ad I am still a student dependent on my parents..don't have a job..so what n how should I do? (link)
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First of all,hello dear. I will try to get straight to the point here. You don't need to compete with ANYONE to prove your worth. Only YOU need to be aware of your worth,the rest will either see it eventually or not see it at all. Which is,again,their problem,not yours. I would strongly suggest that you break up with your boyfriend. It is more of a habit than an actual relationship. You are worthy of someone who will make you feel happy. Only God knows how hard it was for me when I had to do it,to break up,but thanks to it I met the man of my dreams. And finally,you don't have to be interested in things that fascinate others. Unfortunately,I can't tell you exactly what to do,because I can only give advice,not step-by-step instructions. My advice would be to wait until you finish high school or college,and then go and do what you feel like doing. If anything,I hope I made you feel better.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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Look darling. This guy doesn't know what he wants. He may feel something for you but is too chicken to act on it. You have convinced yourself that you love him and you don't see what I just said. Please have some self respect and give up on this guy. He is not someone you would want as a long term partner. Look at this objectively and you will understand.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
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I don't think you're retarded. There is a chance but you will have to work for it. And if it doesn't work out by any chance,don't get disappointed.
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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
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I can't tell for sure. But if she took the pill,she should be fine.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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I'm a 14 year old girl and I have terrible social anxiety. For example, last week a store clerk tried to make small talk with me while I was checking something out and my face went red and I just kinda laughed at his friendly little jokes I a way that sounded more like wheezing and after paying I almost ran out of there without my change and he probably thought that I was mental! I can't give presentations in class or anything and to top it all off I start at a new school tomorrow so I'll have to make new friends (not like I've ever had more than one or two friends but I tend not to talk to my friends anyway). The thing is, I'm a good actor and a decent signer so I want to joi the drama club at my new school but I almost have a panic attack just thinking about talking to people and getting g on a stage in front of them. How do I help myself? (link)
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The thing with social anxiety is that you have to expose yourself to these things that make you anxious. I know it sounds ludicruous but trust me. Once you get used to it,it will no longer be a problem. Face your anxiety and you will feel amazing.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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You should tell the police. Don't be bashful in front of them,tell them what the issue is. Although it's unnecessary for me to say you did a very reckless thing.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again? (link)
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Being religious is everyone's right and your dad should leave you be. So yes,if you want to stay Wiccan,do as you wrote you would.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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Here's a picture of me: http://i.imgur.com/e2uF7w6.jpg
I have a stupid haircut and i don't look good.
I have no idea what hairstyle would look good for me, but could someone tell me what hairstyle would look best with my face? Every time I've asked this, people have just made fun for how I look; I know I'm ugly, but I just want legitimate advice as to what would look good for me. (link)
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Your haircut isn't stupid and you are very handsome. But if you want a change,in my opinion plain short hair that is even on your entire head would look best on you.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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Hi, I'm 13 and my right boob is bigger then my left, u can't tell when I'm whereing a bra but when I'm not its noticeable. Is this normal?? Please help! (link)
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Yes,it's normal. You are young and have probably just entered puberty. It happens to almost all women. I had the same issue but now I'm 20 and they got more symmetrical. So don't worry,their size will become even in time.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
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According to what I've heard,suicide leads you to hell. However bad it is,please don't do it. Nothing is worth it. You have to take consequences for your actions and go through it. That's life. Be strong.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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If I were you,I would go and try to live with your father. From what you've written here,I consider that you should in no circumstance follow your mother and sister. Unfortunately, just because someone is your family doesn't mean they will love you. For example, my family loves me only as much as I am educated. No college,no love. So if your dad is willing to take you in,go and try to start your life anew. You don't need anyone who makes you feel like you are worth less than others. Go girl,I'm rooting for you. And feel free to ask a question anytime.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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I'm from asia and i will hopefully graduate BS Biology as my pre-medicine course. I want to study medicine, however I want to have my further study in Finland because they have free education and I don't want to be stuck in my country in my whole life. I'm so confused on what to study to become a doctor. It says that I should study licentiate of medicine and or study an undergraduate degree first before licentiate. However i'm not so sure if i am qualify to study licentiate with my BS biology degree only. Pls help me about this because I'm confused. Am I qualify to study licentiate? I'll be 20 when i will hopefully graduate in my degree now. I did various research but still confused. I made early plans because i really want to study their. Thank you very much. (link)
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I wish I could help you with that but in my country it's different. Here you need to pass the entrance exam and finish a medical high school first.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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For some reason I was surfing and checked to see what was written about Ray Marcois and the kennel he owned when he died..........WHERE IN THE WORLD DID YOU GET THE INFO THAT HE AND DIANE WERE SHOT TO DEATH?????
Ray and I were married for a few years and he and I acquired Mandelyn Kennels from the prior owners during the time of our marriage. Diane was a friend of ours - and continued to remain a friend of mine after Ray and I split up - and for quite awhile after Ray died OF A HEART ATTACK while out on the training field talking to his head trainer Tony Barios. Ray was giving Tony instructions on what was to be taken care of while he was at the Air Force Base in Texas to work with handlers and canines. Ray was dead before the ambulance arrived arrived!!!! NO SHOOTING INVOLVED IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM.....and his wife Diane was still alive the last time she and I talked several months later.
Please let me know - and better yet, inform your "source" that he/she was WRONG/WRONG/WRONG. Ray was too good a man to have this stupid incorrect information on the net.
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I agree with the columnist above-not sure who you are responding to. I understand that you are mad about incorrect information but I don't believe they did it for any particular reason. That's probably what they heard and just put it online. People can put anything on the internet.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre. (link)
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I'm not sure what to tell you. It is unclear to me why they made no counter offer and said they are pursuing other candidates when they wanted you to be there in the first place. If this job means a lot to you,do try to get it. If not,change it. I'm not really experienced in job matters since I'm still a student,but I'm trying to give good advice.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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