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Stuck between love & family
My family and some of my friends hate the guy I love for reasons that in my mind, end up being superficial. My parents told me I end things or they cut me off and won't help with law school. So I kinda did. I'm still in contact with my guy because I'm madly in love with him. I truly believe he's the one for me. The situation is heated with my family right now so I have to pretend I cut him out of my life. I want him in my life and I need my family and their help. What would you do or say to my parents and my guy if you were me?
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Unfortunately,being in the same situation as you,I can understand how you feel. Here is how I do it. I pretend that he doesn't even exist,say I go out with friends but then meet him instead. Not the best way,I know. But if you feel that they have really wronged him and for superficial reasons,and that you can come out a better person because of your relationship with him,please don't give up on him. I guess I can understand their worry but sometimes they don't understand that our ideas of happiness are different to theirs. That what is ideal in their eyes,isn't ideal in ours. The path we are both on is difficult. If you are truly sure that he is the one for you,go for it.
Now,don't worry about their lack of support. In life,you will surely,as I have,find other people who will be more supportive than your family and current friends ever were.
If you believe in a good outcome,you will get one.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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This is really sad to hear. No one really liked the guy I dated for 5 years because he wasn't good to me. My family still supported me and loved me and helped me along the way. We eventually broke up. Your family shouldn't make you choose them over him. that's not fair. Are you acting different around him? What does he do to make them not like him? Does he change you? Is there things that can be addressed and fixed?
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Well if you love him you shouldn't care what your family thinks you are an adult. But why don't they like him? Is it because he is an alcoholic? I would just keep things on the DL for now and maybe your family will get used to it later.
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