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Q: How do i know if my boyfriend is really interested in me? Also how do i know if he is cheating on me? Please help

if he cares he tells calls you everyday more then once and talks to you as much as possible and if hes cheating on you, you would konw you could tell by the way he acts and if hes not home when he is supposed to be and stuff like that

Q: ok. I almost lost my home yesterday because of a huge flood. and i was to call my "best friend" on the phone. and this is the conversation.
me: hey
her:hey I heard about the flood
me: yeah, they might not let us back in our houses for 2-3 months.I'm basicly homeless.
her:oh well I have 2 friends over and I don't want to be rude
me: *scoffs* yeah ok bye
her:bye

....there were only two friends of mine that said "hey well if you need a place to live you can come here" if my "friend" was actually my friend why did she blow me off in my time of need?

maYBE he parents wouldnt understand about you stayin there for a while maybe her life at home isnt that great find out facts before you get to mad at her

Q: I have a boyfriend that I love with all my heart but I'm bi.He doesn't know it. There was one time that he accidently called me bi and I fussed at him.I said he would probably like it if I was. He said he would never like that because she would be licking and then trying to kiss him.He said bi girls were nasty as hell. Because of that I haven't told him I was bi because I'm scared he is going to break up with me. What should I do?

tell him he has to find out sooner or later or just turn straight or not its just gonna hurt more the longer you wait

Q: ok so i have this guy friend who i know has feelings for me as more than a friend. he hasn't actually said anything but i can just tell from the way he acts. so what's his deal? why hasn't he said anything to me about how he truly feels is he scared, and if he is scared why would he be, we're good friends. thanks

signed
confused friend

Sorry it took me so long to respond but maybe he is shy, maybe he thinks you will reject him and he thinks if something happens it may hurt your alls friendship. If you know that he has feeling for him try and make a couple of moves toward him yourself

Q: i am pregnet like 2 months along, and as we know your not supposed to have sex, well my boyfriend really want it, but i cant give it to him, and i dont want him cheating on me, i was wondering if you can have anal sex while being pregnet?

wait why cant you have sex while your pregnant it is actully suppose to help you during deleivery if you have had sex during your pregnancy

Q: Okay, I figure since you seem like a nice guy, that I should ask you... kay, there's this guy that lives down the street from me, and we've been really good friends for about a year. About two weeks ago, there was this dance that I went to, and I asked him to go with me. Ever since then, I've kinda been crushing on him... but since then, he hasn't come over as much. My friends say he likes me, but if he's avoiding me, how can I tell? I figured I should ask you, since you're a guy...

try and talk to him and ask him if he wants to go do something with you, if he dont wanna do anything with you maybe he just wants to jsut be friends or he is shy. If he wants to go out with you dont rush it just start hanging out then make your move and ask him out or let him do it

Q: My bf and i are going to 2 proms this year and we're not sure if he should buy or rent a tux for them. What do you think would be cheaper. All he wants is a basic Black Tux with nothing fancy and also besides Mr. Tux and Steping out Formal where can he rent them and where can he buy one. thanks and sry if that is confusing

I think it would be cheaper for him to just buy one that way he doesnt have to pay to rent it twice

Q: I just don't understand how I can easily give advice to others and yet I am horrible at taking my own advice. For instance I always tell my friends and anyone else for that matter people at my age (17 and under) can not understand love. Yet I sit here thinking I love someone. I care about this guy a lot and we used to date. I know he is a jerk but that doesn't mean I want to not date him. I know I will be fine without him but I know how much fun I had with him (in a perfectly christian way). All he does now is avoid me and surrounds himself with girls. Then when we actually talk he is tells me he loves me just doesn't want to date right now. I don't understand his thought concept or his reasoning. How can you tell a girl you 'love' them and then ignore them for a long time? I just don't understand it. I am tired of waiting for answers he is not willing to tell me. Can any one help me understand why he is doing this?

he is embarrassed to show it in front of his friends he wants them to think he is a monch monch kinda guy thats isnt fallen for a certian girl

Q: Well over the weekend I'm stuck with a huge project over the weekend and...its a group project and two of the guys in the group goof off all the time and are failing the class and the other guy is a cute,nice,funny guy I flirt and joke around with sometimes. He's into the project but he's not into getting everything together. I've got this amazingly funny and fun idea for the project, and the only way I'm gonna get it done is if I do it all by myself. So my question is, do people hate it if you do all the work? Does doing all the work piss people off? Will the guy not like me anymore if I do it by myself?
Thanks so much for helping! :-)

I would atleast make an attempt to get them to help you but if they dont help you they dont care about it they are not gonna get mad about you doin it

Q: Do guys get bored when fingering a girl? And how do they know when to stop? Does she have to tell them or can he feel it?

they usually get them ready by fingering them then eat them out or just screaw them

Q: My best friend dated my ex. It was a tough thing for me to see.They are totally over and you would think everything is fine. Wrong. I still like him. At least I think I still like him. I even have a boyfriend who I love very much. But then I read a note from my ex that was about me that was to my best friend when they were together, and now I feel sad. He liked her a lot. And I feel like a bitch. I need to know what is going on! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

IF you are the reason they broke up and if you think they still like each other try to hook them back up

Q: ok well on friday there is this dance at columbus(an all guys school) and my friend told me about it and told me to go w/ her and her b/f who goes to the school. i can't take my b/f because guys that don't go to the school aren't allowed to go. i want to go to the party though because i've been dying to go to one lately but i know that if i tell my b/f i'm going w/o him he'll get PISSED since its an all guys school and i'm going by myself bcuz he's really overprotective. what should i do??

dont tell him, its not really a lie its a white lie to save his feeling

Q: Hey I was just wandering what you thought about this one. Sorry it might be kinda long but I really need your advice.

-Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks exactly today. He is like really stupid and kinda weird so I dont know what I want to do. Half of me wants to dump him and the other half doesn't. I know that he really really likes me and that if I break up with him he might even cry. Today on our field trip some of his friends were like joking around and told me that he dumped me (and I knew he didnt). He was like what?!? I would never dump her. And yesterday he bought me this really cute stuffed animal (dolphin) because he knows that I love dolphins.

-Please someone help me I really need it!!

if you dont like him then dump him tell him the truth and if that hurts your friendship thats the risk you ahve to take

Q: Are you suppose to pop your pimples or not? And the same with Black heads? What are you suppose to do. I use this blackhead scrub stuff and it makes my blackheads bigger. Is that giving me a sign to pop them? I seldum get pimples with white heads. And usually I accident pop them. Is that bad?

nah pop them they arent gonna hurt you just dont keep pickin at them

Q: Guys only please-just a quick question wondering if i could get some feedback

i used to have a friends with benefits deal with this kid-and after going on for about a year it ended just recently about 3 months ago-my question-do you think it would be akward for me to IM and just start talking to him him seeing as i've never done so before or as a guy would u find that akward and uncalled for? just wondering thanks a lot

nah i would hope they would talk to me you never know you might be able to get back with him

Q: I am a freshman in high school and i recently lost my virginity and i know to use protection but my question is can you only get pregnant when you are on your period? or only when u are not?

help if you i rate!!!!!!!!

~Blundered blonde~

No you are more likely not to get pregnant on your period but it is still possible to

Q: i sweat alot under my arms even though i put on deoderant.The docoter gave me better stuff to use but i still sweat is there anything i can do so i wont sweat there? i rate!!!

I dont know you could like try and to put your deoderant on two or three times a day that may help reduce some of the sweating or just on your breaks wipe under your arms dry

Q: 17/m
Boxers, briefs, thongs, commando...I can't decide. Need help.

Signed,
Under Where? ;)

My favirote is boxer breifs they are not to short and not loose on your bodythats my favirote

Q: Im not sure if i should break up with my boyfriend or not. Lately things havent been going good for us. We been going out 3 months by the way. I just got back from a trip and he only texted me twice while I was gone & i just called him to see if he wanted to go somewhere and he didnt barely talk at all, he didnt ask how my trip went, or that he missed me or anything. Right after I asked him, he said no & said bye. I dunno how I should break up with him though, I cant do it in person cuz we have spring break and I cant see him all week for different reasons and I sure dont want to call him again... I dunno please help me.

cal him and dump his ass you deserve better then that he is just a prick and dont have any feelings

Q: okay this is semi long so i am sorry but i really want advice: my mom died when i was 3 and i went to SO MUCH counseling. family,alone you name it. i stopped around the end of 3rd grade. but now that i am a teenager i realize how much i want/need a mother figure. i have my grandmother and i love her dearly but its not the same. i try to talk to my friends but they cant really relate and i feel bad making my problems their problems. i sort of want to go back to counseling but it costs SO MUCH and i am not sure i need it....

help me please?