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Q: uhmm everyone always says like dry sex and i dont exactly know what it is and whats the difference between normal sex?

dry sex is when you keep your clothes on, but your in the position of sex and the movements. but the penis doesnt actually go into the vigina... thats normal sex.

Q: how do i know if he's with me 4 sex or not

well, this is kind of a broad question. in my opinion, if you guys start dating. and he automatically wants to start doing sexual things. Then hes most likely just trying to get sex.

Also, if you guys have only dated for a short time, and he brings up sex and he says "if you love me you will" and if the first time he ever says "i love you" is in the same sentence of sex, hes likely trying to use you for sex.

Q: does sex and masterbation feel the same or is it
diffrent (for the first time)?

well if you use somthing like your finger (if your a girl) a penis is much thicker than your finger so of course it will feel different.

Q: i got fingered like 6 or 7 days ago, and it still hurts!! does that mean somethigns like wrong or something?? [by the way, its NOT my first time getting fingered.]

well, this guy might have done it deeper than the other times youve had it done. and if he used more fingers than that would explain it too.

Q:

a friend of mine was recently telling me that 'im his bffff

you should tell him somthing boogus. a lie and see if he would tell anyone. but dont tell him anything that would make you look bad. =]

Q: what are ways to get a flat stomach?
i don't really have a BIG stomach.
maybe just a half-inch of stomach out.
i do 15 sit-ups about almost every night.
but what else can i do to make it faster, i guess?

crunches define your muscle. and situps build it. uhm if its your lower stomache. you should do leg lifts. thats what worked for me. lay on your back and put your hands underneath your butt for support and lift you legs maybe 6 inches off of the ground and hold it there for like 10 seconds. and start out with.. 3 sets of 10 =] // i hope that helped

Q: 13/f

i have been friends with this guy for about a year. he's really cool and all, and i consider him my guy best friend, and i guess he considers me his girl best friend. we have a lot of things in common, and we talk about all anything. from sports to music to girls and all that stuff. one time we talked in AIM for 8 hours straight! the last time i talked to him, before he left for vacation, we talked about how we talked for 8 hours straight. [[it's always been random things that we talk about]] and somewhere along the line of conversation, i said something like, "well, i wouldn't wanna waste your time talking to me."
here's a quick scene from that conversation::
HIM: oh come on. you're one of the only people i could talk to for 8 hours and love it
ME: uh-huh
HIM: yeaah. why do you think that it would be a waste of time for me?
ME: i don't know... maybe you have better things 2 do?
HIM: now why would i talk to you for so long if i had better things to do? i talked to you for 8 hours because i love talking to you
ME: i guess... lol... this is turning into one of those "aw" moments
HIM: hahahahahaha. sure i guess. just being
honest

i thought it was REALLLY sweet of him to say that. since then i've been feeling like i like him more than a friend. i heard that he kinda likes someone, but i'm not sure who it is. i don't really wanna tell him that i like him, because i don't wanna put our friendship in jeopardy. i'm thinking of just waiting to see if he'll ask me out. maybe not anytime soon, but hopefully when i still like him. should i? we don't go to the same school anymore. we used to, but his parents wants him to go to this other school so that he has a better chance of him getting into this high school that i'm hoping to get into, too. i really miss him, and even though i talk to him more than anybody else, i still feel like it's not enough. what should i do?

wow i went thru this exact same problem.

me and my boyfriend were best of friends in 8th grade we always flirted and talked on the phone. but neverr would admit that we liked eachother. even tho i knew he did.

then one day i just asked him on the way to class. i said "john, idk if you like me, but i really like you" and then i just went to class. then when i came back. he told me he had feelings for me. and this was back in april 2005. and if i never told him how i felt, i honestly dont know what would have happend.

so i think that you should just express your feelings to him. i know what you meant tho. i thought going out with my best friend would complicate things, buts its turned out to be the best desicion of my life.

i hope that helped. =]

Q: in your opinion, is "pissed" a curse word? i am 15/f and my friends and teachers say it, and i was just curious. for example, "that really pissed me off."

in my school. teachers dont like the word idk why. probly because its a slang and usally teachers dont like slang words. but everyone has their own opinion on it

Q: hi 14/f
im 5,5 and 125 pounds
is that fat normal
please help me
if i am fat
how do i get skinny?

im 15 5'3 and 115. it sounds about right. your taller than i am, so you should weigh more. so nooo your not fat at all. if you want to get more muscle (not skinny) you should do the basic work out and eat good. =]

Q: So, I have this friend who i've known for a long time now, that really really likes me. She tells me i'm beautiful, treats me really well, and even takes me out on dates to carnivals, movies, and the beach.
The problem is, I already have a girlfriend. I know that she loves me, and we've been going out for at least 5 months now. I love her SO much, but she often treats me horribly. At the very begginning of our relationship, she cheated alot, but she hasnt for at least 4 months. Now that i've cheated on her with this other girl, I've realized how much I truly love her. I'm not sure if I should stay with my current girlfriend, or break up with her and date this new girl. I'm less attracted to the new girl physically, but my old girlfriend talks down to me, and makes me feel low, and almost never takes me out on dates.
What shall I do?!

you have to ask yourself that question. write down on a peice of paper what do you like about each person. to me it sounds like youve already figured it out. if you have fun with this girl and your, yourself around her. it all depends on who you feel more comforatable around. if you have to be a certain person around your current girlfriend and not just be how you normally are.. just think about that. i hope that helped.

Q: Does anyone know any good websites where I could learn Italian?

http://italian.about.com/

this website has an italian word of the day and everything eles. im not exactly sure thats what you wanted. but i think it would help. i hope it did

Q: I never feel like going to school. What can i do in the morning to make me go to school???

my friend always woke up and hour before she really had too. did crunches and jogged then came home and took a shower. and it said it really woke her up alott before she went to school and wasnt really dragging along. but that all depends if you wanna get up that early =]

Q: I know this is kinda gross but... i kind of fart... a lot! I have gotten a nickname...Frootlootsfartsalot. they call me FLFA for short. :(. To make matters worse everybody knows i am the farter!My mom says only men can fart but i cant help it! it feels good! I NEED UR HELP!!!!!
- Frootlootsfartsalot AKA FLFA

uhm i would say. try to control yourself around other people hold it in... but hey when your alone let it out theres nothing wrong with farting. haha but just when ur around your friends or in class .. just control it and soon enough people will see you arent farting. and the nickname will go away

Q: I have been with my now boyfriend for a while. It is obvious that we both want to have sex but we never have. I really want to and I feel it would be a great experiance being my first time and all but sense he has never tryd and ive never done it before i dont really know how to make it happen if you know what I mean. I dont really want to say right now "lets have sex" i just want it to happen naturaly and have it be sweet but i think that he doesnt want to pressure me but i am ready and i want to. i will rate high on anyone that can help me figure out how to make it happen in an un-weird way

I say, just be somewhere romantic and just have a really nice night. if its going to happen it will, dont worry to much about planning out what to say or how to act. just be yourself and let your actions do the talking for you. if he doesnt pressure you into doing anything. he sounds like a keeper =] i hoped that helped.

Q: ok so im in this youth group, and everyone is very cliquey, i dont know what to do or who to talk to because i have talked to some poeple, adn they dont seem to want to help me....what does everyone think i should do?

just try to be friends with everyone. dont be shy and not be afraid to go up to them, and if they snub you. their not that good of people to be around anyways. Thats how you really test how people are, if you go up to them and say hello, if they are nice and talk to you back. thats the people you should be around..

Q: do you think it would be awkward to IM a guy that you liked for 3 years but havent talked to almost 1 year? i really want to start talking to him again. what should i say and what would be a clever way to talk to him again without making it seem obvious. also my friend said i should IM him just making small conversation then after a few times tell him how i feel and if he says he likes me too then continuie talking obviously but if he says he doesnt or doesnt say anything then stop talking to him so he'll feel bad do you think that'd work? should i try that? but how do i start talking to him again i have a 99% feeling he doesnt like me but he used to so it could happen again? how should i start talking to him again? thank you

i think that you should IM him. and just tell him what you told us. well just be like. "wow ive really missed you, how have you bee, ect." and see how he reacts to that. if hes just like "oh hey, yea, uh nothing" you can tell if hes not interested. just talk to him for awile untill your comfortable telling him how you feel. and if he doesnt like you, then dont just stop talking to him, be his friend. i hope that helps

Q: hey my boyfreind and i want to have sex..
but we never talk.
its like getting sexual is an exuse not to talk because its awkward so we do that instead..
should i dump him?

having a good relationship, you have to talk. if you dont talk. and just be sexual. it sounds like hes just in it for the sex. talk to him and tell him how you feel

Q: There is this guy that likes me and I like him back. But we arent going out yet. But he thinks that I am more experienced then I really am. He knows I am virgin though. Is it really a big deal that I told him that I have done more then making out even though I havent. I dont want to tell him that I lied to him. I dont really think it is a big deal though. Do you?

yea i think its a big deal, because he'll think that you want more than just a kiss. and you may not be ready. if you guys get serious you need to tell him

Q: Hi I am 17 years old and I had sex with my boyfriend about a week or two ago and he pulled out for about 30 sec. then he put it back in for about 3 min. could I be pregnant?

the "pulling out" method is crap basically. because guys can have pre-cum before they even orgasm and still have it in you and not even know it. but if he did pull out and orgasm, then he put it back in without wiping off the acces. then theres a really good possiblity you are.

Q: do guys care if a girl has really small boobs i mean when you are like having sex and they take your bra off would they be little turned off about it please help i am 15 105pounds and have an A cup and i feel really uncomfortable about it and i really want to have sex soon so guys what would you think

personally i think that you should only have sex with a guy that really cares about you. and if he really cares about you, he wont care what bra size you are.

bio

Hi. first of all, my picture is screwed up =]i tried to resize it on paint.

Im alicia, Im 15 years old, a sophmore at Lecanto High school in Florida. I have an amazing boyfriend named John Lake, and we've been together since april 22nd, 2005.