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Hi, I have been told that I give great advice. I don't specify in one area, I know random things.I'm from Gainesville,Fl,I love basketball.I also like to cook,I love children and I love giving advice. So all questions are welcomed.....Helping people is my thing, so this won't be a problem. If you have a personal question just for me, don't be afraid to ask.If there's a topic I don't know about, I won't advise you on it.So you don't have to worry about whether I know or don't know what I'm saying.-

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im 14/f.
sorry this is going to be long..
okay well theres this guy and i really like him but its been really confusing lately. he is 16 years old and the sweetest guy ive ever met. i met him through one of my friends who used to date him.. she doesnt know that we talk as more than friends because im scared to tell her.. my friend and the guy i like have had a really complicated relationship because she hasnt really been to faithful.. they broke up but he told me that he still has feelings for her.. the thing is that she has a new boyfriend now who she really likes.. but her ex(the one i like) says he still likes her a lot.. he told me that he also likes me a lot and wants to be with me but doesnt think that it would be fair to me if we were together and he still had feelings for her..
oh yea..
because he is older than me.. my parents dont really approve of us being together.. everything is so confusing.. i really like him but i dont know if i can wait for him to decide who he wants.. :/

It's a waste of time and you shouldn't wait:

A)Your friend has history with this guy. And with any girl you're going to have drama because of this. It's wrong, no matter if your friend says she doesn't like him anymore because as soon as you guys start going out, SHE WILL GET MAD!!(No matter how much she says she doesn't care).

B)If this guy is saying that he still has feelings for your friend, then he's not worth the wait.It's either he's into you, or he's not. Sweetie, you are so above all of this. Your worth more than the drama you're about to endure. Find someone who's ready to be with you, and doesn't come with all this baggage.

Hope I helped, Potential....~

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i heard jason kidd and vince carter are getting traded. is this true? and if so,

1- why?
2- when?
3- to which team are they being traded to?
4- and for how much?

Well with Jason Kidd, I know they're talking about trading him to the LA Lakers, how much hasn't been released because all this is just talk right now, and why, I reckon it's time for a new start.I haven't heard anything whatsoever about Vince Carter. But I tell you one thing, half of the Lakers team will be gone trying to acquire(get,buy,come into possession of) Kidd..........Hope I Helped, Potential

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I'm 18 and I recently met this guy and I really like him alot. He's everything I ever wanted in a guy. He's sweet and caring and I think it could turn into something serious. The only downfall to this fairytale is that he was married. He hates his ex-wife and can't stand her. The woman is psycho and won't leave him alone. They were seperated in October and by VA law you have to be seperated for 6 months before you can get divorced. He wants so badly to finalize his divorce but recently she had the seperation canceled and wants them to go to counceling to work on their marriage issues. He has told her a thousand times he doesn't love her and doesn't want to be with her but she won't listen and she is making his life and mine hell. She even brought his job into it. I like him alot and I wanna help him but I am at a loss. I dunno what to do bout his psycho ex-wife. please someone anyone if you can help me!

You might have to get just as psycho as her. I always say if you wanna control someone, do what they do but on a higher level. You have to show this woman that your not anything to mess with, and you will go to any length to protect what you want. If the guys worth it then this won't be a problem. Everytime she shows up at his house, make sure you're there, everytime she shows up at his job, make sure your there. Whenever she calls, you answer the phone and let her know that your man doesn't have anything to say to her and that it's over. You're with him now, you have to protect what you deserve.You have to dig deep inside your self and pull out the crazy side of you. You have to show her that she's not the only one losing her mind. When all of it is finally over, you'll laugh.....Hope I helped,

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I am planning a baby shower for my friend. I am trying to plan the menu, but I'd like to do things a little different besides just the standard shower foods like deviled eggs and meatballs. I'm from South Louisiana and it occurred to me that people from other places might have different shower foods. I want to keep it relatively simple, since I'm doing everything myself. I would love to hear your ideas for your favorite baby shower foods. It's not going to be a sit down dinner, it's mostly going to be appetizers and finger foods.

I did a baby shower for my sister. I really just asked her what she wanted. She wanted every thing southern and simple. We had a fruit platter(strawberries,cantelope,melon, peaches, etc.). I fried a bunch of wings, BBQ'd some and the others were hot wings. At the end we cut a watermelon and made it almost like a picnic. If you want something a little more sophisticated, just do a pot luck sort of thing, have a few people bring their best dishes......but you might want to ask your friend what theme she's looking for because she's the one you want to make happy. Hope I helped.....

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Thanks your advice really did help, but it's not that I don't want to sleep with him. It's more like i'm still shocked he cheated on me kind of thing.

No problem....anytime you feel like I can help, don't hesitate to send me your question.

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okay so im blonde. and people sometimes serouisly think that im dumb - just because im blonde. and it kinda pisses me off at times cuz they treat me like im just stupid. and im not. i get A's and B's on like everything and get pretty upset if i get like a ac or lower. and still even if i tell people that im smart, they just think im stupid. what should i do?

lol.....Nothing to do. Just keep getting those A's and B's.They'll be kissing your ass when you're going to Harvard and they're making you're order at McDonalds.In life,and as you get older, you start to realize that the little people(such as the ones generalizing that all blondes are dumb) DON'T MATTER!!!!!!!!Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself, because from what I see, they're just mad because they know you're amazing.....Hope I helped,

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Me and my boyfriend have been through a lot. We recently broke up because he cheated on me, but I gave him a second chance. Before all this cheating stuff happened we were both ready to have sex. But now that he cheated and stuff it kind of pushed me away from him. Like I love him a lot but I really don't know what to do. Someone help me! Please!

Simply don't sleep with him.If you're feeling discouraged, no reason to do it. Believe me, if you do something you're not ready for or wanting then you'll have a bad feeling after you do it. Almost like 'buyer's remorse', but worst.If he loves you and is truly sorry for what he did, he'll wait and try to build that trust back up that he lost when he cheated on you. Believe me sweetie, your worth it......wait until you feel like you're 100% ready to take that step.Hope I helped......

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is it bad to say 'i love you' for the first time through msn ? because that happened to me and i'm not sure if he quite meant it...as opposed to if he were to have said it in person...

It doesn't matter where or when you said it, if you didn't mean it, under any circumstances should you say it at all. Those three words can either make or ruin someone's life.Saying "I Love You",not meaning it and having the person you said it to find out could cause some real damage(coming from someone who's been on both sides of the table).My advice:Go do some damage control, tell that person what the situation is.......Hope I helped,

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13/f
hey...i have a question. I am a really outgoing person and really nice to everyone. Soemtimes though, i get really mad over little things cry from it. I later realise how small it was. I get moodswings alot and really angry sometimes. I cut myslef sometimes when im REALLY upset but not always. I just wanted to know from ANYONE how can i deal with my temper? When im mad what can i do? I either punch the wall or break something and i know thats not right. I take a deep breath and count to 10 but that doesnt work. I tried writing it down on paper but im afraid my mom will find it because she always gos through my room. I get depressed Sometimes and i really dont want to go to a doctor about it or anything because true say, the problem is usually small. Can anyone tell me a way to control this anger?
Please and thanks alot

I understand where you're coming from,I used to cut myself as well, but I realized that in the long run, that wasn't really helping. I really needed to find a way to vent(a healthy way).I do a numerous of things:Crying helps(lots of crying).It feels like you're letting everything out.I run everyday, so when I'm running I try to solve the problems in my head(even the little stuff).Over and over again, I think about why that little thing set me off.Also I scream, as loud as I can(If you could find someplace where no one will hear you, or barely will be able to hear you, so they don't call the police).Listening to music that makes you feel happy, in love, something like that always helps.Basically you have to find that one thing or person that you can escape to when you feel like there's nothing else to be here for.Hope I helped.....

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okay im 14//f, but i havent gotten my period yet. like i know its usually until 16 that i have to worry about but, ive had like hair down there for 3 years..and its weird how i havent gotten it yet. my breasts have grown too, butn ot completely. Is there something wrong? Will i ever get my period?

No, it's not weird......all girls develop differently, none of us are the same. I had the a case like yours, your period will come when it comes.Every thing will catch up, believe me, IT WILL!!!!!Hope I helped....~

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ok,a dude tells you dat he dont wanna be with you because he dont wanna hurt you again(yall have broken over him hurtin you b4)...so yall break up...yall have been 2getha 4 a lil minute....then he tells you that he finally realizes that he knows where he wants to be and that its wit you...you have doubts about this situation,so wut do you do?it seems like he only wants you when its kinda convienent 4 him...but,you're not sure....


p.s.-this damn thing made me go back and change the word you because i was using slang!!!aint dat some shiznit!!!!

Well I can't tell what's goin on inside his head, but I will tell you this....if it's hurting you to keep lettin him break up with you and then get back with you, then you need to let him go.I've been in this situation before,I couldn't deal with the pain and the heartache,so I let him go.But you have to ask yourself, do I feel my best when I'm with him or do I feel my best when I'm without him.I really don't know what to tell you, only you know what you want....Hope I helped,~

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on facebook what does it mean to "poke someone?"

that's for when somebody who wants to see your profile that can't normally see it can see it. Like if you're in highschool and some guy in college pokes you, that means you can see his profile for a week, if you poke him back, he can see your profile for a week......Hope I helped,~

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Okay, this can get confusing. I'm 14/f and I have 3 gay guy friends. Let's call them Bob, Fred, and Joe. Bob and Fred are both in 9th grade with me and Joe is in 10th grade. Bob and I have been bff since ever. I met Fred and Joe at the end of last year and I'm good friends with both of them. Bob, I love that kid to death and i would never ditch him for another person.

Well, so my problem is that I stopped riding the bus inthe morning and had my dad drop me off in the morning. Then I found out that Joe gets there early too so I just hung out with him in the mornings. Well, there are these two girls, let's call them Tina and Kay? [I was really good friends with them last year but I hate them right now and I'm trying to pull away from them right now--long story] Well, one day Tina was like "Where' Bob?" --In the morning--And I went idk. And then she asks why I didn't know since we rode the same bus. And I told her "I'm not riding the bus anymore. My dad's dropping me off plus I get to talk to Joe"

Let me explain Joe and my situation. We're both in IB Prep and we're both going to be IB sutdents soon [yes, I know we're neerrdds] IB kids..it's like a cult and people out of IB can't be in the cult. Almost all the time anyway. So, Joe and I are usually really busy to tlak on the phone or IM, we don't have any classes together. And so we have on lunch and in the mornings to talk. So one reason I get there early is to talk to Joe and finish hw.

Well, Tina and Kay keeps on telling me "You switched gay guys on Bob!!" And making me look bad. But I really am not. I just want to talk with him like I would with any other people. Also they're saying that because I went to one party with Joe and his friends. ONE!!! They say that in front of Bob too. So I'm like wtf!! But I really am not. I love Bob to death and Joe can never replace Bob. And so one day I asked Kay "Give me 5 reasons and 5 people that says I'm switching gay guys." and she lists 4 people..including herself and Tina and some girl that has no relation to this "problem" and some other person.. And she never gave me the reason b/c I went off on how the other girl doesn't count because she doesn't know crap about this situation blah blah blah.

So my question is how t=do I get it through these girls' heads that I'm NOT switching gay guys? I mean they think that I can have only one gay friend and only the firends I had last year. They don't get that because I make new friends doesn't mean I'm going to ditch bob!!

You don't have to make them understand....they don't matter.Just as long as you know you're not being a bad friend or whatever, that's all. You're worried about the wrong things. You shouldn't care about what other people think about you or what your doing. Next time they ask you why are you hanging out with him.Ask them, "Why are you being so nosie?" "Why are you even talking to me?" "Why are you breathing?"LOL, just laugh it off......Hope I helped.~

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how do you grind? just move your hips back and forth? cause dont you have to keep on rhytm with the guy so you cant do too mucH? also what do you do with your hands? thxxx! so much!

Just move your body to the beat up against the guy(you don't have to move your booty to much, just a lil bit, real sexy like(ya know,lol).Your hands can go up in the air, your hands can go into the boy's hands....just freestyle it.Believe me,u'll know what u're doing once your dancing.....Hope I helped,

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ok. i used to have a myspace, but i deleted now, but anyways, me and this boy would like alllllways talk. it was like we were best friends even! but since i deleted my mypsace [cuz i wasn't suppose to have one] me and that guy never talk anymore. and we have one class together. but i do see him a lot during passing time. and i want to keep in touch with him too cuz i like him. like him like him. ++i'm really shy. how do i talk to him?

Say something kind of cute like, "I've missed you lately" or "Long time,no speak"(you know, just to break the ice).Ask him how he's been doing, what he's been up to. Then invite him to eat lunch with you, or stay afterschool with you...something little like that.Then the rest should work itself out.....Hope I helped,~

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there's this guy who works near me and he's really nice. Not that many people talk to him, but I think he's really nice. I like him, id like to be his freind at least. Ive heard he's leaving like in the next day or 2 so how can i get his attention within those 2 days? please help!!!

No need to "get his attention"....Just approach him and tell him what the situation is, ask him for his number and let fate work out itself.Hope I helped~

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Okay, so I'm 16 (female) and my boyfriend is 22. We've known each other since this last summer and we started talking more once he gave me his screen name.
We've liked each other for about 2 months and hung out a few times. We just started actually dating a week ago.
We make each other really happy. We argue about who likes and misses each other more. We have these deep conversations that end up confusing the hell out of us.
When I told my best friend that I was dating him, she flipped out and said "Ewww, that's disgusting." I guess she doesn't approve over the whole age thing. In my eyes, age is nothing but a number. I just wanted some opinion's.. whether it be good or bad. What do you think of the age gap?

Just as long as you guys aren't doing anything, I don't see the problem.Love has no limits.If he makes you happy, and you make him happy then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. You have to ask yourself, do you feel like the age gap is to big, because in the end, yours, is the only opinion that matters.Hope I helped,~

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My brother is 2 years and he has the flu! I am giving him medicine with my mom from a dripper like thing and he spits it out. How can I get him to drink it...
>.............

This is going to sound very barbaric, but me and my sister would have to fight my niece for her to take her medicine(when she had ear infections, colds,etc.)Hold his nose, and he'll be forced to swallow it.You only have to do this once.Then next time you have this problem all you'll have to do is mention the holding of the nose, and he'll take it........Hope I helped,~

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im going to be sixteen in 3 weeks.

ive been wit h my boyfriend(17) a long time. and well you know were teens we party and drink. one night it got outta hand and we had sexual intercourse, the condom broke.
here are the signs that im pregnant::
firm breast.
moody.
bloated.
hungry.
frequent urination.
cramps.
spotting.


im really scared because i havent gotten my period yet either.


what should i do.

Take a pregnancy test?????Make sure you use 2, to make sure one of them isn't defective.

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i was just wondering if anyone could help me, how do i get my 1month old gil into a routine? how do i start it off? is she to young to get her into one?
any help would be great

thanks

No, she's not too young. First find out what her sleep intervals are(does she sleep four hours and then wake up, 6 hours and wakes up). Then you think about what times you need to be up(ex:If you need to be up by 8, make sure she's asleep by 12) And that's when you go to sleep, go to sleep when the baby sleeps, so you won't be as tired.Then you go about your day when she's awake. Make sure it's a constant thing, try never to break the schedule,because once you do, it's hard to get the baby back on it.Hope I helped,~

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