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Q: i otld this kid that i liked him and he has a gf. Now hes saying hes gonna break up with her and then he started asking me all these nasty questions like "if we went out could we have sex" and "do you shave" and "would u let me finger you" and then i told him that no i wouldnt have sex with him and when i told him that and then hes like "dude this isnt even him bye" and then they got off but i kno it was him and now im afraid he'll tell everyone PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, im so glad i dont have to deal with immature boys like that anymore. You have nothing to be embarassed about, you said no, and if he did lie to friends, you know the truth and you just have to know you're better then that..and if he does that you dont need to be associated with him, and should move on to a better guy. Because there are A LOT of better guys out there..

Q: this sounds silly, bt i have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. and sometimes i feel as tho i dnt love him bt if i ever fink of breaking up with him it breaks my heart and i cry loads. I love him soooo much bt im off to un i soon and i dnt know how i wood cope with me being at least 3 hours away. wat shud i do? i jst dnt know wether to stay or nt. or shud i tell him how I feel? wen i feel i dnt love him is usually when we spent ages apart. cood it b dat i need to spend more time with him? |Im female and 17 yrs old

You're 17 and you spell like this? Yikes. If i'm reading this correctly you said "when i feel i dont love him is usually when we spent ages apart", you mean - You feel you don't love him when you're away from him for a long time? Which signals to me that this isn't so strong. Sorry, Just spend as much time with him before you go, see what happens.

Q: umm i'm kinda bleedin' downstairs right? and i thought it wazz my period but its now the 8th day or 9th day i 4get buti'm really scared and i just lost my virginity a couple days ago so idk could i be pregnaunt??

smooches xoxo

Im not sure why you're still bleeding..If it is still going after a couple more days, go to your gynocologist. Possibly just a combination of your period and alittle bleeding from losing your virginity. I highly doubt you're pregnant.

Q: If I am renewing my drivers permit in another state (I moved to Arizona and its expired now), do I just go to the DMV and renew it (meaning they'd just take a new picture of me, etc) or do I have to take the drivers permit test all over again? Ive already checked their website, and I cant find any information.

I also live in Arizona. You need to have two forms of identification, definitly a birth certificate and i believe i had my social security...I found all the information right here: http://www.azdot.gov/mvd/azwelcome.asp

Q: For my birthday I'm asking for a great quality digital camera of my own. I would like one that hold ALOT of pictures (maybe in the hundreds-3 hundred range), can take videos, and shoot in black and white but it still in a resonable price for a birthday present. Do you guys know any camera/camera brands like this? I'll rate LottZ!

I have a Nikon Coolpix E3200, with a memory card it takes almost 200 pictures and it takes Over 2 minutes of video, and its really small and cute. And it was only 200 dollars. And it works really nice, i swear by it.

Q: i am 14F and i want to get a belly button ring. what do you think of a belly button ring? and how do i convince my mom to let me get one because she keep thinking of the future and saying when you get old and decide to have a baby.. it will get all streched out or it will get infected

14 is alittle young, since if you have a bellybutton piercing, you'll want to show it off. And 14 is too young to be wearing little clothes like that, sorry, but it's true. Plus when you get older it wont stretch, but you'll probably want to take it out when your belly starts getting bigger. but if you really need it so bad, just have a talk with her about it, go over all the precautions and how much you want it and why you want it and really stick with your argument, and maybe you can convince her, good luck.

Q: I'm 17, getting somewhat close to 18, and i know ill be sexually active by the end of this year. For those who are my age or close - do your parents expect you to not do anything? I know if you're like 15, and your parents find out you're sexually active..and they have the right to ground you or tell you not to see him, etc. Do you think once we turn 18, it's more of our decision/freedom that are parents just ACCEPT? Or are there parents out there who try to control that and dont approve their 18 year old doing that (even though they are considered an adult)? Any opinions on this topic would be appreciated. Im just getting an idea of how parents react to this once you turn 18.

It definitly depends on the parents. Some will say if you live in this house, you'll be under my rules, some will be non caring about it since being 18 does make you an adult. However, there are the ocassional strict parents that try to control their kids lifes because they're "afraid of losing them". So it depends on the parents, really.

Q: have a kitten (female) 6mths/7mths old acting strange, she is mewing alot and keeps rubbing against things she is very unsettled

My cats are 21 years old and still do that. It's just normal cat behavior.

Q: My spouse and I have been trying to get pregent for about a year now and we have not been able to. Should we keep trying or should we se a speacilist? I was molested when I was a child could have something happen then to cause me not to be able to have children?

You're definitly going to want to see a specialist. Maybe there is a way to get pregnant, you just have to find it and work on it. Otherwise, there is other methods to consider. Good luck.

Q: I've noticed in the past few years, (I'm fourteen and female) that whenever I see a picture of a girl in a swimsuit that barely covers them, I get really turned on. I don't think of doing anything with them or anything, but it's just I get turned on. Am I bi?

Not necessarily, i see girls all the time and i go wow, she's hot, shes cute, doesn't mean i want in their pants. If you ever get the chance to experiment with girls, and you do, and you like it, and keep doing it, then you could consider yourself bisexual.

Q: why is it so bad for a white person to say nigga ? is it ohk for a spanish person to say it ??? i mean black people do say it to each other ... and they're aloud to call white people wiggers and white people spicks ? ummm ....

Why do rich people get free stuff? Why is the sky up and the ground down? Why aren't we walking on ceilings?

Q: Hey everyone,
My sister n law is having a baby, and she just found out today that she's going to be having another boy! I was wondering if anyone could help me out, and suggest any boy names pretty much that you can think of. I already suggested about 45 names to my brother, and he hasn't liked any of them! He's the most picky person I know! I know alot of the common ones people use these days, so if you can try not to suggest some of those. Thank you so much in advance! I really appreciate it! I'll rate you a 5 if you try, cuz I'm a really nice person. :-)

My favorite boy names have been Aidyn and Parker.

Q: i know that guys dont like clingy girls, and i know that guys dont like girls that are to "separated" if you know what i mean...so my question is...what is in between clingy and separated to where it is just right and the relationship will not fail due to this type of problem....and also in that "just right state," how does the person act?

Know your signals, and control youself. Watch what you're doing and how he repsonds if he isn't pleased he'll let you know, usually by body language. I think it differs between guys on what they like, so good luck.

Q:
Hi im a 17/f. Im not that out going but my best friend is a very social person. She introduced me to her Older brother who is in collage. My best friend invited me to stay the night at her house. while i was there it turned out that her older brother was throwing a crazy frat party at there house whle there parents were away. Later that night after partying for awhile my friends older borther came up to me and asked if i wanted to dance. after a while he said he needed to talk to me in private. Wwe went up to his room and started talking for a while. he said how he really liked me and how he didnt care how i was 17 and he is 21. by that point i could tell he was drunk. i said "i'll be right bak" not meaning to return. i walked out of the room and went down stairs and started dancng again. about 15 minutes later he came down and said we needed to talk again. so i went along with it. when i walked in first he locked the door pushed me down on the bed and started rapeing me. now im 5 months pregnant and im supposed to be heading off to collage ona full scholorship. i really want to keep my child but it will be hard to go to school and keep a child. my parents dont want anything to do ith me so they wont help out. what should i do. keep my baby and skip out on Yale or give the baby up for adoption and go to Yale? im so confused please help!!!!!!!!

If you knew this guy was drunk and had a bad gut feeling, which you obviously had since you left the first time, why did you "go along with it"? Wouldn't there a be a red flag there? I think the baby should be put up for adoption, for its sake.

Q: O.K. I have this friend... an unusual friend... he's a marker. We did all kinds of things together like going fishin' and riding bicycles. He was my BEST firend! HE WON'T WORK! I THINK HE DIED!
PLEASE HELP!
I WILL rate high for anyone who answers seriously... P.S. This is a true story, not a prank.
Luv,
Jonathan

Im sorry for your loss. There's many other "markers" in the "box"..

Q: 16/f This summer I REALLY want to start eating healthier. I'm SO tired of fast food and soda. But I don't know what "healthy" is. You'd think a salad is healthy, even from fast food places and it turns out their salad has just as much calories as a big mac or w/e. So are there any snacks besides just plain fruits and vegetables. And something quick where I don't have to stand over a stove and cook. I only eat poultry, no beef, pork, etc. So maybe some vegetarian foods. What do vegetarians usually eat?
Thank you

I myself am a vegetarian. Morningstar has a wide variety of meat like foods but its actually just soy protein. I'd check your local grocerers, brands like Morningstar, Gardenburgers, Boca burgers, etc. Please read labels and ingredients. I myself live on Morningstar.

Q: Ok well im trying to make icons does anyone know if there is anywere that i can put words on the the icon like if its a picture of something how can i add words to it for free and not have to down load anything
i'll rate high on good answers
write back asap
thx

Jasc.com only lets you download stuff for a 30 day period and they install something along with it so you can't download it again unless you find it and erase it, which is hard. I recommend using a downloading service, like you would use for music, and try finding it on there. I downloaded PSP from WinMX and it has everything on it, and it was all the way free. Good luck.

Q: what are some good websites where i could fine erotic storys at?

Not appropriate - but google it.

Q: Is Algebra I , Physical Honors,& English Honors hard ? I'm just so worried and don't try to be overdevastingly tramatic. Just be honest with me. Is it?

It all depends on what you're good at. If youve been good at math before then algebra one should be easy, i took it and it was one of my easiest classes. I havent been in an honors classes, and of course theyre gonna be a bit harder but if youve done pretty good in regular classes before, then you should be fine. Good luck.