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My girlfriend OD'd last night. she took 4 lortabs & 4 kutecs(thats a perscription).she also took 1600 mgs of ibuprofen.she thinks that lortabs were expired because when she opened the bottle, it smelt bad.she became really dizzy, broke out into a major cold sweat, threw up 4 times,tight feeling in chest, and periodic headaches. its been 24 hours and she still is somewhat dizzy, and still has headaches in the back and sides of her head.
how can she get better?
how can i help her? (link)
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Take her to the doctor/hospital/ER.
If she in still a minor, call her parents. Even if she isn't, I'd still consider calling them.
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Hi im 14 male,i was wondering,how old would most parents say you should be before your girlfriend could sleep over,like in the same room/same bed.I know some parents are strict, but what would most parents say is old enough?
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and its not to have sex...its just to cuddle with eachother and to kiss eachother goodnight..
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I'd say 18. Some might go younger like 16 or 17. Good luck at 14, unless your parents are either naive or incredibly easygoing.
You say it isn't to have sex now, but when the two of you are in bed together "just snuggling" one thing will often lead to another. Lets just say it might come to depend on the two of you being able to say no.
I'd be surprised if any post-pubescent teenager could spend an entire night in the arms of a GF/BF and not become aroused. Good luck just "snuggling". Having to choose between sex and sexual frustration is a horrible choice, I'd advise you to avoid the sleeping together. Thats like taking someone on a diet and putting them in a room full of chocolate cake, only worse.
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Okay ..
This weekend my friend and i want to go get our 2nd holes pierced at Claire's.
I also want to get the top of my ear done.
I've heard it hurts reaaally bad, though.
Can anyone with experience tell me what the pain's like?
Also, how much each piercing costs at Claire's & if they do a good job!
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- Don't go to Claires, or anyplace in a mall. Go where real piercers go.
- Look for APP certification.
- Guns cannot be put through an autoclave, and have been made illegal in some states. If you are scared of the possibility of reused needles, many places have one-use, individually packaged ones.
- If you get an infection, go to the Doctor. People have lost ears, noses, breasts, and other unmentionables because they got infections and didn't go to the doctor.
- Ears aren't as dangerous as tongues, for example, but there is still danger especially with cartilage. One word: Perichondritis. Pics:
http://www.scielo.br/img/revistas/rboto/v70n5/a18fig03.jpg
http://www.scielo.br/img/revistas/rboto/v70n5/a18fig01.jpg
- Get something good, like a captive bead ring that you can easily clean around. Don't get the cheap studs with the spring backing (the ones the use with the guns), they are hard to clean around and often are made of a cheap metal that can cause allergic reactions. Avoid nickel and brass. Stainless steel, titanium, and niobium are some good materials.
- Oh yeah, quality jewelry is attractive. Junk thats like $5.00 is not. Of course, this might be more specific to the "bodyart" crowd.
- The pain is different for everyone. A good piercer will be done quickly. A gun is quicker, but again, don't use a gun. I've seen other guys pass out, yet I've had no problems. I've yet to see a woman cry or pass out /shrug.
A good site to read if you've read nothing else is www.safepiercing.org Two pages of particular note:
This page you can skip down to the "Stud Gun" portion:
http://www.safepiercing.org/FAQ.html
http://www.safepiercing.org/choosePiercer.html
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hey im the person who asked about my "minute man" bf and how he only lasts about 5 min everytime... i realise that i need to communicate but i really DO NOT know how to bring it up to him that hes not great in bed... or that he doesnt last long i really dont want to hurt his feelingss or embarrass him.. one time when we were doing it i said "dont stop" and he sed ok.. and he STILL stopped like a minute later.. i dont get it? do u think he has a problem or hes just so overly excited!? what should i do? thanks! =) (link)
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Well, I'm sorry to hear that this is still a problem. =[
One question that comes to mind, is that is he somewhat insecure, or not? If you are afraid he'd take it personally and stomp out, I could see you being hesitant mentioning it to him, but if he's not apt to get angry (just embarassed maybe) I'd just be like "You know, I'm just not getting out of this what you are...we need to mix things up, and try some other things, because things are just ending too soon". Me, I'd be like "Sure, okay, well what do you have in mind?" (of course, try to have something in mind before hand lol)
It doesn't sound like he is very experienced, or 'world-wise' when it comes to women (and unfortunately, a lot of young men think thats bad, and take it personally). At some point though you might have to say SOMETHING, just to let him know whats on your mind. You might consider stopping him before the two of you really get started (such as, just after kissing starts) and saying to him "Hey, lets try something different". If he asks why, just shrug and say "Well, when we have sex, your done before I am, I'd like to climax once or twice too".
I personally think that you might need to get it through his head, that straight-up missionary sex doesnt get it done, either (maybe for him I guess). And you might have to take control, and decide what will be done, and when. Maybe start out with kissing, etc, and when he tries to 'move on' just stop him and be like "No, not yet". Maybe start out simple, start with foreplay and what-not, and let him know what (specifically) turns you on. In a sense, I hate to sound cliche, but you might need to train him. And I'm being serious here. Be sure to give him clues as to when he is doing something right (moan, tell him whatever, tell him yes/no/right/wrong, grab his hand and put it where you want it, like if you want him to tug/pull on your hair when you kiss, then put his hand there and tug so he gets the idea lol) so he knows what is going on, and eventually work your way into more complicated things than kissing and foreplay. I've had GF's that were just happy with no sex, just kissing and holding and falling asleep together...I myself got to the point not to stress and let them lead me, but then again everyone is different. I also had one GF who was into biting, and I had no clue that she wanted ME to actually bite her until she had bit me like the 30th time. I was like "WTF?" until I asked her, and she told me "Oh, yeah, BITING!". /sigh
Another idea is to start communicating DURING sex some, don't just jump in and not say anything till someone is done. maybe ask him what he wants, what turns him on, and then if he gets to the point he is comfortable, maybe you can start inserting your own requests into the conversation.
However,, if he is just somewhat dimwitted, you might have to take a more direct approach. Know that most men just cannot keep from having an orgasm if the just go all-out from the get-go. You might have to interrupt him in the middle of the romp, and try to force him to do something for you, to you, that doesnt require his penis. For example, force him out, grab his head, and push it down...the same way some men do to women. At some point though, you have to accept the possibility that you might have to have a confrontation with him, and just tell him that you need more time, and he needs to find a way to give it to you...doesnt matter if its oral sex, or what, there's lots of options.
I dunno, this kind of seems like sex101 to me, but if he just goes at it hardcore from beginning to end, he's very likely going to continue this unless you tell him, or you can take control in the bedroom.
In my experience, the man can orgasm easily enough that you shouldnt worry about him as much, if at all, until you've had your fun. That being said, try to come up with some ideas and guide him, and dont be afraid to take control. And unfortunately you might have to bring it up with him too, sorry to say.
If you have any specific questions, you can ask me another question here or email me at Erronius@hotmail.com, though tbh, I'm not sure what more I can say really than what I have already.
PS - do not tell him he isnt good in bed, focus on the time and tell him that. Be like "Look, you do fine, but women just take alot longer, much more stimulus. You dont need to be better, you need to just last longer"
And tell him havent had any orgasms, and you'd like one or two SOMEDAY. I would think most men would take it upon themselves to step up to the plate on this and satisfy their partner, hell I'd be pissed myself and afraid that the woman was mad/disappointed/etc.
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If a pitcher is coming into the bottom of the ninth with a 10 nothing lead, but then gives up 9 runs and still comes away without blowing it, does he get a save? (link)
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Save_(sport)
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is it true that wearing thongs for you is bad in any way? if they are can you explain please? (link)
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The only 'bad' thing I can think of, is the women that wear thongs with low-cut jeans and end up having their thongs stick out all day, especially when they bend over. You can almost hear them thinking "Hey, look at me!!". There is a fine line between looking trashy, and looking provacative, imho. I'd be embarassed to be seen with a woman doing this, thank God no woman I've dated has ever done this publicly.
Other than that, no, they aren't bad in any way I can think of.
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hey guys again...i have 1 more questions. How do gangs typically behave? (link)
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A gang is just a social group like any other. Where differences arise is in each gangs view on moral/ethical/social stances. There is no reason a gang couldn't be formed around Hello Kitty or flower-pressing; the fact is, gangs are stereotyped with violence and illicit activity simply because many gangs do, indeed, embrace those types of behaviours.
Often Gangs form community, and a sense of protection. Also, you gain a sort of 'street credibility' and respect simply by being a member of a gang. This is a hard concept for people in suburbia to grasp, where things are different. In some areas however, people feel that they need to be in a gang in order to simply keep from being attacked, to protect themselves both physically and mentally. Moral stances are stretched to where violence and illegal activity are socially acceptable within the group, because they either can be justified with greater security or safety, or by the fact (in the case of drugs)that often the reality on the street is that other legal ways of making money are few and far between in some neighborhoods. Being raised, and living, in a miasma of hopelessness has a tendency to skew your views on morality and ethics, and few people outside this can even appreciate it.
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I can’t help but feel as though I’m not headed anywhere good.
I have not one, not two, but three mental disorders, one of which they discovered in me. Lucky, no? The first one, depression, was discovered when I was in seventh grade (I’m in ninth now) and pushed me to attempt suicide several times. I got over that and moved straight on to anxiety, which proceeded to generally be a bitch to me in all areas. Then, my doctor managed to identify the third one, which I’d had for years. That’s the unidentified one, which I like to call “Emotionless Bastard Syndrome”. Basically, my emotions turn off, sometimes when provoked and sometimes for no particular reason. I’ll be somewhere and I’ll just go completely numb.
Over the past few years, I’ve started to feel more and more… Distant. I’ve read very heavy books and graphic novels, and grow more and more disgusted by my own species. I wrote this, which is probably not a good sign:
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Dear Humanity,
What the fuck happened?
I mean this in all seriousness. You were doing so well. Genuinely, I think everyone expected you would turn out great. You certainly had an excellent start…. You discovered the wheel, fire, electricity, and a whole lot of complicated nuclear stuff. I was always able to overlook your shortcomings because of your promising future, but now this shit has gone too far. You’ve pushed your luck, folks.
Where to start? I guess the first thing I should mention is this little consumer ideal thing you’ve got going for you. You just can’t stop buying shit… And not even shit you need, stupid shit. There’s also bullshit, but I’ll get to that later. So anyway, you kicked off with all this capitalism and free enterprise stuff and that seemed like it was working out, better than communism in any event. But then you got your second addiction, and this addiction was to buying. Didn’t matter what, you would buy pretty much anything and everything regardless of whether you needed it or not. Once again, began pretty innocent. You had free enterprise, you could buy or sell whatever shit you needed, and it was good. But Jesus Christ. How many brands of vacuum cleaners need to fucking exist in the first place? Humanity, I sentence you to watch the movie Fight Club about eight hundred times.
Next, how about we talk about ignorance. This is another strong one, particularly amongst the young. Now, for fuck’s sake, you guys are inheriting the future, and this is the kind of mindset you’ve got? There’s other people starving all over the world, there are kids with dads who rape them every night, and the best complaint you have is about the color of your god damn iPod? Also, if there’s a country that represents the human mindset, it’s America. You use up 80% of the world’s resources, ignore the counsel of other countries, invade smaller nations whilst trying to force your system of government upon them, and have the balls to call yourself leader of the fucking free world? Christ, Teddy Roosevelt would be rolling over in his grave.
And while we get to the subject of invasion and wars, I would like to politely ask the lot of you to sit and wait for five fucking minutes before blowing each other up for once. Come the fuck on. It seems like as soon as everybody has their conflicts resolved and they don’t give a shit about their differences, someone gets greedy or stupid or pissed and decides to find another reason to kill people. And before you know it, BAM! War. Another fucking war. Who’d have guessed? Whether it be for revenge or land or money or resources or women or honor or stupidity, it seems vital to you that you kill a whole bunch of each other in order to satisfy you for a short period of time. Come on guys, at least be original.
Moving on, I’d like to point out the royally shitty job you’ve done of taking care of the place you got handed to you. It was classy, too: Millions of other species, vast geological wonders, and natural occurrences that could only be described as miracles, and you had to move in and burn all the forests and kill all the whales and destroy your fucking ozone. An ozone, I have to give you credit for that one. That’s impressive. I mean, it’s one thing to go out and be completely selfish bastards to all the other beings your sharing the planet with, but to destroy something that existed only for your protection in the god damn first place? Humanity, your incredible selfishness and short-sightedness remains unmatched. I can’t imagine. I just can’t imagine.
Now, lets move on to our most pressing matter, which would be bullshit. By this, I would mean the bullshit that you’ve clouded your worlds with. It’s on your news, in your books, filling up your churches… No fucking surprise it’s in your minds. Still not clear what bullshit is? You believing a woman who tells you that the 9/11 widows are all profiting from their husbands deaths, that’s bullshit. A politician who tells you that the rights of a lump of cells outrank those of a crippled man or a grandmother with Alzheimer’s, that’s bullshit. A Texan who tells you that someone else’s happiness detracts from his happiness, that’s bullshit. Every dinner table manner you’ve ever had to learn, every polite lie you’ve ever had to tell, every useless algebra fact they ever drilled into your brain, that’s all prime BS. And a clergy member who tells you that god is amidst all the burning bodies and screaming children? What you have here is real bullshit.
In the bullshit department, religion is the undisputed champion, and always has been. As usual, an innocent start: A bunch of people decide that life sucks and they don’t know what comes after it, so there’s some big guy in the sky who’s taking care of all that for them. I repeat: Come the fuck on. I really would think you would have gotten over this shit by now. This primitive idea has been defended in so many ways for so many years it grows sickening. “Why did god burn my house down?” He works in mysterious ways. “Why did he give me cancer?” We are all a part of his plan. “Why does he murder the children?” Their time on earth was done. Has it ever occurred to you that right now, and I mean right now, there are people who are living lives that will consist of more misery and less happiness than you could ever imagine? There comes a time where you just have to stop rationalizing and admit the blindingly obvious: You are alone in your sad little existence.
Humanity, your being has been a downward spiral for thousands of years, and I believe that you are now beyond redemption or any kind of savior. Buy your last clothes, kill your last enemies, suck your last drops of oil from the earth, and pray to whatever gods or myths you may wish. You were so promising… But your time has finally come. Like all species, you will fade into the past, where perhaps others will learn from your failure. But for now, all you can do is hope for the best.
Truly,
Me
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I began to feel as though the weight of the world was on my shoulders. Now, it seems as though I’m so inside myself that no one knows my true face… I hide behind a wall of atheism and skepticism, which is probably more curiosity gone wrong than a genuine staunch opinion. Every day I’d look up more and more reasons why God doesn’t exist… And boy did I find them. But I recently realized that what I’m looking for is not disproof: It’s proof. I want to believe so badly that someone out there more competent than humans handling this, but I just can’t bring myself to. I recently got a girlfriend, which helped a lot.
And now, I feel like I’m chasing a dream or a ghost of some sort. I’ll go onto Google and search for words like “meaning” or “answers”. I don’t know what I want, I don’t know why I want it, but I can’t stop wanting it… I just don’t know what’s going on. It’s like I’m slipping out of reality or falling out of the world. Thanks for reading this far. I guess I was hoping maybe somebody had answers.
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First I'd like a '5' for reading all of that. Especially considering I had to scroll down nearly 2 pages simply to get to the answer window.
But anyways, moving on.
You are hardly alone in this. We live in a world, and in a society, which seems awfully bleak to those that take a long, hard look at it. Some people cope (this is my opinion) by simply trying to fit in and not looking at the big picture, lest they be confronted with the reality of how sad things really are. People grab onto anything they can in order to bring structure and comfort into their lives, and to convince themselves that things aren't all that bad overall.
There are a lot of people that cannot go blindly out into this world of ours, embracing religion, politics and societal behavior without question. Its actually a sad thing, to be someone who simply cannot blind themselves to the worlds problems, because you won't get any answers, nor will you be able to solve anything. The world will continue to move along, and those who voice objections against the mainstream will be ridiculed and marginalized, whilst the mainstream sleeps happily and blissfully in their beds of ignorance and conformity.
When I was younger, I actually wished that I was stupid, or ignorant, and able to simply 'fit in'. Unfortunately that wasn't to be. I've slowly had my skin thickened, and I am somewhat careful not to reveal the full extent of my dissatisfaction with the world, with society, with just about everything. In the end I generally avoid political and religious arguments or debates like the plague. Not because I cannot hold my own against rational discourse, but rather because you wont even be arguing against anything rational at all. Mostly it will be blind adherence to tradition or convention, the same defenses over and over, and your using logic and reason will not work. Americans have become enamoured with simply refusing to concede the points of others, as if by doing so you will be unable to budge them from their blindly idiotic position. Simply pick and choose your battles carefully and be content that you aren't one of the billions of sheep that populate the earth.
You say that you "hide behind a wall of atheism and skepticism", but I don't believe that (I'd be just as apt to say that there are many who hide behind religion and political/social groups...its a double-edged blade). The problem is that the questions you want answers to are somewhat taboo; church officials aren't going to humor you with questioning religious truth, nor is anyone in general normally going to accept your bitter world view and critical assertions. Of course don't think I'm saying this to attack your point of view, I often see things in the same light - but surely you can grasp that this entire post of yours has a certain negative, acerbic tone to it. Thats just the nature of the situation.
The realizations you are having are bad, in the sense that you have opened your own Pandora's box, or eaten your own Fruit of Knowledge from Eden. It's too late to dumb yourself down, once you've started asking the questions it is too late. This is why I suspect some of the experienced leaders in religion try to dissuade people in general from asking too many critical questions; they know that once you reach a certain point, you will no longer be able to accept what they are presenting without question, and I believe many would rather you be ignorant and save your soul rather than to have you question the reality of truth and in the end logic your way out of religion entirely. In this I might disagree that they do this in general, but I can appreciate the intent and worry. I don't think those in religion do this out of anything but concern, as they've probably seen this happen from time to time.
Answers? Often others don't have the answers you seek, you need to find or create your own...especially when you craft your own questions. Its different for each individual.
Yeah, and I'd give you a '5' for reading this too, if I could. =]
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alright, I cant remember this. me and my friends were tlaking about random things, and its a funny topic really. we were talking about diffrent ways how to wipe out a country--but thats nto the point,
okay, theres a type of powder or something, i know u can put it in a crop duster, but anyway, it kills you? if u breath it or something? I know its not sulfer, but it had a pretty weird name. can you all help me? (link)
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Theres quite a few, might need more specifics to narrow it down for sure.
Ricin is one guess, though I am not sure how it would lend itself to liguid/aerosol application. One of the most dangerous substances in existence(in the top 5 I think), made from castor beans, blah blah blah.
I'd avoid looking for information any further, this isn't the 80's - early 90's anymore, where you could freely look for information like this with no worries. Post 9/11 and the Patriot act I wouldn't want to hazard getting on some watchdog list simply for discussing something in this area, its not worth it. Hope everyone feels safer in return for a tightening on free information and personal rights /shrug.
Plus there is no practical application, nor is this stuff even remotely safe to create and/or handle.
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Why is it rare that an individual parasite kills its host? (link)
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Probably because, from an evolutionary standpoint, that would be bad for a parasite.
To a parasite, killing a host would be like our, well, destroying the earth. Kill your host, and where do you live? Sure with parasites you could possibly find another host, though that often isn't possible for the initial parasite - nevermind that for every host you kill, the harder it would be to find new additional hosts. Many need another body to live in while they undergo changes in their life cycle. As such, the form that a parasite enters your body with often isn't the form they leave in, and they then need another host or enviroment to continue their life cycle in. For example, some parasites start off in dirt/fecal matter, get into one form of animal and change physically, perhaps eventually being excreted and then finishing off their lives back in the dirt.
Another problem could very well be in the evolution and viability of hosts. If a parasite killed off large numbers of its hosts, eventually you *might* get the only survivors from the host species being ones who might have defenses or mutations that prohibit the parasite. If a parasite kills off all its 'good' hosts and forces a species to a point where the only survivors are those that the parasite cannot survive in, potentially the parasite would just have (potentially) made themselves extinct. Whereas as it happens today, parasites usually don't kill those it can easily survive in, therefore allowing 'good' host reproduction and not forcing a host species to evolve along a path that would hurt the parasite.
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ok so im about 5'3" and i weigh like 137 lbs. im a little overweight and i wanna loose 15-20 lbs and i was wondering if drinking a lot of water will make me loose weight. i also do exercise and my eating habits are pretty good. if water does make you loose weight about how many glasses should i drink a day? (link)
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I think that xxoBriannax has a point, it isnt that water has some magical, mystical property that makes you lose weight. Rather, I think it has something to do with putting something into your stomach other than food, in the hope that you actually 'feel' full, or largely so. That, and you need to drink enough water to be healthy.
I've heard that most people are dehydrated to some degree, though I honestly am not sure if that is a myth, or not. Drinking water shouldn't hurt at least.
As for how many glasses thats not something I would want to give you an exact number for - drink whenever you are thirsty, and maybe a bit more, or whenever you get hungry between meals. As far as I know you water poisoning isn't common or easy to do, but you water intake is tied directly into how much you sweat/urinate, and how active you are in a day. Run a few miles and you'll drink more. I wouldn't force yourself to down gallons at a time, just a gulp or two occasionally, sip on the water. Don't chug it like some Fraternity slob 10 minutes before the bar closes.
You could send this question to MikeCFT, he is probably more qualified than most of us to answer this question, I would think.
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It's true that you can't get pregnant when you have sex when you're on your period because your egg releases, right? Or no... ? Thanks! (link)
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There is no magic timing. While in theory this kind of thing sounds good, but its been disproven many times. As people dont cycle in the way many animals do, due to seasonal changes, you can pretty much have a chance to get pregnant all 356 days of the year. Though I'm not sure of the exact chances, I'm pretty sure its possible enough that you don't want to try this expecting an easy solution. Even if the chance was a 1% chance, which sounds low, in a year thats like a better than a 10% chance overall (please no math majors coming in to poke holes because of probability over time, kthx).
Won't work. Don't rely on something like this, eventually a sperm will swim a marathon or an egg will be in the right place and at the right time. Next thing you know, you'll be pregnant and wondering why it didn't work.
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Well to start out with I`m a 16/female.
My boyfriend is 24 years old.
My parents are fine with our relationship, so yeah.
Today we were hanging out, and I got really mad at him for a dumb reason. So then he told me he didn`t think that things could work. I started crying & eventually fell asleep. When I woke up he told me he had taken 12 anxiety pills, which could potentially put him into a coma.
I could've care less about that, I was more worried about myself and I felt bad for me because I hated the fact that he had broken up with me. We then went to a coffee house to watch his friends band play. I was still crying, I couldn`t help myself.
I stormed out, to call my best friend because I needed to tell someone what had happened. Then him & friend came out of the coffee house & said, "Hey Mari we have to go now!" I was like "What's going on now?" Mikes friend had told Mikes mother & brother about it, so like we had to go back to Mike`s apartment. They told me I had to go upstairs while everyone talked, which was fine.
His mother drove me home, and I didn`t get to say good bye to Mike. :[ She was saying how me & him should stop seeing each other, because it`s not a good time for him to be in a relationship & I`m causing him way too much stress.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Oh my gosh, I`m so confused. I`d appreciate any response.
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I'm bracing for a "1" rating, but I'm not about to tell you what you might want to hear. This is an advice site after all, not a popularity contest. I just hope you take what people say and think it over.
Duct tape has a point, even if its one that isn't easy to hear. I'd possibly even go further, as I don't think an eight-year age difference is an exact gap, especially when a teenager is involved. More than likely there is a HUGE gap in experience between you and him, far beyond literally 8 years. I guarantee that while he is by no means finished maturing, going from 16-24 is a huge amount of time, and everyone changes so much that its literally night and day.
That being said, I would advise you to bear in mind that its often difficult to have a relationship and keep it when two people have such disparate experiences and personalities in regards to this situation - age is a big thing, especially at this age. You might disagree with us now, but wait 10 years, and when you look back, you'll totally see what we are saying.
Its obvious this guy is having issues, I'm guessing your garden-variety depression at the very least. So its a given that he's going to get bummed out from just about anything, from the sky being grey to his coffee being cold. Throw in a GF that throws temper-tantrums and plays with his emotions (thats the impression I get), and...well..lets look at what you said:
First you said that "I got mad at him for a dumb reason". Not good. He is depressed, and you admit you got mad for a poor reason. Likely he took this poorly, and when this happens once, its probably happened several times in the past preceding this.
Next he takes a bunch of pills, and you say you 'couldn't care less' (my edit for clarity), which is a VERY worrisome thing to say. You go on to say that you basically didn't care that he tried to OD, and that you were "more worried about myself" and "I felt bad for me because...he had broken up with me". So, in review, you were more concerned with yourself, and the fact that he broke up with you, than you were about the possibility that your BF could possibly keel over, have a stroke, or in some other way die from whatever he did? NM the possible damage to internal organs, such as the liver, that often happens with certain OD's when a person DOES live...
So far, you sound more than a tad selfish, if you are less concerned with a BF's life/health, and more concerned with the fact you two were breaking up. At this point I would be wondering if your 'grief' was more about being broken up with in general and nothing to do with him per se, rather than any emotional bond with this boy. Most people I know, if their BF was breaking up, and did this with pills, would be "Oh crap!! Lets get you to the hospital and call your parents" not "I don't care about the OD, just the fact that he broke up with me".
If I was his mother, I would be thinking the exact same thing she was, and have told you about the same thing she told you. If you are messing with his emotions (possibly already unstable emotions) to such an extent that he's trying to OD in your presence, then yes...this is a relationship that should stop. If for no other reason THEN HE MIGHT REALLY OD NEXT TIME. There is NO reason to put a depressed person through stress of any kind over and over.
Take this time to examine your feelings for him. If you still want to see him in the future, give him time to work out his problems and see what happens. But how strong are your feelings if you didn't care that he might have OD'ed on you?!? If the answer is that you don't like him enough to care that he OD'ed, then IMO the relationship isn't worth salvaging, and move on.
I'm not trying to jump on you, just pointing out what jumped out at me when I read your post. If you are wanting to clarify, or get some clarification from me, shoot me an email at Erronius@Hotmail.com. And if you do anything, really try to give him some time, and space, if you care for him at all. Don't badger him or pester him, thats not a good call.
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what's the proper way to change a distubuter cap and rotor on a 1988 jeep cherokee (link)
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I'm not going to tell you how I think you would do it on a Jeep Cherokee, as I've never worked on one. I haven't even looked under the hood, so I'd just be guessing.
I'd advise you to do what I do - when you go in to buy plugs, oil, or any other parts, look for a display of Haynes or Chiltons manuals and pick up the one that covers your make and model of Jeep. The manuals aren't all that much (unless you are a real skinflint), and if you plan on either doing a lot of work yourself, or owning the Jeep for any appreciable time, then a decent manual like those will serve you well.
From my experience they pretty much hit on everything, including the simple stuff like this.
Besides, if you don't know how to replace it, you've never done it on this vehicle, I'd almost assume it needs to be done (particularly if you just bought it). I'd pick up the manual while picking up points and whatever else you think you would need. Hell, the last manual I bought was for my GMC; I plopped it down on the counter and started asking for parts I'd thought I would need that day from the illustrations, before I even paid for it.
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i am looking for someone who knows the pub trade well and knows some stuff about licensing all i need to know is where i can get one and how much is it likely to be help asap as i need it asap and need to get the forms in to wherever asap.
i am 21 and male encase anyone wants to know. (link)
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I'd re-edit your question; as different as regulations are in regards to licensing and registration in certain areas, your location is far more important than your age. You use the term 'pub' so my first guess is in the UK/Aus area somewhere, but really, you could be in Brazil as far as anyone knows.
Even if people don't live where you are planning on doing this, there is a chance the information can be found (no guarantee). But without the location (we don't even know the country or continent), telling you anything would simply be a wild guess.
Most places you need to get a license through your local authorities, like city/state/county etc. And that being the case, often the differences from one area to another can range from non-existent, to severe.
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Ok I work with Shauna and we have a lot of fun at work. She used to be one of the people, among a few, at work that I work really well as a team with. On days with her, both our performances were up.
She's very attractive by typicals standards; blonde, blue eyed etc. She is also a lesbian, but that doesn't stop her from flirting with men around work for her benefit.
At our work party, I was pretty plastered and I expressed to another workmate about how disgusting it was that she was sleazing around like that and it was degrading to all lesbians everywhere who have to try so hard to gain acceptance etc. She was within hearing range and I knew she was but it didn't stop me from saying it. Later on, I apologized and we laughed it off.
Another coworker approached me yesterday and told me that she's been telling workers that I'm in love with her and am jealous or something of the guys she flirts with. She's keeps hinting at how good we are working together and making crude jokes (jokes we used to make before except now she's more vulgar and specific). She's also told someone else that she wants to ask me out.
Okay, now I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings and tell her I'm not a lesbian and what I said at the party didn't mean anything. She has a tendency to take things very personally and not being able to think rationally. She also has a very quick temper. Any advice at all? (link)
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If you want to approach her and talk to her about this, first I'd try apologizing to her for what you said, for saying she sleazed around and all that, and tell her you were drinking and wouldn't have said it otherwise. Tell her that you don't want to offend her, or strain the amicable work relationship that you once had.
If things go well up to that point, then you can segue into what she has been saying that you find vulgar, and if it has to do with the two of you hooking up (and you aren't bi/lesbian and into it) just tell her the two of you aren't going to happen, even though she might very well already know. Just because you two aren't compatible sexually, doesn't mean the two of you can't work together in comfort and friendship.
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Ive had sex before plenty of times but their are certain things I don't understand about a male.
1. How come they cum so fast sometimes and How come they can only cum once every 15min or so and once they do they have to pull out right away?
2. Why does it take my bf so long to put a condom on and when he does he makes weird faces almost like it hurts or something.
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Its kind of difficult for me to answer #1, without going off on a tangent about genetics and Dawkins.
But anyways, men do not naturally take as long as women, some argue that men only need long enough to reproduce. As the only reason for taking longer to orgasm is for the womans benefit you could argue that from an evolutionary standpoint, the possibility of men prolonging the act doesn't benefit reproduction, and therefore evolution.
30 seconds or 30 minutes, as far as reproduction goes there isn't any difference.
I've also heard some persuasive arguments that circumcision plays a role; those men who are circumsised are more 'exposed' to direct stimulation than those who are not, and that (supposedly) leads to a quicker orgasm. Some men wear multiple condoms in order to lessen the sensation, and there are other products made specifically for the same effect.
Age and experience affects men a great deal. While I don't know your idea of what 'fast' means, more than likely with some effort he can prolong himself.
Why do men 'have to pull out right away'? Well...for most men, once they have an orgasm, the erection fades quickly. Even if the man would WANT to continue, often they cannot. Its just the way it is. And for many men, once they have an orgasm, all libido is lost. Its as though mentally there is a switch that is thrown, and men naturally switch gears from sex, to just about anything else. That doesn't mean men cannot work around it though.
I've heard that some men can have multiple orgasms, and maintain erections, but I myself couldn't tell you any more on that.
As for the condom...does he know how to correctly put one on? Is he trying to use the correct sized condoms? Does he have ANY experience at all? Condoms IMO are pretty damned easy, it isn't rocket science, and they aren't made to be difficult. I couldn't even begin to tell you what his problem is /shrug. Maybe he just started using them, and honestly is inexperienced /shrug.
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What does "Check your attitude at the door" mean? I've heard it lots of times, but never understood it! (link)
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As far as I know its a take off of coat-checks, where you leave your coat/hats/etc as you walk into a resaurant or club. So you would 'Check your coat at the door' so you wouldnt have to walk around and carry coats and whatnot while eating/partying. A lot of high-end restaurants and clubs have seperate rooms in which to keep customers personal belongings.
And this is just another version of that. Really more a comment used to tell someone they have an attitude and your offended, and they need to drop it.
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Hi,
My name is Carosita and I'm 22 years old and heterosexual.
I had an experience with a lesbian friend one night where we both drank too much and we ended up dancing sensually to the song as long as you love me by the Backstreet Boys and that my other friend taped it.
Also, we went me and her to drink coffee and since we were really drunk, she ended up holding my hand all the way.
Ever since that night, I had dreams of kissing her and sleeping with her but I know that I'm not her type and I'm heterosexual cause i still like boys but haven't found the right one.
My question is that whether that experience that night with my friend could have a repercussion on me on whether I could be a lesbian or not
carolina (link)
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Just because you have a dream involving another woman doesnt mean you are a lesbian, or rather bisexual. I could imagine that with what seems to be confusion on your part due to that one night, your unconscious mind was having a field-day with it.
What is more important is how you feel about women, towards women, in an everday sense. Not dreams.
I've known several women who started out liking men, began liking women as well, and then had to struggle with their sexual identity. Some still do. More than likely you wont wake up one morning and suddenly have an epiphany. You may very well have to deal with the posibilty of liking men, liking women, or both.
Saying "..and I'm heterosexual because I still like boys..." isn't accurate. You could still like boys and be bi-sexual, liking boys/men doesn't automatically put you in the heterosexual group.
From my experience, many women (and fewer men) become curious and experiment, and while it may not be normal in a mainstream sense, I would say its normal from the viewpoint that you are hardly alone in feeling this way. Some might even argue that this experimentation doesn't actually 'make' you lesbian/gay/bisexual, and I'm not going to touch on that here. At the end of the day, your going to have to be honest with yourself about how you feel.
As for "...whether that experience that night with my friend could have a repercussion on me whether I could be a lebian or not". I've yet to see anyone be 'made' or influenced into changinmg their sexual orientation, though many try to put up a pretty facade. If you end up being attracted to women, I would say it wont be because of this night, but rather, because you are exploring your sexuality and trying to understand your limits and aversions. If someone could be made to be Gay for example, I would have been gay a long time ago with the men that have been attracted to me. As it stands, I know I am straight, and it doesn't bother me /shrug.
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I'm 20, female. My psychologist informed me that I have EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified). I can see where she's coming from, but at the same time, I think she's wrong.
I know I have eating issues. I stay under 600 calories per day, lately it's been under 500. I think about food a lot. I've lost almost 60 pounds (but I'm still overweight--I was obese to begin with).
But I've only been doing this for five or six months. I AM still eating. So it hasn't been that long, and I haven't restricted that much.
First of all, can a psychologist actually diagnose an eating disorder, or is it unofficial unless it comes from a doctor?
Second, is it unfair to classify me as eating disordered? Does it not take away from those who are more severe, for longer? Did my therapist jump the gun?
I know what I'm doing is unhealthy. I just don't think it's as severe as everyone is making it out to be. (link)
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Hhhmmm where to begin...
First as to the question of doctor versus psychologist. Eating disorders are usually mental, not physical; a doctor such as a GP would very likely refer a patient to a psychologist if they suspected that a patient did indeed have an eating disorder. There isn't much a doctor can do beside suscribing meds and telling you to change your eating habits - which many patients would ignore. If there is some actual eating disorder, it is in your mind more than likely (habitual, mental, behavioral), it isn't physical, and it would be squarely in the psychologists ball-park, so to speak. So I would have to say that yes, its official, coming from a Psychologist...at least in the sense that a doctor would tell you they think you have a disease would be official, you can always get a 2nd opinion.
Is it unfair to classify you as having an eating disorder? You yourself say "I know I have eating issues", as well as "I know what I'm doing is unhealthy". Those two comments alone, IMO, are enough to raise serious concerns.
No offense - I'm just being honest when I say this - but I get the impression that you are grasping at straws, and trying to justify a refusal of your diagnosis. You might not even be doing this consciously, but it seems to come out in what you have written here. You know you have a problem, but you argue that it isn't severe. You know its unhealthy, but you counter with the idea that "there are others who are worse" (my re-wording) so it doesn't seem as bad. Even your psychologist feels you have some sort of an eating disorder (which covers a lot of ground btw), and you straight up think he/she is wrong. You do seem to be splitting a lot of hairs here.
I would indeed agree that you are in denial, to some extent.
I'm not saying I would do differently in your position, we all have to grapple with our demons. I denied that I had a drug/alcohol problem a decade ago, and fortunately I was able to come to grips with reality before things fell apart. But I spent a lot of time denying facts, ignoring everyone else, and justifying my own viewpoints in an attempt to convince others (and myself) that what I was doing was 'ok'. I can look back now and see what a fool I was, and I have a lot of regrets. Still though, I am happy with the outcome.
IMHO the best thing to do, is to bring this up to your Psychologist. Tell him/her exactly what you have said here (hell you could show them this thread even). He/She will know how you are feeling, what you are thinking, and will be much better enabled to treat you fairly. Also understand that you are dealing with a mental health issue, and often you need to put your own opinion on the back burner. This is because you are biased, and often patients do not have the point-of-view to be objective as to their condition, in the way that a psychologist would be.
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